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I recently learned about the 18 early maladaptive schemas, which are basically eighteen types of behavioral patterns people might pick up as a response to childhood trauma. What's interesting to me is that a lot of people in the Law of Assumption community are apparently trying to replace maladaptive schemas like abandonment/instability, defectiveness/shame, and failure to achieve with another maladaptive schema on this list, entitlement/grandiosity:

The belief that one is superior to other people; entitled to special rights and privileges; or not bound by the rules of reciprocity that guide normal social interaction. Often involves insistence that one should be able to do or have whatever one wants, regardless of what is realistic, what others consider reasonable, or the cost to others; OR an exaggerated focus on superiority (e.g., being among the most successful, famous, wealthy) -- in order to achieve power or control (not primarily for attention or approval). Sometimes includes excessive competitiveness toward, or domination of, others: asserting one's power, forcing one's point of view, or controlling the behavior of others in line with one's own desires---without empathy or concern for others' needs or feelings.

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can’t stop thinking about them

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What's everyone's favourite flowers that aren't like. The normal ones. Like everyone's a fan of roses and sunflowers what's a more niche one. One you don't get in gift sets. Mine's sweet peas

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I know this is the Anti Small Talk Website but small talk is one of the most effective social glues out there for getting to know people and forming friendships with them.

When I was just starting out at a job right after college I had a coworker who I thought was the nicest person alive and after a few weeks I realized this was just because she consistently asked other people things like, "How ya doing? Whatcha having for lunch? Got any weekend plans? Seen any good movies lately?" instead of politely ignoring everyone around her.

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The cure to all ailments

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When you first saw lumpfish, were you blinded by its majesty?

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If the Law of Assumption worked as many claim it does, the millions of little kids who believe in Santa Claus would've manifested Santa and his workshop already.

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>kills numerous civilians by virtue of being an uncontrolled supply chain attack

>the most discriminate attack in human history

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2006

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TikTokker explains how manifestation is the spirituality of the privileged, a pipeline to the far right, and a tool of the oppressor class.

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🐱 Devon Rex

📸 Evgeny Uder

🎨 Chocolate Mink

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the assurance "nobody is judging you" is straight up false... people ARE judging you and you have to find a way to be ok w it

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im high and losing it a little over this

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I remember years ago when I was still in therapy I told my therapist that I felt bad asking my friends for help because a lot of them were also going through some bad stuff and she told me

“You know, sometimes people in crisis will enjoy helping. It can be a distraction from their own problems.”

And then the next week I reached out to a friend who was in the middle of going through something about what I was going through and my therapist was right. That friend jumped at the opportunity to help.

And I’ve realized since then that my own problems rarely have anything to do with my ability to help others with theirs unless I am literally having an attack of some kind at that moment. In fact, it is actually refreshing to work on other peoples problems with them sometimes. Listening to problems you’re not soaking in constantly and helping your friend is often something you just want to do because you care about them. And you don’t stop caring about people because you’re having a hard time right now.

So I guess sometimes inviting someone into your sinking ship does work actually.

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