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why should i care about taylor swift when the killer remains at large

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there needs to be a jesus on the cross emoji that i can use any time i have to go to work in an hour

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People are saying insane things like: "what if Taylor cuts cardigan, long live or atw10 min to fit TTPD in the setlist?" WELL if that happens, I will firebomb the Lisbon stadium, so better not.

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for me, it keeps coming back the now deleted scene in anti-hero where taylor first openly used art about something that directly impacted her mental health. and i get why it would be triggering and uncomfortable to see a thin woman portray herself as "fat" on a scale. i understand the "problematic" edge to it. and yet... i still hate y'all for thinkpiecing her into deleting the scene. it was art about something that directly impacted HER mental health and folks felt entitled to tell her how she could make art about something that impacts HER. that HER MENTAL HEALTH was distressing them, could she pretty please censor it so it would stop triggering them.

like fuck y'all. i hope she never feels the need to censor herself again to cater to you fuck ass bitches. some of you DO need to be told you're being overbearing and entitled, sorry! you don't get to censor art just because you don't like who's making it or feel the person who made it isn't allowed to use art the way they used it.

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I was going to say "Loser Website" but then I remembered that there are apparently children on here and also that I could very easily become an alcoholic if I was worse off as I do have had many times where I drank to numb the pain so this is probably a good thing!

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okay gun to head what is THEE taylor swift song. not your personal favorite but like THE song that people who aren't swifties know the words to and turn up to when it plays in public. the song that comes to mind when you hear the words "taylor swift song".

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On mental health and relationships. Also, personal talk.

I've seen conversations about it cross my dash randomly and tbh, I think people think too highly of themselves. It's so easy to say "oh I would never had a problem with it if my partner had issues with depression" but do you even know what depression is? It hollows you out, it turns you into a despairing, bitter person that spreads their rot to everything and everyone around you. It's hell.

I've been on both sides, I've been both the depressed partner and the partner to someone with depression and other mental health issues, and it's ugly, and sometimes you can give and have all the love in the world and nothing helps. And you try and you try and you try but all it does is break the people you were, create wedges between you, anxieties and horrible ugly arguments that you're still thinking about years later. Happy moments become shadowed by all the sad ones and you end up feeling trapped, or like you're trapping the other person, but then you don't want them to leave, because they're your only lifeline, but that's the most selfish thought someone can have. Sometimes: "I'd kill myself if you leave me" is not just manipulation, it's the literal truth and there is no good way out of that one. Sometimes seeing that version of your partner can make you fall out of love, because you feel like you deserve a better and happier life, and you feel horrible for it but you still feel like you do need that.

And it doesn't mean that you can't get out of that pattern, mental health can improve, healthy coping mechanisms can help, sometimes going through something so daunting does bring you closer together and it does make you love each other more, despite the pain and the stormy days. Sometimes you learn to build that happier life together, and learn what makes the other person feel better, even if just a little bit, but that takes a lot of work and a lot of luck and most times you will only be a support they can lean on at best, never a real cure.

So no, I don't blame anyone for seeing that and leaving after they tried everything they could, maybe without even trying. People who don't struggle with depression, especially chronic depression, have no moral obligation to become the lifeline of those who do. Obviously support is always important, but if it ends up hurting you and draining you, you don't have to stay.

Me and my girlfriend, both with chronic mental health issues, never reached the lows that I described above, but we would never have made it through some of our most depressed periods while already together if our mental health issues didn't happen to be so similar that we have a very deep understanding of the other (and sometimes that's worse, because it reminds you of your problem that's making you want to kill yourself and you can't avoid it because you can't avoid your girlfriend and you're the least prepared person in the world to help her through that!), like anyone with sound mental health would have just fled at being with either of us, and I wouldn't blame her. It's not a walk in the park.

It worked for us, and we are in a much better place now with our respective problems and know how to help the other better now, but that's after years of constant learning, of frustration because nothing worked, of having would-be happy days ruined because one of you is having an episode again, of ugly fights because the despairing part of you needs the other person to be everything and she's just human so she just can't.

There is an other side, but it's hard to get there, and it's not even a question of love or will, sometimes you can't and it's fine to distance yourself.

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can someone let boymoms know that these are normal baby things that pretty much all babies do regardless of sex

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Flew too close to the sun... ordered shoes from an online store because I couldn't be bothered to get my ass up and they don't fit

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Something something, I loved my old job and they came into my inbox offering it to me. I HATE my current job and it was one I applied for, they rejected me, and then ended up picking me as well because they needed more people. There can be a pattern here 🤗

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I got another job offer... This one seems to be good... Average salaries according to Glassdoor are 70k... Holy shit

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religious extremism is bad no matter what religion it comes from, and yes that includes my own religion and yours as well. i think it's also important to note that most of the time the worst victims of it are women.

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Lmao just got a job offer from Amazon Prime. Begone demon

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as someone who's been through lesbian situationship this is so true

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i don't know guys i kinda like this one

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"the album has too many songs! It's not cohesive" the second album wasn't for you though!!!! It wasn't!!! It was for us annoying people who've been bitching about wanting a double album for years. It's like all too well 10 minutes. That's a treat for us die hards.

At the end of the day, it just really sucks when you can't even enjoy a new release by your favorite artist because the greater internet has decided she's their acceptable outlet of misogyny and they have to comment or hate on her every move every single time.

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Either she's too wordy and uses too many metaphors and literary devices and talks too much about her life and her songs are too sad and same-sounding or she's too basic and her songs lack depth and she only writes radio hits. You can't have both arguments as they contradict each other, or use whichever one is convenient at any given time, and if you try to hold them both at the same time you'll have to admit she's, like, a multi-faceted artist.

At the end of the day, it just really sucks when you can't even enjoy a new release by your favorite artist because the greater internet has decided she's their acceptable outlet of misogyny and they have to comment or hate on her every move every single time.