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https://x.com/zanyfen/status/1933484581526577534?s=46&t=HlQ93hIgEo4j5M2967xoUg

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isn't it crazy that a woman being gender nonconforming literally just requires her to exist in her own body without making any changes whatsoever. why does the fact that i don't wear makeup and i don't shave and i don't wear a bra have to be some political act. why can't i just fucking exist

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from “the case against the sexual revolution” by Louise Perry

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Tfw when men do that thing where they pretend they have no control over their temper. LOL It’s so funny like am I supposed to pretend that I don’t know you’re completely self-aware and present during this rage performance. Or should I pretend you’re the tortured hero in a movie, possessed by a series of fabricated flashbacks of the war and your father

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This isn’t my usual post, but men being so intimidated by women with large dogs that they have to point out ways they can overpower the dog drives me nuts.

I’m a woman, living in a city, and I have a VERY large Shepherd mix I got from the shelter (his name is, in fact, Arthur Morgan, but I digress). He’s got some reactivity we’re working on (not aggression; he just wants to say hi to everyone and gets REALLY frustrated when he can’t. We’re working on it). So we go out early to get his exercise in, training, a hike, a hike, and fetch on a longline.

Today was a hike, and the ladies or AFAB people that have large dogs know it makes you feel so much better doing things alone, hiking, running at night, everything, even if your dog is a huge wuss. So we’re on our hike, having a great time, and we stop at a summit to look at the views and all that, and a man starts commenting on my dog. That’s fine; he’s pretty, he’s big, he looks like what people think wolves look like, so I always get comments on him. He asks me why I wanted a big dog, and I said I grew up with them and loved them and feel safer with one around, and this man goes, “Well, you know he’s not bullet proof right?” Then proceeds to also say, “He’s also not immune to, like, a knife.”

Why that man felt the need to invalidate my very real sense of security with my large dog to feel more in control of the situation, and what made it worse was my dog wasn’t reacting, wasn’t barking, was just staring at him, staring like something was wrong. So safe to say the morning hike ended early, and I came back just fuming at how ridiculous men get when they lose even a sliver of power over women. I know I’m not the only woman with a large dog to hear those kinds of comments, but male fragility never ceases to amaze me.

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one thing i dont think we talk enough about is how pretty much every sex ed resource for lesbian teens tells them they should be open to sex with male partners

i remember being 14/15 and googling how lesbian sex worked and just being confronted with site after site telling me that lesbian sex sometimes includes a penis and it was uninclusive and closed minded to think otherwise :)))

i guarantee you no girl or woman searching for lesbian sex ed resources is looking for advice on how to blow a guy or have piv intercourse, theyre looking for advice about sexual relationships between biologically female partners

i think people underestimate how ashamed and broken it made me and other lesbians feel to read that over and over. after reading those resources i felt so hopeless that i tried to force myself to be asexual because it was the only socially acceptable way to rule out having a male partner

constantly adding these ~helpful reminders~ is like telling lesbians that they just haven't met the right guy yet, and there is no context in which they should forget it

some of these were government affiliated websites insisting that exclusive homosexuality didnt exist, or at the very least that it was unthinkable and unpeakable

its a very impactful and insidious form of homophobia

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"it''ll be a statue of a woman, like a beautiful statue of a woman, and it'll be like...she helped lead the way for so many refugees or she was a nurse or she was this and she was that. She was just this pillar of society in her time. She was such an influential and powerful woman.

And they'll zoom in on her face, and they'll zoom in on the plaque, and they'll zoom out and show a full body...and it’ll show that one of her breasts has been basically rubbed off and it’s so shiny because all the tourists and, you know, whoever, has touched her breast and that's her legacy now.

[…] and you walk up to it and it’s just… through all that, through all the effort, through all the care and all the legacy she left behind, the only thing that she is now seen for is her breasts. That's gonna make me actually sick."

-brittany broski via the broski report

juliet, dalida, idk, molly malone

some people are just fucking rotten on the inside.

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I had a patient come in the other day because she wanted her IUD replaced. It was at the end of it's life and she loved having her IUD, this was her second one. My MA let me know that the patient was very anxious about getting the IUD replaced, she'd had painful experiences in the past with her other replacements and was dreading this visit for that reason.

I spoke with the patient and she was literally shaking with anxiety. I asked her to describe her prior experiences as well as what she liked about her IUD and what she didn't like. She said that she wished she didn't have to get it replaced so often, so I recommended we place a Mirena instead of just inserting a new Kyleena IUD. She was nervous about this because she didn't want an IUD that was big. I explained that the Mirena and Kyleena are essentially the same size but the Mirena lasts 3 years longer and would likely bridge her to menopause given her age whereas with the Kyleena she'd probably need another replacement to get there. She was okay with trying the Mirena.

I then talked to her about pain control during the procedure as this was what she was most worried about. I asked about her prior experiences and then laid out what I wanted to do to try and improve her experience during this procedure. I told her I planned to give her prescription strength ibuprofen, a heating pad, and a very dense anesthetic block in her cervix to hopefully make it a better experience. If she had had someone to drive her home I would've also given her an ativan because we have studies that show patients who report higher rates of anxiety surrounding a procedure also report higher rates of pain associated with it.

She was down for this plan. I gave her a very dense block, she only felt three small injections and then nothing else. She was shocked when I told her that her old IUD was out and the new one was in. She didn't believe me when I told her it was over.

I don't tell this story because I wanna brag about how amazing of a doctor I am because I'm not. I tell this story because this is the way IUD insertions SHOULD go and I want people to know that IUD insertions do not need to be traumatic. And I want other providers who may insert IUDs to know that a paracervical block should be your standard when it comes to IUD insertions.

When people find out I'm an OBGYN, complete strangers, acquaintances, etc. , the two things they like to tell me immediately are their horrible birth trauma story and their terrible IUD insertion story and I'm trying to at least make the latter one a little less common.

If you place IUDs and aren't doing a cervical block, you need to start. This should be the standard but over 90% of OBGYNs in the US aren't doing them and it's unacceptable. We are traumatizing people and it's entirely avoidable. We are scaring people away from one of the most effective and long lasting forms of birth control in a time when people are losing their ability to end unwanted pregnancies all for no justifiable reason.

"It takes too long:" No it doesn't, that visit took me 20 minutes with a highly anxious patient from start to finish.

"It's not worth it for such a short/small procedure." It's worth it for the patient.

"It's too expensive." You can do a paracervical block with just normal saline. You don't even need lidocaine if you use a generous amount of volume. And if you place Nexplanons I know you stock lidocaine in your office, stop being fucking cheap at the expense of women's pain.

"Patient's don't need it, they'll get over it." I'm telling you they do need it and they aren't getting over it as evidenced by literally everyone wanting to tell me about their terrible IUD insertion experience as soon as they find out I'm an OBGYN.

We should do better. The cervix has nerve endings, stop acting like it doesn't.

Make cervical blocks your standard of care, there's no excuse not to.

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Feminist interpretation is CRAZY like that’s literally what happened

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As someone in and around their 30’s it has been INSANE to see feminism in popular media descend through

Women can wear pants and play sports and that’s equality. Women don’t just belong inside the house. This woman has a career

This woman can be a mechanic just like a man could. She’s probably still a lesbian, though, which is basically the closest to a man a woman can *be*, and explains everything. But she’s still a person!

If a woman superhero CHOOSES to wear stilettos to fight crime, that’s girl power! This comic character written and designed by men wears a bikini and has a waist size of 12 inches because it makes her FEEL POWERFUL! Girls don’t HAVE to dress boyish to be strong! She can make you a sandwich AND be a feminist! Girl power!

What, are you saying women HAVE to do boy things to be taken seriously? Who are you to tell a woman what to do? Maybe some women NEED to get their hair and nails done twice a month to feel powerful! Maybe a lot of women WANT to be stay-at-home moms!

What I don’t think you understand is that women have an inherent feminine spirituality which guides them towards maternal and nurturing paths. Women need to honour their divine female aura to keep their. Their fuckin. Their chakras together or some shit. You should put quartz up your hooha and huff wheatgrass. Leaving manual labour and science and technology to men is natural and good for you spiritually

Uh she can’t do that, that’s a blue job, she’s a pink job girly. Food? Yeah, she’s having #girl dinner, which is a handful of almonds. Time for our 15 step skincare routine, which is empowering. Hashtag #girlboss. Ew no, touching dirt? She’s just a girl. You can’t expect a girl to do that. Haha #girl logic

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i find it genuinely absurd that forced-birthers expect us to treat the fetus as an individual. “what about the baby’s body and choice?” that is literally something attached to her organs the fetus is literally part of the woman’s body and OF the woman’s body like god did not put it there for safekeeping her body is fucking constructing it. it cannot be legally or physically independent from her—the fetus IS still her you goddamn fucking morons.

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283,000 likes………giant meteor strike the earth rn holy shit. oh my god.

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"Second wave feminism is problematic"

Just to be clear,

Second wave feminism gave you: rape shelters, domestic violence shelters, anti domestic violence laws, anti marital rape laws, anti work place discrimination laws and anti sexual harassment laws, abortion rights, no fault divorce laws

3rd, 4th and 5th wave feminism gave you: she/they pronouns in email, sex work is work (prostitutes still suffer extreme violence and poverty but they have a phrase now-yay), penis in the female showers, "feminist" porn nobody buys, gotta go out of state for an abortion depending on where you live.

But it's 2nd wave that's "problematic". Right, ok.

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https://x.com/rights4girls/status/1904591677416702113?t=GUHoufjB5wiYLGwn_rsSIA&s=19

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The cognitive dissonance men need for this!