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hiiiiii didn’t wanna log back in empty handed so here is my meager offering 🤲🤲🤲 finally finished ch2

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does anyone know why my period started ten days early this never happens 2 me

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sorry i know this is sacrilegious but i hope sydney leaves the bear in season 4!!! i hope the writers nut up and show us that even when you want something so bad like more than you’ve ever wanted anything and even when you’re putting in absolutely everything you have it still doesn’t work out sometimes!!! i want to see a woman character cut her losses and think about herself for once!! i want to see her walk away! sorry!!

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people that don’t understand why Carmy is hated perplex me and i suspect most of his apologists are not women of color in male dominated fields. i love Carmy, im very excited for his redemption. but the way he treated Sydney and Tina this season WAS workplace abuse and every woman of color that’s ever had a white male boss flinched every time he spoke to them because WE knew exactly what that was. the point is that he’s abusive at that moment, paralleled to how Chef David treated him, which is why we see the confrontation between them at the end. the way he was acting was meant for a very specific demographic to understand and we did, trust.

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best quality: his wiggles

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On one hand I may be too reactionary when it comes to some fandom discourse. On the other hand I know that some fandom discourse has real world implications and affects how people think about actual issues. So.

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Hey I just wanted to apologize for what I posted. I didn't mean to upset anyone. I just have never felt that Sydney leaving is the only way for Carmy to improve which was the point of my post. I didn't mean to imply she couldn't leave or should endure anything, but I think it doesn't have to be an either or and my bigger problem and the point of what I was trying to say is the idea that Carmy needs to be taught a lesson and Syd would be the appropriate way to learn that lesson. Honestly he needs to figure it all out completely separate from her. It was me venting about a personal situation through the lens of the characters which is why I didn't originally tag it to the bear and I had no intent for it to get any kind of attention most of my posts don't. There's no need for you to respond to this, I just wanted to provide some nuance of what my intent was and I'm sorry that this was our first interaction. I took the post down because I as I said didn't intend for it to be a Fandom post and it spread further than I ever planned. I understand your perspective and that is a harmful thing to put on someone especially a black woman in a position of inferiority, but my perspective was more about how she can choose to leave without it being about Carmy at all other than his behavior. Her leaving because it would teach him a lesson was what I inherently took issue with because that's to me not the way you treat someone you care or once cared about.

Hey! I appreciate you reaching out to give some nuance and for being so understanding about my position too. I also wanna apologize for reacting so strongly, especially because I didn’t realize your post wasn’t originally under the bear tag (I just happened to see it on my dash). I can totally understand interacting with media through a personal lens that isn’t meant to apply to the actual world of the show and I’m sorry ur post broke containment. Tbh my reaction had more to do with the larger fandom issue I have with Sydney’s character being diminished in relation to Carmy than with your post in particular, so I’m sorry for lashing out in ur mentions. Straw that broke the camel’s back etc. I also have complicated personal feelings about their dynamic based on times I have been Syd in my interpersonal relationships so it definitely touches a nerve. Thank you again for reaching out! Hugs

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every time I see someone on here act like sydney's only role in the bear is to heal carmy I black out and come to minutes later to see the most vitriol filled post I've ever created on my dashboard

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hey so I'm actually super fucking tired of this take which boils down to: Black Woman Should Stay in Emotionally Abusive Work Environment to Avoid Further Hurting Her White Male Boss!

a person can be traumatized and still lovable. a person can also make the decision to remove themselves from an unhealthy situation that is created by the traumatized person. "stop claiming that sydney needs to leave!" stop admitting that you see sydney as a catalyst for carmen's emotional healing rather than as her own person?!?! Jesus Christ! misogynoir is actually crazy

IF I SEE ONE MORE PERSON CLAIM SYDNEY NEEDS TO LEAVE AND CARMY HAS TO SUFFER IN ORDER TO GROW AS A CHARACTER I'M WALKING INTO THE OCEAN. A TRAUMATIZED PERSON DOESN'T REALIZE THEY NEED TO CHANGE OR GROW AS A PERSON BY BEING FURTHER TRAUMATIZED. THAT MAKES THEM ACTUALLY LESS LIKELY TO CHANGE OR GET BETTER AS A PERSON AND IF ANY OF THE PEOPLE COMMENTING THIS HAS EVER INTERACTED WITH SOMEONE WITH EVEN 10 PERCENT OF THE TRAUMA CARMY HAS THEY WOULD ALREADY BE AWARE OF THIS BUT THEY HAVENT SO THEY ARENT AND THE EMPATHY GAP FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS LEVEL OF TRAUMA AND ARENT PERFECT VICTIMS WIDENS FURTHER AND I BECOME MORE CONVINCED I AM LOVEABLE ONLY AS LONG AS MY TRAUMA RESPONSES ARE SELF INFLICTED AND ROMANTIC. TURNS OUT TRAUMA IS ONLY VALID IF YOU FUNNEL IT INTO AVENUES DEEMED SOCIETALLY APPROPRIATE AND THEN IF THOSE SAME AVENUES TRAP YOU INTO A PERPETUAL CYCLE OF HYPERINDEPENDENCE AND ACHIEVEMENT THEN YOU ARE NEVER ALLOWED TO FALTER NOT EVEN ONCE SO YOU DON'T FEEL SAFE AROUND MOST PEOPLE AND ALL YOU REALLY NEED IS SOMEONE TO HOLD YOU WHILE YOU CRY BECAUSE HAVING TO HOLD YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TOGETHER WHILE GOING THROUGH THINGS MOST PEOPLE WOULDNT SURVIVE ONE OF MUCH LESS A SERIES OF THEM OVER THE MOST FORMATIVE YEARS OF YOUR LIFE KIND OF SUCKS IT TURNS OUT AND NO LEVEL OF ACHIEVEMENT CAN FILL THE VOID OF FEELING LIKE YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO FAIL OR BE HUMAN. ever.

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having a flare that literally still has not gone away and happens during the day as well literally dunno what to do at this point it's making me crazy!

Does anyone deal with restless leg syndrome i am actually going insane rn

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just finished week one of my new job and I am sooooo exhausted but so happy .... teaching is lowkey life changing idk

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ebon's got so many underwear shots i'm pretty sure i could make a gifset solely dedicated to them.

you know. for science.

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“Cooking for people is the same as sleeping with them, basically. Sweaty and physical and the base animal satisfaction of providing, of the first bite.”

-> read the fic here

(art by Egon Schiele and Danielle Joy McKinney / lyrics by Mel Bryant & the Mercy Makers)

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sorry yeah i’m just thinking about richie walking into that flaming hellhole of a kitchen on friends and family night and hearing carmy’s screams from the fridge and catching sydney’s eyes and realizing that she needs him and he needs her and the only way that they’ll get through the evening is if they have each other’s backs and i’m just thinking about sydney watching richie come in wearing his suit and looking so stable and so in control and the way she goes straight to him for reassurance and and and

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sorry yeah i’m just thinking about richie walking into that flaming hellhole of a kitchen on friends and family night and hearing carmy’s screams from the fridge and catching sydney’s eyes and realizing that she needs him and he needs her and the only way that they’ll get through the evening is if they have each other’s backs and i’m just thinking about sydney watching richie come in wearing his suit and looking so stable and so in control and the way she goes straight to him for reassurance and and and

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hi scenedenial I got 2 questions pls 🧸 1 will the Sydrichie fwb pregnancy fic gonna drop this year or maybe next? I’ve been a huge fan for monthsssss & 2 would u ever write fic for dinner in America (ur smut is sOOO good I would die). that’s all ily 🩷

hello anon firstly: i love you secondly: sydrichie baby fic is happening just very slowly because my brain is broken rn thirdly: i am currently writing simon x patty because i am so obsessed with them that i want to die …. hang tight 🫶

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Does anyone deal with restless leg syndrome i am actually going insane rn