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TERF

This word leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Why is it that when women want to protect spaces made for them, they’re called a “terf?” This makes no sense to me. Although I support trans women, I do feel like there are certain restrictions that they’ll have to come across in society because they are anomalies. When you are an anomaly to a group, if you want to blend in or be accepted, you should not disturb the order of those who you wish to integrate with. If majority women say that you cannot be in women’s sports because you’re not biologically a woman, accept it. If majority women don’t feel safe with you in their restrooms, accept it and move on with your life. I like to use the example of Tarzan (yes, Tarzan).

Tarzan was socialized with the apes and taught ape behavior, but he knew and the apes knew that he was different (because he was human). He was an anomaly to their society. He was welcomed to do certain things within their community, but when there were issues that only apes could handle, he had to be left out because he could get hurt, or because he wasn’t physically or biologically equipped to handle it. In turn, there were also things that Tarzan could do that the apes could not because they were not biologically or physically equipped for it. There’s more examples, but if you watch Tarzan at full length, then you’ll catch them.

*Anyway*

To me, being a “terf” isn’t an inherently bad thing. Many “terfs” are just trying to protect spaces that women have worked hard to occupy and I don’t see anything wrong with that. Yes, they exclude trans women because trans women are trans women. The way I see it, they don’t have hate for trans women at all. They are frustrated with the backlash and misogyny they face for simply wanting to protect spaces that the women before us fought to have. The backlash they get grows into frustration and that frustration grows into resentment which causes them to say things that are ugly. I don’t agree with the hurtful things they say about trans women but I do understand.

*Back to Bathrooms*

Obviously, if you pass really well, no one is going to go into the stalls demanding to see what you look like down there or asking you if you’re trans. To me, if you’re fully transitioned, I feel like it’s sort of nit picky to say you can’t come into a woman’s restroom because you socially pass as a woman and no one can tell. On the other hand, I also feel like using the family restroom is respectful and considerate to women who still are not comfortable regardless of how well one passes. Keep in mind that young girls occupy these spaces too. There should be more advocacy for trans inclusive or trans exclusive (meaning exclusive to trans people, not excluding them) spaces so then everyone is comfortable and safe.

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Confession

As a woman, I hate to say it but the biggest misogynists I know are women. We are brutal to each other. Yeah men are misogynistic but we take the cake. We know how we work. We know what hurts to say to and about another woman. It’s sort of beautiful in a way how we can use our own understanding of one other and turn that against someone we don’t like. Like it’s beautifully ruthless if that makes sense. The feminism spaces on here really prove it too. Shaming women for wearing makeup. Calling women dumb and stupid for sleeping with men. Telling women that if they don’t subscribe to a certain way of thinking or certain kind of feminism, then they’re worthless and pitiful. It’s insane.

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Bigotry

One of my biggest pet peeves is bigotry. More specifically, the use or rather, misuse of the word itself. A lot of people use the words bigot, bigoted, and bigotry to refer to people who are let’s say…Trump supporters.

The definition for bigotry is:

“the fact of having and expressing strong, unreasonable beliefs and disliking other people who have different beliefs or a different way of life.”

If someone is a Trump supporter and is reasonably arguing why they support Trump and is not bashing another person for not supporting him, then they are not a bigot. Trump supporter≠bigot

The person who is telling the other that they are bigoted/a bigot, racist, stupid, etc. for supporting Trump is actually the real bigot.

*I am not a Trump supporter, this just the first example I could think of because I see it so much.*