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This is going to sound so "oldie yells at cloud" of me but the radicalisation of the young into black and white, zero shades of grey thinking, both in the media they consume and in real life situations, is genuinely terrifying.

The world is complex. The world is grey. There is infinite nuance in everything. No amount of trying to shove it all into neatly labeled boxes is ever going to work.

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my wife was annoyed this morning because she saw a post in which someone wrote Israel in quotation marks... leading me to realize that she's never seen that before? and has never seen "isntreal"? I have been moving away from spending time online lately and this was VERY eye opening lol

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I'm sorry, "likely?"

Women are so unlikely to be shot by police that a lot of the available data on police shootings doesn't allow you to filter by gender. I was able to find this WP database, which is both interactive on the website and allows you to download the data (nerd swoon).

Women comprised less than 5% of victims of fatal police shootings over the past decade. Of the 4% of women killed by police from 2015-2024, 8% (42 individuals) were unarmed.

The rate of men killed by police is 52 per 100k (slightly lower than unintentional injuries at 64:100k), versus 3 per 100k for women (one quarter the rate of fatal car accidents at 13:100k).

Between 2017 and 2021, 5 trans people were killed by police. Not 5 per 100k, 5 total.

Too many Americans are killed by police, period. But that in no way means that anyone is likely to be killed by police. Even for black men, the rate is 96:100k -- again, unacceptable and horrifyingly disproportionate, but still just under a 0.1% chance.

I don't mean to downplay police violence at all, but the fact is that most people actually overestimate the frequency by orders of magnitude.

By no stretch of the imagination are women likely to be shot for eschewing traditional femininity. Even if it increases their odds by ten times (this is hypothetical! I don't have data on this), your risk would still go from 0.003% to 0.03%.

“i wish i could go out braless but-“ “i wish i didn’t have to shave but-“ “i wish i didn’t have to wear makeup but-“ STAND UPPPP FUCKING STAND UP JUST DO WHAT YOU WANT. NOBODY IS GOING TO SHOOT YOU OR ARREST YOU FOR BEING A LITTLE “UGLY” UOU WILL LIVE AND REALIZE THAT YOUVE BEEN IN A prison largely of your own making THIS WHOLE TIME

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this one is so dumb I had to screencap it I’m sorry

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i guess i gotta go back to being good about putting my phone on shabbat mode so I stop doomscrolling lmfao. sorry for being absent from this blog in between crises. the push and pull of wanting to protect my mental health vs wanting to commune w jews and correct misinformation that gets people killed.

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it's especially strange being a gentile partner of a Jew rn because my fate is so tied with the Jewish people but my Jewish social network is actually rather small. I want to be among Jews rn but I really just have my wife and people in her hometown, a flight away. I have a couple Jewish friends from college, but they're jvp jews who haven't made a peep about the murders despite being very very active online

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and I am so crazy and sick and frustrated with myself because even as I'm pissed off at people ignoring the shooting, i haven't posted anything to my personal socials because I'm afraid of what the response is going to be. how fucking sick is it that I feel like I need to have a fully formulated diplomatic response to say it's bad to fucking kill Jews

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what's important to understand about the current political climate is that a lot of people are not actually upset that people are dying, they are upset that the wrong people are dying. it's not about peace, it's about vengeance.

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the absolute radio silence about the DC shooting on my socials. I have seen a few consistently outspoken jews acknowledge it. absolutely no one else. the bar is in hell. it's antizionism not antisemitism until two jews are fucking murdered in America at a Jewish networking event and it's beneath everyone's notice. frankly from the sound of it, I don't think the guy even knew they had any ties to Israel. they just happened to be the ones walking outside when he arrived. I am so angry and I am so tired and it's just fucking soul draining

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yall are not gonna want to hear this but if you want to prevent bad actors from infiltrating or taking advantage of the Pro-Palestine movement you have GOT to eliminate the word Zionist from your vocabulary. taking an ideology, whether you agree with it or not, and reducing it to a group of "bad people" is exactly the kind of thing that makes it really easy for people to twist your words and message. talk about the Israeli government. talk about the IDF. talk about Zionism (after doing research and learning what it actually means, ofc). talk about structures of colonialism. but stop throwing around the word Zionist. I know you don't mean all Jews when you say Zionist, but neo-Nazis definitely do, and agreeing with them right up until they say Jews are vermin makes you really easy to manipulate, as the person in that post attests

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Eshel and A Wider Bridge (both wonderful organizations that do very important work) just released the results of their study on the experiences of LGBTQ+ Jews since October 7th. It shows that Jews are being pushed out of queer spaces at alarming rates, that queer Jews are more likely to experience antisemitism in our social circles than the Jewish population at large, and that many of us have withdrawn from participation in non-Jewish queer spaces altogether.

This tracks very closely with my own experience and my anecdotal knowledge of my friends’ experiences as well, but the numbers are still staggering. I don’t know why non-Jewish queer spaces are so overwhelmingly antisemitic or how we deal with this, but at some point, the LGBTQ+ community is going to have to reckon with its own prejudice and bigotry.

https://www.eshelonline.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/Antisemitism-Amplified-Updated.pdf

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This is something I didn't want to make a post about until I'd actually found and read some sources on it - putting those below the cut - but there was a wave of anti-Hamas protests in Gaza starting in late March

The protests started on 25th March 2025 in Beit Lahia, northern Gaza. The same day, the clan leaders of Shuja'iyya in northern Gaza and the Assembly of Southern Gaza Clans both released statements in support of the protests and the latter issued a call for an intifada against Hamas on the 28th. By the 28th, university professors in Gaza had also expressed their support for the protests, and by the 30th the protests had spread to Deir al Balah, Nuseirat, Khan Younis, and Rafah. NBC and CNN have both called the demonstrations the largest Gaza had seen since October 7th 2023.

Slogans and quotes from the protesters include:

"Hamas out" “Our children’s blood is not cheap” "We refuse to die" "Hamas terrorists" “The people do not want war; the people do not want Hamas.” "Hamas must step down and listen to the voice of the grieving, the voice that rises from beneath the rubble - it is the most truthful voice." “We don’t want destruction; we don’t want war; we want to live.” “We are the people of peace; we demand peace for this strip and no ruling with iron and fire.” “We want to continue until the bloodshed stops and Hamas leaves the Palestinian scene.” “Protests won’t stop the [Israeli] occupation, but it can affect Hamas. We want to stop the killing.” "Where is the press?"

(Posted on Facebook) "Excuse me, but what exactly is Hamas betting on? They're betting on our blood, blood that the whole world sees as just numbers. Even Hamas counts us as numbers. Step down and let us tend to our wounds."

According to Diplomatic Inside, protesters also chanted against the news outlet Al-Jazeera for failing to cover the Gazan opposition to Hamas

In response, Hamas and its supporters have accused the protesters of being traitors. Basem Naim, a Hamas official, spoke to the BBC and accused the protesters of having "suspicious agendas" and trying to "shift the blame away from Israel" while questioning why they weren't protesting in the West Bank… which Hamas doesn't rule… and he's wondering why the anti-Hamas protests are happening in the part of Palestine that Hamas does rule…

According to i24 News, Hamas also claimed on the 27th of March that the protests in Gaza were against Israel rather than against Hamas itself "despite visual evidence and testimonials".

On the 30th, it was reported that Oday Nasser Al Rabay, a Gazan who had participated in the protests, had been found dead, dumped in front of his family home; during his funeral, on Saturday 29th March, more Gazans marched against Hamas. Al Rabay's family said Hamas had kidnapped, tortured, and executed him. Another Gazan who had taken part in the protests, Hussam al-Majdalawi, was reportedly kidnapped and beaten in the Nuseirat refugee camp. By April, local reports said that Hamas had executed six individuals and publically beaten others

Hamza al-Masri, a Gazan activist who had previously been tortured by Hamas and is now in exile in Turkey, has also spoken in support of the protests and condemnded the Hamas crackdown

Sources below the cut:

Note that I wasn't able to find all of these on MediaBiasFactCheck, but of the ones that I could find:

BBC, NBC, AP News, and YNet were rated as having high factual reporting and left-center bias

The Algemainer was rated as having high factual reporting and right-center bias

CNN was rated as having mostly factual reporting and left-center bias

Yeshiva World was rated as having mostly factual reporting and right-center bias

From 26th March 2025:

From the 30th of March:

I had more but tumblr broke when I tried to add them to this post

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It's insane to me I'm at a point that whenever I see a goy openly say that they hate Nazis I immediately get suspicious like "do you really, though?". And a lot of times I'm correct in my suspicions.

I'm starting to wonder if it's a problem with goyim or a problem the goyim who proclaim they hate nazis.

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