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Well excuse the fuck outta me

Nyakim Gatwech at the 2018 Emmys

Designer: laviebyck

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All our problems are small in the face of nature

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I already love this blog.

Also someone please link me to where I can buy those pjs

@tallnlocked

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yes, gohead

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Always thought the oedipus complex was absolute horse shit and I don't know why people fed into it without any supporting evidence even in other parts of the animal kingdom

I hate Freud. His whole weird theory about penis envy and children being sexually attracted to their parents and secret desires and all that shit actually came straight out of an attempt to ally himself with wealthy and influential rapists and was a direct form of victim blaming.

He had started the research looking into “hysteria” which at the time was really usually referring to women’s symptoms of PTSD. It turned out that the reason so many woman had these symptoms is because so many of them had experienced sexual violence– especially CSA and incest at the hands of their fathers. 

At first he was making real progress, and it was through working with these women that he discovered that talk therapy could be used to treat trauma. The symptoms of PTSD were lessened when women were able to safely speak about their experiences out loud and be believed. 

But it wasn’t the women who paid for the therapy. It was their fathers, husbands, the same men who were perpetuating the violence in the first place. And Freud didn’t want to validate his patients (the women) if it meant making his clients (the men) unhappy.

So he came up with a new idea. These symptoms weren’t from trauma. The memories weren’t real. These women were just sexual beings as children and had penis envy and it made them lust for their fathers and fantasize about the rape that they had reported to him. That’s where the shittiest parts of Freud’s theories emerged. Another part of it besides just the monetary aspect, though, was that there was a feminist movement on the fringes starting up at the time and by publishing work about women’s CSA he would be aligning himself with it and therefore losing support, respect, funding, prestige from his male peers and from the psychological community at large. He literally made that gross victim blaming shit up to keep his own reputation with these fucks and to make sure he still got publication and fame.

By coming up with fake theory about little girls fantasizing about incest he not only fucked over generations of women, the feminist movement that was arising, and the entire psychology field for years to come, but he also completely swept away any progress made in understanding trauma and so we didn’t have any clue why men coming back from war had “hysteria” like women during WWI.

And our research on PTSD and trauma is still lacking to this day, especially because of the stigma that maybe traumatized people deserved it or wanted it or imagined it. People don’t want to believe it’s real. Perpetrators of traumatic violence want everyone to forget about it, not acknowledge it, or trivialize it.

And they have Freud’s cultural legacy to help them.

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Ig: @beingspontaneous

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Ugh would love to see how this looks on the beach. The sun kissing his skin and seabreeze adding some magic to his outfit

Instagram: RichardNygard

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Real serpentine

Edi by Gadi Sahar.

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All for it

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H O T

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What the movie could have been :’(

her arms 😍

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The class. The threads. The smile. The love he has for himself. What’s not to love?

Keiynan Lonsdale at the 2018 MTV Movie And TV Awards at Barker Hangar in Santa Monica

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I forgot Elektra even existed until I read this. How has she not been rebooted in any Marvel films yet? And maybe you’re not the best Elektra in your dreams but at least you’ll always have that gray sweatsuit

Big hey! Most interesting dream you've had one night?

I was OBSESSED with Elektra for months 😂😭. I remmbr putting on my gray sweatsuit and pretending I was in this building full of bad guys that wanted to kill me. I fantasized about it so much I ended up dreaming about it. I wasn’t as brave and lethal in my dream tho 😂😭. The person I was supposed to rescue died. 😂😭

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I love coming across more men like this

Dario by Ricky Cohete

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To the women or anyone who are afraid they don’t have the strength to pull these off, building the confidence might help a ton. If you have friends in your life who’d be willing to help out, you could try asking to practice with them. (The evasive maneuvers not the offensive ones that could hurt them)

Please, reblog! IIt’s called self defense. Apart from having here, in the US, one of the highest cases of homicide and rape in the world and high rate of GBV, think about how this could help your mother or sister