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bald pussy havers really think they’re an oppressed minority because of a handful of bush posts on tumblr dot com of all places don’t worry babe you have the entire entertainment industry and beauty industry and porn industry and also porn addicted men and also a good portion of women on your side ❤️ be strong you’ll get through this

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Where it is legal to include sex as a condition of employment, other types of job descriptions may be redefined to include sex. How will we draw the line? Or is sex potentially legitimate part of any job description? Where welfare or unemployment benefits require recipients to accept available work, will sex work be required of people (women) in lieu of public assistance? Under current contract law, failure to perform agreed upon services is a violation of the terms of the contract and may demand compensation or penalties for the party refusing to fulfill the contract: will this extend to “sex work” contracts? Simply extending the regulations that currently cover employment law, contracts, and other public benefits to “sex work” reveals the implausibility of the slogan “its work just like any other form of work".

https://www.europe-solidaire.org/spip.php?article38768

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There's a system of self-perpetuating sexism that I've been experiencing lately.

Women are taught:

not to be authentic and relaxed in themselves

not to be assertive

not to set boundaries

etcetcetc

Men are allowed to be and feel whatever the fuck they are in the moment and we accept and even praise them, or treat them as "that one loveable asshole" and shit like that. They have since childhood to speak up for themselves and decide how to interact with others, workshop their approach, be free, and solidify their identity.

Women are left alone to figure out how to be confident, assertive, less passive, by breaking through the objectification that is ingrained in us. Most of us did not get those playbooks and have to start from scratch in adulthood. We have to figure all this out knowing that we will face social consequence for healing. I've had to realize that part of my fear of being myself and speaking up is because I'm like a newborn animal trying to walk. I had to give myself my humanity, that shit is hard. It's not going to be perfect and smooth at first. And I get punished for this. I'm facing a constant incentive to go back to being quiet. Women just are not accepted and given grace. We have to do that ourselves. The strength that is required for me to move forward feels too much at times, but I have hope.

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ouch, this one really hurts

there’s a connection between the numbing sprays for your feet so you can wear high heels and the anal desensitizing lube so you can have anal sex for your boyfriend and the suppressants for your gag reflex so you can deepthroat that same boyfriend. can’t quite make it though

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The year is 2032 and prostitution has been legalized but is ruled that it must be 100% OSHA compliant.

A john calls to make an appointment for a home visit but it’s after 4pm on a Friday and Monday is a union holiday. Frustrated he calls Tuesday and is told the soonest a technician can come out is next Wednesday between 9am and 2pm. When the next Wednesday finally comes, the technician shows up at 3:30pm in full Hazmat gear. His name is Mike and he’s 46 and married with two kids. By law, all he can safely provide is a dry hand job. He’s on a Bluetooth call arguing with his brother in law about a truck the entire time. It hurts a lot and costs $1100.

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also same for anything saying u have to be polite to scary or creepy men or else you're putting yourself in danger. WRONG. men like that see a 'polite' woman as an easy target. being rude to or ignoring a guy you think might be dangerous tells him u aren't going along with it and he will 99% of the time give up. in contrast giving in to a small request or being 'nice' makes it much harder for u to leave the situation or say no later, google the foot in the door phenomenon

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If there’s anything I’ve learned in life it’s that being confident and having self respect will sometimes evoke some of the most irrational obsessive hatred and anger in other people. Particularly if you’re perceived as someone who doesn’t “deserve” to feel that way about yourself there’s a very specific type of anger that comes from people who can’t understand why someone who they think should hate themselves doesn’t

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JD Vance: my advice to young men, don't let our culture tell you you're a bad person bc you like to make jokes or have a beer with your friends.

Imagine if women were uplifted like this. Just imagine. Imagine if we had a female vice president reassuring women "you are not a bad person ever:) just relax:) feel free to make whatever jokes you want:)" why can't WE have that. Why can't we ever be reassured and comforted. Why can't we be babied like that. like....society would never fucking be that cool with women. The messaging we get is always "you're a bad person, you're not good enough, etc". If anyone needs to be told and reassured they're good people, it's WOMEN.

But I'm saying like....imagine living in a society that was that chill towards you. How confident and good you would feel. Once again, it's no wonder men walk around like they think they're the shit. No wonder men have so much self confidence.

It's like women always have to be the strong ones, the responsible ones, we can't have society be chill with us if we wanted to tell jokes about men. Society never encourages that kind of carefree attitude with women ever. Women are never encouraged to have fun like that. We are never spoken to like that. It's only men. I can't even imagine women getting told it's ok to joke about men by a vice president.

Women are expected to be so strong, yet while showing this stoism and strength we told we are weak. We arent encouraged to ever have fun or be carefree. Men have such a strong culture of leisure and pleasure. Women have a culture of work, work, work, and handle mens sexist jokes with a straight face or else we are bad people. Make one mistake and we are bad people. And even if we follow the rules we aren't good enough.

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• What percentage of time do women spend alone or with males, as compared to with females? When females do spend time with other females, how often are one or more males present? 

• To what extent do issues of class and race divide women, keeping them from coming together and from hearing and valuing one another’s perspectives? 

• What percentage of a woman’s life is lived with a male figure in the home? 

• Are females encouraged to be psychologically dependent on males? Are they told that there is something wrong with women who don’t marry a man? 

• Does the culture discourage females from having only female friends? Does it discourage females from living together or having frequent contact with one another? Are females taught to feel shame for having close friendships with other females? For living with other women without men? For associating primarily or exclusively with other females? 

• Are females taught that a mature woman gives most of her energy to a husband or to men as opposed to other women? 

• Are females taught to feel shame for having needs? For wanting others to help them satisfy their needs? Are females taught to take care of men’s needs before taking care of their own? 

• Does the culture provide more benefits or privileges to females who align themselves with males than to females who align themselves with females?

 • Are females taught that what men say is more important than what women say? How likely is it that a female’s (versus a male’s) voice will be heard? Are women taught to trust women and what women say? Does the culture act as though it is more important for a male child to develop his own voice than for a female child to develop her own voice? Are people more accepting of the independent views of male children than of female children?

• To what extent are women silenced or not listened to regarding the conditions of their lives? 

• Are women who report abuse believed? Do others stay connected to them, or are they ostracized?

• Does the culture support or encourage competition between females, particularly as regards males? 

• To what extent do the jobs and/or responsibilities assigned to females involve ongoing contact with men? 

• Are immediate bosses (or employers), teachers, co-workers, or other persons with whom one has daily contact more likely to be male than female? 

• Does the culture discourage or show indifference to, as opposed to encourage, women possessing a feminist ideology? Is a feminist ideology inaccessible to women? For example, does the educational system act as though feminist theory does not exist? Does the educational system, by omission or commission, deny that feminist theory is a legitimate alternative theory? Does the culture denigrate feminism, feminist values, or persons espousing such values? 

• What percentage of females have never belonged to a feminist organization? Are these organizations inaccessible to women? 

• What percentage of women do not possess feminist values or a feminist ideology? How likely is a female child to have parents who disparage a feminist ideology and values? How inaccessible are feminists in the community so that a woman with a feminist ideology would have difficulty finding others who shared her values?

To what extent are women isolated from each others and imposed a male perspective?

- Loving To Survive by Dee L. R. Graham

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I sincerely wish for all tumblr users (but specifically radfems analyzing important topics) to separate their paragraphs.

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cannot stop thinking about how good the fabrication of consent in squid game was… like yeah, the participants consent! over and over, from agreeing to the slapping game to ringing up the number of their own accord to meeting at the location to signing a separate sheet once more upon arrival… they can even disband the game if the majority decrees it. but this is all performative. because of course they’ll agree - of course they’ll come back.

the second episode is even all about addressing this ‘consent’, and that potential audience superiority: “so why don’t they just leave???? if they can??? why did they even do all this to start with?? it’s so extreme, to do all that just for money, i would never”

because, the show says, look at what they’re returning to. look at the life that’s offered as their alternative. debt up to their ears, money-brokers beating them up, poverty at its worst. do you see? do you see how yeah, joining that game is optional, but it’s optional in the sense of choosing to be stabbed or shot: theres consent, but not actual desire. that theres agreement, but under exploitation. there’s a reason only poor people are chosen to compete and it’s so obvious but i fucking love how the show handles it and addresses any audience superiority anyway

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is it wrong of me to be unimpressed with all this “kendrick called drake a pedo on live television!” chatter? drake will lose little from this. at the end of the day, nothing is being done to actually protect black girls and women from sexual violence and exploitation.

i completely agree & you aren't the only one. all i see is a black man using black women & girls as pawns to protect his ego from a biracial man from canada. that's it, that's all.

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i am my own person and will be okay no matter what bc i trust myself

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best advice you’d give a girl?

Fight tooth and nail for your boundaries

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Reminder that saying no is not being a bitch, it's having the human right of choice. Being against males on female spaces is not being a bigot, it's being against misogyny. Wearing comfortable clothes and liking your natural body is not letting yourself go, it's being free from society's impossible beauty standards set on women.

Keep standing up for yourself.

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Being able to express yourself is SO important. Anyone who doesn't want that DOES NOT want the best for you. It's not too damn much to be able to convey yourself and if they cant handle that leave them in the dust.

Also a good reason why journalling can be helpful, get your feelings out there then sort it.

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Fake sisterhood I

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Moid pandering is an act of survival, all women know that moids are dangerous

Women know that moids are dangerous; their pandering is mostly an act part II

What to focus on in life now as a single childfree woman

Attempted domestication of women

Genocide of the gyn

Toxicity & Exploitation of communities

MaIes are aware of female oppression, they just dont care

Energy to carry as a single childfree woman

Physical strength differences between the sexes isn't the primary issue

Find purpose to being a single childfree woman

Dont put a target on your back as a single childfree woman

Dealing with maIe retaliation

My response to the infamous "maIes will rape and kill us all if women leave them" argument

Types of women/red flags to avoid in friendships

MaIe projection

Have non-political motives for not dating or getting married

Friendships with other women

You are not a charity

Friendships with maIes

Key Asks