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Things I Learned the Hard Way
Age27. Aries. INFP. Writer. Yogi. Lover of Disney and dogs. Married to the man of my dreams. Working hard to live a life of balance and happiness.
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How to Cope with Social Anxiety
1. Realize that you’re not alone. The reality is that most of us worry about the same kinds of things – like whether others like us, are bored by others, or the kind of impression we’re making.
2. Try to uncover the roots of your anxiety. There may be a variety of reasons for feeling self-conscious, such as having had a bad experience in the past, feeling that you’re with people who are very different from you, or feeling you’re with people who don’t understand you. Also, it may simply be that you’re more introverted so social situations are stressful for you. Understanding the reasons behind the feelings can help you address them in a more appropriate way.
3. Acknowledge the feelings as soon as they arise. That will enable you to start targeting them through positive self talk. For example, remind yourself that: “I always feel like this in these kinds of situations. I’m going to be okay. I usually cope – and don’t fall apart.”
4. Fake looking and acting calm, relaxed, and self confident. In time, you’ll find your feelings will change to match the way you appear on the outside.
5. Act warm and friendly. Being friendly helps to put other people at ease, and encourages them to open up and feel relaxed with you.
6. Try not to worry about what other people think. In reality, other people will often feel as nervous as you do. It’s just that they’ve learned how to cover it up. Also, some people think negatively about everyone. You’re never going to change this kind of person – and you don’t need their approval anyway!
7. Be kind to yourself. Praise, affirm and reward yourself for deciding to do something that’s difficult for you.
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"The creative adult is the child who survived" Shout out to my fellow creatives. Never stop nourishing the child within
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I had the day off work today, which was really nice. I was able to do some yoga, work on my blog, get some good writing in, clean the house, get dressed up, take some self portraits, run some errands, make dinner, watch tv with my hubby, and walk the dogs. All in all, a pretty good day i'd say. I think I'll finish it off with a little studying (for my yoga certification) and then call it a beautiful night ✌🏻️
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Penelope
It’s possible that Penelope forgot to take her pills
She’s petulant, and confident, and breaking all the rules.
Particularly proud today – pesky, posh and prude
Passing people boastfully with blatant attitude.
Patriarchal society is narrow minded in perspective
They think a woman should be passive, pristine, polite and perfect
Positive… Petite… Polished, pretty and profound
Or else they wouldn’t bother even having her around.
These standards are impossible, improbable, imprudent…
A woman can’t live up to that and logically she shouldn’t.
Perturbed by all the poppycock the populace expects
Penelope works pointedly to puzzle and perplexed.
Powerful, passionate, persuasive and proactive
She’s positively brilliant, resilient, sharp and active
She challenges the patriarchy proudly without fail…
With help from other women, she’ll most certainly prevail
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I’m writing a series of blog posts about my wedding and some of the very magical moments leading up to it. Check out the first post in my series right here on my blog :)
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I want to take a few minutes to unpack a common criticism of Disney’s Beauty and the Beast, namely that it glorifies abusive relationships, telling impressionable young girls that it’s okay if their boyfriends shout at them and get physically violent, because they can “fix them with their love.” While it’s easy to look at the movie’s reputation in pop culture and make that assessment based on the broad strokes, if you look a little closer you’ll see that this conclusion is complete hogwash. Let me explain why.
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If you want to be unhappy, uncomfortable, and insecure, just spend your life trying to do something that is not right for you. It is just like trying to wear shoes that don’t fit.
Joyce Meyer (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
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This is why I can't watch the news
Yuppppp
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Poor Lilo <3
FAVORITE ANIMATED FEMALES - 2/10 >> LILO
If you want to leave, you can. I’ll remember you though.
I remember everyone that leaves.
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Im very passionate about human rights, and am completely disgusted by the abuse that occurs in our world, particularly towards women. With all the information surrounding the Stanford rape case that has been floating around recently, I started thinking a lot about the poor girl involved. I'm so inspired by her and her bravery in fighting for herself throughout this case. So it got me thinking. How can I help fight rape culture? How can I help women who have suffered sexual abuse and rape? How can I make a difference? I've seen letters to the victim. Letters to the rapist. Letters to the rapists father and family. I've seen Kind words for this woman everywhere, from people who just want to help. Here's how I can help: I want to build a website. To create a community where women who have been subjected to sexual abuse can come together to connect and share their stories. Where they can find support in a community of other women who have been through similar situations. I want it to be legit. A real community. I want to invest a lot into this website, but I need help. I need assistane in gaining the funds that Are necessary to create the community that I am envisioning. To start helping women who have been raped. To get people talking. To try and make a difference. Will you help me? Any and all donations are greatly appreciated. Let's help women come together. Lets build a community where people can safely share their stories. Let's help rape victims come together and heal. Thank you.
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If I knew this much about my characters, maybe writing about them would be easier
“Extremely detailed character sheet template”
Character Chart
Character’s full name:
Reason or meaning of name:
Character’s nickname:
Reason for nickname:
Birth date:
Physical appearance
Age:
How old does he/she appear:
Weight:
Height:
Body build:
Shape of face:
Eye color:
Glasses or contacts:
Skin tone:
Distinguishing marks:
Predominant features:
Hair color:
Type of hair:
Hairstyle:
Voice:
Overall attractiveness:
Physical disabilities:
Usual fashion of dress:
Favorite outfit:
Jewelry or accessories:
Personality
Good personality traits:
Bad personality traits:
Mood character is most often in:
Sense of humor:
Character’s greatest joy in life:
Character’s greatest fear:
Why?
What single event would most throw this character’s life into complete turmoil?
Character is most at ease when:
Most ill at ease when:
Enraged when:
Depressed or sad when:
Priorities:
Life philosophy:
If granted one wish, it would be:
Why?
Character’s soft spot:
Is this soft spot obvious to others?
Greatest strength:
Greatest vulnerability or weakness:
Biggest regret:
Minor regret:
Biggest accomplishment:
Minor accomplishment:
Past failures he/she would be embarrassed to have people know about:
Why?
Character’s darkest secret:
Does anyone else know?
Goals
Drives and motivations:
Immediate goals:
Long term goals:
How the character plans to accomplish these goals:
How other characters will be affected:
Past
Hometown:
Type of childhood:
Pets:
First memory:
Most important childhood memory:
Why:
Childhood hero:
Dream job:
Education:
Religion:
Finances:
Present
Current location:
Currently living with:
Pets:
Religion:
Occupation:
Finances:
Family
Mother:
Relationship with her:
Father:
Relationship with him:
Siblings:
Relationship with them:
Spouse:
Relationship with him/her:
Children:
Relationship with them:
Other important family members:
Favorites
Color:
Least favorite color:
Music:
Food:
Literature:
Form of entertainment:
Expressions:
Mode of transportation:
Most prized possession:
Habits
Hobbies:
Plays a musical instrument?
Plays a sport?
How he/she would spend a rainy day:
Spending habits:
Smokes:
Drinks:
Other drugs:
What does he/she do too much of?
What does he/she do too little of?
Extremely skilled at:
Extremely unskilled at:
Nervous tics:
Usual body posture:
Mannerisms:
Peculiarities:
Traits
Optimist or pessimist?
Introvert or extrovert?
Daredevil or cautious?
Logical or emotional?
Disorderly and messy or methodical and neat?
Prefers working or relaxing?
Confident or unsure of himself/herself?
Animal lover?
Self-perception
How he/she feels about himself/herself:
One word the character would use to describe self:
One paragraph description of how the character would describe self:
What does the character consider his/her best personality trait?
What does the character consider his/her worst personality trait?
What does the character consider his/her best physical characteristic?
What does the character consider his/her worst physical characteristic?
How does the character think others perceive him/her:
What would the character most like to change about himself/herself:
Relationships with others
Opinion of other people in general:
Does the character hide his/her true opinions and emotions from others?
Person character most hates:
Best friend(s):
Love interest(s):
Person character goes to for advice:
Person character feels responsible for or takes care of:
Person character feels shy or awkward around:
Person character openly admires:
Person character secretly admires:
Most important person in character’s life before story starts:
After story starts:
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When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own.
Mandy Hale (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
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My Husband and I are about to start training for a Savage Race... This should be fun.
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blog post about my struggle with self confidence and how I changed the way I feel.
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