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What type of sex work did you do? Sorry it's just hard for me to think of questions if I don't know what you actually did 😅

Oh Sure! This is a good one for me to answer separately so people know what they would ask. I was a stripper for roughly 8 years, sometimes that was a full time job, at other times it was a part time job, and then at times within that I did full service work as supplemental income.

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Everytime one of these "protect women and girls" orgs go viral for doing something evil I like to take a look through their "wins" and see if they've ever helped protect even one single living woman or girl.

Collective Shout has:

Gotten a hotel to cancel a legal-aged porn star's reservation

Gotten a venue to cancel a Playboy Bunny themed party - again, attended by only adults

Pressured the Breast Cancer Foundation to pull ads that they found too sexy

got ads for a sex doll company removed because they felt the dolls resembled children

Got a beer coozy that had pinups of adult women printed on them discontinued.

Got an H&M ad pulled for back to school clothes for saying "Turn Heads"

Got Tyler the Creator banned from performing in New Zealand

I'm still scrolling and I have yet to see a single instance of a real, living woman or girl being protected by any one of their actions. They have on multiple occasions punished real, adult women for the audacity to be naked in some capacity they find distasteful.

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hey all, i’m pretty active on bsky these days. please follow me there!

https://bsky.app/profile/titanomachyrpg.com

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There's been a lot of misinformation and also escalation-driven hysteria around this topic in my inbox and notifications (and a lot of death threats and suicide wishes, but that doesn't bother me, I know TERFs and SWERFs are just kinda like that)

So I'd like to do something different and open up asks for genuine curiosity, questions, and concerns about my time in the sex work industry. I obviously won't be responding to hate mail, because that's generally unproductive and does nothing to help educate. But I'll try to compile questions and answer as many as I can in one space.

I genuinely love getting to talk about this large chunk of my life, the good and the bad and the in between, because it's important to who I am now outside of the industry and also in demystifying it. There are plenty of people you know who have relationships to that industry that you probably wouldn't know because the stigma surrounding the topic reasonably keeps people quiet. But I'm in a good place and am not afraid of that kind of thing anymore.

I think maybe I don't talk about how, as a former Sex Worker, these completely braindead talking points from SWERFs about the industry make it impossibly hard to have nuanced conversations about the actual risks, dangers, and broken stairs that exist in the industry. Imagine if, when people were working to make movie sets safer for talent and crew, some group was like "MOVIES DANGEROUS ABOLISH ALL FILM" and people nodded in agreement with that take and caved to it?

Like the industry IS exploitative often because having a conversation about regulation that actually moves toward legislation is nearly impossible. Politicians are afraid to touch the requests of actual industry workers because they will be bombarded by harassment groups, labeled as "groomers" or worse for even discussing our issues.

Instead it can feel like the conversation boils down to "Sex Work is empowering" vs. "Sex Work is rape" and those things are both absolutely insane, because sex work is a damn job???? It's not either of those things without additional information. My day job now sure as fuck isn't empowering. And I get threatened and assaulted here more than I did in any strip club, despite it being a "normal" job. The only difference is that I have avenues to escalate those things here, and people generally take me seriously when I do. Sex Workers need avenues like that too but you paranoia-stricken, self-centered, infantilizing mobsters don't want our actual needs to be met.

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Mastercard and visa have reported to a couple news outlets that they are currently being swamped with calls and complaints. Keep up the pressure and try to (politely) insist that you leave a complaint via phone instead of letting the rep direct you to emails. It's way easier to be overwhelmed by a much smaller number of calls so each one counts for a bit more!

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I have so much work to get done today but its all good things that I can't wait to share with folks 🥰

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sometimes someone will casually mention using chatgpt or some other generative ai thing and I can actually feel the little

above my head

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I think maybe I don't talk about how, as a former Sex Worker, these completely braindead talking points from SWERFs about the industry make it impossibly hard to have nuanced conversations about the actual risks, dangers, and broken stairs that exist in the industry. Imagine if, when people were working to make movie sets safer for talent and crew, some group was like "MOVIES DANGEROUS ABOLISH ALL FILM" and people nodded in agreement with that take and caved to it?

Like the industry IS exploitative often because having a conversation about regulation that actually moves toward legislation is nearly impossible. Politicians are afraid to touch the requests of actual industry workers because they will be bombarded by harassment groups, labeled as "groomers" or worse for even discussing our issues.

Instead it can feel like the conversation boils down to "Sex Work is empowering" vs. "Sex Work is rape" and those things are both absolutely insane, because sex work is a damn job???? It's not either of those things without additional information. My day job now sure as fuck isn't empowering. And I get threatened and assaulted here more than I did in any strip club, despite it being a "normal" job. The only difference is that I have avenues to escalate those things here, and people generally take me seriously when I do. Sex Workers need avenues like that too but you paranoia-stricken, self-centered, infantilizing mobsters don't want our actual needs to be met.

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If you're interested in or curious about OPs point, I host a show called One Shot, where every few weeks we play a new indie RPG, of all different kinds, with a rotating cast of hilarious and wonderful performers and friends!!

I mean this kindly, as I agree with the premise, but if you want people to play ttrpgs other than D&D, you need to start talking about why those games are enjoyable, instead of making fun of people for homebrewing in 5e for the umpteenth time

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Have you listened to Hedwig and the Angry Inch? If so: thoughts?

You know what I remember listening a bit way back but I don't remember much! I might take another peak back!

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Incredible fast work by Radiant G on the itch delistings and how it is affecting real artists already.

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Apparently it's a SWERF group that's responsible for the takedowns on itch.

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itch is removing all of their adult games now

Oh things are fucking dire huh. There won't be any storefronts left

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Haven’t seen many people talking about this. One of the groups behind pressuring steam to remove adult content is a TERF group backed by conservative Christian groups. Once again the root behind a lot of anti-porn talking points is transphobia/transmisogyny and the idea that being trans is a social contagion caused by porn/‘pervertedness’

Now, the group is claiming responsibility for Steam’s new payment processor policies, with its co-founder calling impacted gamers “porn sick” and “brain rotted.” In one case, the organization even retweeted a notoriously anti-trans feminist who declared that “pervert nerds are responsible for most of society’s ills.” The retweeted feminist, a self-described “trans-exclusionary radical feminist,” proceeded to write under her post, “Evidence #1: trans.”

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“Sex work” isn’t work it’s men paying to rape women be so fr if you have to pay someone to have sex with them then that is coercion and coerced sex is RAPE

There are, right now, a bunch of puritans screaming this at me, a sex worker. Lol.

Do you...do you know that men also do sex work? Do you know nonbinary and trans people do sex work? Do you know there are queer owned studios? Women owned studios? How do you reconcile the autonomy of those people with this fucked up belief?

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It's been a while since I've been bombarded with death threats online but I'm genuinely so glad I'm in a much more stable place to deal with that than I have been previously. Man, puritans sure are okay with violence lol