#...because that is essentially putting in earplugs and going 'I CANT HEAR YOU THIS MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE' | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

uncanny-tranny · 1 year

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When talking about abuse, please be critical of the idea that abusers abuse because of fate, Scary Mental Disorders, their victims being bad/uncooperative, or because they "can't help it."

What may sound like an explanation for abuse to you honestly just sounds like justification and qualifications for abuse.

#mental health #mental health advocacy #abuse #abuse tw #abuse apologia #not sure if i specifically talked about this but now i am because this is Bothering me #like i'll talk about my stories about abuse and i just hate when the conversation is led to 'oh that was fate!!' or whatever #like i do think that that person wanted to comfort me but it just... sounded like taking the blame off of my abusers #and it just seemed to me like there was discomfort around saying 'those people harmed you. they had no right to do that'#i think some people have a very hard time with admitting that humans can be horrific to each other...#...and then admitting that somebody you *love* was in that position of being mistreated...#...but i don't think that makes downplaying abuse/the experiences of survivors right...#...because that is essentially putting in earplugs and going 'I CANT HEAR YOU THIS MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE'

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