#Also completely understand gettin so frustrated you start fightin fire with fire I've thought of doing the same multiple times

[unhinged-as-hell]

Hello! I'm a jily shipper and I wanna just give you my side of the debate. I am not trying to hate, just to give you a new perspective.

Now starting out: I am Jily shipper all the way and have jegulus blocked in all forms, because I have a hyperfixation on the way he was in canon(and Canon in general because it's interestin, and I don't like the way fanon makes him) and I hc him to be aroace. But I promise you, I will not, ever, go to spaces that aren't mine. If I post anything anti jegulus, or anti whatever, I will do it in my own spaces. I've learned fandom etiquette since getting on Tumblr and I will follow it like hell.

That bein said, I apologize for the jily fans that are bitches are about it. Trust me, I hate them too. Anyone who doesn't follow etiquette bothers the hell outta me. So I am very sorry.

I have my opinions, and I keep to people who share the same. I will say, I have only seen two anti jegulus shippers that are genuinely terrible, but you might've have seen more, not denying that. But, if you can, maybe block the jegulus tag, just for a while, and scroll through the jily one. Because I have jegulus, jegulily, marylily, snily, etc, blocked and I block and I swear to you still finding jily content that just-is jily is so fuckin difficult. It's frustrating and sad because I really like about this ship!

Now, another thing, perspective. I didn't know jily shippers were using the jegulus tag because I just assumed it was such a popular ship, the assholes who did were just drowned out or something. Now I know otherwise! I get pushed things anti jegulus shippers related, you get the opposite because of the content we consume. I have been called homophobic for not liking jegulus three times while minding my own business, you get the opposite. Whenever I scroll through the jily tag, I get almost no just jily as a romantic pairing, it's either platonic jily, or past jily, or whatever else, and it bothers the hell outta me, you get the opposite.

I once made a post about aroace Regulus, I get a jegulus shipper calling him ace demiromantic, do I have a problem with this hc? No. I have a problem with it being on my post which I specified to be aroace Regulus.

I wish that I could drill fandom etiquette into every person in this fandom like-everyday. 'Don't like, don't interact, keep your tag straight, block and move on' is something this fandom desperately needs to learn.

Now I am guessing that you posted the whole "Regulus and James are a great couple" on a anti jegulus post in the jegulus tag, which you are well within your right to do, because that is supposed to be your space, and not theirs. Now can I say some jegulus shippers do the same? "lesbian lily and gay James all the way!" "Jily? What's that?" in the jily tag. I've seen that too. And I hate it because that is my space and I can't have it to myself.

Basically-this fandom has both shitty people on both sides and, due to fandoms as they are, you see the bad of the side you're not in. My best friend is a jegulus shipper, and I have plenty of friends that have stuff I disagree with heavily, but I love em nonetheless! I got lucky with that. I saw the good of the other side, but not everyone does. I think you're one of those people.

Again, no hate, I don't care if you ship jegulus or not(and a bunch of other jily shippers don't I promise!) I'm not gonna try to convince you otherwise lol, I don't really care for doin that.

That's all :]

I love sharing opinions no one asked for, so here’s one that will absolutely get me on Tumblr’s naughty list: Jily shippers are insufferable, and they need to learn to leave the rest of us alone.

Now, before the pitchforks come out, let’s get one thing straight: I have nothing against Lily Evans and James Potter. Adorable couple. Tragic love story. The whole series literally exists because they got together, so congrats to them, I guess. The problem isn’t Jily. It’s a few of the the Jily shippers.

There is no compromising with these people. None. Zero. Nœud. It’s their way or highway. As someone who ships Jegulus, I’ve had the misfortune of sharing tags with them, and let me tell you: I hate every single thing I saw. It’s not just that they think Jegulus is ridiculous (which, fine, everyone’s entitled to an opinion), but they take it so much further. Some of them genuinely believe that certain fic ideas shouldn’t exist just because they conflict with Jily canon.

- Regulus raising Harry? Blasphemy! Apparently, that’s “erasing Lily” and therefore misogynistic. Because, clearly, we are never allowed to explore an AU where things turn out differently from cannon.

- Lily not being the perfect mother? How dare you? The mere suggestion that she might have had personal ambitions, struggled with motherhood, ( or heaven forbid) not wanted kids at all is a personal attack.

- Lily being a lesbian? Absolutely not! Because, obviously, that’s just an evil ploy to invalidate Jily and an offensive way to justify a MxM ship.

- James falling in love with literally anyone else? Impossible! James Potter was born with “Property of Lily Evans” stamped on his forehead. His heart has never, and will never, belong to anyone else. Ever.

Also some Jily shippers love invading other ship’s tags. Because it’s not enough for them to enjoy their ship. No! They need to make sure no one else enjoys anything they forbid. I go looking for Jegulus content, and what do I find? Jily fans writing entire essays on why my ship is invalid. Excuse me, who asked you? I’m over here minding my own business, respecting Jily like a decent fanfic writer, and they’re out here hijacking tags like it’s their divine mission.

And the irony? If we dared to do the same to them, they’d lose their minds. One time, I commented that in my opinion, James and Regulus make a great couple, and the post’s owner responded with somethin like, "How dare you bring this filthness into my Jily post?" As if Jily shippers don’t do the exact same thing to Jegulus posts ALL. THE. TIME.

The best part? I was actually being nice for once. Normally, I am a jerk, but this one time I was being nice AND polite. Somehow that was still unacceptable. The double standards are truly something to behold.

Here’s the thing: I don’t care what you write. If you want to make Lily an all-powerful warrior queen who single-handedly takes down Voldemort, raises Harry, and becomes Minister of Magic while also starting a bakery on the side and adopting 50 cats go for it! Have a blast! I’m not stopping you. So why can’t I have my fun too? Why can’t I imagine a world where James and Regulus fall in love, or where Lily makes different choices? Isn’t that the whole point of writing/reading fics? To explore possibilities?

You know what? I will be hijacking the Jily tag now just to let them know that I mind my business, so they should mind theirs.