#GOD FORBID WOMEN KILL THEIR ABUSERS GOD FORBID WOMEN HAVE TRAUMA RESPONSES

[rustedpipe]

no because if you ever want to experience blind unspeakable rage watch all of lost and then go on the internet and see people talk about kate austen

[misrepresentedmorallygrey]

PROPAGANDA

Goro Akechi

have you seen this man. the fandom doesn't seem to grasp that he can have a "good" goal but still go about it absolutely the wrong way. he's not baby but he's not evil incarnate either, he's just 18. being 18 is just like that

People who are like "he's an irredeemable psychopath who became a serial killer just because he has daddy issues" piss me off. People who are like "he's the only person who ACTUALLY cares about the Protagonist and all of the Protagonist's other friends are fakes and users" piss me off even more. He's a foil for the entire main cast. He has faced all of their traumas with none of the support. He believes that he's responsible for his mother's suicide, and that he's unlovable. He was abandoned by everyone. He made some bad decisions when he was like 14, and his abusive father manipulated him into being a hitman. He lies all the damn time, so you can't really tell when he's being genuine or not. He's a double agent who befriends you and then tries to kill you, believes that he's succeeded, and shows absolutely no remorse. He dies to save your life (and then gets sorta resurrected and then dies again to literally save the world). It's complicated! He's complicated!

Gwen Cooper

God forbid women do anything. Gwen Cooper is a classic victim of fandom misogyny, a complicated kinda fucked up female character who is ultimately a hero, and people act like she’s the antichrist because she’s about as fucked up as every other man in the cast. Gwen’s main crimes are cheating on her then-boyfriend (with another male lead character who weirdly does NOT get any hate for participating in this affair) and having a very emotionally intimate and sexually tense (but never actually sexual) relationship with Jack Harkness, who also has a boyfriend in Torchwood (this is the classic “she’s getting in the way of our ship!!!! Situation, despite the fact that Gwen and Jack literally never do anything together and Gwen is never anything but supportive of Jack’s relationship); perhaps Gwen’s most morally grey action is confessing adultery to her boyfriend and then erasing his memory when he reacts poorly, but I must stress that this is about on the par of the shitty things other men in the show have done (hide dangerous aliens in the secret base, sacrifice children to dangerous aliens, use alien cologne that makes people want to fuck you in a way that is at best DUBIOUSLY consensual, etc). Meanwhile, Gwen also gets hate for things that are NOT morally grey, namely, being an outspoken woman with a strong moral center. She is the HEART of her secret organization, she is the MORAL CORE, and because that means she has the AUDACITY to criticize her male coworkers, she’s a bitch. There are over 100 works on ao3 tagged “gwen cooper bashing,” and even more untagged that bash, demean, belittle, or simply ignore the existence of THE MAIN CHARACTER OF THE SHOW!! Gwen bestie you’re so fucked up and I love you and I need more people to appreciate that.

Gwen is a paranormal investigator who accidentally joined the worst polycule on Earth. The Torchwood fanbase (especially the one at the time) really hates/hated her, despite the fact that her coworkers were equally as bad if not much worse than her. Maybe she did a bit of cheating and maybe she’s kind of mean but have you considered: she’s the most beautiful girl in the world, she’s a bad bitch, and I love her? God forbid women do anything

[haletwinsstan]

You know what? They shouldn't have changed Harry's death. This is what gave Leah depth in the books, she was the reason of a loss nobody can ever fix, and this is why she hated herself. She lost a lot by shifting, obvi, but everything else is replaceable - she can find a new love (or wait til Emily dies), a new best friend, she can adopt a child, she can stop phasing forever and have normal life, but she can't find a new dad and! She is to blame. This is the trauma she lack in the movies.

Anon, I’m going to have to disagree with you on this one. First of all, no child should be held responsible for their parent’s death. You shouldn’t have to live with that idea. I also think that the way that Harry dies because Leah loses control and shifts further emphasizes the gross ideas that the wolves’ animal side is harmful and that they’re unable to control themselves. I despise both of these ideas because A. they’re rooted in smeyer’s racist views of the Native American characters and B. they’re pretty unfair since the wolves turn to protect people and literally don’t kill humans while vampires do (let’s not forget Jasper, not the wolves, is the person who legitimately tries to murder Bella). 

FURTHERMORE smeyer seems to be obsessed with the idea that every single female character has to have trauma. Like, is there a single woman in the Twilight saga who wasn’t heavily traumatized? Besides Leah being responsible for her father’s death, we’ve got Rosalie’s rape, Esme’s abusive husband, Alice’s time in a mental institution, Bella being a neglected child/literally all the other shit she goes through in the saga, the list goes on and on. Why is trauma necessary for these women? Why couldn’t any of them be turned because they were vibe checked by a bear? Why couldn’t Bella have a mother who took good care of her despite the fact that her parents’ relationship didn’t work out (as happens sometimes)? WHY DOES EVERY SINGLE WOMAN NEED TO BE HEAVILY TRAUMATIZED TO BE RESPECTED. This shows especially in the other Bitch™ of the Twilight saga Rosalie, to whom Bella gets more kind feelings once she finds out what happened to her. Alice and Esme, with their kinder characters, are always seen as positive in Bella’s narrative, but Leah and Rosalie need this trauma to justify their behavior. But Edward gets to be overprotective and moody and that’s fine? Jasper gets to try to eat Bella and just sulk in the corner and she’s cool with that? But God FORBID that Leah/Rosalie is not super friendly 24/7 that can only be if they’ve gone through significant trauma cause women are made to be NICE and KIND because they’re naturally good at CARING for OTHERS as they SHOULD BE because I’m MORMON and women have to be HOMEMAKERS otherwise they’re BAD

I also think Leah’s reaction to all the shit that happened to her was pretty fair and that she wasn’t being as much of a bitch as she’s made out to be. Like, she literally lost her fiance, then her cousin/best friend started dating him, and now she’s in a pack with a bunch of guys including the previously mentioned ex fiance who don’t really seem to like her (correct me if I’m wrong but I think they all just think she’s a bitch? And aren’t they like mean to her in the text like lads can we not?), but she’s stuck with them and can read their every thought and they can read hers. I also would not be too psyched about the whole thing let’s just stick to that.

IN CONCLUSION: - Harry dying because Leah loses control furthers the racist narrative that the wolves are dangerous - Let women be fully rounded people without giving them heaps of trauma - Let women not be sunshine angels without being portrayed as horrible bitches like........ you don’t always have to be nice - Leah had a ton of shit just dumped on her in this series and I can totally see why she wasn’t happy about it let the girl be angry fgs - Leah sis if you’re reading this i love u

[battlestar-royco]

I love how the fandom calls themselves feminists, but only approves of men being 'feminists'. All the female characters in the books that have achieved their success without a man are not only vilified (the Queens, Maeve, Nesta etc.) by SJM, but her fans don't even question twice the morality behind making all females in power villains. The reasons why Feyre is even adored is because she is under Rhysand's care (also let's not forget how much they used to ship her with Tamlin, who also was (1/?)

Feyre's source of power. I keep reading about stans calling the female characters out for questionable and awful actions, but God forbid someone do the same to a male character. Even someone as awful as Eris is having fanfics written about him and a mass of stans trying to redeem him. Everyone keeps forgetting that Nesta and Elain were the ones to save the fae and yet they're still expected to play nice and be thankful for the IC nasty attitudes. (2/?)

Cassian and Co have killed hundreds of people and entered multiple wars and yet are never called out for it, nor seen as anything less than innocent and uwu. But the moment Nesta rejects him, she's dragged through the mud. Y'all keep telling yourselves that you're the biggest feminists, but at the end of the day you not only ship Nesta with someone that she has countless of times said 'No' to and physically rejected, but also claim how she doesn't deserve Cassian because she's sooo mEaN. (3/?)Not to forget how much of a NiCe gUy Rhysand is. On one side he claims to give Feyre the choice to stay with him or leave him and promises her that she won't ever be anything less than his equal, but on the other side he mind r*pes with Feyre other characters OUTSIDE of war (Lucien, Elain?). Also you can't be a feminist if you only treat women that you either f*ck or are related to with respect. Still haven't forgotten how he tried to force Nesta in Acofas with his powers. This guy is nuts (4/4)

So many excellent points made. The standard for male characters’ behavior in AC0TAR/T0G is so low (except for when it comes to marginalized men like L/ucien and Kale). I’m not going to sit here and defend A/marantha, M/aeve, and I/anthe, but it’s very telling that the three main villain women all a) use their sexuality for evil, and b) got their power through their own machinations and not through men. It’s also pertinent to note that these three women die violently for their crimes whereas male abusers like Rice, Eris, Papa Arch, Tom, etc all get some semblance of a redemption arc. Stans root for them to be redeemed while casting aside N/esta and M0r for not complying with Rice’s wishes. The biggest mindfuck is figuring out how the same people can (rightly!) hold N/esta accountable for the way she treated Faerug but swallow up all of Rice’s apologies and excuses for being a terrible person. They empathize with his arc and his trauma, they feel bad for him because of what he went through, they claim he only did what he did out of necessity, but when N/esta is clearly traumatized throughout AC0WAR and FAS for what she went through, they give her no such empathy.

Even though they are oppressed by Rice, it’s somehow N/esta, M0r, and E/lain’s responsibility to grovel at the IC’s feet. SJ/M uses the IC’s backstories as a get-off-free card for any terrible thing they’ve done, including breaking people’s arms, invading homes, destroying public property, stealing from allies, reneging on deals, and more. However, this logic falls apart when you realize that N/esta and E/lain have gone through equally horrible trauma and yet are expected to get along nicely with Rice and trust that he knows best. People seem to view the impending N/essian arc as the “redemption” for N/esta, which is kind of messed up. Why can’t she just do her own thing and redeem herself? Why does she need to conform to Cassiass’s opinion of what she should be? She clearly doesn’t want anything to do with him. This is why the books infuriate me and why I find N/esta much easier to stomach as a character than Rice. N/esta doesn’t pretend she’s a good person. She’s not interested in these assholes who want her to change into their idea of what a productive and content person looks like. Rice on the other hand is constantly in everyone’s business trying to dictate how exactly they should worship him and Faerug, and he does it all while upholding himself as the paragon of goodness.

[thepoetoaster]

Tomorrow’s the release date of my short story “Possessed”! If there’s any one message I wish I could convey to others through this story, it’s that if you see something in the world that you don’t like, that doesn’t seem right to you, you don’t have to sit back silently and allow it to happen. There are many influences that went into “Possessed” but a lot it is based on personal experience as well as some of the issues I feel that many go through collectively as a society that need to be addressed, dealt with and changed for the better. It’s not sexist to say that most of the world’s problems are caused by one particular gender; it’s a well documented fact. Individually there are many men who I look up to, who I am friends with, who have done great things for the world; collectively, they are responsible for the majority of the world’s violence, abuse and oppression. But gender imbalance is only one of many themes I have tackled in “Possessed”. I also touch upon themes of the increasing isolation of the individual in western society and the mental health issues that arise, being enslaved to unfulfilling work in the name of profit, and the lasting effects that childhood trauma can have into adulthood. The title itself calls out the way we generally view relationships in our society: you are the property of one person, and That’s It ™. Done. You’re supposed to get married and take on the man’s last name, because He Owns You ™. And if things don’t work out and you decide to get divorced, then it becomes a Big Fucking Deal ™. God forbid it were the other way around. Could you imagine if men were supposed to take on women’s last names? They would have a mental breakdown. Anyways, on a lighter note, there are many elements of adventure, romance, mysticism, hope and humor incorporated this story, and I hope you enjoy it! I’m looking forward to collaborating with others as I turn it into a film, and I’m also open to new ideas and input, as it would be dull if it was always just The Katy Show. On a closing note, I just want to say that if you didn’t want a character based on you to be killed off by a demon, you should have behaved better. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #hahaha #excited (at Buffalo, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7_bu4lJinu/?igshid=jkh8habtfrv3

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Just saw a conversation between a couple people about how they’d love to see a Hunger Games type of thing, but with “TERFs” as the contestants, and sending mutated dogs in after us and essentially just torturing us for fun and entertainment

And one of them said that we’d definitely be killing each other out of our own free will, because “knowing them they would kill each other and then their own allys because they dont agree a 100%"

And holy shit, the projection

Radical feminists consistently disagree with each other, and while there are certainly some groups (who are loud but make up the minority) who go around bullying people and harassing those who disagree with them, there’s such a bigger difference in opinion here, and (for the most part; albeit there are some topics “rudefems” tend to get vicious about and target people for) I feel safer expressing my varying views and opinions than I ever did while I was with the genderist crew. And unlike in genderist circles, if there’s people being nasty and awful because of a difference in opinion, there are other women who stand up for the person being harassed. Even if they truly disagree, there’s tons of posts calling out that kind of behavior during disagreements.

Meanwhile, among genderists, you make a casual post with one wrong word and immediately get 50 hateful anons. There’s constantly call-outs for people who use terms slightly differently. You’re constantly guilt-tripped and threatened to the point where you’re scared to even follow someone who has a slightly different viewpoint than you. You have to re-read a post that you made about your own personal experiences 95372984 times before posting it to make sure it, at the very least, has perfect wording and caters a million times over to apologize for the fact that your personal experiences aren’t perfectly in line with their thought experiments. You’re under immediate suspicion if you so much as reblog from someone who has been deemed problematic (for anything ranging from “I don’t think aces are inherently a part of the lesbian-gay-bi-transgender community” to “gender doesn’t exist”). 

You say “femme and butch are lesbian-specific terms with meanings that are rooted in the lesbian experience and culture” and get hundreds of people insulting you, threatening you, sexually harassing you, calling you “TERF”, messaging you to threaten you, kicking you and anyone who so much as considered what you had to say out of the group, stalking you on your post talking about abuse you faced so they can call you abusive (for saying please don’t use femme and butch outside of lesbian contexts) and demanding an apology and threatening to kick you out of the autistic trauma survivor support group if you don’t apologize.

Old ladies who haven’t even heard the term “transgender” can go to a trans activist event, ask someone at the back of the crowd if they’re cross-dressers because she genuinely doesn’t know and is asking to learn more, and the entire crowd will start chanting “SHAME” in her face until she walks away.

Open a feminist bookstore that has a few books written by radical feminists? Trans activists attend the grand opening to barricade the entrance and threaten anyone who tries entering, run around pouring wine on the bookshelves, trip the fire alarm, and scream at the women who poured their time and energy and money into creating the store.

Exist as an old woman and ask the question “who’s attacking?” in response to a “TERFS ATTACK, WE FIGHT BACK” and try to do your job and take photos of the event you came to take photos of? Trans activists beat you up and then blame you for it, saying you “deserved” it, “it’s your fault”, “you asked for it”.

Buy a billboard and put a dictionary definition on it? Get doxxed. 

Be a lesbian of mixed race, and work hard to direct a movie about a trans boy, and commit two crimes while making it: 1.) cast a cis girl to act as the trans boy, and 2.) include the phrase “I feel like a boy trapped in a girl’s body”? Trans activists put a sign at her podium reading “fuck this cis white bitch”, scream over her whenever she tries to speak at her event, shout “fuck you scared bitch” at her.

Silently exist as a biologically female person who is homosexual (aka, exclusively attracted to other biologically female people), or turn down a trans woman, or--god forbid--say the words “lesbians don’t like dick”? Lots of rape jokes. Normalized and celebrated rape fantasies. Gaslighting. Conversion tactics. Threatening people who so much as ask for communication before-hand as to “are you cis or trans” or state “I’m not interested in dating trans people”. Sexually traumatizing and abusing lesbians directly. Joking about how gang rape should be punishment. Talking about how “cool” it would be if trans women were filmed raping these women as a threat to other lesbians and showing how “lesbians secretly want it”. Turn around and scream at traumatized lesbians that “nobody says that / does that”, then go back to ignoring the problem and brushing this violence under the rug and minimizing the problem and agreeing with the perpetrators if ever forced to confront an incident.

A survivor of severe abuse can speak out and take a stand against her incredibly powerful and widely supported abusers, do an incredible amount to help other victims of sexual abuse, be open and vulnerable about her trauma to a world that hates her for existing and hates her even more for speaking out, but when she rightfully snaps at and yells back at a pedophile who came to scream at her at her own event, generists hate her. Didn’t matter how validating she was, the only thing she would have been allowed to do was sit there and take it and apologize profusely for somehow “not doing enough”. Her events were cancelled, people all over genderists circles were yelling about how awful she is and how much they hate her and how she deserves the worst of fates, comments are made about how they “hope she gets stabbed in her vagina”, etc. etc. etc.

I can go on and on and on.

Trans activism is a fucking cult where you’re under threat even if you nod and agree and conform as quickly as possible, while radical feminists consistently disagree and call out each other out if someone tries to settle debates with bullying and harassment. 

Maybe they somehow think that disagreement is an issue that should result in violence? If someone thinks that, doesn’t that kind of...make their statement about themselves?