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((I feel weird asking this but maybe some of y'all are more experienced than us so....))

¿What’s the best (& safest) way for an as-xual person (who’s either aro or very demiro) who wants a queerplatonic relationship (romantic &/or s-xual) & is also polyamourous to find partners?

We just found out about a month ago that we're ace & very demi or aro, but we still want a ✨relationship✨ (QPR) & aren't repulsed by either thing (which all feels very odd to finally put in words—).

We have the extra complication that we're also a (D.I.D.) system (who doesn't plan to ever fuse & will stay multiple), so finding safe partners is extra difficult. But we love the idea of QPRs.

We have no clue where to begin.

So if you know even a place to start looking (hopefully that won't end in unreciprocated attraction), we're open to hearing it (anon asks, replies/reblogs welcome).

((Also note our body is an adult (22), & we won’t start or have relationships with minors. & we also don’t want a “sugar” parent....we find that off-putting & uncomfortable. & not a fan of hook-ups/one night stands - we want a long term, consensual poly relationship with fellow adults. I feel the need to specify because this is an online space that has some people we'd rather not engage with, & has minors.))

~Nico (he/they)

Update that apparently the Google Play store has an app called AC (As-xual Cupid) for ace & aspec people to meet each other (many say in their bio they're demi or greys-xual, & you specify either on your profile or in your bio your orientation & what you're looking for in a partner). Some ace people are using it to make friends as well. It's 18+ because it's built as a dating app, but it's a place to start.

(once you open the app ↑)

↑ Just be careful in Google Play because the one with fancy lettering that says “As-xual Cupid” (not “Ace”) has a massive paywall & isn't the good one.

To anyone else who wants to look for QPR or for non-s-xual (or slower) relationships, this app works so far.

Just beware if you're nonbinary that *some* people (not a whole lot luckily) will message you who are looking for women (or exclusively men) & completely disregard/ignore that you're not a woman/a man. But if you swipe those conversations to the left you can delete them & ignore those people (& if you want you could point out that you're not what their profile indicates they're looking for).

~Alaska (they/xey/he)

So, I have a secondary suggestion:

But as a warning, Lex is geared towards LGBT+ in general, & isn't ace only, so there are people in the post feed openly asking for k!nks / fantasies to be fulfilled, asking to have s-x/hookups, asking for sugar babies or sugar parents, & talking about being h*rny. However, you can (1) indicate your pronouns, (2) indicate exactly what you're looking for (friends, dates, hookups, & events/community are the options), & (3) block anyone who reaches out asking you for s-x or sugar stuff or anything that makes you uncomfortable. (There's also a report button if they harass you.)

Overall I've made ~4-5 local friends & 2 international friends (England & Canada), & I've only had to block 2 messengers (because one wanted a sugar baby, ew no, & the other said they view life as ‘k!ll or be k!lled’).

I've gone out of my way to block anyone asking for s-x to clear up my feed so it's good stuff (requests for friendship, requests to go out for coffee or go thrifting, etc.), so you can do that too. I haven't yet encountered a block limit (hopefully there isn't one) so you should be alright blocking anyone who makes you uncomfortable.

It may not be geared towards ace people, but many of the people in there that I've encountered are demi or ace (& demi or aro) anyway. So it could be a place to start!

~Nico