#LOOK i don't want to delve into it anymore than a hobby but i do want to get into it more

[astrxealis]

what if i actually got to. streaming (again?)

[sznofthesticks]

How did YOU get into 911ls rachel? 👀

if you could write one episode of season 5, what would it include? (back atcha)

what is your favorite cuisine and one food in that cuisine you hate; and what is your LEAST favorite cuisine and one food in that cuisine you LOVE

what's your favorite pastime/hobby outside of fandom? (back atcha)

what is your favorite season 👀 is it... winter... *shot*

more photos of cats please! 🥰

How did YOU get into 911ls rachel? 👀

okay so i started with OG 911, i watched from the very beginning when season one aired until season 5 and just became uninteresting (season 5 was... bad...) but rewatched spring 2023 because my sister wanted to watch it. and enjoyed it much more that time around. and then over the summer i was sick and couldnt leave my house for a week so i decided to watch lone star AND MY LIFE WAS FOREVER ALTERED. (i realize im a very late fan pls forgive me)

i was hesitant to watch lone star because some people in the OG 911 fandom are very mean towards this show and it's fans. (i've distanced myself from those people. i adore this show and have met the loveliest people on here because of this show.)

if you could write one episode of season 5, what would it include?

okay this is gonna be all over the place. marjan has a comphet realization and does some self discovery and we get some sapphic rep from her. not saying they have to make her have a girlfriend, but just some realization and being an openly queer, muslim, female firefighter in texas would be EVERYTHING to me.

nancy backstory. i've written a little about my thoughts on her backstory and want to write more. but i say she comes from a rich, influential family, but they're distant to her and put alot of pressure on her growing up and her sister is the only one she stays in contact with.

for tarlos. let them fuck nasty. (okay i realize we can't have that on network television).

realistics. carlos gets injured on the job or while trying to solve gabriel's murder and we get him in a coma in a hospital bed and tk is anxious and crying by his bedside (WE DESERVE IT. CARLOS HAS BEEN IN THAT SPOT TWICE. IT'S TK'S TURN)

what is your favorite cuisine and one food in that cuisine you hate; and what is your LEAST favorite cuisine and one food in that cuisine you LOVE

okay, so fair warning. white woman, who grew up in a small town, and still lives in that small town. and my mom was a terrible cook. im slowly trying to immerse myself in foods from other cultures now that im an adult. but there is not an option for restaurants of anything other than americanized chinese and theres no ethnic grocery options here either, so i try my best. and i feel like finding recipes is so hard. i never know what to look for as a beginner.

i really don't know if this counts as a cuisine, but my aunt always cooked Pennsylvania Dutch foods (which is kind of a derivative of german so that i guess?) but my least favorite of that would be scrapple or pickled beet eggs. both are 🤢

since that probably doesn't count, italian. i love chicken/eggplant parm or lemon risotto (im probably offending so many italians rn)

i can't say i have a least favorite cuisine? i'll say the one i've least delved into. i hope this doesn't upset you, but .... indian ... I KNOW IM SORRY. I REALLY WANT TO TRY MORE THO I NEED TO FIND SOME BEGINNER RECIPES TO TRY AND HOPE I CAN FIND THE INGREDIENTS HERE. but i do loveeeee chicken tikka masala and garlic naan. like the most basic answer. im so so sorry tessa. :(

what's your favorite pastime/hobby outside of fandom?

i love music and everything about it. i go with my sister to live events quite a bit. we love concerts but also going to sporting events. mostly football and baseball!

what is your favorite season 👀 is it... winter... *shot*

hahahah. fall! i miss real fall, like when i was younger. now it just goes from being super hot to cold. not much fall anymore. :( as much as i hate living in a rural area, its beautiful here in the fall <3

more photos of cats please! 🥰

okay it’s mostly pepper because she’s attached at my hip and puffy is more independent lol

[thelesbianpoirot]

Hello, I am not getting any younger and I want to jump back into the bleak lesbian dating world. Should I act like a normie to get a wife? Or should I looksmaxx and stay true to my lesbian separatist beliefs?

On one end I betray myself but on the other I’d have to do an uncomfortable amount of work to become more good looking. I don’t think women will care about my beliefs if I’m jacked.

What do you think?

Babe this is so real, people like to pretend gay women don't care about appearance and that every lesbi woman wants a low effort fat butch, but that is a BIG lie. Even gay women have preferences informed by society, few vary. So looksmaxxing will probably get you more women. I did get more attention my dating app pages when I dressed femme, but I didn't want to do that anymore, so I just get a good haircut, nice looking clothes, put stuff on my face so I don't have awful acne and take pictures in great lighting. If you can do a bit more, like working out, and buying a cool outfit or two, do it, but don't do shit you can't maintain because she'll leave you if you can't keep it up. I met a girl when I was 125 pounds, shaved and with long hair to my ass, and she did not want me when I gained 50 pounds due to health issues and buzz it all off. I have lost some of that weight, but I am definitely not 130 anymore. And I left her because I realized she didn't want me anymore, and I was not staying with someone who didn't want me after I recovered from an eating disorder. But I also don't blame her because you can't force yourself to get turned on by someone you are not. BEING JACKED HELPS A LOT but if you hate exercise, just focus on getting fit, basic walking more, stretching, eating greens, drinking water. But date while you're working on your body, so you know what the dating landscape looks like, so when you post those updated pictures, and the interactions flood in, you aren't too out of your element. SUMMARY: LOOK GOOD IN AN EASILY MAINTAINED WAY - hygienic, well-dressed, good haircut etc. It does help with dating a lot. But being an impossible to maintain transformation will never last and whatever relationship you gained because of your transformation also won't last. I don't start off relationships with strong feminist conversations, I like to slowly introduce my beliefs. You don't want to be preachy and annoying, but don't go too much against your beliefs. You'll hate being stuck with a woman who is your ideological opposite, so if you're looking for more than sex, I'll so be true to yourself, but don't bulldoze her down in conversations if she says something un-feminist, everyone has space to learn. I personally cannot date a someone heavily into trans identity, I have tried that, and I just grew to hate that person, because they would constantly try defend TIMS against any criticism, kept implying I was a trans man, and they just talked about nothing but childish things and gender. It was so cringe, I had to get out of there. Don't do that to yourself. But there is nothing wrong with not bringing up the scum manifesto to your date. Just talking about other things you might have in common before you delve too deep into specifics - books, movies, hobbies, sports. I put feminist in my bio, because I think if that dissuades any woman, she isn't my type at all. I also put "interested in sexual relationships with adult women" for the same reason. But I don't put "radical feminist aligned" because radical feminism has been given such bad press, that despite a woman agreeing with everyone of my beliefs, she might have preconceived notions implanted by anti-feminists and trans activists. Separatism is niche, not well known, so a potential woman might google it, and find some dumb article by an anti-feminist and think you're some weirdo extremist or something. Even if every time I have explained separatism to a woman, she has agreed sounds incredible. Slowly share more and more of yourself with people, don't excitedly dump all at once. It's just rude otherwise. SUMMARY: Don't try to ideologically trample normal women, but don't date your ideological opposite, people are more accepting of your beliefs after they have known you for a while.

[miriossunshine]

good day to you! I was wondering if I could get a regular romantic matchup for any characters :D I use she/they pronouns and is bi and ace and my height is 5'3. I also wear more masc looking clothes compared to fem ones and I'm an infp who's love language is quality time and acts of service.

hobbies include playing games (rhythm, rpg, horror, visual novel and chill games like animal crossing, sims and mc), I sing sometimes and I don't really have a fixed genre to listen to, I draw as well when I'm bored.

I'm pretty quiet to people I don't know and loud to friends, I get excited over the things I enjoy so I usually go on and on about it and would sometimes feel like that's annoying so I try to minimize it. I'm scared of talking to new people, but I like going places with a lot of people. It's hard to anger me but if you manage to push some buttons I might not want to even interact with you anymore. I also get salty on a lot of things and sometimes start arguments (but that was more on the past, I rarely do it now unless someone starts the fight)

I have some attachment issues due to my family so that's there too-

some things I like are well, games and anime and also kpop. I like cooking too, but I don't really count my interest in it as a hobby. Other than that, I'm currently interested in law, psychology and journalism!

I think that's all, thank you for answering! :]

hi there, doll!! tysm for requesting a matchup! i hope you enjoy!!! <333

i ship you with:

𝐧𝐞𝐣𝐢𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐝𝐨!

i think you guys would be adorable together!!! nejire is a very curious person who loves to learn, so she gets super enthusiastic about your interests! when you talk about them and suddenly stop because you’re worried you’re annoying her, nejire pouts and reassures you that she’s genuinely interested, she’s as excited to listen as you are to talk! \(//∇//)\

of course you do the same for her! she randomly blurts out fun facts and will go on and on about a subject she finds interesting. nejire is grateful that you’re similar to her! (*´ω｀*)

when you play video games together she may get frightened at some parts, but she’s mostly intrigued by the graphics and how the game works!! nejire also loves watching you play rpgs with deep storylines, as they peak her curiosity!!

omg imagine nejire stealing one of your t shirts/flannels/hoodies and styling it with one of her cutesy dresses!!! 😭😭😭💗💗💕

nejire is aware that speaking to new people can be scary to you, so she takes the reigns in social situations without a problem!! she’s happy that you enjoy being around people, so you guys hang with tamaki and mirio a lot together!! ( ^ω^ )

i can see u guys learning kpop dances together omg 😭😭😭 whenever your favorite songs come on on the radio you guys go HAM and belt out all the words together bdbfndndn (〃ω〃)

she’s very affectionate and loving, she’s almost always doting on you, complimenting you, or showing you some sort of affection! when she learns of your abandonment problems she becomes almost childishly sad about it, and this is one of the few times she doesn’t pester you with a bunch of questions regarding your situation. if you decide to delve into your family situation, nejire is a great listener and promises you that she’ll always be there for you and love you no matter what, and never abandon you. T^T💕

[princesscas]

How are u getting through the hell that is this pandemic cause I'm 95% ready to give up... mentally. I can't find a reason to do anything meaningful. All I want is to spend my days watching mindless things cause I can't see an end to this in sight this year. I know it just started but It's already making me so depressed. I was keeping it together for awhile but now? I don't know. It's getting so hard

Aww I just wanna give you a big hug anon :( If if makes you feel any better, I had similar thoughts about a week ago. Like yourself, I too was ‘keeping it together’ since the pandemic began. It just sort of, hit me all at once? I managed to shake it off a bit, but it’s still in the back of my mind. 

Ahhh well, I hear so much from my family about how they’re going vacationing, having weddings, dumb stuff you should not do during these times. Meanwhile, I’m just: 

I get mind-numbing- inventory/organization management @ fancy-ish thrift shop- crap done (that makes it sound more involved than it really is pfft. tl;dr: open boxes -> sort -> label/price -> repeat. my life is very boring rn, though I blame covid a bit lol) then come home, and well, stay there. I miss going out all the time like normal, I go thrifting or maybe pop in a random store here and there once a week and that’s it. 

What do I do to fulfil the rest of my time and stop going insane? Hobbies. I know you said that you can’t find a reason, but maybe if you tried something new, it would help a bit. Because that’s exactly what I did. The first half of 2020, I delved into reading Steve/Bucky fic, then by July, I started writing some fics of my own. Flash forward to now, I consider writing one of my main hobbies. 

Basically, it’s a distraction. A good creative distraction. It works for me, but I might not work for you or others. Just a suggestion! :3 

As for when this will all come to a screeching end? God, I...I don’t even. I don’t look at news articles “predicting” when life will return to “normal” anymore. I just can’t do it anyone. Honestly, you can’t exactly pinpoint date like “ah yes, by [random month] on [random date] we will surely be having large gatherings again!” because well, we don’t know. 

Don’t do like I did and browse the introverts subreddit because there’s a ton of people who are like “I’d do another year of lockdown, this is great!!!” I consider myself introverted but not THAT introverted- holy shit. Hell, I might end up being a little extroverted in the end after all of this. Do you blame me? Lol. 

Another suggestion to cope: Music. I’ve gotten to the point where a day doesn’t go by without listening to at least two hours worth of lyric-based music. Discover some new artists, some old ones, artists you used to listen to and the ones you totally forgot about. I discovered Deftones a few months ago and their music is *poetic cinema* 

I’m sending you all my love, we’ll get through this (oof that reminds me of that cringy  ‘we’re in this together!’ video), I’m sure of it <3 Feel free to stop by anything if you need to ;3 

[plutinya]

okay ! time for !!

funny joke ,,

anyways ,,, hello !! 11/4/20 - I'm Alicia and I'm 18 from South East England :))) i look rlly vain but its kinda a thing I've grown habit to do to take lots of selfies because overtime fake confidence will help build real confidence ,, anyway that's how it works for me ajdjsjksks

sexuality b really weird n that bc ive been fairly certain my whole life I was gay or whatever and then like I met my bf and??? wacky. anyways its a big jump but I'm like sure I'm straight and I thought I was gay bc uh reasons I won't delve into BC personal funky stuff but girls r still pretty rad y'all funky

Moving on ! Yes my bf,, I love him so much ahhh. he lives on the other side of England which is Really Sad but !! Nonetheless , I'm madly in love with he. I could go on and on about him but this post will around be super long so asldlslsls

Yes ! So I'm 18 , from England, studying Fashion at college for the past two years but with lockdown and stuff I don't think I'll be finishing this year at college normally which kinda sucks but I think I'll only miss the college food and my lunchtime naps.. In September ! I'm starting uni and I'm doing a course in comic art,,, so excited, its something I've wanted to do my WHOLE life and I'm so excited to be able to finally have control of what I wanna do ahhhhh. I also will be moving to like the Midlands rather than Kent and I'll be somewhat closer to my bf so hehehe

This account is pretty ????? Just my brain with no filter I think. I have other accounts like

@cinnapmoroll my cinna blog and aesthetics owo , @zekeysir my snk blog !! , @beigealicia my cottagecore n cozy n slight writeblr :)))

Um so I have a lot of things I'm vvvvv into,, ima list some of my main things that make me literally buzz and like if mentioned I will get too excited and like go off.

- Sanrio ( specifically cinna ) , Pokémon ( HUGE comfort ) , Winnie the Pooh , Yugioh ( DM ) , Fire Emblem , Clannad ,,, these are just to name a few,,,

What type of music do I listen to ? I love a lot of bedroom music , indie artists , taeyeon , lofi ,video game soundtracks, future bass,jpop,classical and like throwback emo tunes. My fave artists as of rn are the 1975 , harry styles , wallows , Finneas, tøp , marc indigo , the honeysticks , cy8er, moe shop , inlvwithaghost ,surfaces , khai dreams and atwood :)))

I do enjoy cosplaying ! But more as a fun hobby for myself rather than posting it all online :))I would really love to Cosplay Hilda from fire emblem? I think I'm veryyyy similar to her.

yeah I'm defo a Hilda kinnie , I love her ! :)))

for my future I would really lov to just be doing something with my art ,, Idk ,,, comics maybe or childrens books. I'm working on it !!! I don't think there's much to say about me more before I start looking too self absorbed ( more than I am ) so thank u for reading !! I love making friends so hmu although I'm so bad at replying on tumblr so u can always hmu on instagram @ Plutinya or snapchat @ rikokagamine (dontjudge oc from like my baby years ) or discord @ cinnababy alicia#4404 xoxo

Song Recommendations :))

[ineedrelationshipadvice]

Don't get me wrong, I love the fuck out of my beautiful girlfriend, but something she said bothers me. We were talking about stuff and she mentioned not really needing to shave for me since we've been together so long and something along the lines of not needing to impress anymore since she's gotten what she wants... I feel like I should always do what I can to impress her and such. This just kind of bothered me and I need advice. I don't know if I'm in the wrong or not... This just bothered me.

Well, firstly, nobody is under any obligation to impress their partner. The only reason we do this sort of thing in the first place is because of the nature of dating culture in our modern age. With things the way they are, when you're trying to woo a partner, you have to work real hard to look and act presentable. You define what they presentable demeanor is for yourself. But either way, once you define what that expectation should be in your mind, you work toward that. If that means shaving, then you do it for them. If it means growing out a beard because you know they like beards, you do it. If it means dressing a certain way, enjoying a certain thing, having certain hobbies, engaging in certain activities... it doesn't matter. We do those things to get the other person's attention, not out of duty or requirement.

When she says she doesn't feel a need to try to impress you, she is just being honest. She already got the prize she wanted, which is you. She put in the hard work, it paid off, and in her opinion - since she knows you care about her - she doesn't feel a particular need to go out of her way to please you with activities or presentations that she doesn't, in one way or another, enjoys. In the same way, these obligations you feel to impress her are inherently unnecessary, because you already have her. If you don't enjoy these things, then you're under no requirement to continue maintaining them, because your goal has been achieved.

Now of course, there are boundaries on this kind of thinking. Although you're not obliged by any means to do these things, it's certainly NICE when you do these things. A previous girlfriend I had was REALLY interested in make-up; I don't give a shit about make-up. But because she cared, I went out of my way to learn about it, so I could have conversations with her about it. After we were together, I could've just not cared. But she enjoyed those conversations, so I continued to maintain them, because it made her happy. Alternatively, my current partner likes guys with long hair. I don't like shaggy hair - I prefer short hair, because it's easier to clean. When I was trying to get my partner's attention, I let my hair grow out, so she'd appreciate me more. Now that we're together, I know my hair isn't that big of a deal; she's appreciate me growing out my hair, but I also know there's no negative ramification for cutting my hair. So I cut my hair whenever it's time to be cut, on my terms. I don't feel the need to impress her with my hair, because she's already impressed by the ways I treat her.

The point being, she is neither right nor wrong in this situation, and neither are you. If she doesn't want to maintain her shaving habits for your benefit, then she doesn't have to. And that may disappoint you, but that's life. Simultaneously, you're under no obligation to keep impressing her with whatever it is you do that impresses her. But if you get enjoyment out of her impressed reactions to you, then that should be reward enough.

Is there anything you can do about this sort of situation? The most you can do is express your discontent with a problem. For instance, let's say you like your girl to have shaved legs. If you don't like your girlfriend to have hairy legs, all you have to do is say, "Hey, I like it when my girlfriend shaves. You don't have to, but it would make my day to see you looking pretty for me."

Now this situation is delving very quickly into potentially sexist topics given the subject matter, but I think because of that reality, it's important to note exactly how that sentence is worded, because the exact wording is important. You're not saying, "MY GIRLFRIEND MUST HAVE SHAVED LEGS. DO IT FOR ME." That would be demeaning, and beginning to verge into the territory of controlling. You have to remember that in an egalitarian, equal relationship, your partner can choose. So reread that sentence. First you say your expectation (I like shaved legs). You then immediately express that this is not a demand, but a request (You don't have to do this). Then you say that it would make you happy, and why it would make you happy.

Why is this sentence important said in the way it is? Because it gives HER the choice while also expressing your desire. Let's extrapolate the situation into choice of music instead, so we can get out of the weeds of sexual politics.

"Hey, I don't like to watch the tv show Parks & Recreation. I know that you like it, but if we could spend our time together watching something else, I'd really enjoy it."

Same structured sentence. First you say your expectation (I don't want to watch Parks & Rec). You then immediately express it's not a demand (I know you like it), and then give your reasoning (When we're together, let's watch something else.).

The biggest take-away from having this conversation with her should be, however, that she is NOT obligated to comply with your request. For instance, I like when my girlfriend shaves too. But I know that she thinks it's a pain. But she also wants to impress me SOMETIMES, just not often. So she shaves when she feels like it, but also goes out of her way to shave for me when we are going to go on a date or be sexy together, because she knows I like it. It's a courtesy, rather than a need. All you can do is ask for that similar courtesy from your partner, and HOPE that they respond, because they have no reason to do so. And if them not doing that thing you want them to do upsets you, then maybe you should reconsider whether you are dating the right person, or whether you might be happier with someone who more accurately aligns with your needs and expectations of other people.

[askemilydeanyo]

I don't get turned on anymore. I haven't in a few months. I am 21 female, I do smoke alot of pot which I heard doesn't help. I can't figure out why Im like this? Is it possible my past relations made me this way? My last significant other was like this they were not really into sex and they didn't make me feel very wanted in that aspect.

Hi! Thanks for your question. There are certainly a handful of things that could be causing this.

To start, yes, smoking pot doesn’t always help. Like any one (or combination of) drug(s) affects people differently, marijuana is no exception. For the bulk majority of my pot-smoking career I would experience intense euphoria after smoking and my sex drive would spike drastically. I loved having sex with myself and with partners and was so fully engaged and intertwined in the experience that I considered this to be some of the most sensual sex I ever had in my life. After going some time without smoking and then picking it back up again, I found that smoking caused my sex drive to dramatically decrease. I was no longer sexually interested in my partner while high, less interested in my partner while sober, and found that when I was high I became incredibly self conscious. It was an extreme contrast from the experiences I had in the past, which left me feeling pretty jolted for a while. Crazy how things change, huh.

On the topic of pot, I am curious if there are any other drugs that you are taking. SSRI’s have been proven to drastically effect sex drive, as well as medicine for epilepsy, ADHD, blood pressure, anti-psychotics, pain management, AND birth control. 

So the first thing I want you to consider is if you are taking any of those drugs, and how often. If you are, I would suggest contacting your doctor, setting up an appointment, and addressing your concerns. Most health professionals acknowledge that libido is a vital part of our lives, and will make accommodations accordingly. If they don’t, you might need a new doctor. *

Another thing to consider is what birth control you are or are not on. If you are taking hormonal birth control, like oral contraceptives or a hormonal IUD, they can and often do effect your sex drive by lowering your testosterone levels. If you are on a hormonal birth control, go to your doctor or gynecologist and have a discussion about potential other options. I know that the copper IUD and condoms are two solid options! It’s all about finding what works for you.

* If you are in Louisville, Kentucky, message me again and I can connect you with my lady doctors. They are seriously a dream team and are some of the most helpful and understanding women I have ever encountered in my life.

Something I also seriously consider would be doing a full blood scan. These can typically be done through your primary doctor or gynecologist office. For perspective: I was on one birth control for 7 years that I felt worked just fine with my body. Suddenly, my prescription changed to a generic brand and my body reacted terribly. I became depressed, my skin, body changed, and sex drive changed (negatively) amongst many other things. It was so bad that I actually thought I had developed bi-polar disorder. When I mentioned this to my doctor she suggested that we look at my blood levels. These tests revealed a huge spike in my estrogen that was caused by my ‘new’ birth control. Needless to say, after switching methods I successfully confirmed that I am indeed not bi-polar, and realized the huge role that synthetic hormones have on my body.

Doing a blood-screen will also give you good insight into your overall health, which plays a massive role in your sex drive - which leads me to my next point, being your diet and activity level. Do you have a balanced diet? How often are you exercising? What are your hobbies? I could go on and on, but what I’m getting at is how generally healthy are you? If you find that you spend a lot of time sedentary, or eating high-fat, high-sugar, high-carb food, this could play a huge role in the decline in your libido. 

To address your last concern, totally, it is definitely possible that your past relationships have affected the way you view sexuality. When humans spend large amounts of time with people it’s easy to become accustomed to their ways. We start to use the same lingo, share the same beliefs, shop at the same places - the list goes on. If you are in a romantic relationship with someone who didn’t openly or frequently express their sexual desires to you, it makes sense that this is what you became accustomed to. However, that being said, it should not have a substantial overall effect on your sex drive as a whole. What about solo sex?

Are you masturbating? If so how frequently or infrequently? Do you ever look at other people and become sexually aroused? Do you have sexual fantasies? Did you used to have a more vibrant sexual past and it just recently became dull within the past few months, or did you feel a gradual decline for a while? There are a lot of things to consider, and it is important to assess whether you are not feeling turned on towards others or turned on in general. How much sexual attention are you giving to your own body?

Additionally, there are plenty of life factors that come into play. You mentioned that you smoke weed. You mentioned that your last relationship wasn’t exceptionally sexual. Have you recently started a new job? Are you overwhelmed with school? Did you recently move? Are you having a tough time in a friendship? Are you happy with the way you look? Are you living in a new environment? Sometimes these things take the forefront of our attention and sex becomes less important. This is just part of the ebb and flow of life. Sure, in a dream world we are all balancing school and work and a social life and our sexuality equally and proficiently, but that just can’t always be the case, so the less important things take the back seat. Consider what other external factors might be occurring here and you will probably gain a bit of insight.

So here is your homework in a nutshell: Figure out if any potential medicine you are taking is effecting you. Consider testing your blood levels. Incorporate more activity into your daily life as well as nutrient-dense meals. Make sure you are sleeping enough. Make sure you are practicing self love so that you feel sexually attractive to yourself, as well as potential partners. Explore fantasies that you have perhaps left in the background of your brain and see if these elicit exciting sexual feelings. Watch some porn if you watch porn. Read some books on sex if you like to read. Talk to friends, see if they have been in a similar funk. Google some stuff. Read some forums. Consider seeing a sex therapist if these feelings don’t subside. Try to set aside time to masturbate, even if you aren’t necessarily in the mood. Try to reconnect with your body in a way that you might have in the past. But most importantly, delve into all the facets in your life and see if there is any one thing you can pinpoint, and if you find it, tweak it. You know what’s going on inside of you better than anyone else.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to have a high sex drive for the time being. Some people just don’t - and if you don’t now, that’s not to say you won’t for long. Like I said, it ebbs and flows. I am a self-identified sex freak and there are times where I go weeks, even months without having sex. It always comes back. Tap into yourself and find what works for your body, your mentality, and your emotional-mental-sexual self. You’ll find the answer there.

Xx