#Non-rebloggable post because that just feels the most appropriate.

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My heart goes out to Sy's partners and family after his passing. My deepest condolences to those who knew him personally or who were otherwise touched by his work and are currently grieving this loss. May his memory live on and inspire many.

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Ace Discourse Masterpost (Rebloggable Cut Version)

Here is a master list of arguments in the ace discourse over the years against the notion that cishet ace/aro people are members of the LGBT community, because they are cis and straight. Furthermore why calling asexuality an oppression (while not denying the existence of prejudice against asexual people and the need for their own community) leads to very homophobic and transphobic understanding of what it means to be LGBT. I have been involved in “the discourse” for over five years, making arguments of my own and promoting others on this blog. But now it is time for me to move on and leave this masterpost as the culmination of this blog’s purpose.

Some of these posts are mine but for the most part this is the product of a lot of other people’s work: their words, their thoughts, their experiences and their research all compiled into one place to help people understand the ace discourse and to track its record of ahistory and blatant homophobia and transphobia. I have made sure to use links on my blog so they don’t get lost in any name changes or deletion, but I do not take any credit for their posts and content. So thank you to everyone who contributed to the discourse, and ultimately this post. I hope this will be great resource for discoursers young and old and help people form their own arguments and to help young LGBT people from falling into the trap of denying their sexuality because of the homophobic and transphobic rhetoric of the Ace Community.

So without further ado, The Ace Discourse Masterpost:

Why Asexuality is Not Oppressed

A comparison of asexuality to racism and why it does not meet the definition of systemic oppression

A Debunking of the study often cited as proof of Asexual Oppression and Acephobia

Another response to the oft cited study.

And denying oppression is not proof it exists

Oppression is systematic, not individual

Asexuality does not need to be oppressed to still be valid

Gatekeeping

The LGBT community was created to combat transphobia and homophobia

Gatekeeping doesn’t mean what you think it does

“The LGBT Community is meant to be inclusive!!”

Safe Spaces are meant to be exclusive

And thus excluding cishet aces protects LGBT people

On Oppression Olympics

If not LGBT, where do asexual people belong?

On the assumption that some LGBT people live happy homophobia free lives and should be called “not queer enough” too.

The emergence of REG, “ Reactionary Exclusionist Gatekeepers”

REG is just another version of using “it’s the same as ___” to gain legitimacy

The Queer Identity

The history of “queer” as a slur and why its not an umbrella term

Insisting “queer” is an umbrella term for abnormal/deviant people is classic homophobia

Queer is also often used to intentionally erase an individuals distinct identity and relation to oppression

Queer can never fully be reclaimed

On queer theory and the true history of the term

A is for Asexual

How AVEN started the A for Asexual, fully aware that it was also being used for allies. (Arguing the origin of A as Ally is pointless now, this post explains it all from the horse’s mouth)

Why trying to use MOGAI instead does not work.

Ableism and The DSM

A thorough argument on why hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) in the DSM is not proof of oppression against asexuals, and is in fact a homophobic and ableist claim.

More on HSDD and the absurdity of claiming it targets asexual people

More on the history of the slur homosexuality and how it was used to medically torture gay people.

Autistic people are often assumed to be asexual (And are not meant to be ace representation)

A Complete Guide to How the Ace Community has lied about the Pathologization of Asexuality and Fearmongered Young Aces into thinking Anti-Ace Conversion Therapy is a Thing

Split Attraction Model (Asexuality is not Straight!)

Why the split attraction model is bad and people hate it.

It makes gross assumptions about non-asexual people who do not use the model, and conflates sexual attraction with sexual orientation

Sectioning personal thoughts on sex and using mogai labels are ultimately useless

The -sexual prefix has always meant gender not sex

Attraction cannot be so evenly split into Romantic or Sexual

“You must be cisgender, heteroromantic, and heterosexual to be Straight!”

Also “Homoromantic” is a terrible word

The History of the word Straight

Allosexual & Allosexual Privilege

Why Allosexual is a terrible term

The word makes sweeping assumptions about someone’s private sexual feelings for vast number of people. (tl;dr version)

The person who coined the term now opposes it’s use.

There is no such thing as sexual privilege.

SGA people have a relationship to sex based on our oppression that straight asexual people cannot understand or experience

The failure of liberal analysis of power structures

Refuting the idea that LGBT people don’t face homophobia or transphobia even in more liberal places.

A cringe-worthy comic that assumes “allosexual” people easily know their sexual orientation because sex

Can you all just stop with this shit, really?

Monosexism, allosexuality’s evil cousin, has many of the same issues.

TL;DR Another brief argument against Allosexual

Corrective Rape

The term “corrective rape” has been appropriated from a very specific homophobic hate crime in South Africa to mean any kind of rape that punishes the victim.

The UN updated it’s terminology guidelines to refer to it as homophobic rape to “note the deep-seated homophobia that motivates the hate crime”

Often used as a gotcha argument than concern for rape victims.

Supporting Rape Culture and Pedophilia

Discourse about ace people having sex is often thinly veiled rape culture

Claiming rape is worse for asexual people again, and again, and again, and again, and again

Is the discourse becoming too “inclusive” of pedophiles?

The troubling trend of protecting pedophiles and calling out victims

On Sex In General

How capitalism affects our perceptions of sexual culture

Asexuality is about sex in a way being Gay/Bi is not (And how it relates to explaining sex and sexuality to children)

Aces need to talk about sex too!

Erasure and Visibility

Visibility directly contributes to the violence LGBT people face

Visibility is not always positive and is often stereotyped and not good for LGBT people

Accepted versus Respected

“At least you have representation!”

A History of Ahistory

Arguments that the Spinster Movement was about asexuality cherry picks history

Another post about the Spinster Movement

Assuming Boston Marriages were about asexuality

Asexuality is based on western/eurocentric ideas of sexuality

New terminology lacks historical context of “homosexual”

And is often appropriating language from LGBT people

Even recent history gets rewritten

The Ace Community really needs to just stop.

Pushing LGBT People Back into the Closet

Homophobia wants gay people to be asexual

Ace discourse has promoted sexually regressive and classic homophobic ideas about sex that has prevented LGB people from fully admitting to themselves their same-gender attraction. (Proof)

Ace discourse against same-gender PDA in LGBT safe spaces is classic homophobia

As well as dangerous to our sexual safety!

PDA is not applied to straight and gay people equally

AIDS/HIV and Serophobia in the Ace Community

“We’re Here, We’re Queer” - was created in response to the AIDS Crisis   (Source)

Joking about the crisis to complain about gatekeeping

Resenting AIDS activism so much as to imply no young gay man today could possibly be affected by the AIDS crisis

Assuming no one alive during the crisis is speaking now about seraphobia (The AIDS Crisis is Not Over!)

Imagining sexually transmitted plagues that won’t affect asexuals

“Ok but that was like 40 years ago and homosexuality is now widely accepted”

Homophobia in the Ace Community

Will comment on topics of violent homophobia with “at least they know you exist” so they can kill us

Ace tumblr or conservative republican?

Claiming people who hate aces are “Sexually Deviant”

Masterpost of some really terrible homophobic shit

“Gay people are obsessed with sex!” Edition of Ace Homophobia

This entire tag of fucked up shit ace people have said

Please feel free to reblog and add any arguments I may have missed.

(Uncut Version)

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Ace Discourse Masterpost

Here is a master list of arguments in the ace discourse over the years against the notion that cishet ace/aro people are members of the LGBT community, because they are cis and straight. Furthermore why calling asexuality an oppression (while not denying the existence of prejudice against asexual people and the need for their own community) leads to very homophobic and transphobic understanding of what it means to be LGBT. I have been involved in “the discourse” for over five years, making arguments of my own and promoting others on this blog. But now it is time for me to move on and leave this masterpost as the culmination of this blog’s purpose.

Some of these posts are mine but for the most part this is the product of a lot of other people’s work: their words, their thoughts, their experiences and their research all compiled into one place to help people understand the ace discourse and to track its record of ahistory and blatant homophobia and transphobia. I have made sure to use links on my blog so they don’t get lost in any name changes or deletion, but I do not take any credit for their posts and content. So thank you to everyone who contributed to the discourse, and ultimately this post. I hope this will be great resource for discoursers young and old and help people form their own arguments and to help young LGBT people from falling into the trap of denying their sexuality because of the homophobic and transphobic rhetoric of the Ace Community. 

So without further ado, The Ace Discourse Masterpost:

Why Asexuality is Not Oppressed

A comparison of asexuality to racism and why it does not meet the definition of systemic oppression

A Debunking of the study often cited as proof of Asexual Oppression and Acephobia 

Another response to the oft cited study.

And denying oppression is not proof it exists

Oppression is systematic, not individual

Asexuality does not need to be oppressed to still be valid

Gatekeeping 

The LGBT community was created to combat transphobia and homophobia

Gatekeeping doesn’t mean what you think it does

“The LGBT Community is meant to be inclusive!!”

Safe Spaces are meant to be exclusive

And thus excluding cishet aces protects LGBT people

On Oppression Olympics

If not LGBT, where do asexual people belong?

On the assumption that some LGBT people live happy homophobia free lives and should be called “not queer enough” too.

The emergence of REG, “ Reactionary Exclusionist Gatekeepers”

REG is just another version of using “it’s the same as ___” to gain legitimacy

The Queer Identity

The history of “queer” as a slur and why its not an umbrella term

Insisting “queer” is an umbrella term for abnormal/deviant people is classic homophobia

Queer is also often used to intentionally erase an individuals distinct identity and relation to oppression

Queer can never fully be reclaimed

On queer theory and the true history of the term

A is for Asexual

How AVEN started the A for Asexual, fully aware that it was also being used for allies.  (Arguing the origin of A as Ally is pointless now, this post explains it all from the horse’s mouth)

Why trying to use MOGAI instead does not work.

Ableism and The DSM

A thorough argument on why hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) in the DSM is not proof of oppression against asexuals, and is in fact a homophobic and ableist claim. 

More on HSDD and the absurdity of claiming it targets asexual people

More on the history of the slur homosexuality and how it was used to medically torture gay people.

Autistic people are often assumed to be asexual (And are not meant to be ace representation)

A Complete Guide to How the Ace Community has lied about the Pathologization of Asexuality and Fearmongered Young Aces into thinking Anti-Ace Conversion Therapy is a Thing

Split Attraction Model (Asexuality is not Straight!)

Why the split attraction model is bad and people hate it.

It makes gross assumptions about non-asexual people who do not use the model, and conflates sexual attraction with sexual orientation

Sectioning personal thoughts on sex and using mogai labels are ultimately useless

The -sexual prefix has always meant gender not sex

Attraction cannot be so evenly split into Romantic or Sexual

“You must be cisgender, heteroromantic, and heterosexual to be Straight!”

Also “Homoromantic” is a terrible word

The History of the word Straight

Allosexual & Allosexual Privilege

Why Allosexual is a terrible term

The word makes sweeping assumptions about someone’s private sexual feelings for vast number of people. (tl;dr version)

The person who coined the term now opposes it’s use.

There is no such thing as sexual privilege. 

SGA people have a relationship to sex based on our oppression that straight asexual people cannot understand or experience

The failure of liberal analysis of power structures 

Refuting the idea that LGBT people don’t face homophobia or transphobia even in more liberal places.

A cringe-worthy comic that assumes “allosexual” people easily know their sexual orientation because sex 

Can you all just stop with this shit, really?

Monosexism, allosexuality’s evil cousin, has many of the same issues.

TL;DR Another brief argument against Allosexual

Corrective Rape

The term “corrective rape” has been appropriated from a very specific homophobic hate crime in South Africa to mean any kind of rape that punishes the victim.

The UN updated it’s terminology guidelines to refer to it as homophobic rape to “note the deep-seated homophobia that motivates the hate crime”

Often used as a gotcha argument than concern for rape victims.

Supporting Rape Culture and Pedophilia

Discourse about ace people having sex is often thinly veiled rape culture

Claiming rape is worse for asexual people again, and again, and again, and again, and again

Is the discourse becoming too “inclusive” of pedophiles?

The troubling trend of protecting pedophiles and calling out victims

On Sex In General 

How capitalism affects our perceptions of sexual culture

Asexuality is about sex in a way being Gay/Bi is not (And how it relates to explaining sex and sexuality to children)

Aces need to talk about sex too!

Erasure and Visibility

Visibility directly contributes to the violence LGBT people face

Visibility is not always positive and is often stereotyped and not good for LGBT people

Accepted versus Respected

“At least you have representation!”

A History of Ahistory

Arguments that the Spinster Movement was about asexuality cherry picks history 

Another post about the Spinster Movement

Assuming Boston Marriages were about asexuality

Asexuality is based on western/eurocentric ideas of sexuality

New terminology lacks historical context of “homosexual” 

And is often appropriating language from LGBT people

Even recent history gets rewritten 

The Ace Community really needs to just stop.

Pushing LGBT People Back into the Closet

Homophobia wants gay people to be asexual

Ace discourse has promoted sexually regressive and classic homophobic ideas about sex that has prevented LGB people from fully admitting to themselves their same-gender attraction. (Proof)

Ace discourse against same-gender PDA in LGBT safe spaces is classic homophobia

As well as dangerous to our sexual safety!

PDA is not applied to straight and gay people equally 

AIDS/HIV and Serophobia in the Ace Community

“We’re Here, We’re Queer” - was created in response to the AIDS Crisis   (Source)

Joking about the crisis to complain about gatekeeping

Resenting AIDS activism so much as to imply no young gay man today could possibly be affected by the AIDS crisis

Assuming no one alive during the crisis is speaking now about seraphobia (The AIDS Crisis is Not Over!)

Imagining sexually transmitted plagues that won’t affect asexuals

“Ok but that was like 40 years ago and homosexuality is now widely accepted”

Homophobia in the Ace Community 

Will comment on topics of violent homophobia with “at least they know you exist” so they can kill us

Ace tumblr or conservative republican?

Claiming people who hate aces are “Sexually Deviant”

Masterpost of some really terrible homophobic shit

“Gay people are obsessed with sex!” Edition of Ace Homophobia

This entire tag of fucked up shit ace people have said

Please feel free to reblog and add any arguments I may have missed. 

Click here for a more rebloggable version with a readmore cut.