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owlmylove · 3 years

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I love your fashion sense and obviously it's not something you deal with yourself but I was wondering what you would suggest for someone who is pretty fat to kind of clean up their look because I mostly wear like graphic tees and like my nicest trousers are a pair of plain boot cut jeans lmao

Thank you so much for your kind words darling!! But, before you get too entrenched in the quicksand of comparison, I actually have dealt with that precise scenario. Multiple times to be honest, and while I’m fortunate enough to be able to find fitted clothes more easily than a few of my friends, I’m still bigger than most of them and have always been very aware of that growing up. There have been periods of my life (including right now tbh, #quar) where the function and comfort of my clothes has become overshadowed by the frustration and low-level embarrassment they inspire

That doesn’t mean the clothing is bad, or I was silly to wear it previously. It just means I’m changing, and so are my tastes. You can love your graphic tees and still want to try fancier pants on for size, and that’s all okay! Don’t let hyper-consumptive disposable culture try to guilt you into despising anything you may have once enjoyed, or been comforted by. Like foods, there’s no such thing as good or bad clothing. It’s just finding the clothes that fill your current needs and make you feel as good as you deserve.

BUT you came for fashion advice and fashion advice you shall HAVE babe. for cinematic purposes, please picture the following advice as a voiceover to our dressing room montage scene as i throw hangers over the door & applaud every time you do a lil catwalk spin

1. Fuck trends. They’re bullshit!! Unless you sincerely like the look of something and feel good in it, don’t fall into the trap of needing to wear the newest spring/summer anything. There’s nothing wrong with trying out a new style, but always remember the clothes’ job is to fit you; you don’t need to fit the clothes. If something doesn’t feel comfortable, or flattering, or right, that’s a failing on behalf of the clothing (and, most often, the designers’ limited understanding of the human body) and never on you.

2. Try stuff! I highly recommend trying on absolutely anything you have the faintest interest in*, trends included. Also: things you never in a million years would’ve tried on, but a friend/partner/random telepath recommended for you. It can be frustrating when things don’t work out, but that just teaches you something about what does and doesn’t work for you. Don’t think of your fashion sense as a pass/fail test, but a language you’re gaining fluency in. Learning what doesn’t work for your body can be as helpful as what does.

*Sidenote: This can be tricky in quarantine, but try online stores with free shipping/returns, and/or local stores that you can breeze through for returns. At-home try-ons also allows you to compare what you already have & see how new pieces could be incorporated into your wardrobe.

3. Learn your type. I hate categories of any kind but fuck me, my body type actually does serve as a helpful guideline for what does and doesn’t work on me. For instance: I’ve been wearing exclusively high waistbands for the last, oh, 6 years, bc I wanted to contain my lovely soft stomach and delineate my waist. But this actually just cuts me in half like a magician’s assistant, and I counterintuitively look better in one-piece swimsuits and un-tucked (but fitted!!) shirts. Hence: learn your body type, research what works for your body type, and try some of what they recommend.

3.1. Break the rules. Anarchism baby!!! Everyone knows that learning the rules is the first step to breaking them. Research what science says is supposed to look good, but also trust your intuition on what you feel good in. Datasets can’t allow for individual tastes, and that’s where real fashion comes from (rather than just algorithmic minimalist capsule wardrobes)

4. Look for patterns. Obviiiiiiiously not just in prints (though I’m weak for stripes and polka dots, everyone around me is well aware) but in the cut, drape, and construction of what you love. Breaking down the elements of what brings you joy helps you recognize more of it out in the wild. But think about function too! What do you like and dislike about the fit of your shirts? Do you like the flair of boot cut jeans? Hate their length? Which elements of construction would you like to avoid in the future, and which would you like to see more of?

5. Find inspiration. If you don’t already have a sense of what you do and don’t want to add to your wardrobe, try giving Pinterest and/or moodboards a whirl. Look to people whose style you admire (and try Instagram [but avoid the identical influencer mill], Pinterest, cool Etsy boutique owners, etc). Compare their builds as an artist might, focusing not on comparative aesthetics but form. Do they use certain waistlines that would complement yours? What about colors? Finding someone with your exact body type & coloring can be extremely difficult depending your race and size, but you may be able to find influences who can guid you in one regard but not the other. Let them help you learn what you love without limiting you to just one style.

6. Go (bargain) hunting. I maintain some things are worth spending money on — facial moisturizer, a tailored white button down, and well-fitted pants to be precise — but I almost exclusively shop clearance racks. If you’re still in the process of figuring out what you do and don’t like, there is something to be said for starting with inexpensive brands as training wheels. Discount stores like Marshalls can yield a lot of good stuff, while Etsy, resale platforms, and thrift stores can do the same for relatively low prices (and yield some p. unique pieces.) Once you know the silhouette, colors, and cuts you enjoy, that’s when I recommend investing in a $100 pair of jeans that you know will serve you for years.

Finally: Once you have a collection of things you love, experiment with them! Try them on in different combinations, add a hat, try different earrings, etc. etc. As you settle into your new wardrobe, new outfit formulas will emerge that you know you can rely on in the rushing, early mornings without feeling stressed by the question “what do I wear???” (honestly, the biggest unsung benefit of a good wardrobe is just the decrease in anxiety)

Also: I recommend looking for pieces you love first and foremost, rather than entering the fray with a shopping list of “gray blazer, navy blazer, white shirt, black shirt,” etc. Not to say I don’t own each of those basics (which are good to have!) but those kinds of Pinterest minimalist capsules work best for instant-professionalism sans personality. If that’s you need, go for it! But if you’re excited to develop your sense of style, give yourself the time and space to discover what brings you joy. Learning your tastes should be an ongoing experiment throughout life. Don’t let previous ensembles dictate future purchases (unless they’re inspiring them!!)

And, for what it’s worth, I actually still have a bunch of the graphic tees I was once so embarrassed of wearing when I was younger. And for what? They were comfortable, convenient, and expressed what I was passionate about at the time. The ones I really loved, even if I no longer fit into, still make me so happy as records of the person I was. I think taste and selves grows outward, like the rings of a tree, and there’s nothing wrong with remembering your roots c:

Excessive tree pun alert, and sorry for being sappy, but I hope this rambling love letter to style could help! I’m sending you all the fairy godmother energy I am capable of from afar darling<333

#fashion #style #Anonymous

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meditativeyoga · 4 years

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YJ Tried It: 30 Days of Guided Sleep Meditation

Meditation is non-negotiable when it concerns my daily routine.

Most of the moment, my meditation method contains dragging my Sugarmat reflection cushion out from under my living area couch right into the little location of floor room I have in my little New York City home. From there, I take out my mobile phone, launch the Calmness application, and also listen to the #dailycalm—a 10-minute guided meditation led my Tamara Levitt. While the directed meditation I pay attention to adjustments every day, I can constantly rely on finding out something brand-new and discovering my center in 10 mins flat. On days I have even more time, I go to MNDFL, a meditation studio in Manhattan and Brooklyn, for a longer rest.

I have been making use of the Calm app for greater than a year and have located that holding myself responsible to practicing meditation 10 minutes a day is sensible. Even better, it has had an obvious effect on my life. I’m, well, calmer. I feel more based. I’m much less likely to react to points like an aggressive New Yorker or late metro train.

So, while I’m not someone who battles to drop off to sleep, I do see that also after 7 to 8 hrs of shut-eye, fatigue hits me throughout the day. I’ll be answering e-mails trying to battle the impulse to huddle for a 20-minute power nap. (I function from residence most days, so this is particularly tempting.) Or, I’ll need to flatter a fast hit of energy—pounding a pint of water, or hemming and haw my living room—after a long day of work as well as prior to I teach yoga at night. Could my top quality of slumber be lacking? And could rest meditation help?

To answer these questions, I set a goal to try one month of assisted sleep meditation every night before bed. Disclosure: There were a couple of evenings that I bailed on my going to bed meditations because, well, life. After at least 25 days of rest reflection, I have a lot to state concerning the method.

Sleep Meditation: What’s Taking Place in Tranquility Rest Stories?

I began my month-long sleep meditation experience utilizing the Tranquility application, which has a function called “Sleep Stories.” Essentially, it’s a library loaded with calming bedtime stories for grown-ups, told by the dreamiest of voices (think Matthew McConaughey, Leona Lewis, Stephen Fry, as well as Calm’s very own, Tamara Levitt).

“We integrate mindfulness elements into rest tales in a really calculated means, offering the tales a grounding, soothing top quality, ” says Christian Slomka, Calm's neighborhood supervisor and a yoga and arbitration trainer. “Instead of an elaborate accumulation, Rest Stories are a progressive unwind.”

There are three primary components of Calm’s sleep stories:

1. Find an Anchor Slomka states the rest tales are tailored to helping listeners concentrate their interest on an anchor—usually the breath—to quiet the mind as well as assistance shift the listener away from over active ideas. As the personality in the story follows her journey, she is totally submersed in the present moment. The thinking is that the audience will certainly experience this immersion together with the sleep story’s character.

2. Practice Body Awareness as well as Relaxation Techniques Another mindfulness component that rest stories discuss is body awareness as well as relaxation. When a story opens up, the storyteller strolls the listener with a brief body check exercise to help quiet the mind and relax the body. Throughout the story, the character likewise scans via her sensations, and also the hope is that the listener does the same.

3. Sensory Awareness The way the scenes in each sleep story are defined grows a feeling of sensory awareness. Mindfulness involves perceiving common minutes with interest, a beginner’s mind, and a sense of wonder, states Slomka. One means to experience this is by entering into contact with nature. The concept is to observe the appeal of nature in all its splendid information: the colors of a blossom, the activities of a bird, the sounds of a river, the gives off a forest. This conscientious observation keeps the audience in existing moment awareness.

Week 1 of Rest Meditation: Am I doing this “right”?

Imagine the essential New York City hustle—then, imagine me in it.

I wake up at 5 a.m. on the normal, instruct yoga in the morning, job out, rake with a complete work day, and sometimes even instruct yoga once more during the night. You’d better think that when my head hits the pillow at evening, I’m out like a light. When I began this obstacle, I decided to make an aware effort to not just try to visit bed early, however to really begin relaxing prior to leaping under the covers (a.k.a. not scrolling through Instagram or seeing Netflix before bed). Appears wonderful, right?

The initial week of my rest meditation was extremely frustrating. Possibly it was because I’m impatient and didn’t notification a distinction after a couple of days. Or possibly it’s since this rest reflection obstacle simply seemed like an additional task on my long to-do list at first. Likewise, I would certainly fall asleep within the initial 5 mins of each 25-minute sleep tale, which, recalling, was a great indication. During the initial few days, I was annoyed at my lack of ability to stay awake and listen to even more of the tale.

But around day 5, I discovered that Calm’s sleep tales were created to resemble the type of bedtime tales the majority of us experienced when we were kids, which suggests the entire factor of them was to time-out me right into a deep, relaxing sleep—not keep me awake, on the side of my seat.

At completion of my first week of rest reflection, I stopped judging myself for whether or not I was doing it “correctly” as well as concentrated rather on exactly how grateful I was to be able to drop asleep.

Week 2 of Rest Reflection: Building Objective as well as Recognition Around Sleep

After the initial week, integrating sleep reflection into my every night routine became acquired behavior. I would climb right into bed, overlook any type of remaining texts, change my phone to rest setting, as well as turn on my rest story. From the minute each sleep tale started, my mind began to relocate with the tale. My hesitation proceeded. Was this brand-new practice really helping my quality of sleep—or would certainly I have gone to sleep equally as easily without the led meditation?

It wasn’t until I went a day without the rest story that I understood just how much of an impact it was carrying me. On night No. 12, I missed my sleep story—and I awakened every hr, on the hour.

Whether it was the purpose behind setting myself up for rest, or something about these sleep meditations that was enhancing my sleep quality, I realized that if I intended to sleep well, I would certainly have to make an effort to do so—not simply allow my head hit the pillow.

Week 3 of Rest Meditation: Appreciation

On Day 16, my gratitude for rest meditation struck an all-time high. A couple of minutes in to my rest story, I discovered my interest easily changed from what had happened that day and what I had to do the following day to the story. It was nearly like the individual leading the rest story gave me the consent I needed to allow go of the day and let my body and mind go to sleep—instantly. I began looking onward to my rest meditations—a sign any type of skilled meditator will tell you is one that suggests your new meditation behavior will likely stick.

Week 4 of Sleep Reflection: Lack Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

The final week of my 30-day sleep meditation challenge was full of travel, vacation crazies, and rather much zero normality when it pertained to my rest. Which is why I went a couple of days without sleep tales each evening.

The outcome? After a common 7 hours of snoozing, I woke up feeling exhausted and sluggish—not well-rested, like I had actually been after falling asleep to my rest reflection. Which is when it hit me: Similar to my day-to-day reflection method maintains me invigorated and concentrated throughout the day, the quality of my rest is figured out by what occurs right before I go to sleep.

My biggest understanding at the end of this month-long obstacle is that whether you have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, just how you set on your own up for rest is essential.

Thanks to sleep meditation, I’ve seen a remarkable shift in my sleeping routines. Also when I don’t pay attention to a rest story to assist me drop off, I am way much more aware of the way I set myself as much as go to rest. As well as for those evenings when I do really feel like I might make use of a little assistance, I understand a sweet bedtime story reviewed by Matthew McConaughey is just a click away.

#guided meditation #meditation #Yoga

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gothify1 · 5 years

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A new year (or new decade ) feels like a great time for a fresh start, or in this case, a clean break. It's so easy to fall into the pattern of finding something you like and just buying similar items over and over without even realizing it, but we're vowing to break those patterns this year. Another shopping "mistake " we're trying to shake in 2020 is continuing to buy things that don't work for us simply because they're popular (or on sale). Are you itching for a shopping restart as well this fine January but looking for some inspiration? Below, our editors have broken down the fashion and beauty items we're vowing to quit buying this year (and why) plus what we're spending our freed-up cash on instead. Happy New Year! (We can still say that mid-January, right?) "I'm quitting my uncomfortable bras this year (or maybe just stuffing them to the back of my drawer and pulling them out only when truly necessary). I purchased this Boody Body bra three times already because there's nothing like it in terms of comfort. This is the only bra that I don't want to take off when I get home at the end of the day. I find most sports bras—which should be comfy—too restricting and tight, and even though this one has a sports bra-like cut, it somehow truly feels like nothing when you put it on. I consider this bra a necessity on any long-haul flights and panic if I don't have a clean one at the ready. I also love that the brand produces multiple shades of nude and is produced in an eco-friendly and ethical manner." "I'm not buying anymore throwaway cotton Q-tips or makeup remover pads this year. Bamboo and silicone replacements work just as well! It's a small sustainability step that I'm hoping will add up over time." "I finally feel like I have a very solid collection of jeans, so I don't plan to invest in new denim. Instead, I'll be putting my money behind tailored trousers—an essential item that's glaringly absent from my closet." "Recently, I've been skipping an elaborate skincare routine, so I'm not buying many new, trendy products. Instead, I'm focusing on replacing the key essentials that really work for me, like a great vitamin C serum. I can't live without this one from Skin Design London. it really makes my skin glow." "Without a doubt, I have enough black boots (ankle and knee-high!) to last me a lifetime. This year, I'll be investing in a modern pair of heeled loafers instead—a trend we saw all over the spring 2020 runways." "In an attempt to seriously reduce my dark under-eye circles, I overdid in the eye cream department last year. This year, I'll be focusing on salvaging my tired eyes with more sleep. A magnesium supplement is said to aid sleep and enhance feelings of calmness." "I think I've reached my quota on every type of basic out there at this point. Shoes, sweaters, t-shirts, tanks, jeans, black pants—you name it, I've got an arsenal of it. This year, I'm vowing to pump the breaks on all the simple pieces and start investing in a few more interesting items to make all my outfits a little less boring." "Much like everyone else, I really hate flossing but can actually get myself to do it with the help of those easy little floss picks. However, I was feeling really guilty about the unnecessary plastic use until I found these on Amazon. I stopped buying the plastic kinds and now use these exclusively with the same exact results. Game-changers." "I am a liquid-eyeliner fiend who can never pass up an opportunity to add a new, black option to the queue. Since I currently have enough inky formulas to draw an infinite amount of cat-eyes, I'm going to turn my attention to colorful gel eyeliner this year. After all, it's the 2020 makeup trend I'm most excited about." "I have an obscene amount of denim in my wardrobe, so I'm making a conscious effort to explore other kinds of pants this year. I love the versatility of suit trousers, so I'm going to spend some time figuring out the exact length and silhouette that would be most flattering on my petite frame." "I think it's safe to say that my sneaker offering is pretty set for the moment. I have the perfect white sneakers, high-tops, and statement iterations to suit my style. This year, I want to invest more into my boot collection—specifically, chunky silhouettes." "While I wear basic crew-neck sweaters on the regular, I don't think I need any more. I have a well-rounded assortment. That said, I want to stock up on other forward-feeling knits like the polo styles that are making waves in the market." I've always been fond of quirky bags, despite their lack of versatility. (What can I say? They're fun and they make me happy) But I think it's time to save up for more everyday investment bags that are roomy, well-made, and timeless. I wear nude lip colors pretty much every day, so it makes sense that I'd own a ton of them and adding to my collection would be a waste of money. Instead, I'm putting my cash toward more eye shadow palettes (an area I realized I was lacking in) which take the guesswork out of figuring out what shades to wear together and are great for travel. "I never feel comfortable saying I'm completely quitting a certain beauty product or trend, but for 2020, I plan on wearing less heavy matte lipstick formulas and more shiny and sheer options like the below from Armani and Kosas. Not only do they wear better throughout the day and require fewer touch-ups, but they're also more hydrating and have great ingredients to keep lips looking plump, healthy, and flake-free." "Also, I need to spend less money on blowouts and less time with my blow dryer for the sake of maintaining my light blonde hair (I've jumped onto the bleach and tone train), so I'll be air-drying my hair a lot more in 2020. This spray from IGK is a game-changer. It enhances your natural texture and majorly expedites your natural dry time. I have a little bit of a wave naturally, but if I need some extra polish, I plan on wrapping my strands around this tapered curling wand here and there to give it more of a styled look when I need to look a bit more put together. (Margot Robbie's hairstylist Bryce Scarlett, did a demo, here .)" "I'm quitting buying any more new T-shirts (just for the time being!). I have so many styles right now—from cropped to ribbed and plain to graphic—and the truth is I really only wear a handful of my favorites. On the flip side, my closet is in desperate need of some solid statement tops that I can wear to elevate the look of my jeans." "I'm a low-key nail-polish hoarder and have vowed not to buy any more colors this year, but I am actively trying to up my makeup game. I do a version of the same makeup every day, so I'm ready to break out my comfort zone and start experimenting with colorful palettes. The first step? A bright eye shadow palette." Next up, these will be the biggest makeup trends of 2020 .

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