#also for the incredibly pathetic anon who sent me multiple messages

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Hey Gina! I was wondering if you have any opinions about the bi/pan phobia in this fandom? I have been struggling a lot recently with the amount of people that insist that H is either straight OR gay. I just think as a bi (?) person myself, that the amount of times he has talked about being unlabeled and “blurred lines” and not feeling particularly attracted to a label is really relatable and makes it clear that he is not one or the other. It’s just really frustrating and honestly invalidating that ppl take bi and pan sexuality off the table. Like it’s not real and therefore not an option. Or like they want him to fit in a box/their idea of what he should be when he very clearly does not want to.

(Absolutely no hate and this is not pointed at you I’m just feeling really frustrated with the fandom right now)

Hi love. I can’t answer your question from the POV of the entire fandom. All I can do is answer it from my own (bisexual) point of view. First of all, he has one time said he doesn’t feel the need to label his sexuality. And he said that to Dan Wootton when he was asked directly about it. That is not Harry saying multiple times that he’s “unlabelled”. To me that’s a closeted man answering a question in the best way he can without straight out refusing to answer it and without directly lying.

IMO the conversations he’s had where he’s talked about “blurred lines” have been him referring more to his own gender than his sexuality or the sexuality of his partners. Additionally, many people use the word “gay” as an umbrella term, so unless you’ve questioned everyone who has said he’s gay, you’re jumping to conclusions that they’re all insisting he couldn’t be bi/pan. 

I’m sure there are people who “take bi and pan sexuality off the table” because they don’t think it’s a legitimate sexuality, or want H to be some other sexuality because of some agenda, but frankly, the majority of people who I’ve seen insist that he’s bi are the ones with the agenda (not referring to you, specifically, just saying in general).

Again, all I can speak to is my own personal response to what Harry has said and done over the years. He very clearly said he didn’t think he was bisexual when he was point blank asked. Could that answer be different now? Sure. He was very young when he said that. However, I’ve never seen him have any sort of sexual attraction towards, or chemistry with, any woman. Nor have I seen him flirt with any women (besides elderly women) the way I’ve seen him do with many, many men. 

Whatever he labels his sexuality as, I believe he’s living his life as a gay man, attracted to men (especially one man in particular). If you think he may be bi/pan, go for it. Personally, I know bisexuality exists because I live it. Whether Harry Styles is bi or not doesn’t affect my day to day existence but I’m not interested in people insisting he’s bisexual only so they can hold on to their fantasy that he might fuck them. 

Edit: Thank you @metal-eye There’s also this quote from The Face: Then there is the question of Styles’ sexuality, something he has admittedly ​“never really started to label”. 

(again... not saying his sexuality is “unlabelled”. Not saying he’s bi/pan/gay.)