#also when i say im not in fandom for rufly it's like

[mrs-nate-humphrey]

I know you have a lot of ships on gg, including Derena. So, were you satisfied that they were endgame? And if they had to end up together, how would you have changed it to make more sense? Also, how do you feel about Lily/ Rufus? :)

this is a great ask, because it’s gonna get me to reveal a nugget of truth that’ll contextualise everything, lmao. derena was, as most of you know, my first major gg ship, and honestly, they were so captivating, very few ships (esp, very few m/f ships) had won my heart like that. so. when s2 started and we had all the derena being weird bits in the first few episodes, it would be an understatement to say that i was let down. i was literally like, “i don’t want to watch this show if it’s going to slander dan and serena!!!” and i. stopped watching gossip girl. 

as someone who’s finished watching the whole show, i can look back in retrospect and laugh at that moment specifically, because it was such a “damn, you ain’t seen nothing yet” kind of moment. but at the time, dan and serena - as individual characters, and as a couple, made me really happy. and uni was really dragging me down, and nothing was making me happy, so i remembered the way season 1 of gg had distracted me from like, how sad i was, and. i looked up whether or not dan and serena were endgame. 

so!!! the derena wedding is THE THING that made me finish watching gg. along the way, i was surprised and taken aback by hidden depths of the characters, and the way i viewed them changed. 2x06 made me see the potential of dan and nate, and i was truly a goner, no coming back from that. out of all the canon gg ships we have, most people know, dan & blair are my favourite. like. i love the dair dynamic so much. but. i can’t really hate derena endgame, because it’s the thing i stayed for. and it’s ironic that by the time it came around, i didn’t really want it. but there was a time when i REALLY did. when i was really sad and the only thing that helped was dan & serena. so!!! that is why i go so hard for them every now and then, lmao.

uhh, if derena had to be endgame, i think dan’s character arc would need to sort of go elsewhere? like if he had the same restless need-to-leave-the-city energy to him that serena did, maybe then they’d be truly happy. i just feel like they don’t really work as an endgame relationship because of what their ideal futures would be like. dan would want to be a dad, to have one of those white picket fence kind of settled futures, which is exactly what serena didn’t want. she wanted to be free!! i also don’t feel like serena would want kids (the way she looked at dan when he was holding milo! kldhsgkhdg.) and i personally cannot see a middle ground, but i know other people can. i really just wanted derena to be best friends at the end of the show. exes on good terms. 

lily/rufus is a great ship!! i am not a big fan of their characters individually - though with lily it’s kind of like, i am fascinated by how awful she is, whereas with rufus it’s like *flinches every time he does something* but i liked them as a couple! i also really love the whole premise of their pre-series relationship, it’s like a fic premise for your OTP. lead singer in a band meets travelling photographer who tours with them, she’s a sheltered girl from a shitty family, he’s.... young enough to think their story has a happy ending. idk. all these little nuggets of rufly’s past, on the road, lily accompanying him on his tours... i loved that stuff. and when they were married/established relationship, they were like, the ONE relationship that didn’t have any drama and that communicated, which, makes sense, given how many years it took them to get there. so yeah, i like rufly! i’m not in fandom for them, though, if that makes sense.