#an only child will see a healthy sibling dynamic and say ‘no thats like a parent and a child’ shut up you dont know

[shrimpsodas]

(listening to someone saying rise raph is more like a parent than an oldest brother) are you by chance an only child? oh, no reason😒

[autumn-foxfire]

Super not vibin with all the posts that are like sho had support n dabi didnt when dabi himself said he had natsu (n i think there is an interesting story there, of hate touya taught dabi and of hate natsu decided to grow from (sho) n the one he decided to keep (enji) i also find it interesting the amount of stress natsi must have been under comforting his older brother every day over his own existance like thats some hard core pressure for what an eight year old). Plus dabi had every opportunity to join in and get support from lov but he usually ended up pushing them away so as a child he wasnt completely alone and as an adult he chose to be.

I’m annoyed that people seem to forget that Shouto was isolated from everyone in his family and the only support he ever received was from Rei and that was for a year before she had a mental breakdown and Shouto was left alone with his abuser, separated from his siblings, for 10 years.

Shouto didn’t have support and I’m extremely angry that people keep trying to peddle that he did have a small amount of support almost as if that makes the abuse he went through not as bad (or at least not as bad as what Dabi experienced).

We have no idea of the family dynamics beyond the fact that Dabi cried to Natsuo about being tossed aside by his father. Nothing in that sentance says his mother didn’t support him, just that Natsuo was the person he chose to do so (and this wouldn’t have been healthy for Natsuo either and in fact we can see it hasn’t been as a lot of Natsuo’s resentment was feed by Dabi’s own).

Also, as you said, Dabi could have the support of friends and found family but he actively rejected them because he didn’t want it. As an adult, Dabi chooses to be alone.

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Things iman has said that have pushed me to sewerslide: a never ending post

‘love the sinner hate the sin’ ‘we’re not christian’ ‘???’ ‘ITS FROM THE BIBLE?’ ‘I THOUGHT IT WAS FROM HAMILTON??.’

‘did slaves have paracetamol’ ‘i mean painkillers in general’ "I mean clearly they did because you have them"

‘...because i ship waluigi and me’

'The Queen kind of a milf tho' AFTER HER DEATH: "she would be a gilf if anything"

is a simp for Frank from subway surfers

'i have a crush on danger mouse' 'what'

'can i whip him' (about mahamed)

'ass to the highest bidder' 'its lucky danger mouse is rich'

'george is my little snookums'

*acting like sherlock* 'so everyone whoss suspected yedam is dead!' 'they voted him out...'

ponkimon

compares luigis mustache to hitlers

"mario is packing" “he is packing”

"im earth chan"

about morphing PRINCE PHILLIP AND LEVI ACKERMAN “he would be kinda fine tho

calls a colonel sanders cosplay hot

“i only read wilbur fan fics for alyn, i mean thats how i came up with alyn” “so you read wilbur fics before”

“im hungry i need to eat marios peepee”

about the a/o/b muzzies “no wonder they want to kill us all”

about george gaslighting ‘i wouldnt mind’

‘i know ponk, he would never do this’

‘HE HEE’ possessed

to seunghun ‘i wanna be your slave’

‘nigeria is next to somalia right?’

‘i am submissive and breedable for:

-kim seunghun

-matthew baynton

-danger mouse

‘everyone who has a crush on matthew banyton gives me a headache’ ‘i want to give matthew baynton head’

turns everything into her and rae or her and byeol

step dad, youre wrong, oh sorry step parent

i kin thomas jefferson

*about my maths teacher running* im putting my ohone in my right hand

loyalists didnt yall lose the kings head… thats royalists

gets “can we pretend” and “written in the stars”ed

talking about how its an insult, “are you calling me old, are you calling me black?”

making it worse, “im not racist its the blacks,”

“im not racist i just hate black ppl

kidnapping goats is uneathical.. and kidnapping children isnt

giving diluc the gluck gluck 3000 I MEAN

written in the stars a million miles away baby i can see ur halo

in a way youre breeding art

i would let willne say the n word "in a way we've both been been discriminated against, we're black and he's got a square head"

tries to excuse dreams RACISM with “but ponk..”

gets a attachment to a random tory and says that its pc material

i want to see yoonbin in a commie hat and nothing else

“BE WHO YOU AREEE” thats a pride song…

‘hes talking about me’ about oergeuene

whos thomas pet, me, no ayato

‘matpat is a dilf’

about epraise points 'you have 43 primogems'

i would let hajime hit

"she's fine" about Theresa may

‘whats stalin’s last name’ /srs

Who Would Want To Have A Child With Haruto Watanabe

*gundham voice* boobs

im joining the karl marx hentai reddit

if a man isnt toothpaste

mistakes bojack horseman for BOJO

them things outside of garages "SCARECROWS?"

‘Hé has a perfectly good set of bollocks’

gs leaving is the biggest tragedy of 2022…

about Hunter ‘whys he kinda…’

About Haruto ‘whys he kinda…’

makes a self insert romeo and Juliet ff where they lips mercutio AND benvolio

i have love for byakuya when his shirt is off

(WHEN HIS TITS OUT!!!!!)

Says my history teacher “gives back shots in the ks cafe”

Throwing a tantrum because her teacher crush may be dating someone else

said Ben wil had a massive cock "he could still have it"

THINKS ENEMY OF STATE (hw worst of t12) IS ACCEPTSBLE AND LENG!!!!!!

he (bw) has a slutty waist

he (bw) has a ten inch

"I'm in pain, literally I have pins and needles, SCREAMS"

calls olivier giroud a slut 9/4 daily occurence

listened to dimentio's theme a hundred times

arsenal are siblings, Chelsea are like step siblings

you gagged me I fear

agreed with:

"what makes nct's Johnny so appealing" NOTHINGGGGGG

thought gift was spelt with a j and pronounced jift

'healthy ship dynamic' booooooring

Looked at him and said 'tits'

Just shouts "WOOF"

He (Jule) would call you blackbeard from one piece

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Hottest and worst take I have ever seen: "asking people to tag their nsfw is denying people's fundamental agency as a human"

????

"Antis don't see children as fully human, they don't give them the choice to make their own decisions"

That's exactly what YOU are doing when you don't tag your shit! This is taking things to a ridiculous extreme where nothing is allowed to be regulated or even goddamn organized like a library because "free will somehow"...

If a thing is tagged nsfw and put away on an nsfw site and a kid clicks on it, then it's not the writer/artist's fault that it happened. There is no way to physically stop children from making mistakes.

But if you post extreme gory porn kink stuff out there in the open in a children's fandom and do nothing to keep it restricted to its target audience and not kids, then HEY YES ITS YOUR FAULT

And if you make this weird attitude of encouraging kids to want to be more adult, encouraging them to look at this stuff, and telling them they are wrong and toxic if they don't like it, then that's predatory and gross.

I feel like this discourse has gone to nonsensical extremes!

People are called horrible prudes who want to ban all non pure content if they just say "don't show child porn to children". And people act like the only solution is to do nothing at all to keep child porn away from children.

And then you have people who act like having any form of kink whatsoever is the same as making child porn, or even just writing "problematic" stuff like sympathising with a villain or whatever. And the solution is to ban everything just like tumblr's stupid attempt that failed entirely at making the site safer and only made it worse for perfectly non-harmful n/s/f/w artists....

AND THEN you have people assuming that all "antis" are like that, thus it's a justification to go back to the first extreme and say no safety precautions whatsoever because all safety precautions are oppressive and everyone who ever asks for them must have the motivation of hating LGBT people or something...

And you also have people jumping to this conclusion about any criticism of any content whatsoever. Someone merely says that a ship dynamic is abusive and you get the screeching "this means you totally support CENSORSHIP and want NOBODY TO CREATE ANY ART EVER AGAIN".

Like sometimes people just mean "because this ship is abusive and is not being aknowledged as abusive by the writer or tagged as darkfic, it could have a negative effect on an audience who's led to believe this is a desirable goal for a relationship". And it's just.. words criticizing it. People are allowed to not like it. Not every "I dislike it" is "it should be censored". The only time anyone should actually be talking about censoring stuff is if it's happening in a mainstream publication not a fandom space. Like there is legit conversation to be had about how the mainstream female-aimed romance genre has a lot of abusive sexist stuff normalized as desirable. If Twilight was actually marketed as some sort of darkfic that's intended to appeal to dark kinks, it wouldn't have been such a big problem.

Basically just.. put things in the right box.

That's my entire "anti" stance.

Put the thing where it's not so easy for kids to see it, give it the same degree of rules and regulations as any other fic that's potentially extreme. It's just like slapping warnings on a game box, yknow? If a kid tries to illegally buy an M-rated game then the makers of the game shouldn't be punished for something they took every measure to prevent. And if a parent buys an M-rated game for their young kid then they're being negligent and the responsibility is all on them. But also it's still messed up that there's a culture in children's friend groups to be all "do the grownup thing you don't like that might traumatise you, to be cool like us". And it's worth looking into whether adults have in any way contributed to this and how we can maybe help kids navigate this stage of their life more safely. Like is it possible that just calling stuff bad and not explaining WHY could be making it seem appealing and harmless? Like the tendancy to be a prude about giving kids proper sex education can lead to them being frustrated and seeking out stuff that's way too extreme for them because they don't know it's too extreme. Especially the complete absence of any education or positivity for LGBT kids in particular, theyre way more vulnerable to falling in with abuser's and manipulators because they don't have a parent to talk to about healthy relationships and puberty frustrations without fearing they'd be ostracized for their sexuality. And also honestly there are sometimes just really irresponsible/stupid/even abusive older siblings who will link young kids to stuff like goatse "as a joke"....

SO YEAH

ITS ALL FUCKIN COMPLICATED

And Tumblr is awful cos every goddamn argument turns into some weird war of two exaggerated extremes that no sane person would actually believe, with the original argument completely forgotten.

I just think that the fact that it's complicated as fuck should mean hey maybe we should help kids with it being complicated as fuck, not go "it's somehow denying kids their personhood to think they need the slightest bit of extra help navigating something even adults find complicated"

Also seriously TAG YOUR SHIT

And if someone is tagging their shit, then they're not part of the problem.

If someone with a super dark kink is tagging their shit, keeping their shit away from kids,and acknowledging that their shit is super dark and potentially traumatizing and giving 100% of all possible warnings, then they're not part of the problem.

Doesn't mean I'm gonna like that stuff, but me personally being squicked out doesn't mean that person is some sort of latent serial murderer just for having weird turn-ons.

If thing is not harming children = not bad

If thing is harming children = remove from children

People who should be in charge of keeping stuff safe from children = adults

If children choose to view a forbidden thing anyway despite all your best efforts = not your fault, you did all you could do

Doesn't prove the evilness of having a kink, or whatever. But also "nobody is allowed to ever criticize anything about kinks" is also wrong. Like.. having a kink isn't wrong but how you keep it tagged can be wrong.

It's very goddamn simple and I wish we could all just agree to it, why is this whole damn discourse SO EXAGGERATED AND RIDICULOUS NOWADAYS

Put the thing in the box for the thing, THATS IT! That should be the beginning and end of the conversation.

Fuckin "putting tags on things is somehow limiting kids's free will", Jesus Christ...

[coalessscence]

one of my favorite worst things to Think About are the ways herb’s casually neglectful childhood sometimes just....surfaces in the every day world of his life now. and since his whole shtick is my childhood was perfect my father is basically god and i have absolutely no parent issues idk what ur talking abt, he winds up having to flail, having to learn on the way down, and try to keep up a cover that he knew all along. which, usually, doesn’t work, and just makes it all the more sad. here’s a few examples i’ve thought of because i don’t love myself:

someone around the station gets stuck with something metal and comments they might need a tetanus shot. herb was definitely never taken to the doctor’s for a checkup and regular vaccinations as a child, and since he works daytime hours lucille takes the kids while he’s at work, so he literally has never had a shot and he doesn’t fully understand what vaccines are, aside from cultural osmosis, so he asks in telling confusion, “what’s that supposed to mean?” @piper-aileen-lenox specifically, thnx for making me think of this and ruining my life xx

when herb and lucille moved in together (i imagine they were engaged but maybe not married just yet) lucille made it clear to her rather sexist fiance that she was expecting him to tow the line around the house just as much as her, which he agreed to, except when she asked him to do the grocery shopping thinking that was a harmless thing he could do (not like she’d trust him to actually get the dishes clean or fold her clothes so they don’t wrinkle). they almost never had food consistently in the house growing up and if they did eat full meals, they only had the food for THAT MEAL around because 1. herb sr. and ruby (herb’s parents) lived an erratic lifestyle of little to no money or a whole lot of money but only for a second because it was burning a hole in herb sr.’s pocket, and because 2. ruby quickly learned spending money on food ahead was pointless because either herb sr. hecked off somewhere w/o warning and it went bad, or his deadbeat friends hung around and ate it all, so she only bought for that day if they had the money for anything. but since no one was ever around to TEACH herb anything and he figured most things out on his own, herb doesn’t understand all this and he literally thinks you’re not supposed to by food until you run out or that you have to throw out whatever you have left at the end of the week because....... who knows ???? that’s just what he thought. it caused multiple arguments early into herb and lucille’s relationship before she figured it out and explained it to him because he didn’t know well enough to ask.

when herb and lucille’s first child, bunny, was born, he had to be shown how to hold a baby by the doctor. he had literally never held or even interacted with a baby before until that moment. he had no siblings (that he knew of), he had no friends as a child because if he wasn’t the bully he was the target and he was an ass just like dear old dad so no one liked him anyway, and he had 0 other family. lucille realized in that moment as she watched his palpable confusion when she extended their newborn child to him that he was going to have a lot of learning and growing to do. she hoped he was ready for it.

god that time there was a station fam barbecue early into herb’s wkrp career and someone, maybe mr. carlson, is like ‘WHO WANTS TO BE THE GRILL MASTER’ like its a big deal and everyone is like oh it has to be herb bc he’s the newest out of us and hes aware all the men see it as a status symbol and he CAN’T be less of a man than another man bc Ego (tm) so hes like of course im the grill master !!! and then panics for the next thirty minutes because he’s literally never even stood next to a grill let alone used one HOW DOES IT WORK the first fifteen minutes he doesnt even have the gas on rip

when herb was, like, 15, he taught himself how to drive a car because one of his “friends” (peers who was a bully that he called a friend and hung out with to stop also getting bullied but who was still bullying him anyway, herb was just brainwashed into thinking that’s what friendship is) wanted them to go out cruising and herb wanted to be a Cool Guy and not look like a chump so he lied and said he could drive. they got pulled over, because of course they did, and herb got in big trouble for you know, driving w/o a licences. the kicker though is that herb didn’t fucking know you can’t drive without a license or that licenses and road tests and drivers ed were even a THING because he literally raised himself and no one ever  t a u g h t   h i m   a n y t h i n g. anyways his dad got called home to deal with it from wherever he was away at at the time and he got in big trouble for interrupting dear old dad’s work anyways so :) what a healthy family

surprisingly, herb DID know how to cook the basics. grilled cheese, pasta, stir fries, a couple casseroles. lucille asked him about it because he was always such a Gender Roles (tm) type of man who wouldn’t even wear a brighter shade of red than like. maroon. in case it got loosely contaminated with the concept of the color pink and he’d have to change his name and move to alaska. so why was he doing a “ womans job “ (cooking) and herb just looked confused and said “what, guys don’t cook?” she told him that no, they usually didn’t and would have laughed at her if she tried to make them, and he laughed awkwardly and absently stirred the pot on the stove and shrugged in mild confusion. “that’s weird. if i didn’t cook i’d have... starved, i guess.”

the bad news is his cooking wasnt GREAT and lucille was happy to take over because again.........self taught. and he has one (1) brain cell so. not Great

LITERALLY DIDN’T KNOW ALL CLOTHES DON’T HAVE TO BE DRY CLEANED. his dad literally wore clothes that had to be dry cleaned Every Day (and we wonder why the tarlek family was short on the food budget god) (and they were ugly clothes too akdhfjfg) and ofc if ruby washed her clothes, it was while herb was at school. he dry cleaned so many clothes that do Not Make Sense to dry clean in college before he slowly figured that out.

did not know what an allowance was. bunny asked him for one and not willing to seem stupid to his swift daughter he told her to ‘ask her mother’, who thought it was hecking weird that her money obsessed husband would say that, so she asked him why and after several long minutes he just shrugged helplessly and said “what’s an allowance?”

don’t even get me started on herb and lucille planning their wedding ( ‘what kind of stuff should we put on the gift register?’ “put on the WHAT?”  ‘what are we going to put on top of the cake?’ “there’s gonna be CAKE?”  ‘i can’t wait for daddy to walk down the isle with me, it’ll mean a lot to him’ “your DAD is gonna walk you down the isle....?? but you’re marrying ME, right?”   ) also herb not knowing the wedding look of the bride is supposed to be a Secret and barging into the room w a question or smth while lucille and her bridesmaids are getting ready, and everyone is hella miffed and he’s like WHAT i’ve seen her naked before and theyre all like THATS NOT THE POINT HERB

herb did Not Know about seasonal allergies. he just........didn’t know. he just thought god hated him and every spring and fall his head sprung a leak. and the whole time he was growing up no one A. listened to him complain about them and put 2 and 2 together, nor B. just taught him about basic first aid stuff in general for that matter he doesnt know shit. anyways, then lucille was like why are you such a tough guy just stop complaining and take some medicine for your stupid allergies and he was like take some what for my what now

ANYWAYS herb’s mom left while he was v young and he doesn’t remember much about her. herb’s dad was literally   n e v e r   home. the people herb’s dad left him with would work for obscenely low amounts of pay or owed herb sr. money and largely used all the money for their own food, drugs, alcohol, or other more unsightly business, and left herb alone to fend for himself. this is the disaster human that that produced, thanks, family dynamics! don’t abandon your children, kids, thanks for coming to my ted talk