#and we've been playing with him! his litter box is clean and there's food in his bowl!

[90stvqueen]

my cat just went on a feral play aggression kick and scratched the shit out of me. i put him in time out for ten minutes and now he's lying on my legs grooming himself. the duality of man

[ohgodsalazarwhy]

Well we've had a disgusting day here at Chez Salazar. All under the cut because it's really gross health stuff about Cahir.

I was playing OVW when Cahir, who had been sleeping peacefully in my lap, got up and moved to cuddle on my chest. At the same time he sprayed an absolutely rancid amount of yellow puss out of his asshole. It was all over ME it was all over HIM and it was all over my COUCH. It stank. Leave the game, haul him into the kitchen and give him a rinse off (which he hated) then pulled the cover off my couch, yanked off my dress, grabbed the towel and rag I'd used on him and tossed them all into the washer which I set to extra hot and let run an extra 30 minutes.

I check his butt over the next several minutes and see nothing more. Call the vet who said it could have been an expression of his anal glands but to call in the morning to try and get an emergency appointment if it happens again or if his behavior changes (and his behavior has been very normal this entire time).

Well guess fucking what he did when he was in my lap AGAIN. This time it didn't get on my clothes but it did get on my couch and him (ofc now that the couch does not have a cover on it) AND because it's near dinner time the second I move he goes flying towards the food bowl leaving a trail of puss along the way.

He finally goes to the litter box and expels what seems to be the last of it (for the moment) so I grab him and wash him up (again), clean up all the puss on my floor and couch yada yada.

I put down puppy pads in the bathroom in addition to pulling up everything that had been on the floor and throwing the shower curtain over the bar so they can't mess with it; and Cahir and Dandelion (sorry buddy) are now in bathroom jail so when I sleep tonight I don't wake up to find puss all over me and my bed and everything I own.

He has been treated for worms at his last vet visit. He has had blood in his stool but that went away when I changed his diet and I also noticed some prolapse after he had urinated outside the box. Bringing these things up to the vet is what got him dewormed.

Anyway, this is of course all happening while my car is broken down so my poor sister has to drop her life and drive me to and from the vet.

[tiaamorosa]

Sunset Died - Bunch Family (3)

(Note: this part is a little shorter than the previous ones. The next one will be a bit longer again)

Ethan gets out of bed early because he has to go to the toilet. After coming out and heading towards the kitchen, he noticed something out of the corner of his eye. "oh, how cute, it's sleeping on our doorstep?… Looks a bit thin… And older… Unfortunately we don't have any food, but I'm sure it will be able to catch enough little critters to eat outside. There are enough…hn".

Later that morning. "Ethan? Where did the cat come from?"/ "From outside. She was sleeping outside the front door. And when she woke up, she didn't go away, but kept staring at me through the window and meowing. Then I let her in and she's been stuck to me ever since…"/ "A cat, oh dear…"/ "Oh come on, mom, we've never had a pet and she's old".

"An old girl, huh? How are we supposed to feed you?"/ "I don't think we need to worry about that, she'll find something outside. It's a good thing, it keeps the vermin off our backs"/ "hm, there's something to that…well, let's try it then. But you get a litter tray"/ "I'm sure there's a box somewhere, put some sand in it and it'll be fine…"

"is Lisa still asleep?"/ "um… not any more, no, she rushed past me earlier with an apple in her hand and said she had to get going again…"/ "hh. Since that boy's house is being renovated, she's only with him"/ "well, what else does she have to do? You know her… When's the action with the cemetery starting, I'd like to help out"/ "On Friday.". The cemetery was very badly damaged by the disaster. That's why some clean-up work needs to be done, and everyone can help.

When Ethan looks into his father's face, he sees not only him, but also what remains of his last field mission. It's hard to look past that. "hey, it doesn't hurt so much anymore, okay?"/ "sorry, it's just… you could have been killed, but you went in there again"/ "you just don't let your comrades down".

"Do you miss your work?"/ "hn, sure I do. And even though I'd love to lead a squad again… I'm happy to be here with my family. Sometimes other things are more important in life. "/ "mhm. I'm thinking about getting my school things out. I still have older books…maybe I could teach the younger ones something from them". At that moment, Jack was very proud of his son. He has matured and is taking responsibility for a lot of things. "That sounds like a good idea, Ethan".

"hey, where are you going?"/ "to stroke the cat"/ "which cat?"/ "Well, our cat…"/ "We don't have any…"/ "Yes, we do, since today…"/ "Have I missed anything?"/ "A very nice old lady who needs some loving hands. And she doesn't have fleas, I've already checked," Judy replied at the table. "Uh… okay."

After breakfast, the two younger children went outside and were accompanied by the cat. Of course, it is a great joy for them to finally have a little playmate. "that's really cool, we finally have a pet…"/"Yeah, we couldn't have one before… Do you think dad or mom used to have one?"/"I don't know, they never told me…".

And while Judy does a bit of housework and the children play, Jack makes his way to the old warehouse. The place where you're not supposed to be. But maybe he'll find what's urgently needed there.

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End of part 3

@greenplumbboblover

[getstickbugdlol]

a summary of the Not Breaking Up saga

bf was supposed to move in with me at the end of this month, this has been the plan for a long time and it was his idea and we've been working towards it for like probably a year and a half at this point. we got a cat together last october with the anticipation he'd move in in august

he graduated law school last year and recently had to take the bar for the third time, he's come very close to passing each time but hasn't quite gotten there and he said this is the final time he'll take it. his postdoc job finishes next wednesday and he has struggled to apply for jobs in the meantime, bc his mom is a Girlboss who does everything for him and he got rejected from a job and freaked out

i was visiting friends in arizona last week and bf was catsitting. the cat we adopted is FIV+/special needs plus he has a food obsession so he has a specialty diet and schedule, he needs supplements. before i left arizona i asked bf to get more dry food and he said he would. i reminded him when i was in arizona and he said he would. i was like ok i'm going to leave it at that. mind you i was gone for over a week, so a weekend passed while i was gone. i came home straight off a redeye flight and had to go to urgent care because i have some sort of UTI/bladder infection, and i got home to find that not only had he STILL not gotten the dry food (although i knew for a fact all he did on one of the days he was here was play video games), the litter boxes hadn't been cleaned for several days, hobgoblin hadn't gotten his supplements, nobody had been given their flea/tick meds or hairball meds, there was extra trash piled up, he had not done the dishes he'd used, my garbage and recyling were full of empty alcohol containers, and all my toilet paper was gone. i called him pretty upset about that and he doubled down he didn't do anything wrong and all of a sudden goes "i don't think it's a good idea for us to move in together" and i was like wtf you know i love you and i want to make this work. i went over to his house tuesday night and he said he had concerns about our long term compatibility and i was so caught off guard because we already had this fight last year about staying in nyc vs going and i thought we got through it. he said it's difficult for him to communicate but he was afraid moving in together would lead us to resent each other and he wasn't sure about it. i left in obvious tears and got so angry because i was like oh my god, you're the one who has had your foot on the commitment gas pedal this whole time, to dip now is sooooo shitty and hurtful. i was like you know we don't have to live together, and we haven't lived together so we don't know that's going to happen and he said he was afraid every time the apartment got messy he'd get blamed...i went home in tears and freaked out and posted everywhere and called him and said i have been so brave in this relationship, and i think you are being terrible and cowardly right now. he was supposed to cat sit again next week but i called my mom in so he could come get his stuff from her instead of me.

at emergency therapy the next day my therapist was like woah this is very fast to go straight to break up, get your mom in here (who does not have great boundaries about my relationships), come get your stuff. this is a big decision, and considering both of us are autistic, it makes sense we might have communication breakdowns sometimes, but he might need a little more time to process things. why go straight to break up, it's going to be painful either way. and i was like damn it sonia i hate it when you're right but i called him and basically said i love you and i don't want to break up but i don't want to pressure you to be in a relationship you don't want to be in. but i'm sorry i was cruel and if you need some time to think then take it. he said he loves me too and he was still processing but we'd talk the following night.

so yesterday in the morning he told me he woke up really clear headad and wanted to talk after work and last night we talked and he said that me calling him a coward made him think, and he is really scared about the future and lashed out at me and pinned his worries on our relationship because he was feeling pressure about moving in, but he loves me so much and these have been the happiest three years of his life and he'd be so stupid to let it go over fear. i was like dude i am scared every single day of my life! the future changes ALL THE TIME, but we have to decide we want to be together and be scared together. he stood by me in MY time of crisis, and it's my turn now and it's ok to need me, and to tell me he's scared and to ask for help and if he needs time, then that's ok, we don't need to go through everything right away. he said he knows that and he appreciates it, he's never had to be the brave one before and he's freaking out. i know exactly where he is right now emotionally because i was there one year ago, and we can do this together. so we Set the Intention to work on things. i said the cats ARE a problem, they HAVE to be taken care of properly and we will talk about it, and we will see a couples counselor and cool it on moving in for a bit, and he needs to figure the communication out because i can't do this again. it's natural to lash out at the people closest to you, but i can't have my heart and future just be collateral damage. but for right now let's just remember that we have something really special, and that we like each other and we have fun together. so tonight i'm going over to his house again and we will have a loooooong conversation about where to go from here.

my body is still in a lot of shock and pain, but my boss was really understanding, and so many people rallied around me in support. also like 5 separate people were like "nah this is a fight not a breakup" so clown hours for me. i'm definitely still tender, but i think this is the best possible outcome. bf and i have a really wonderful relationship with a lot of mutual respect and genuine enjoyment. i feel very freed and uplifted by it about 98% of the time until fights like this happen so i hope that he is able to work on this. he seems committed but saying it and doing it are two different things. i'm just deciding to trust him on it