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nururu · 10 months

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I don't understand why there's such a pressure on representing your gender identity outwardly when it's literally so fucking dangerous. If you're brave enough good for you. If you have enough mental strength, good for you. But y'all need to stop taking that and using it as an example of how trans ppl should present themselves and then making them feel less than and invalid when they don't do it your way. It takes a lot of strength and a lot of bravery and a lot of mental strength, to be able to do that. Like an astronomical amount. Expecting everyone to have that ability is weird. And I know, logically, people don't expect that. When you actually sit down and have a nuanced conversation, everyone understands this.. but the way trans ppl who don't pass or don't outwardly represent a binary gender on their bodies, get invalidated and treated like they're not good enough bc they're not as brave as you,is ridiculous. It needs to stop.

#people are superficial and self absorbed #yes trans ppl too #and when a trans person like that transitions or outwardly expresses themselves and even moreso when they “pass”#they DO (not always) make it a point to invalidate you or leave you out of the conversation #if youre not able to express yourself as well as they are #ppl put others down in order to make themselves feel valid #thats gotta stop #ive been irl friends with 4 trans guys #all who outwardly transitioned and are expressive and open about it #all 4 of those trans guys have excluded me from my identity #misgendered me relentlessly #i keep having to reiterate that im a man bc ppl see long hair and and “fem” clothing #and imply that im not a man bc of it #yall are obsessed with cis normativity #youre obsessed with the gender binary #youre obsessed with pink meaning girl and blue meaning boy #you have not done the work to unlearn that ignorance at all #stop making ppl suffer bc youre insecure and ignorant #anyways its easier for me to look the way ive always looked and to be hidden. im used to living that life. i can cope with this saddness and #distress ive had since i was 4.im used to it... i cannot cope with more pain and distress added on by making myself an open target for hate #trans ppl arent martyrs and we should stop forcing ppl who arent comfortable and dont feel safe from the public and themselves #to be martyrs

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