#ayo three

[mileenaxyz]

The Sydcarmy wasn't Sydcarmying enough for me this season, but Sydluca...we up. 😈

[scre6m]

@lgbtqcreators​ creator meme (v2): [1/5] lgbtq+ headcanons — sydney adamu + lesbian

[angel-lusions]

i really love the cast of the bear because they'll say sydcarmy are "connected forever" and "charged and sexy" and "the root of their relationship is passion" and "sometimes your partners at work, you can feel more connected to than your girlfriend or boyfriend" and "work can be a very intimate thing and a very personal thing and a very emotional thing" that (again) "invokes feelings of passion" but if you ever imply they could ever be into each other romantically, they act like you've grown three heads

[prozacwhorehouse]

hopping on to say Carmys “DUH? don’t DUH no DUH” and “RICHIE. RICHIE. IDIOT. IDIOT. RICHIE” are my favorite parts of this season that shit was funny as fuck especially not being complete sentences so unserious

[guess-whos-back]

I need these two in a rom com like yesterday

[kyloknightren]

carm operates on a whole different wavelength than sydney does

sydney sees getting a star like how in school you get one by being helpful or kind and sees the hospitality aspect of a restaurant more than anything. she would ideally like to get one and accomplish it without sacrificing a healthy work environment

carmy thinks about competition how to beat everyone else out of the game and be the best

that’s definitely not what sydney is looking for

i think that she’s ambitious but she would be happy with just one star and as a “we did it” rather than “you’re the best”

i think carmy’s ego is going to be tested i mean when sydney met carmy she (to mince her words) basically said he was the best cdc at the best restaurant in america and he loved hearing that

[liminaltrickster]

Have you ever heard of the decans? If not, here's what you need to know for this post:

The decans are an ancient astrological dignity scheme comprising 10° subsections of the zodiac signs, which means there are thirty-six of them in an astrological chart. They're sometimes also referred to as "faces" because of their connection to imagery. Today, I'm talking about their association with the cards of the minor arcana of the tarot. (Can you see where we're going with this?)

While I was taking a look at Ayo Edebiri's chart for that promised Show Your Work post (this isn't it), I noticed something real neat for an astro nerd like me:

In her chart, Mercury (☿) is in the second decan of Libra (♎️), aka Libra II, opposing her MC within three minutes of a degree. (That's really tight.) I'm not going to go into the specifics of Mercury in her chart, but planets that are closely configured to a point like the MC speak loudly. They often have a direct correlation to the person's career.

So, what's the minor arcana tarot card associated with Libra II?

3 of Swords, The Rider-Waite Tarot Deck

Sydney's 3 of Swords tattoo is in Ayo's chart, and lolllll at how literally it shows up.

This fandom has produced a lot of great writing about Sydney's tattoo and its associations with the Sydney-Carmy-Claire love triangle, but since we're here, let's discuss the decanic meaning of this face.

In her book 36 Secrets, T. Susan Chang calls Saturn-ruled (♄) Libra II "Ties That Bind," and she says:

"When Saturn, the lord of commitments and unbreakable bonds, combines with the legal finalities of Libra, the result is a promise. You can think of the three of swords as this: the two parties to the agreement—plus the agreement itself. The promise itself, in other words, is the third thing: the deal, the contract, the marriage, the life."

Christopher Storer and the other writers take great care with the imagery and subtext of the show, but did they know about the decans when they decided to give Sydney this tattoo? Maybe, but I doubt it... Still, I think this interpretation of Libra II is worthwhile in light of the fact that Syd still hasn't signed that friggin DocuSign.

Astrologer Austin Coppock calls this decan "Two Links of a Chain." In 36 Faces, he writes:

"This is thus a face of lasting unions and blended karma. The choice of whom to chain oneself to, and under what terms, is therefore critical. Both sacred covenants and profane deals occur here. The key to such agreements are the terms, for one may do business with the devil himself if the contract is worded well enough, while an agreement poorly made can bring strife even between the best of friends. "The contract is both weapon and armor in this decan, for it both protects and compels. The contract has been associated with Saturn since the Babylonian phase of astrology. As such, it is no surprise that there is little disagreement regarding Saturn's rulership of this face. In Libra, the slow planet is in its exaltation, and excels at the binding-together which is this decan's essential action. Yet Saturn is also infamous for distributing suffering. "Indeed, the breaking of happy marriages and fruitful alliances is as much the subject of this face as their joyful continuation."

Sydney's fear of being tied or chained to Carmy, of signing the partnership agreement, is Saturnian in that it's very wise (at least for now, while his act is decidedly not together), but it also shows a rigidity that might see her miss out on the fulfillment of a dream.

Whatever the case may be, in the context of Sydney and Carmy, I think I prefer this imagery for the 3 of Swords:

3 of Swords, The Wild Unknown Tarot

[corsairspade]

Celegorm but everything about him is 10x funnier because he's a chronic ainur fucker and just doesn't tell anyone about it. He looks inwards and decides marriage is between elves so deciding to roll around with maiar of the hunt is absolutely valid and not marriage. Who's ever heard of an elf marrying a Maia?

Elven polyamory may be illegal but it doesn't count if he's just ferrying kisses between Oromë and Vána- they're not elves. No, it's not hypocritical, what are you talking about. Just don't tell his father. What? No, not because of the whole polyamory thing, Feanor's just got a thing about Valar. Yes Celegorm is sure that's the only reason he doesn't want to tell his dad.

[pureseasalt]

me personally i take anything as a win. the future is bright and the sky's the limit. today, a sydcarmy slow burn miscommunication angst fest. tomorrow, a sydcarmy pussy eating episode. the universe has set out its plans and it wants first and foremost for me to be happy

[unladyboss]

SYDNEY SHOULD GO: JUST LEAVE THE BEAR SEASON 3

But not with this guy. Not Adam Shapiro

This

Seems like he's stressful because he's pushy and intrusive

He wants to rush her decision when he hasn't secured a location.

He tried to bad talk Carmy

He tried to get her to disrespect Carmy when he just met her

I'm mad at Carmy but I'm not letting some weirdo say bad things

He curses at good workers as seen in season 2

He looked at Sydney a little too long while pressing her to make a decision. He might harrass her

Luca who seems like a nurturer doesn't like him

Also I think I see a vision of what could be.

If Chef Terry gives these guys the restaurant

Who knows? CDC of EVER (RENAME OF COURSE)

CDC PLUS 7 FISHES if you include Marcus and Tina in this picture

[ayoarticulate]

season one carmy was a little bitch, but he still cared. he still attempted to foster this new energy in the chefs of the beef even tho they wasn’t really feeling it at first, but he kept pushing forward (with the help of sydney), and a new feeling was born.

season two he steps that up even more (with even more guidance from sydney). he sends marcus to copenhagen, tina and ebra to culinary school, richie to ever to foster those people skills. granted he’s even more of a little bitch in season two, but he’s still a thoughtful little bitch when he tries to be.

season three deads ALL of that. so fucking quickly. and i see that the most, unfortunately, in Tina. she loses her footing the most because carmy is constantly on her ass without the support. previously he’d critique and teach, but now he’s just a mouthy mf with nothing to back it up.

sydney thankfully recognizes this tho, and has tina’s back in a way she’s really had it since season one. she takes her time, gives her that space to work, and easily breathes that confidence back into her.

i recognize carmy is full on michelin mode this season as a result of his freezer fuck up, but watching him take all these beautiful things he’s learned from these other kitchens and then completely fuck them with the emp dudes disgusting energy makes it so hard to like him or feel any kind of remote or pity for him this season

[mileenaxyz]

I don't like how people basically keep ordering Syd to sign the partnership agreement. 😒 No one's asking how she feels or really checking in with her.

And I'm really disappointed in Carmy specifically because despite his many, many, many, *many* flaws, constantly checking in with Syd is something he's usually good at. He senses her mood changes quicker than anything and yet this season he's been oblivious.

[cuppajj]

most goatedest chinese takeout delivery ever

[texasbama]

[sluttyhenley]

Carmy's stuck in the walk-in? Alright. So what are we gonna do?

THE BEAR | 2x10 The Bear

[alltheothercoolnamesaretake-blog]

Why I Think Carmy Will Quit The Bear In The End (and how this ties in with Sydney)

***WARNING-SPOILERS FOR SEASON 1 & 3***

I believe that the show is trying to subvert expectations on what will occur with Carmy and his character arc. When watching Season 1, you expect that he will eventually get over his traumas by lifting up this new restaurant. He will find new friends and eventually become a better version of himself by cooking there. However, I think that Carmy will end up walking away from The Bear by the end of the show. 

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REPLICATING OLD TRAUMAS

Although changing The Beef to The Bear seems like a fresh start for Carmy, he gradually makes it into his old abusive workplace throughout Season 3. Instead of lifting up The Beef, he is forcing it to become The Bear. Although this seems like a good change at first, this is actually him replicating the environment of his old abusive workplace. Except this time, he has become David. 

At first, his outbursts seem reasonable. They seem like accidents, something that could be explained by the actions of others. But over the seasons, the abuse ramps up more and more. Even though he has become friends with all of these people in the past through The Beef, these relationships are being eroded away because of his increasing obsession with control in Season 3. For example, he insists on checking every meal that goes out just like his boss did in the past. He continuously refuses to trust the people around him, and lashes out to everyone. 

I think this is because he views David unconsciously as a role model for what a boss should be. Even though he resented him, he unintentionally absorbed the idea that David’s abuse was what made him a better cook. This is why he was so shaken up in Season 3 when he confronts David on his abuse, because he actually agrees with him. 

Because of this toxic mindset, it has seeped into how he interacts with the people around him. He has failed to become better, because he has never been able to properly confront how he has been altered by his traumas. Carmy will not be able to improve under these circumstances, but instead become progressively worse as his past traumas influence how he is today. He needs space and time away from a kitchen in order to truly recognize the abuse that had been done to him. 

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2. THE BEAR IS MIKEY 

The Beef has always been deeply connected to Mikey in Carmy’s eyes. He wanted to work there because of Mikey, and always viewed it as a place where he could connect with his brother. But I theorize that The Bear may actually have become a proxy to Mikey to Carmy.

In Season 1, Episode 8, Carmy has a surreal dream sequence where he is hosting a cooking show. Within it, he starts to break down and starts to flash back into a memory of his brother. 

It then cuts to a clip of a bear locked in a cage on a bridge (which may reference back to Mikey’s death on the bridge). The clip is overlaid with a line from Mikey, which is “I’m right here.” 

This bear is one of the main inspirations behind the renaming of The Beef. It then flashes to the drawing of the restaurant, The Bear. 

Later, he finds the note and the money from Mikey. This is what encouraged him to renovate The Beef into a new restaurant. I think that this represents him feeling like he can find Mikey again through The Bear. Although this is a positive influence on him at first, this grows increasingly more negative throughout the seasons. By feeling like Mikey is there within the restaurant, his grief was able to be comforted a bit. But this causes his relationship to The Bear to become more and more codependent. He has not actually confronted his grief over Mikey yet, but instead uses The Bear to try and soothe the pain. This causes him to choose The Bear against all else, including his girlfriend Claire. 

Even though he has improved by going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, he is only passively listening to the people around him instead of sharing more about himself. Although he did reach a breakthrough in Season 1 by sharing with the group about Mikey, his development has stagnated over time because he uses The Bear as a way to muffle his pain. To truly get over his grief, he has to move away from The Bear and face it without the presence of Mikey standing over him.

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3. CARMY AND COOKING

In Season 3, Episode 1, that is where we see Carmy experience the most joy out of cooking. 

In the various apprenticeships that he goes through, he is free to experiment and do whatever he wants with it. Ultimately, I believe that Carmy will never thrive in a restaurant setting, even if he was the boss. He might have thought that his love of cooking was hampered because of his past abusive boss, but in reality it was because of the restaurant itself. The pressure of making a profit and earning recognition from reviews will destroy him in the end. This is mainly seen through his fixation on the flexibility of the menu in Season 3. In the first episode, he flashes back to what he enjoyed about cooking (which included experimentation and testing) which inspired him to make a new menu every day. He wants to recapture the joy that he felt in the past. However, this harms the restaurant by driving up the margins and causing chaos. The restaurant is not something that he enjoys, but instead an intense source of stress for him. Carmy indeed loves cooking, but needs to form a more healthy relationship to it. Just like how artists can get burnt out on monetizing their art, he is burnt out on monetizing his cooking skills. The restaurant will never be a good place for him to show his art, as it is a business that supports dozens of people. I think that ultimately, he will become Chef Terry, who retired from her restaurant because she couldn’t handle the stress anymore. 

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4. SYDNEY

Sydney will be the one who inherits The Bear and truly makes it great. She is the one who really keeps The Bear together throughout Season 3, and has the clearest vision. She represents a new way forward, one unencumbered by Carmy. Sydney has already been framed as his protege throughout the seasons. And as her mentor, Carmy is destined to leave so that Sydney can ultimately prove herself. Carmy has become more of an antagonist throughout the season, while Sydney is slowly replacing his role as a protagonist. I predict that Sydney will accept the offer from Adam, but come back once Carmy can’t take it anymore. Then, she will show once and for all that she is capable of running the restaurant by herself.  Only then can there be a future for Carmy and Sydney going forward.

Right now, their relationship is tied to the The Bear. They have not really interacted outside of it. Only then can they form a real relationship and really connect to one another. Right now, their relationship is too centered around the restaurant for them to really fall in love with one another.

(Marrying into the Berzatto family WOULD ALSO MAKE HER A BEAR. Therefore, this could allow for The Bear to stay within the hands of a BEAR)