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valtsv · 2 years

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Op of the self care notes post said it was a joke that breached containment type of post, so they didn’t have those intentions, but I think they said it was a positive experience to see how many people actually cared even if that wasn’t what they had set out for originally.

i respect that completely and, like i said in my tags, i don't assume any ill intent on op's behalf, however i do still think it's an irresponsible, unsustainable and unhealthy way of seeking support or recovery. i genuinely hope that op does recover and receive all the help and support they need, and wish them nothing but the best, but i also disagree with the method used and don't think it should be encouraged or normalized for reasons i've already stated (that social media attention is very superficial and unpredictable, and that creating the impression that complete strangers are in some way responsible for your mental health without their consent, regardless of whether that was your intention, isn't really right).

#like me disagreeing with that 'ill practice self care if this gets 666k notes' post isnt a callout for the op #and if youre the kind of joyless cruel husk of a person who decides to send hate or attack op for it then im disgusted by you and want #nothing to do with you #but as someone who has personally experienced the detrimental effects of tying my mental health to social media attention #regardless of how good your intentions are i cannot agree with it on principle because it fucked me and countless others up #far more than it ever helped

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melit0n · 6 months

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"And we go beyond the farthest reaches, where the light bends and wraps beneath us, and I know, as you collapse into me; this is the start of something."

#this one is absolutely DETRIMENTAL to my mental health #it gets worse each time I attempt to listen to it #if this monstrousity (lovingly) plays when I see them I don't think I'm actually making it out of the venue #one of you is gonna have to carry me in a ziplock bag because I'm just gonna be a puddle of tears #that's if I don't melt into the place itself #and that bloody breakdown #gets me everytime #I can literally see the cerulean wave crashing and dragging someone under #I can SEE the atoms collide I swear #this song means a lot to me if you guys can't tell #sleep token #st #telomeres #telomeres (song)#tpwbyt #this place will become your tomb #<- yeah it fucking will if that or Missing Limbs ever gets played live #Spotify #melitunes

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apathyfairy · 1 month

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at the end of the day gilmore girls is a show about how a girl tried to get away from her mentally abusive parents but is constantly forced to reconcile and have them in her life and feel constant guilt about the life she created for herself

#like................rory wouldnt have ended up like That if she never had richard and emily in her life longterm like she did #like it truly went to hell when she decided to go to yale instead of harvard like perhaps if she went to harvard. she wouldnt have #become season 5 rory and if she hadnt had richard and emily as near constant presences in her life since 16 she wouldnt have #had a mental breakdown when she got criticized for the first time in her life #but the privilege sure does kick in around season 5 for real also speaking of yale like the biggest surprise of the whole show #is that marty isnt a serial killer but anyway.#lorelai knowing that her parents were so bad for her mental health and wellbeing that she just went out on her own #and made her own life for herself and turned away millions of dollars to be a maid instead like... real #if i could pack up and leave my family behind and never speak to them again because theyre #manipulators and mental abusers i would in a heartbeat #if it was still 1985 and you could eventually buy yourself a house by working as a maid id be out of here #so i get it when everytime rory chooses that life over the one lorelai made shes like. um. ok i failed. like i get it #anyway the show is a cautionary tale about having toxic family members in your life is detrimental to everything.

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pa-pa-plasma · 13 hours

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kind of frustrating that people took "fat does not equal unhealthy" to mean "fat is not unhealthy." sometimes being obese IS unhealthy & excess fat can cause a lot of problems. ignoring health issues isn't progressive. real "oranges kill people with depression" moment

#i have a lot to say but i think it all boils down to this:#the only reason people think this way is because they experienced body shaming & bullying for their fatness #& instead of gaining a healthy relationship with their body & its needs they went full denial mode #people that aren't fat that think this way are just going with things uncritically which is also bad btw #because when you have decades of proof that being severely overweight can be detrimental to your health #(& no i don't mean fucking. supersize me. i mean medical proof that too much fat causes diseases & early death)#but you're ignoring that because a tiktok influencer that has no medical experience said so #that is a huge lack of critical thinking skills on display & people are gonna listen to that misinformation & some might die #this isn't some light shit that can be waved off as non-harmful because it IS harmful! it is actively hurting people!!#again being unhealthy isn't a moral failing & no one deserves shit for that!! but that's the whole damn point isn't it!!!#militant fat activists are so afraid of their fatness being associated with anything negative they turn right around into ableism #they don't WANT to be considered disabled! because being disabled IS a moral failing to them. disability is abnormal #& of course being morbidly obese is totally normal. because if it wasn't then they'd need to do work & handle an ED #& that's too much to grapple with mentally so. no. they're normal. super normal. don't look at the lifespan of someone over 300lb #btw i am 100% aware that a lot of this is combined with other issues like racism sexism homo/transphobia genuine fatphobia #but also sometimes they really can't operate on someone that can't recover afterwards #like i wouldn't call the vet bigoted & cat-hating for being unable to operate on my 20yo cat #Minnie would simply not survive that. because she is so damn old #unfortunately for Minnie she can't get younger but people CAN lose weight in multiple different ways #& it may seem like the world is attacking you but you really have to train yourself out of automatic bad faith reactions #''you couldn't possibly understand!!'' yeah okay i'm sooo abled & privileged you got me there (<-sarcasm. if you couldn't tell)#just because someone hasn't experienced your EXACT thing doesn't mean they can't relate & haven't gone through similar #it's so difficult to train your brain out of that shit i get that but you really really really have to. or you will die #or at least be miserable #DISCLAIMER: i'm not talking about every person who has even a little fat on their body. fat is NEEDED #but like all things too much of a good thing can cause problems & fat is not exempt #this is about morbid obesity. not someone who's like 160lb that shit is normal #& people need to stop thinking anything over 110lb is fat #because it isn't & i think most people are getting into unhealthy territory at that low of a weight #basically i view being too fat the same as being too thin. they both cause health problems & should be taken seriously

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samuraiondo-mace-1177 · 5 days

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I am so fuckin tired.

#I'm gonna see if I can drop my sociology class because it just makes me feel like complete shit #Doesn't help that it feels like one major groups of people who actually care abt me are my moots that I've never actually met #idk i love you all but it feels slightly depressing that half the people I interact with irl are only putting up with me #sorry for the rant #it's good to get this shit out since British therapists have only been a fuckin detriment to my mental health #(is it obvious that I'm trying to get to Japan as quick as fuckin possible genuinely Britain is only good for healthcare)

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makerofmadness · 3 months

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i feel like a jerk for this because it's people in need but I'm the other hand it's hard to check tumblr knowing I'm gonna feel like shxt because people. Aren't doing the basic thing of reading an all-caps blog description and respecting the boundaries laid out in said blog description. Especially when my ask button was labeled "read blog description" and.

#To make a long story short with shzt I have the right to not disclose to strangers: I don't have a healthy relationship with donation posts #And even signal boosting them . I had done it in the past a long time ago and it was actively detrimental for my mental health.#...mainly because it's always people talking about absolutely horrific life circumstances in them and like #Reading that. Every day. It isn't good for someone who feels things too hard. I feel things too hard.#I literally can't interact with these posts in a healthy way I just can't do it im sorry. I wish i could but it's not me who can.

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dilfsuzanneyk · 1 year

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sometimes u have 2 look at pictures of yourself and be like "woagh.... who's that guy... they've kinda got gender"

#used to hate looking at pictures of myself bc i felt bad if #i thought i looked good #i thought it made me selfish and vain #but NO #i don't have to hate myself #i'm kinda pretty and i will keep telling myself that!!! years of making myself feel bad for liking #the way i look and telling myself 'you probably don't even look that good'#has been detrimental to my mental health.#i'm kinda pretty i'm kinda handsome and i kinda have gender!! and i'm proud of that okay!!#and i hope everyone can reach a point in their lives where they can feel comfortable enough to compliment themselves #because even now it feels awkward for me but it also feels good #and i hope one day it just feels good for me #vex rambles

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july-19th-club · 1 year

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i've been blocked by this person so they will likely never see this, but in cause they're still looking - i sent you a real apology, that i meant, privately, after i'd had time to make sure i was able to approach it in an adult manner, and you responded by refusing to accept that my apology could be genuine. i don't know if it was my phrasing (i will apologize, and genuinely, for mistakes that i make, or posting things that wind up being cruel or unfair, but i will not participate in the 'grovel or you aren't really remorseful' culture that exists on sites like these. i am sorry that i shared something that hurt you. if i could have had a longer conversation with you, i would. my apology was real, and that is why it was not performative). BUT. because i can now no longer message you, i've decided if i have any chance of reaching out to you i will have to do it in public. if you do wind up reading this, i realize that you likely still will not believe me, or accept my sincerity. that's the nature of online interactions, i guess - we don't really ever know each other well enough to accept good faith from one another when we're mad.

#the funny thing is. i unfollowed this former mutual some time ago because our differing positions on therapy #were becoming detrimental to my mental health #but i didnt rant in the messages first or having done so refuse to accept any attempts at reconciliation #i just quietly.........unfollowed. and i never had to worry about that specific thing that upset me again #i would be willing to delete the post i made that upset this person. IF we could have had a civil interaction about it #but we didn't. you told me that my 'remorse was not genuine' and then blocked me without giving me the opportunity to ...#i dont know. how did you want me to apologize? what would have done it right for you? because ultimately i would like to give people #what they want. i dont like upsetting people and i'm disappointed in myself for having done that #but i've seen what grovelling as a response to accusations does to people on here also. and i will defend my right to be spoken to kindly #just as i should have been kinder in the things that i shared

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rebel-moons · 1 year

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just found out my very good friend of over twenty years has been publicly bashing me on twitter because I had been locked out of mine and they knew I wouldn’t be able to see those tweets…except I got my twitter back this week and. wow. hm.

#i told them i had to stop doomscrolling and obsessively following the news because it was haven’t a detrimental effect on my mental health #and they tweeted that i was ‘protecting fascism and white supremacy’#despite the fact that their ‘activism’ is literally just tweeted from their couch while I’m actually out there doing good #like whatever I don’t post about my activism a lot because I don’t want it to be this big performative thing but like I helping in my #community and they very much are NOT #and anyway I’m just pissed because I don’t want to have to defend myself like this from someone I thought was my very closest friend…#having**#wow lots of mistakes in those tags i’m just so angry i’m shaking #this SUCKS and it’s our birthdays this month #like i was meant to celebrate with her this week and now I just really don’t want to see her

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theloveinc · 2 years

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not to turn this blog into a mental health journal LOL, but had therapy for the first time in maybe... 3-4 years... and was asked about my sexual libido because apparently it can be an indicator of mental health levels (?).

and honestly i'm just so relieved to hear that because... ofc it relates to my real life and stuff (not being interested in sexual relationships currently) ... bUT ALSO I'VE NEVER BEEN ABLE TO FIGURE OUT WHY I STOPPED WRITING SMUT lmfaoooooo.

which isn't to rule out other factors and reasons, too😖... but knowing it's not entirely my fault and being able to relate that to my (other) creative processes as well... i'm jumping for joy LOL.

#we talked about how the pandemic really catered to people with anxiety (me)#but really to their detriment because often they became too comfortable #and now have a hard time moving away from that isolation #which... SO TRUE #but it was just so nice to have explained to me #bc even tho we only talked about l*bido for like 2 seconds ... it made so much sense #cuz i was so happy during the pandemic (when i started IHB) and had so much desire to write sm*t #and now i'm like... at one of the lowest mental health points ive ever been in my adult life #and i have no creative juices whatsoever and basically no s*x drive #i really thought i was broken or changing but couldnt comprehend why.. like it can't be X or Y #bc it's never been this way before #and that's a nice feeling .. to know now what's happened (or at least a piece of it)#anyway i was kinda scared going into it bc i was assigned an old white dude #but he was really nice #and told me he used w*ed LMFAOOOO basically #so i'm excited!!! to move forward with him #anyway thank u for reading if u did <3 #just a lil update of sorts but also to share the knowledge hahaha #caitie blabs #mental health tw

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tousakamis · 1 year

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sigh. my mum is talking about how she recognises that both me and my little brother are mentally ill but she's apparently been "protecting us from labels how she wasn't" (because that's "all that society wants to give kids nowadays") and she wants us to just "get on with life and be who we are"

#alina post #alina rant #i have practically begged doctors to diagnose me with the depression ive been recognised to have so i can receive genuine help #my brother and i both have autistic traits and i always wish he could get diagnosed so he could have accomodations and answers #there is undeniable systemic ableism that impacts those with mental health conditions in the uk #and i understand that that is something that could have great detriment to her if her diagnosis was revealed in some circumstances #but why do we need to suffer by ourselves without any help because SHE doesnt like labels #not to mention that a lot of our mental illness is influenced by the generational trauma and general trauma SHE and my dad inflicted upon us #once a teacher even tried to suggest that my brother was autistic and she said it was the school forcing labels for 'funding'??#the uk is so systemically ableist and most schools would probably rather die than actually accomodate their students beyond the bare minimum #the most he'd get is probably extra time in exams and maybe a card to let him leave overwhelming classrooms #im just so upset #i always knew that she hated the thought of me or my brother ever actually getting diagnoses and help... but 'protecting us'?#my depression has fucked me over so much growing up with bare minimum support. why dont i deserve help.

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raccoonfagdyke · 2 years

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#repented #i love seeing my family so much ya know ? definitely fun and not detrimental to my mental health #nothing better than feeling like an afterthought and an outcast a whats supposedly a family celebration #and i love love love watching my brother throw temper tantrums and knowing that somehow i #im gonna be vilified for all of it #so nice to be reminded of the fact that ill never truly be welcome there #and incredibly ecxited to say that while my neice is not allowed to be alone with me despite practically raising her my abusive brother can #take her to fucking monster trucks because hes and gone back to jesus #of course by repented i mean he changed none of his behavior and still treats his wife like shit but now he prays sometimes #and along with that i got a bunch of my sister staring at me with pity because i turned from god or whatever #my mom and my niece are the only ones who treat me normally #and my mom is still.... that relationship is complicated . and i feel like she looks at me like an alien most of the time #i wish i could go nc but i cant do that to my niece #maybe one day when shes fully formed shell say she doesnt want to associate with me and i can make a clean break #but my gut says shes gonna need me so i stay

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zackmartin · 2 years

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