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bitchkay · 6 months

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May I bother you with a request for a list of requests that are in your inbox/WIPs? it's ok if you don't want to also

Alot--🤭🤭

Less than I thought actually

Like I have a ridiculous amount of drafts but such a small portion of that is actual WIPs and asks that have yet to be answered

I did count tho

Out of almost 200 drafts (dont judge me) like 40(39 actually) are actually WIPs/asks

And out of that just over half are actually like horny asks yk the nsfw shit😈

And the rest are (whether it's an ask or not) stand alone posts be it a headcanon post, full length fanfic(700 words+ and/or formatted as such), scenarios/drabbles(usually under 300 words) or me just talking

As for my Google docs

15 of which are full length fanfics and about half of those are already like 2000+ words

The other one is just a scenario I started for Sherry last week

Heres a list from oldest to newest currently in my drafts

Court of darkness characters with a black s/o part 1 (headcanons)

Court of darkness characters with a black s/o part 2 (headcanons)

Court of darkness characters with an s/o that writes poetry (headcanons)

April fools stories but they're actually good(nsfw short scenarios)

Loving on Tino cus were in a drought for Tino content (horny ask)

CoD cones giving backshots part 1 (nsfw headcanons/scenarios)

Fenn is a whore, mc should have her way with him (horny ask)

Assigning court of darkness characters my little pony kins (headcanons)

Violet is deeply in love with you therefore she is fucking you very hard (horny ask)

Soft Addis Ira HCs *non romantic* (headcanons)

Dia Akedia 🤨🏳️‍🌈⁉️ (me analyzing dia under a microscope/studying his queer codedness with research and references)

Violet with a mommy kink. (horny ask)

Quartus NSFW headcanons (nsfw headcanons)

Court of darkness characters with a bratty s/o (nsfw headcanons)

Breeding kink with Addis Ira (horny ask)

Fucking Dia in a mushroom paradise his bedroom (horny ask)

Tino getting a love boner (fanfic/scenario)

Domming Guy (horny ask)

Being a brat with Guy (horny ask)

Making love to Fenn (horny ask)

Ass, tits, or thighs, Court of darkness edition (headcanons)

Thirsty for Dia (horny ask)

Toa book 2 smut (horny ask(

Roy in bondage (horny ask)

Loving on Rio with freckles (horny ask)

Give mc a dick, see what happens, w/ fenn (horny ask)

My favorite part about each consort (me showing love to my boys💞)

Quartus seeing you cry during sex (horny ask)

Lynt and fucking in the library nook (horny ask)

Cuddling with Hawke (headcanons)

T4T w Dia (horny ask)

Kings orgy (horny ask)

Loving and fucking on Aquia (horny ask)

Roy giving hot messy creampies (horny ask)

Threesome with guy and Toa (horny ask)

Toa being a little shit as a sub (horny ask)

Threesome with Sherry and Violet (horny ask)

Quartus😈😈 (horny ask)

Addis Ira(horny ask)

And for the Google docs now

In no particular order cus I forget what's the oldest😶😶

I be in and out of those mfs, they be rearranging themselves

Sleepover with Sherry Invidia (smut)

N/A (Zev Avari smut)

Just like that~ (threesome with Grayson and Tino)

Special Lessons *requested* (Lou smut)

"C'mon share." (threesome with Guy and Fenn)

Intimacy beyond word *modern AU* (Rio smut)

F-R-EAAK (tino smut)

N/A (Lynt smut)

To fall into bed with you~ (Lance suggestive fluff)

My roommates brother *modern AU* (Zev Avari smut)

Between screens *modern AU* (Knight smut)

LUVU2D3ATH <3 (Lance suggestive fluff)

Morning after (Lance fluff)

Lamborghini *modern AU* (Roy smut)

An Irian bride (Young! Addis Ira)

Come through~ *modern AU* (Rio smut)

Now I know what you're about to say "Kay that's literally so much!" but listen

The stuff in my Google docs has been sitting for more time than the stuff in my drafts

From the stuff in my drafts the oldest thing there is from August and that was less than 6 months ago

Some of the stuff in my Google docs has been there since last year

I'm not overwhelmed by the amount of shit I haven't finished

Once upon of time this would scare me but I'm good keep em coming cus I love this shit

I love receiving asks for yall and listen my anons freaky as shit yall keep me entertained

Some of yall write full on essays in my indox about these mfs and bitch I encourage it more life to you

Yall want to make sweet love to Aquia? REAL‼

Yall wanna tie Roy up to the bed while you overstim his cock? EVEN REALER‼

Send it my way I will get back to you eventually all I ask is you be patient

#kay answers #court of darkness

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hiswitchcraft · 2 years

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Okay, what are your special interests then? If you don't mind me asking.

I love you. This is my lucky day. So in those tags where I was talking about getting my special interest fed I was specifically talking about witchcraft but since you asked:

• Being trans. And not just my experience but other’s experiences. The beautiful parts of it like t4t, and the not so great parts like transphobia. The big and small ways transphobia manifests. How being trans can change your whole perspective. How it makes you a better witch (intersection of 2 special interests there.) Really just trans-ness and gender in general.

• Witchcraft of course. That’s how this account got started after all. I just wanted somewhere to let my interest manifest and other people showed interest! Also turns out probably being autistic can make you “good” at social media, oddly enough.

• Music and alternative subculture. This is the most varied one. Probably because music can vary so drastically unlike some of these other things and I’m into a lot of different kinds of music. A very very specific way this manifests is actually my hair. I used my hair to indicate special interests 1 and 3. When I get compliments on it (usually how bright it is) I’m always tempted to go into my spiel about how I get it that way and how anyone can do it and that I cut it myself too. Bleach isn’t as scary as it sounds my dears.

• The public education system in the US and the many alternatives. Like the trans one this is a lil weird (what did you expect) but I think not going to public school shaped my experience as a person almost as much if not as much as being transgender. So I’ve become fixated on it in the same way. Hopefully you get what I mean!

• Wildlife. It started with birds and has shifted to cats, lizards, ants and probably other categories I’m forgetting. I just know a lot of general fun facts about wildlife too! This also has an intersection with witchcraft. Having lots of info on local wildlife has made me an infinitely better witch.

• Video games. Particularly sandbox survival games or cozy games. I’ve just always loved them in general and can play them for hours and it can become my only hobby. Like the wildlife one it will shift to certain games from month to month or from one year to the next and it’ll be all I talk about for a while.

I’m so sorry most of this doesn’t have anything to do with this blog I just couldn’t resist! Ask questions if ya have em. My DMs are always open!

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moth--knight · 1 year

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For the ‘So Many Ideas’ post about WIPs, I’d love to hear about any ideas you have for the stuff listed in the post!!!

THANK YOU FOR THE ASK ! ! ! ! AHHHHHHHH I love a good excuse to talk about the feral ideas that are constantly scratching at the cat posts of my brain. I am going to ramble (as per usual......my apologies) so putting my answers below the cut.

Fics I want to write

All of the fics I write are ones I want to write, so this category is a bit funny. But I REALLY want to write a very dorky and self-indulgent Tokyo BayoJeanne rivals fic where they play competitive Splatoon. LMAO. I don't know if I ever will, because it is so ridiculously niche and silly.....but the idea is floating around currently. Jeanne is a Splatana Wiper Deco main and her backup is the fucking Bamboozler (ANNOYING TRYHARD MOMENTS). Bayo mains Dark Tetra Dualies and her backup is the Dynamo Roller. They spend entire matches just trying to kill each other, much to the chagrin of their teams. They meet IRL and are like. Oh she's hot. Oh no. OH nooooooooooo. Their first date is bowling which is way too fucking competitive and they end up making out in the bowling alley's shitty arcade. Love wins.

Fics I want to read

Lumen Bayo. I want this fic so badly as something I could just sit down and devour. In an ideal world, this fic would be written together by dubhgloinne, Dikhotomia, and Wilmaa and I would sob and scream and bite my hand until it bled at every chapter. Alas. They are not writing it, *I* am, so I will do my best to emulate the things they all do fabulously well and translate it to my own style. Part of why this fic is so daunting is because it is something I want primarily to read, and I am not sure if I can pull off the actual writing haha. We shall see.

Also a BayoJeanne coffeeshop AU. How the hell does this fandom not have one yet (as far as I am aware). I have started writing it but.....I know nothing about coffee. Or tea for that matter. So I will probably never finish writing this one. Someone else, PLEASE. I FUCKING BEG. BAYOJEANNE COFFEESHOP MEET CUTE ! ! ! !

There is just One Scene and I could write it but it would be waaaay more cool if I had all the build up to the scene but unfortunately. I can only figure out the Scene

Oh god. I have one tiny snippet of scene for a sequel to my orpheus fic, where Jeanne and Bayonetta have a full fight over Jeanne's over-protectiveness ..... but it would hit harder if I properly set it up and properly let them cope. It has been sitting in my drafts for months. I may never finish it. But I want to.

I keep changing my mind. Where am I going with this

Fun fact - last year I started planning what was supposed to be my first proper multi-chapter (side-eyes DH) set post Bayo 2, where Jeanne and Bayo would manage to bring a small cohort of witches back to life accidentally due a failsafe put in place by the Umbran Elder. But I was worried I was veering too close to some of the amazing ideas andthatisterrible has explored in their Endlings series and couldn't stop changing my mind on what to do with it. I have since abandoned it. I came up with an OC for it (a butch Umbra named Calliope) that I was IN LOVE WITH. She appears briefly in my blood and darkness fic, but this would have been her chance to shine. Alas. RIP to her.

This has been done a million times before. But. Hear me out

Jeanne and Bayo falling in love post Bayo 1. I have written this fic twice before, a million other people have written it, and yet here I am doing it a third time. But here me out. t4t BayoJeanne falling in love. DO YOU SEE THE VISION.

I will 100% Never Write This. This is just my Emotional Support Idea no one can ever know about bc it makes sense only to me

This used to be my t4t bayojeanne fic, but cringe is dead and I am free so I am actually writing it and will post it someday. I don't think I have any current ideas that fit this category.

Would be better as a comic...

I have had this idea pinging around in my head about Umbran hair rituals since last May (and playing Origins has only made it worse) but I think because so much of it is about feeling and vibes it would make for a much prettier and more impactful comic. I can't draw though so. RIP. I will probably break down some of these ideas and incorporate them into other fics though.

This will be my magnum opus if I can just get my 50 pages of ideas into a coherent narrative

Lumen Bayo. God please. Praying I can pull it off. I love it so so so so so much.

All I have are vibes

Eldritch horror Bayonetta, who gets a hold of both Eyes of the World and uses them to prevent Jeanne from ever dying. She becomes a god and loses her humanity in the process, and Jeanne is horrified (both by what her lover has become for her, and because she still loves her despite it all). My favorite Mass Effect fic of all time plays with a similar idea/theme, so I am drawing inspiration from it. But I only have vibes, not a real plot. It will probably be pretty experimental.....if I could write it in a similar style to this fucking incredible fic by Dikhotomia that would be epic. One day. ONE DAY.

WIP I started and haven't updated in 2 years and oh god its beEN TWO YEARS???

LMAO. It was this fic but since I finished it I don't have any other WIPs that have been sitting stagnant for more than four months. The other ideas pinging around my brain right now are Origins focused (I have a longer Morgana/Rosa endgame Origins AU fic in the works, but who knows when that will see the light of day.

ANYWAY. Hope this was interesting?

#asks #moth writes #THANK YOU FOR THE ASK SPOOKY AHHHH IT WAS FUN TO PARSE OUT SOME OF THIS #I am very normal about my ideas (lying through clenched teeth)

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pandirpus · 1 year

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2022 Fanfic Meme

tagged by @northernscruffycat! and since i wrote some stuff this year, i‘m gonna treat myself and do this :D

Word count for the year: 16,853 words, which is more than most years! (and also i’ve written 2 more technically finished chapters i haven’t posted yet, which makes this my most productive year in ages :D)

Number of stories posted to Ao3: four fics!

Pairings written for:

DekuBaku

IzuOcha

Mitsuki/Deku

Fandoms I wrote for:

BNHA owns my soul

Most popular story: your hands around my neck (dkbk) - it’s the least niche one, but i’m still very suprised by how much love and attention it got 💕

Story I’m most proud of: Contact High (dkbk, izuocha, infidelity) - not just because it’s my first multichapter I actually finished before posting, it’s also based on the first idea I was really into when getting into dkbkdk but thought I could never write. Look at me now, past self! :D

Funniest: they are all silly because bkdk are silly ❤

Kinkiest: they are all just a bunch of kinks in a trenchcoat, but Bunny Mating 101 is the most unfiltered in its horniness.

Saddest: Hunger is just grief and survivor’s guilt rolled up in kink

Least Popular: Hunger, since it’s most niche with regards to setting and kinks. Deku wanting Bakugou to eat him is for very refined tastes only ;)

Most Cringe-Worthy: i don’t know any metric of how to measure cringe. it all is. nothing is. be free.

Favorite Opening Line(s):

"Please," Deku gasps, and Bakugou’s hand tightens around Deku’s throat.

Favorite Closing Line(s):

Right now, Bakugou’s thumbs trace the freckles covering his shoulders and the faded bruises at the nape of his neck, slowly, carefully, like he's never touched anyone before, and something warm and unbearably fragile flutters in his chest when Deku ever so slightly leans back into his touch.

For a blinding moment, he thinks of nothing but Deku's cock buried deep inside his cunt where it belongs, and all falls into place.

Convulsing under the violent, visceral sensation of being torn apart, Izuku moans breathlessly as Kacchan’s teeth rip through fat, tissue and muscle fibre, until there's no distance left between them, until every part of Izuku inevitably becomes a part of him, forever inseparable.

Top Scenes from Anywhere You Would Choose to Have Illustrated:

I’d say Deku crying and sobbing while pounding Bkg, but it’s inspired by so many good artworks already ❤

any art for my fics would make me cry but here’s what i can think of on the top of my head:

- bkg tending dk’s bruises on his neck in your hands around my neck

- feral zombie!bakugou with deku’s blood dripping from his face

- tiny wolf bkg spooning tiny bunny dk really wanting to bite his neck

can’t spoil anything from contact high but i’m very much considering commissioning scenes from the second/third chapter dkflkgk

Story I haven’t yet written, but intend to: almost finished wips (some still from 2021, but at least i made progress on them 🙈)

- t4t dkbk with cuckholding fantasies

- dk who’s rly into blowjobs deepthroating bkg’s strap on

- my blood on your lips (middleschool bkdk with dk being a weirdo)

- ulterior motives (dk fucking bkg’s brains out so he can as schmoopy with him as he wants)

Fic-writing goals for 2023:

same as last year: find some time to write fics & have fun! also read more fics - i really want to get through my reading list and comment fics i’ve been hyped to read for months now.

Tagging (but no pressure) @hehebread @antarestyl @illwynd @philomayo and @yellowballpoint (and anyone who wants to do this! :D)

#writing meme

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lifeintheworldtocome · 2 years

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Looks at you with my Big ol curious eyes. So. tell me about your OC (<- hands are on my chin as i kick my feet) ^_^

omg! kicks my feet twirls my hair around my finger giggles

i am inserting this like five minutes through typing this you 100% dont have to read all of this because it is VERY longwinded and probably difficult to understand sory 🌟

so basically their name is ara she uses they/she and all neos etc etc 19 ish years old i have not completely locked that down BUT!! she basically lives in a fantasy type world and its like. semi set in a minecraft roleplay because i am #cringe. so she is half enderman half human and is like. enderian royalty maybe? unclear. so she gets banished 2 thr overworld which seems to be a theme in my stories??? and xe has a husband named robyn who has so much tboy swag (they r t4t). so she came to the overworld meets robyn he takes them in they fall in love etc etc romance she meets a couple of her best friends , carrie (sister to micheal put a pin in the latter) and kevin because i cannot come up with a name that is not the whitest thing ever for the life of me

and at this point the people on this server type thing (minecraft roleplay i have so much for irl ara but i am NOT getting into that rn) are creating kingdoms and shit (i Cannot remember for the life of me wtf the kingdom ara is living in joins whaever. starts with an m) and theyre deciding rulers and shit. so this guy micheal (remember him?) who is actually my oldest oc hes been a thing since i was like 10 years old. but he becomes the ruler of m name kingdom and the queen/king 2.0 is named damien, hes micheals husband.

so micheal rules for a few years, and eventually damien is like girl when is it my turn 😐 so it turns into a whole argument that ends in damien killing micheal and actually whoops! he planned 2 do that so a bunch of fireworks are set off and theres this super cinematic and also disturbing scene where damien is holding micheals severed head up to the kingdom on a balcony while theres fireworks going off all around them and i have definitely tried to draw it at somepoint. so damien is banking on everyone being asleep during this time because oooo i need to be super showy about killing my hisband but also I Will Get Arrested but! ara was awake because Of Course they were.

so damien gets control over the kingdom for like. 2 months. and then ara goes to Somebody (no idea who. the cops because she is a bootlicker at first i guess) and damien catches wind of it So he sneaks into aras house and kills her 🥰 but at this point hys already given testimony and Uh Oh! damien gets banished to The Pit which is exactly what it sounds like and now ara is a ghost. wooooo!

so now both micheal and ara are ghosts and robyn (remember that guy ⁉️) is like. in denial about and simultaneously super resentful of aras death because Everyone can see ghost ara except robyn because He Was The One Who Loved Her Most (carrie cant see micheal also but deals with it by having someone around who can tell her what micheals saying but robyns too busy greiving in a super unhealthy way to do that) and ghost aras sad about it

so then eventually ghost micheal goes to visit damien because hes like damn i still am in love with that guy. fucked up. so he goes to see him and i just realized i have said the word so way too many times in this post. whatever. ghost micheal goes to visit damien and damien sees him and is like God Fucking Damn It Youre Supposed To Be Dead. so he tries to kill ghost micheal with his bare hands because hes gone a little crazy in the pit because he has nobody to talk to or whatever. and in defending himself ghost micheal accidentally kills damien so now hes a ghost!!!!!!

and i have not figured out anything past there but theres definitely more. should probably have written all this down at somepoint sooner i have this all stored In My Brain but also even if i could remember the rest this is way too long already and ive been writing this for like half an hour

#asks #apileofmoss #SORRY THIS IS SO LONG I HAVE NO SELF CONTROL!!!!! I ADD IN A LOT OF FILLER ALSO #oc tag

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autism-archey · 1 year

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@hunter-sylvester tagged me in this, my very first tag game, so thanks hunter!! you are a pioneer of Metal Lords fan content, pls keep doing what you're doing!

3 Ships:

steddie, but listen, i don't Like season 4 of stranger things. i think the plot/writing was bad actually, but. i stuck around for steve, because damn they're good at writing characters and i loved his seasons 1-3 arc. steve & eddie have incredible chemistry that everyone else has already talked about but listen bro. what if they were t4t.

frerard, but listennn its for the DYNAMICS. i feel like frerard fics have like, mythologized this pairing into something distinct from those real people that are alive and exist. they've lifted the personas and adpoted them onto some really incredible works of fiction... there are archetypes and characteristics and relationship dynamics that i see over and over and over again, always distinctly non-normative and queer, and god dammit it gets me ever time.

i'm struggling to come up with a third... i think The Batman (2021) Selina and Bruce. actually yes this one definitely. god i fucking love those two. my heart like actually ached when she left at the end.

First Ship Ever:

This is going back a long time but I wanna say it was Stucky or Destiel that really had me first. which honestly i was right about that, those white guys have chemistry! i used to eat up post-winter soldier fics all the time and i always end up coming back to them. something about bucky on the run or holed up and scared as his memories struggle to come back, and then steve being the first person to be gentle with him. anyway

Last Song:

my god let me tell you. i listened to ethel cain for the first time today (Golden Age) and i immediately started like crying in the car and then i wrote more poetry than i have in maybe months? that was hours ago and i'm still neck deep in her discography =D

Last Movie:

Avatar: the way of water!!! Avatar is basically a new special interest for me and I'm learning sooo much about it. also this movie is Worth going to the fancy theater for.

Currently Reading:

Catching Fire by Suzanne Collins. i think this is the first time I'm rereading the hunger games, and I'm so glad i picked it up over christmastime bc 1) i got sucked into it and finished it in like a day and a half; and 2) what an incredible fictional depiction of revolution. like katniss' character arc, the emphasis on solidarity and community over and over and over again, every detail adds so much.

Vine Deloria Jr.'s The World We Used to Live In, which is packed with American Indian stories on spirituality and medicine men. i only just started it but i'm clinging onto his words like they're air. which, in the busted concrete version of the world now, they might as well be.

Currently Watching:

Dimension 20's Neverafter, which is premiering weekly rn (too slow! agonizing!!) and is just beginning, but already getting really fucking good. I keep my copy of Grimms' fairy tales in the bathroom now lol and the stories are crazy. The boy who could not fear had me at the edge of my toilet fr!!

Currently Consuming:

i mean where's the post that's like "autism costs families $60,000 a year" "all that weed im smoking"

Currently Craving:

my boyfriend come back :( when you're here you always put my head back on my shoulders the right way but it gets all messed up every time you leave

i dont think i have anyone to tag but mayve i'll edit & update with a tag later!

#uh #idk wtf tag this as #thoughts #thiswas really fun actually and made me feel better off of a bad day :)

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ftm-radio · 2 years

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hey, all! ✌🏻😊

november is just a few days away, so I wanted to let y'all know that I probably won't be super active on here next month.

I'm participating in NaNoWriMo again this year (attempt no. 2!!) and I have a lot of prep to do still in order to hit the ground running on the 1st, and with any luck I'll spend most of the next month actually writing, not distracting myself here on tumblr.

and I'm just so excited for this project I'm working on, guys. like I'm obsessed with everything about it. I haven't been this into a writing project in ages (not even my last nanowrimo) so I have pretty high hopes for this. I love this story & these characters so much already, and they were like.. only just born, lmao

I dont want to give away too much about it, especially when it's so rough and new, but I will say that it's my take on a genderswapped beauty & the beast trope (not the fairytale, but the pairing) featuring a cryptid in a small, weirdly charming town. also it's a slowburn friends to lovers kind of thing. and it's t4t. and the protagonist is on the aroace spectrum.

if any of that catches your interest, I'll probably be chattering about it occasionally on my main blog, @its-short-for-jackalope, where I could probably be persuaded to share more tidbits about it if I got asks there. just saying. 😘

anyway, yeah. I'll still be around in some capacity, but I'll probably be neglecting this blog a lot more for the next month or so.

take care of yourselves! 🖤

tl;dr: this blog may go a bit dormant while I'm typing my ass off for nanowrimo 😘👉🏻👉🏻

#im so psyched for this!!!!!#aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa #>:]

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isa-the-great-and-powerful · 1 month

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Some more notes on my first T4T experience. So, that weekend was an anime convention and like 2 days before it I got a Google photos reminder of when I went last year. I didn't even know it was coming up. I had just finished making 3 cosplays a couple months back for a different Convention. So I went ahead and bought the tickets for it.

These past couple years I haven't actually felt really confident in my cosplays, like for real. And this week was a week where I felt actually not too presentable nor passable. Maybe a monthly thing? Idk just yet. Also because I had a laser appointment scheduled like a couple days after and my facial hair was showing it was def time for that laser appointment. So, going into this not feeling great about my looks and also wearing cosplays that accentuate parts of my body I am not particularly fond of... I walk in and see someone I have met at past trans things before and we also met at the convention last year. Well, she was with a group of trans people and I immediately became friends with one of them. Later when her girlfriend showed up I realized I had met her before and that was fun. This is in my Spider Gwen cosplay that I actually feel sorta a little uncomfortable in for different reasons. Casually in conversation it comes out she is poly and her girlfriend talks about that a bit. I pay not much mind to it, it's just a fun conversation topic.

That night, a group of us go get tacos at a place. As a group of transfems, we talk about all sorts of things, but at some point it comes out that I am on the ace spectrum. I forget the context. But my joking self probably said something wasn't much the case since I am on the ace spectrum, in regards to something. I actually am funny though, so everyone especially my new friend (knew the others previously to that day) said I was funny at multiple times, or laughed at my jokes. (Mind you , I am a comedy queen, bow down to me) But nothing out of the ordinary for myself to pick up on. (Oh at the beginning of the day I add people on discord and they invite me to a transfem group that meets weekly)

Next day is my most confident cosplay, my Android 18, I think I actually look killer in it. But I still didn't feel 100% confident. Well I meet up with one friend again, and really only see new friend for like 3 minutes that whole day. When I get there I realize I forgot my badge and have to spend like $38 on a replacement.... Sorta pissed at that.I almost leave. I message new friend about this just as a friend sharing info thing. She isn't there yet. So, fast forward to like the whole day passing and me only seeing new friend for like 3 minutes it's super late, I go to leave and my tire has a screw in it. After a long struggle with things and finally getting someone to plug it miraculously, I drive home. Mind you, the Con is 30 minutes from my house. So I am nervous to even go the next day with the plug, despite the guy saying some people drive them forever and they stay good. So I almost don't even go that day. Well I decide to go after debating it, but since I bought a second pass I gave one to a friend to use so they could enjoy the last day of the con for "free". Well he enjoys con, I walk around with him a little. Then new friend shows up to con as a spectacular Spider Gwen. Like, stunning. She asks me if I want to go to a panel with her. I say bye to my other friend, and go with her. A group of trans watching a cosplay dance contest thingy is fun. Her girlfriend shows up to watch with us. I'm still thinking of new friend as a pretty friend and that's about it I think. But she might have complimented my cosplay or me or said I looked pretty or something. I was in my least confident cosplay, my Roxie Richter. It shows my pooch too much. But alas, calling friends pretty is pretty standard. So after that, I help take photos that are darling of her and her girlfriend doing couples photos for spider Gwen and her girlfriend. They really do glow. But new friend's old coworker is there also. He's super shy and stuff. We talk about art when waiting for new friend to take her makeup off to get photos with the spider mask on also. So that's another just simple friend interaction I have with someone. Now though, her girlfriend has to go for something she had scheduled.

Now, it's just her, me and her old coworker. We explore the con a bit. She actually starts to continue to call me pretty or cute and laughs at my jokes and calls me funny. I'm starting to see patterns of more than just friendly things... Like, sincere "you're pretty" with a look that can stop your heart. We all 3 go to get Taco Bell. The coworker joins us because he has no ride yet and I actually had to move my bed in my car around to get a 3rd seat to work. I was going to just drive them both home but obviously we got Taco Bell first. well that shopping center had a bookstore also. He says he can just wait for his brother to pick him up there. New friend says she'd like to go there sometime. But .. in that kind of way that suggests she might want to walk around it right now. I ask her if she'd actually like to go there also, we can all go there. We walk around looking at things. She gets excited about two books and then looks sad because she can't afford them right now. It breaks my heart a little. I let her choose one and buy it for her. It makes my day to let her get it. During the Taco Bell/bookstore trip though, casual flirting continues to ramp up to the point I feel bad for the shy coworker that is with us. Well, he parts with us because he'll be picked up there soon. So it's just new friend and myself, alone now. We decide to go to the PetSmart right next door. She at one point looks at the dog collars a little too long for someone without a dog. My rizz kicks in and I comment something along the lines of its a good color for her or something, who knows? Well, a few blushing moments later we are in a part of the store near the lizards and whatever happened you can see she really wants to lean in and kiss me right there. My heart was pounding. Well after a few of those moments, we leave and go to my car.

Not gonna lie, we were both feeling the tension strongly at that point. Sitting in the parking lot still during a conversation she says she'd really like to kiss me right now and asks if that's alright. I agree with her assessment on the situation. She then says I'll need to come over there to do it. So here I am in an outlet mall parking lot leaning across my car's center divider thing kissing a girl, both of us in cosplays... And I am only now just thinking about how that could have been seen by anyone. So obviously my mind was only thinking about one thing at that point. Well... This revs both our engines up enough to make a request to take this elsewhere if you catch my drift. We first go to a park with lots of hand holding and tongues in each other's mouths. Then we figure out a place to go. (I'll let that be a different post if I ever do write it, no sense in spilling all the beans to y'all)

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i was OCposting in the askbox of someone so. this is a compilation of all that, since it basically gives the rundown of their whole deal and maybe some new ideas scattered into it as well. so. long post ahead.

ASK 1:

theres elias (he/she/they); dominic (he/him); marcus (he/him); elizabeth (she/her); andrew (he/him) and amelia (she/her)

theres 2 seperate families within this: the jamesons, which includes elias as the son and andrew+amelia as his parents, and the DeAngelo's which is the 3 others, but theyre siblings instead

the only 2 with personalities right now are dominic and elias, who are also in a situationship with eachother, and will probably remain that way for the rest of time

story's basically just "what if the disgraced son of rich parents who happens to be an owner of a bar/club (elias) meets the guy who mans a stand at a farmers market (dominic). and what if they were both t4t. and what if they ended up being workplace lovers/friends w benefits"

elias is lowkey a very unlikeable and bitter guy, very self centered and speaks without thinking. dominic's the reserved type who only speaks when spoken to, but very willing to resort to violence when needed.

[person replies with a statement that he'd like to hear more]

ASK 2:

so this post will be about the onyx magpie crew, aka dominic, elias, and their families, but the families are just implied and there for plot reasons

also for context: the onyx magpie is the name of the bar elias owns. and sometimes elias IS a magpie so. yeah.

around a month ago i wrote 2 paragraphs leading up to the first meeting from each others pov. this was still when it was all brainstormy but the ideas are all there. i hope. enjoy? i have no clue how much or how little this actually makes sense w/o prior context

elias has rich parents. maybe his father's a politician and his mother's a ceo of sorts for. something. this man is an only child and i want it to show. growing up in a big house, alone, while his parents are often away for work. so hes also very independent. and somehow it doesnt hurt as much as it shouldve when they look at him in disgust later on in life. he was alone growing up. if they didnt care for him, why should he care for their opinions of him? ... maybe.. maybe he stops coming home for the holidays. maybe they dont know his name. maybe they dont recognize him when he passes them on the street.. but... maybe he does. and maybe it finally stings. just a little bit too much. and.. maybe he should grab a drink. his bar is just around the corner anyways. or hell, even man the bar counter. to get his mind off things.

as for dominic... i know i want him to have a brother and a sister. probably the middle child between the 3. older brother, younger sister. not many ideas about his parents as of yet. probably alive though. maybe they all grew up farmers. he knows his agriculture, maybe favors the cattle, wanting to give them a good life before they get sent to the slaughterhouse. maybe goes into the city once a week to man a stand in the farmers market. meats, crops, milk, eggs. the like. maybe gains a few friends with the regulars there, or the other shopkeepers. maybe starts going into the city more because of said friends. maybe they convince him to go out and celebrate one day. maybe he hit a T milestone. 5, 10 years? maybe more, maybe less, but still a reason to celebrate. and hey, has he ever been to that bar? maybe they tell him that sometimes, if his lucky stars align, the boss of the place could be the bartender. maybe they joke that if they tell him of the big day, he'd get a free drink or two. the place is just down the street, his friends know the way. they deserve a treat.

in short: elias has a dogshit gender dysphoria day and is about to be the bartender for dominic whos out there just sorta chilling and living the dream and just wants to get drunk with his buddies

and later on as the plot progresses, dominic gets a job at said bar as a bouncer. so thats how they become workplace boyfriends lmao

[person responds to ask with "The angst with Elias. Poor baby. But at least he'll eventually be happy with Dominic."]

ASK 3:

"But at least he'll eventually be happy with Dominic." you'd think that wouldnt you.. sure, elias would be living the dream with his trophy husband, but he isnt capable of being a loving husband himself. something something never seeing how TO be a loving figure in either of his parents. something something walls so high it would take a lifetime to bulldoze them down. something something it not even being worth it in the end. yeah. elias isnt a good person, but hes sure as hell fun to spin around in my brain <3

the relationship between them is complicated at best and a miserable maze to navigate at worst. sure its not abusive, but i struggle to say its healthy </3 in a different au it is. but thats just an au sooo...

[person replies with "You wanted to hurt me with this ask, I know you did. (/hj) And you succeeded. what do you mean “it not even being worth it in the end”??? my heart? officially hurt at the thought of Dominic & Elias not being happy together"]

ASK 4:

i like to think that elias is far too self centered to even WANT to change. he is so deeply bitter and hurt by his parents that he doesnt understand, *cant* understand that someone would want to genuinely help him.

he thinks dominic befriended him for the easy job that pays well, that he just likes the sex, that hes pretending to do all this for some free drinks.

he doesnt understand true love and he spits on the mere idea of it. if true unconditional love was real, his parents wouldnt have kicked him out, he wouldnt have grown up to constant screaming and crushing loneliness. he just doesnt understand and full on refuses help. refuses any much-needed therapy. who needs that when hes got a pack of cigarettes in his purse and cheap wine on hand

hes just a cranky little guy in the main story. its kinda funny how in the other aus hes completely fine, simply because his parents were slightly different. like hes living his best life in the royalty au simply because the circumstances are slightly altered lol

also idk if i mentioned this anywhere so nows as good as time as any: elias dresses like a y2k girlie. all neons and miniskirts and makeup and dominic looks like hes a father of 4 on a roadtrip. but they primarily wear the colour of each others eyes. but they dont know that. "just feels right"

idk im still very much so throwing ideas at the wall and seeing what sticks, such is the joy of OCs

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yeah i had fun rambling on about this, felt right to save this convo on main :3

#chess shh

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MER Week Day 2 - Long time no see

Summary: It’s been a while since Alistair Shepard and Garrus Vakarian have seen each other. They’ve been busy on their separate planets, helping in whatever ways they can to get things back to as normal as they’re going to get. However, with some free time, they’re finally getting to meet back up. Problem is... somebody forgot to mention the testosterone. Whoops. Well, at least Shepard’s got a free offer of carapace ripping from his sister if things go south.

(Set after ME3, enjoy your t4t shakarian lol)

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Babe: See you at 3 then.

The message still glowed on his screen, burned into his retinas from the night before. It was the last message in a long conversation that had lasted well into hours he should have been sleeping, but it had been worth it. After all, it was important to hash out details when your fiancé was coming to visit.

It was even more important to do so in his circumstances.

“Fuck…”

The words leaked out from between Alistair’s teeth as he glanced around – the time said it was sometime after 2:40. Like always, campus was busy, full of his fellow students going from one class to another. Most of them look tired – and he understood that fully. Between med school and fighting the reapers… some days it could be a toss-up, depending on what he was doing.

Most days, med school won. Maybe that was a good thing? Or maybe he was just a sadist.

Regardless, campus was busy. It was easy to blend into the crowd like this as he sought a seat on a bench under a tree. All he could do was look at the screen of his omni-tool, frowning as he read through the messages.

He shouldn’t have been nervous… but he was.

Maybe that was why he clicked onto a new message window, just as busy as the one with the one he had been glancing at. Even better, the other person was online. Something like hope sprung into his chest as he started typing, fingers flying with the speed of an ex-Alliance officer.

Some things were fading with time – this probably never would.

Al: Where are my anxiety meds when I need them?

Bo: Relax, he’s going to love it. And if he doesn’t, there won’t be anything left to bury afterwards.

Bo: Or whatever turians do when they die.

“Nothing like threatening my fiancé to get me to calm down.” He chuckled despite himself, shoulders relaxing ever so slightly. However, a beeping drew his attention. Bo was attempting to video call him, which he was more than happy to accept.

Rannoch was as busy as ever on the other side of the line. He could see quarians and geth in the background, going about their business as his adopted sister focused her camera. Even after tweaking it, she was still a little skewed and not completely in the frame. However, she was allowed to be – her analogue sense of direction had saved his ass. She could be as out of focus as she wanted.

“I mean it, Al.”

He chuckled again. “I know, Bo. I guess I’m just nervous. I mean… we haven’t seen each other before…”

With his free hand, he gestured towards his body. Some days, especially in the early morning when he was half asleep, he was still unable to believe what was actually happened. It seemed more like a dream… at least until his voice cracked. It was doing that far less as his range settled, but still. At his age, it was kind of embarrassing.

Oh well, puberty was rough, especially when it was triggered for a second time in his 30’s.

“Told you that you should’ve sent him more dick pics.” Bo’s tone was flat as a pancake as she adjusted her camera – still out of focus. Now he was getting a view of Rannoch’s currently cloudless sky. Last time he had seen it, it had been full of Reapers. Honestly, he preferred it without them. Much friendlier. “Just relax. You know he thinks you’re hot as hell. All you have to do is use your commander Shepard voice and he’ll be eating out of your hand.”

Alistair felt his face color a little as he looked to the side. “I’m not going to use that in public…”

“You know what I mean. An Adam’s apple isn’t going to turn him off, so no sense worrying about it.” She paused, and he swore her eyes glowed. Maybe that was the camera angle? “And if it does…”

He could already see the threat – beating him with his own carapace was one of her favorites. He had never actually seen someone do it, but it was a classic at that point.

“Yeah, I know - death and calamity upon his head like you’ve only reigned down on the last guy who tried to take your crown.”

“He’s still recovering.” There was pride in her voice at that, and she should have it. After all, it wasn’t every day a human went undefeated in Omega’s underground Krogan wrestling tournaments. Surviving the reapers only brought better challengers, and it seemed to keep her well supplied with cannon fodder. “But anyway, just go for it.”

There was a pause, and her camera focused momentarily. “Also, since when did you start growing a beard?”

Oh, hail the mighty power of testosterone…

“Like two months ago, shaving sucks.” A beeping drew his attention – his heart raced at the sight of a new message. “Gotta go… I think that’s him.”

“Remember, just call me if you need his carapace ripped off.”

After the offer of violent assault, the call disconnected and left Alistair alone with his thoughts as he switched back over to his messages. Just like he thought, the message was from a certain someone he was waiting for. His heart jumped into his throat as he glanced around – nope, not there yet.

Babe: Almost there, got a little lost. I’ll never understand human city planning.

He always said that. Still, it made the ex-marine chuckle as he stood, waiting. Soon enough, they would be together again. It had been far too long, and the distance achingly wide. But now that the relays were working again, it was possible.

Note to self: maybe don’t take out the relays next time he saved the universe. It made travel a nightmare to say the least.

At least it wasn’t a long wait. Out of the corner of his eye, Alistair spotted movement that didn’t quite track for tired med student. It was too focused for that, and the pace was all wrong anyway. Plus, the whole carapace and being like seven feet tall thing helped, but it didn’t sound nearly as cool as the former.

“Alright, just… relax. Like Bo said…”

Of course, that didn’t help the butterflies in his stomach as he stood, adjusting his shirt. All the logic in the world couldn’t have saved him then as he watched the turian approach, clearly scanning the crowd for familiar markers. His heart stopped when their eyes met in the crowd, blue into blue.

Garrus was looking good for someone who had nearly died killing Reapers.

“Al?”

There was no mistaking the surprise in the turian’s voice as he made his way over to the tree. When he finally got there, his mandibles flapped like flags in the wind. The gears were turning in his brain, no doubt running countless calibrations. In a weird way, it was kind of cute.

At the same time, it was fucking nerve wracking. Talk about a conflict of interest.

Still, it was Garrus, and he was finally there. That was enough to put a smile on Alistair’s face as he reached out to take the turian’s taloned hand. It was just as rough and warm as he remembered, and his fingers still stretched as they laced together. It might have been a little sore, but muscle memory wasn’t letting him down.

“Hey, babe. Good to see you got here in one piece.”

Thank the universe his voice didn’t crack with that one. Maybe this was the thanks he got for saving it.

At least Garrus had the good grace to not look as though his jaws had stopped working. Alistair did get to watch his eyes travel downward in the classic once-over, though. All the while, his stomach bubbled. It felt as though a heavy weight was poised to drop on his head, and all he could do was stand there and wait.

Eventually, the turian squeezed back carefully, the blunt side of his talons sliding down his fingers. “So, I guess this is why you’ve been so shy about video calling me lately?”

“My voice was cracking really badly up until about a month ago, you were saved a lot of translator feedback.” He smiled, sheepish. “But… yeah. I didn’t really know how things were going to turn out and…”

His voice trailed off as he felt heat leak into his cheeks. “Here’s hoping you still think I’m hot?”

Yep, his voice definitely cracked at the end there. Maybe the universe had it in for him after all. At least Garrus didn’t wince too hard at the sudden shift – good old turian military training there. Still, he hadn’t said anything yet. That… wasn’t promising.

Maybe he should have sent those dick pics?

“You… what’s that called again?” Garrus cocked his head to the side in a gesture that always made him look cute and kind of bird-like. “On your face. Joker was always talking about his.”

Right, turian…

“Beard. And mine’s not quite as good as his yet I’m afraid but give me a few months and I’ll see what I can do.” He chuckled nervously, rubbing the back of his neck with his free hand, fingers ghosting over his amp. It hadn’t seen action in almost a year now, and it was still odd to feel it cool to the touch.

Much to his relief, Garrus nodded. “It looks good now. I mean, you look good in general and all… I thought turian reactions to hormones were impressive, but humans are something else.”

“Gotta love those secondary sexual characteristics, babe.” Relief flooded through Alistair’s system as he sighed in relief. “And I think you just saved yourself getting your carapace ripped off by my sister.”

Hooray – that would have been a nightmare to fix.

Now it was the turian chuckling as he reached down to press his faceplates to his forehead in an alien version of a kiss. It was a gesture that always got his heart racing, even if it was just a quick peck. He had missed that in their time apart – texting just couldn’t beat actual contact.

“That’s probably for the best. I’ve not had a lot of practice lately, might be getting a little rusty.”

Alistair chuckled as they started to walk through the crowd. “You, rusty? I find that hard to believe.”

“Oh, no, it’s true. Barely had any time to run calibrations even, I’m starting to worry I’ll forget.”

That time, they shared a laugh between them. Maybe this was what Alistair had missed the most in the time spent on different planets – there was just something about the interplay between human and turian laughter that made his insides feel warm. Or maybe that was just his reaction to Garrus in general. Right then, anything was possible.

Still, he felt his face color a little as he looked to the side. “I’m sorry I didn’t send any in-progress shots. Bo could confirm any embarrassing details if you asked her.”

“Trust me, I get it. Remind me when we get back to your place to tell you about how I didn’t tell my sister I was going on hormones until after she came back from basic.” Another squeeze. “Of course, if you wanted to test that new vocal range out in some more strenuous conditions first…”

Oh, there was nothing friendly about that gaze. And it was something Alistair could appreciate as he squeezed back. Home was well prepped for what they both had in mind – they just had to get there first. Lucky for him, he lived within walking distance of campus.

The chuckle that escaped his lips was definitely not of the innocent afternoon type as he leaned in so only the turian could hear him. “I think that can be arranged, Vakarian. Better pick up the pace, though.”

“Sir, yes, sir.”

With that, it was off they went at a faster rate, not quite a run but definitely quick. With the sun shining and thoughts about what was waiting for him when he got home, Alistair was once again glad the whole universe saving thing had worked out for the better.

Now… what exactly was he going to do with the turian when he got home? The options were endless…

#merweek2021 #Alistair Shepard #garrus vakarian #ft. Bo Peep Shepard

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moonibinbon · 3 years

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Okay so thought I just had:

The amount of foreshadowing we're getting about Stolas dying in a future episode is... worrying at best. But I wonder if it might not be him that dies. I doubt it makes much sense, but the scenes from the trailer of his shocked expression while standing up and sitting at home at an empty table in his daughter's place could mean something else has the possibility of happening too. I mean, sure, maybe Stella just leaves and takes Octavia with her, but at this point that feels rather tame in the face of everything that's happened and the general tone of the show. Regardless of what happens, it's going to be a major loss involving Stolas somehow.

36 notes • Posted 2021-08-27 23:55:50 GMT

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So I don’t think the rings were what was hurting Kid in episode 6... I think the truck in the vision triggered a flashback (or possibly the stone can see forwards and backwards in time?) and what he was feeling more than anything was the moment he got his scar...

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Can I just say how much I absolutely adore every single Stellar Firma fic out there? (or on AO3 at least) almost Every Single romantic interaction (from general all the way up to explicit) is t4t, everyone gets to mess with gender, the relationships are focused on the characters, we've got casual body positivity abound, all kinds of experimentation, and of course heaps of anti-capitalism. This fandom makes me exorbitantly happy I love you all so much

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He lookin at him through the posts

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I love the differences between Alex and Johnny playing gagged.

Alex is all nice and simple, just covering his mouth with his palm and talking around it.

Meanwhile Johnny is over here full-tilt shoving his fist in his mouth like 10-month old toddler that’s realized he won’t choke if he does it right and trying to say the most identifiable “fuck you” he can without properly being able to speak the words or spitting all over the microphone

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gfriendlighting460 · 3 years

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Whether you love it or hate it, online dating is here to stay. It seems like most people use apps like Tinder and Bumble or sites like OKCupid and Match.com to find the next person they're going to date. But sometimes, online dating gets overwhelming. It can become a full time job. And there are no hard and fast rules for how to do it right. I went to the experts to find out their suggestions for what you should and shouldn't do when you're online dating.

Do stay safe

One of the most important things you can do when online dating is protect yourself. Unlike meeting a potential partner through a mutual friend, you don't know much about the people you meet online. Dr. Jaime Kulaga, life coach and PhD. told me, 'While dating online can produce long lasting relationships and happiness, sadly, the internet can be a place where people scam others and invade privacy.'

Be especially careful when meeting someone for the first time. Dr. Kulaga added, 'When you go out on a first date, make sure that friends or family know where you are going and never go to someone's house alone. Make sure that your first date is somewhere in public (movies, dinner, theme park, etc). Safety first!'

Do use photos that show the real you

While it might be tempting to use glamour shots of you that were taken ten years ago, don't do it. You want your photos to be an accurate representation of you so that when people meet you in real life, they get what they expect. Therapist Katie Krimer, MS, LMSW told me, 'If you are on dating sites, the first impression is everything! Unfortunately, these sites encourage people to judge based on physicality, more than the content of character — that's the nature of the online/app dating game.'

Krimer added, 'To maximize your success in meeting the right person, have photographs that are reflective of who you are and what you look like. The first photo is your first impression — try and remember that when you're coming up with your collection. Don't put up photos that are offensive or deceiving or that don't demonstrate who it is you really are.'

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Do go beyond photos when matching and liking

Even though photos are very important, don't discard a potential match just because of their appearance. David Bennett, certified counselor, relationship expert and co-author of seven self-help books, told me, 'Studies show most people base online dating primarily on the photos. While this isn't bad, it's the main reason so many people complain that sorting through the duds online is too much work, because just because someone looks good doesn't mean they are dating or relationship material.'

When choosing a partner, looks are only one part of the equation. Bennett suggested, 'Give personality more weight, and swipe left on guys and gals you know wouldn't be good for you, even if they're hot. You'll get higher quality matches.'

Do be self-aware in the process of dating

It's easy to get caught up worrying what your dates want and care about and to neglect your own wants and needs. One of the best things you can do in this process is to be self-aware. Krimer told me, 'Check in with yourself before you get out into the dating world or whilst dating.'

Krimer suggested that you ask yourself the following questions: 'What is it that might be affecting/might affect your dating experience? Do you like/love yourself? Do you know what you want and need? Are you ready to be in a serious relationship? Do you trust your judgment? What is your attachment style? What fundamental values do you want to align with your potential mate? Are you emotionally ready? Are you a good communicator?'

Relationships are complex, and it's important to recognize them as such. Krimer told me, 'Acknowledge all of the important factors that make a relationship healthy and work — are you confident in your ability to contribute to a relationship in these ways? If you experience difficulty in any of these areas, consider the fact that they may affect the outcome of your dating experiences. For example, people who have trouble loving themselves will often choose partners who will confirm their beliefs about themselves.'

Do keep it fun

While relationships are serious business, make sure that you enjoy yourself. Krimer told me in our interview, 'It's really easy to get caught up in the stresses of meeting someone — let alone meeting the right someone.'

Instead of letting yourself get stressed out, she suggested, 'Make a conscious choice to think of ways to find enjoyment in meeting new people and putting yourself out there — focus on the process instead of the outcome. If you put too much pressure on the expectation of meeting someone, you're much more likely to feel disappointed or discouraged if it's not what you expect it to be.'

Do keep your bigger goals in mind

I've seen many friends let their longterm goals go out the window when they meet someone they really like, but who may not be a great long term match. Krimer suggested that you keep your goals front and center. She said, 'Do know your goals for what you're looking for — what are your intimacy and relationship needs? Are the people you're meeting matching those needs? Are you getting into relationships with people with conflicting relationship goals (i.e. you want a long term relationship, but your current partner just sees it as a casual fling)? Being honest with yourself and others about what it is you want in a relationship can help prevent unnecessary stress or uncertainty later on.'

Choose to spend your time on online platforms where you are more likely to meet other people with similar goals. Dr. Kulaga told me, 'There are online dating sites for everyone's desires. Whether you are looking for a long-lasting relationship or just want to 'play the field' for a while, online dating has you covered. However, you want to keep your bigger goals in mind when entering some of these dating sites.'

She added, 'If your desire is to find someone looking for a long term relationship, you wouldn't want to sign up for a dating site that is known for short term flings. You are doing yourself a disservice when you waste time and energy on dealing with things that don't directly impact your bigger goal.'

Do use a variety of apps

Speaking of choosing apps carefully when online dating, it's a good idea not to limit yourself to just one. Bennett told me, 'Different apps have different strengths and weaknesses. It may take some time to find which app is right for you. Some apps cater more toward a younger demographic, while others skew older. Some focus more on relationships, while others seem geared toward flings and dating around.'

While most of the apps and sites have particular reputations, don't let that keep you from trying them out. Bennett added, 'Your own experience of these apps may defy the typical experience. Try a variety of apps for a few months and then go from there.'

Don't be lazy when using online platforms

It can be tedious to fully fill out your profile when you're on a dating site, but buckle down and do it anyway. You'll save a lot of time you would have spent going out with the wrong people. Dr. Kulaga told me, 'If you are dating online and have an opportunity to fill out a profile or inventory about who you are, and what you like/dislike, do it!' She explained that this is the best way to find someone who is a good fit for your wants, desires, and personality. You are representing yourself in your profile, and that's the first impression potential matches are going to see. She said: 'Invest the time and effort into attracting the right person.'

When you reach out to a potential match, take the time to write something thoughtful. Bennett told me in our interview, 'Don't use a boring or standard opening message. Online dating is very competitive, and some people have anywhere from hundreds to even thousands of likes, matches, and messages to sort through. A hey or WYD isn't going to cause you to stand out.'

Don't take it personally if someone isn't interested

When I was online dating, the first date usually led to disappointment, and it was hard not to get discouraged and feel down about myself. But in most cases, it's not worth it to take rejection personally. Dr. Kulaga told me, 'If someone doesn't respond to a request you sent them or someone doesn't follow up after a first date, move on.'

Not only does it feel bad to internalize every rejection, it can also keep you from meeting someone you click with. Dr. Kulaga continued, 'If you sulk, ruminate and dwell on the fact that someone didn't come through on a follow up, this will hold you back from meeting the real Mr. or Ms. Right.' She explained that ruminating can lower your confidence, preventing you from putting yourself back out there and meeting someone who is an even better match.

Celebrate your mismatches instead of getting upset about them. In Dr. Kulaga's words, 'Be happy the person didn't come through and you didn't waste any more of your precious time. Move on.' Instead of dwelling on rejections, spend your time remembering what's great about you. Krimer told me, 'Going into the dating world knowing that you have a lot to offer can really buffer some of the potential effects of dates not working out and can help you not to personalize dating experiences that may be perceived as rejection.'

Don't keep dating someone if they're not a good fit

It can be tempting to keep talking to someone, even if a little voice at the back of your mind is telling you they're not right for you. Dr. Kulaga told me it's better to move on when that happens. She said, 'If you are emailing someone back and forth and recognize this person is not a good fit for you, or you go on a date that just wasn't your cup of tea, let the person know. Be upfront and don't lead people on. Not only does this waste their time, it is wasting yours.'

On the same note, it's important that you be honest about what you're looking for so that you don't end up dating someone who is wrong for you. Krimer told me, 'Be upfront about what you're looking for when meeting people. In this day and age, the word clingy gets thrown around a lot — someone who is secure and emotionally mature will be open to hearing about your readiness for a relationship, and you should feel safe in expressing at least a general sense of what you want from a dating experience.'

https://gfriendlighting460.tumblr.com/post/657825314304589824/best-dating-websites-for-19-year-olds. When you trust your intuition and you're clear about what you're looking for, you'll spend more time dating people who are a better fit for you, raising your chances of finding someone you can see yourself with long-term.

Don't jump to the finish line

While you want to be honest about what you're looking for in a partner, don't let your desire to get married and have kids get in the way when you first start dating someone. Dr. Kulaga told me, 'If your ultimate goal is to get married and you go on a first and second date with someone dreamy, don't blurt out the marriage countdown! You will scare this perfect match away!'

Instead, she suggested, 'Enjoy the journey and take your time in a relationship. You might be dying to show off an engagement ring on social media, or you might feel like you are last on your list of friends to marry, but don't jump to that finish line just yet. Enjoy the process, get to know the person and create memories before you drag them into your pre-written agenda.'

Don't play games

You're probably well-aware of the spoken and unspoken dating 'rules,' but when it comes to finding a potential partner, it's better to just drop the game-playing. Krimer told me, 'If you went on a date and had a terrific time, don't buy into the game-playing and rules. Let that person know soon after your first date that you really enjoyed your time!'

You may think this will make you seem too eager, but it will actually help you see if they're a good match more quickly. Krimer continued, 'They'll either reciprocate if they felt the same way, or you will know by their response or behaviour if they aren't interested in pursuing anything further. There's no need to wait days before you text or call — if you like someone, let them know it!'

Don't let them get away with poor communication

I can't count the number of times my friends have complained that the men they meet online don't call or text them enough. It seems like poor communication has become standard in online dating. But it doesn't have to be. If they want to communicate with you, they will. And if they don't, cut them loose.

Krimer told me, 'Don't buy the I'm really busy with work excuse to justify lack of communication — I've had patients who are in relationships with doctors who work 17 hour days and still manage to text their partners in breaks between OR time. We're all busy people — but we know that we make time when we want to make time.'

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When someone you're dating doesn't respond to your texts, it hurts. But don't just brush it off. Krimer told me, 'Don't fall into the he's/she's just a bad texter trap to continuously excuse poor communication. Even if texting isn't someone's main mode of communicating, if they are ready and interested in pursuing a relationship, it will be reflected in their behaviour. They will absolutely find a way to check in, keep you in the loop, and make themselves available to talk.'

Don't rush the dating process

Unfortunately, the dating process can take awhile. Even getting on that first date can feel difficult. Bennett told me, 'Don't expect to get a date right away. Statistics show that around one third of online dating users never go on a date. The number was as high as seventy percent without a date in one study focused on Tinder. These apps aren't magic, and going from matching and messaging to an actual date is pretty much just as hard online as it is in the offline world.'

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Instead of getting anxious to 'meet the one' already, Krimer suggested, 'Engage in the dating experience with a different mindset. Don't look at it as a success or failure, but rather as an adventure you're taking on.' She added, 'Remind yourself of your great qualities and that dating can feel exhausting and it can take a lot of time to meet someone with whom you feel really connected.'

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Take a deep breath. Ready?

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There is no answer.

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16. Use some of your flirting skills from being at the bar while you are online. Realize those skills don’t translate. A lot of people online are too shy to go out, so they will not know how to respond to you. You may be seen as forward, or at least not shy enough. Carry on.

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Brook is a queer trans woman living in Portland who hangs out with her cat, and does all manner of technical magic for a software company. She travels as often as possible, and can often be found on her couch, reading and enjoying a cider.

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