#but then being shitty in the next appointment once they realise we have complicated problems and trauma and stuff

[thethingything]

also though this dentist is genuinely the best dentist we've ever had.

she was really understanding about us having issues with toothpaste and we asked if she had any recommendations for alternatives we could try to see if those help and she gave us some options to look into so that's cool.

she also took our medical trauma into account and kept checking if we were okay throughout the appointment and asking if we needed to take breaks and we've never had a dentist do that before.

she warned us about what each tool would feel like too and actually warned us if something was going to be painful which like, I would in fact rather be warned that "this is going to be uncomfortable in this way" and "yeah this is gonna feel really bad for a few days but that's normal" than have someone try to reassure us that it won't be that bad only for it to get really painful.

our next appointment is to have a tooth removed and she explained the procedure to us and how that normally goes, and then we asked if we can take the tooth home afterwards and I can only assume from the look on her face that she's never been asked that before, but she was like "yeah I don't see why not, it is yours after all" so that's cool

[monochromesauron]

Mentions of miscarriage underneath.

So I’m pregnant. This is great and awesome. We have been trying since January last year. So in total it’s been 19 months now.

This has been an emotional rollercoaster full of late periods and sudden hopes and despair as it kept coming back negative.

At the 12 months of trying, right before I was about to be checked for fertility problems, I got pregnant in December.

And I had a miscarriage in February.

My body didn’t realise it had happened and it continued building all the structures and producing all the hormones as if it was a perfectly healthy pregnancy.

It only showed up once I had an ultrasound and they could see it wasn’t growing.

I’m now seven weeks pregnant, and I want to get an early ultrasound next week to make sure it isn’t happening again.

But I am only just come to terms with the previous miscarriage. And the procedure to remove everything was extremely emotionally and physically traumatic. I reacted quite dramatically to the medicine and… it was awful.

And I can’t bring myself to book the appointment. Until I see the ultrasound I’m okay. And it’s not rational but I’m … I don’t have the words but it’s shitty.

I know the miscarriage wasn’t my fault. The doctors agree, it was just pure bad luck.

And I’m so happy I’m pregnant. I have never been cheerful about being nauseous 24/7 and condemned to constant back aches and sore everything and intestinal distress,

I also have some intensively complicated emotions about my body changing and gender dysphoria and the complications about my job.

I have a pretty physical job that normally involves a lot of lifting and asking for allowances from work is kinda difficult for me. Necessary tho and I’m managing.

And the dietary changes and stuff are kinda hard to get used to. I used to drink a lot of coffee and that’s what I expected to be the biggest thing but the food aversions.

Dear god the food aversions.

Im happy but it’s also a lot and I’m allowed to be a bit frazzled by the whole thing.

So I just have to get through the ultrasound and the NIPT test to ensure it’s healthy,

And I’m supposed to not be stressed lol.