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healingheartdogs · 1 year
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Doctors visits as an AFAB person that have absolutely nothing to do with potential pregnancy and do not at all match symptoms of pregnancy be like:
Doc: "When was your last period?"
Me: "I'm currently on my period, it started (date)."
Doc: "And are you on any birth control?"
Me: "Yeah I have the nexplanon arm implant."
Doc: "And are you currently sexually active?"
Me: "Nope, haven't been for years."
~ Fifteen minutes later ~
Doc: "Well your pregnancy test (that we didn't tell you we were doing or ask your consent for) came back negative so it's not that."
No. Fucking. Duh.
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Vanessa's Letter to her Father
Well father, it seems we both lose.
When in my previous letter I stated this posting would be the most dull job in the Empire, I was terribly mistaken. Wherein my duties were that much of a man’s job, the monks are far more stubborn than I had anticipated. And, as I hate to admit, far more charming. They have the gall to oppose me, and recognize that most of my actions were in violation of some code or law, and took action with superior powers accordingly. Normally I would look past this.
One monk gave me notice he was medically required to take a chastity elixir. I told him he should “Just rub it out in a closet like the rest of us.” - To which he thoroughly refused. Again and again, he came into my office. Hardly losing his patience with me… Yes I suppose I was charmed by that. Someone was actually willing to treat me nicely in spite of not just my denial of his request, but not once did he ever shame me for being a halfbreed, nor did he ever insult me for my weight. Your devil-wife and her putrid fruit should learn a thing or two. And indeed, you should take notes as well, as in spite of what the inquisitor will say, the entanglement between I and this monk was entirely consensual.
My legal mind suggests I have already elaborated on the situation too much, in case they check these letters. Though without enough evidence to detain me yet, I fear they will make up some or use all of my past, non-criminal charges as a dambreaker. This one monk informs me the Inquisitor in charge of my investigation considers his word, and his consent, void, so there is little chance I will escape this trial alive.
Does it hurt you to know I will die? To be executed, no less? Your reckless power-tripping allowed me to be conceived into this forsaken world. Your degeneracy just so happened to run rampant on an Odoshi. And the fact you kept it is the most sickening. You saw the abomination you created and you decided to let it live. I was born on my back, and all anyone has ever done was kick me before I could get up. If you had cared for me you would have stopped them, and allowed me to stand before leaving me on my own. I wonder if you have committed the same abuses to other women, are there more Thorssen bastards out there? I bet their lives are richer than mine, where despite all the privileges of living in this society, nothing will fill the void you, your wife, and your other spawn have carved into me.
Your obese failure of a daughter, 
Vanessa.
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destroyyourbinder · 4 years
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Unriddling the Sphinx: Autism & the Magnetism of Gender Transition
When people note that "trans children" tend to have autistic traits and that children with an autism diagnosis (particularly natal girls, but also boys) are massively overrepresented in the population that is referred to assessment and treatment for gender dysphoria, many trans people's (and allies') response is that it is a kind of dehumanization and denial of agency to claim that autistic people cannot be transgender, do not have the right to seek gender transition, or that they may be vulnerable to being exploited by the transgender healthcare system. Most recently, this claim has come up again with regards to a recent piece by Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling, where among many other things she notes the enormous increase in child referrals to gender clinics, including a disproportionate number of autistic children, to explain her reticence to endorse the political stances of modern transgender movements.
This is my response as an autistic woman, who was once an autistic child, who is a lesbian with experiences of gender dysphoria and who once wanted to transition to male.
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Recognizing our vulnerability to social predation and to cultural systems that we do not understand because they were not made for us is not offensive. As autistic people, it is key to claiming our autonomy as a particular kind of disabled person. We often do not recognize our limitations in reference to greater social systems not because we are "too stupid" (i.e. cognitively or intellectually limited) but because we have different value systems than neurotypical people and hierarchical institutions built for their benefit. Autism is a pervasive developmental disability, and it is a way of being. It is not merely being a "regular person" minus various clinically defined psychological capacities or skills. It is a difference across all domains of life, and as a disability that causes differences in our social and sensory perception it is also a disability that causes differences in what we want and what we care about. Both those who exhibit condescending "concern" for autistic people and those people who naively defend our right to do whatever we see fit miss this component of being autistic. It is not that we are merely vulnerable because we are missing parts of our decision-making or social skills apparatus. It is not that we are merely being unfairly denied what we want to do, and our autism is immaterial, just some excuse for the denial.
It's that we aren't recognized as having wants, only "special needs". It's that we aren't given the skills to know what it is that we want, or that it might be different from those around us. It's that we are never told how to get what we want in safe and healthy ways, or that there is even a potentially safe and healthy way to get it. It's that we are deemed automatically pathological and empty of internal experiences as autistic people. It's that we're not given any help on how to navigate our deep differences from others and how to navigate being deprived of social resources and networking in a way that doesn't tell us to just cover it up and deal with it. It's that most people who dedicate their lives to "helping" us do not care about any of these things, merely that we can be trained to act in a way that doesn't disrupt the lives of neurotypical people. Given this context, it is far more insulting to me to insist that having autonomy renders us somehow invulnerable to exploitation than to correctly perceive that we are in fact an intensely vulnerable people. By nature of our disability, we are always on the margins of social resources and social networks, and exercising our autonomy unfortunately often puts us even further outside social acceptability and social protection rather than somehow shielding us materially from the consequences of living a self-actualized autistic life. Few autistic people are prepared for this when they begin trying to make decisions "true to self" in adolescence.
I believe nearly every autistic person is traumatized from the consequences of living in this world and what others do to us. Clinicians do not usually recognize that autistic children and adults can be traumatized, that there is even anything there to traumatize. (Why else could they feel so comfortable shocking us, shackling us, or feeding us bleach?)
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I think because we are not neurotypical we often struggle to understand just why a neurotypical person would feel ok excluding us, or maybe even anyone. Many of us autistic people have little impulse to do such things, and if we do, we rarely have the social power to make someone that we've cut out of our lives unemployable, unable to access medical care, food, housing, and so on. But neurotypical institutions are set up, from top to bottom, to create hierarchies of value with extreme material difference between the top and bottom. They are set up to stratify the "worthy" people from "unworthy" people.
Autistic people are almost universally considered "unworthy" in these systems, and to the extent that we can curry favor from them we must consent to our exploitation: to entering into a transaction on neurotypical terms, where we can get some sort of worth through providing a "benefit" to this hierarchical resource system which is not made according to our value system or for us whatsoever. This is common to all marginalized people. But it is often particularly poignant to autistic people, who struggle to find community with any social group of human beings. There is no "elsewhere" for us, there is no "home". We are stuck, as they say, on the "wrong planet", and the spaceship was destroyed.
The idea that exercising our autonomy would protect us from this world rather than render us more vulnerable because we are refusing to transact correctly or refusing to provide a benefit is utterly absurd. Our autonomy is perfectly compatible with our continued social ostracization and exploitation. It usually coexists with our continued social ostracization and exploitation.
In social skills classes-- or just the wild, wild world-- you are not taught how to deal with the fact that everyone will hate you for being you. You are taught to be someone else. You are not taught about your native autonomy. You are taught about how to put your hands here or here, how to choose between actions that are condescendingly and ridiculously normal. You are not taught how to take responsibility in a way you understand, that is harmonious to your own values and others'. You are taught to hold yourself accountable for your abnormality.
So forgive me if I do not believe for one second that impersonal, well-funded medical systems that were built off of medically experimenting on intersex children and adults (the nightmares wreaked by John Money at Johns Hopkins) or psychologically experimenting on behaviorally aberrant children (UCLA, where behaviorist torturer of autistic children Ivan Lovaas tinkered with gender nonconforming children alongside conversion therapist George Rekers) have autistic people's self-defined well being in mind.
And forgive me if I do not think informed consent clinics have autistic people's self-defined well-being in mind when they're more interested in rubber stamping hormones while shielding themselves from legal liability than assisting autistic adolescents and adults, who have an intrinsically different way of understanding gendered social norms, navigate the enormous complexity of how to interface with the single most fundamental social fixation of the neurotypical world as someone who will always and automatically fail.
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I do not think most gender clinicians even have the first understanding of what it means to be autistic and what this does in and of itself to your understanding of gender and sexuality. What J.K. Rowling said in her piece-- a straightforward accounting of facts-- is far, far less insulting to me than what Diane Ehrensaft-- one of the premier "experts" in the United States on pediatric transgender cases-- published in a peer-reviewed journal on autism. In a 2018 letter to the editor reading remarkably like new-age material on Indigo Children, she writes that she likes to call autistic transgender children "Double Helix Rainbow Kids" and declares us "freed" from the restrictions of gender as "more creative" individuals. This article ends with an anecdote about an eight year old autistic female child with limited language use who begins speaking, making eye contact, and relating more appropriately with clinic staff after she is socially transitioned by her family. Ehrensaft muses, "“Could gender be an alleviator for the stressors of autism?”
She is not the only one to pontificate about the magical changes a gender transition brings on autistic children. Norman Spack (the first clinician in the US to use GnRH agonists on gender dysphoric children as puberty-suppressing drugs) claims in a coauthored, peer-reviewed 2012 paper (insults upon insults, in the Journal of Homosexuality) that in his clinical experience the symptoms of comorbid diagnoses--including "problems with social competence"-- "decrease and even disappear" with gender treatment. In the same paper, this passage appears:
Although the question of whether gender dysphoria is simply a symptom of an autism spectrum disorder has been raised by mental health clinicians in the field, we feel it is equally worth questioning the validity of an autism diagnosis among transgender youth, particularly of those diagnosed with Asperger’s disorder. Perhaps the social awkwardness and lack of peer relationships common among GID-Asperger’s patients is a result of a lifetime of feeling isolated and rejected; and maybe the unusual behavior patterns are simply a coping method for dealing with the anxiety and depression created from living in an “alien body,” as one patient described it.
Do autistic trans people-- who rightfully protest against mainstream autism organizations focusing on a "cure" for autism rather than respectful accommodations for our differences and medical needs-- know that very well-connected, very respected, and very powerful gender doctors are claiming that gender transition cures the symptoms of autism? Do autistic trans people-- who rightfully discuss the implications of denying that someone can both be autistic and hold a meaningful gender variant identity-- know that it is an active clinical debate as to whether or not their disability and all its struggles is "just" a result of somehow ending up in the "wrong body"?
If they do not, they should know that this is how doctors are perceiving the pervasive issues that the children in their care are having: not as the result of a life-long, stigmatized, but eminently livable disability, but as the result of a mystical gender failure that can be medically corrected. That essentially, the disability "goes away" so long as outsiders no longer perceive a problem with a child's conformity to gender norms. That either an autistic girl somehow is transfigured into a non-autistic child through transition, or more likely, an autistic girl's autistic behavior is unfitting for her as a girl but not for her as a boy. That the "proof" of pediatric transition's effectiveness and standard of an autistic child's happiness is how much the child wishes to participate in neurotypical society on neurotypical society's terms.
I cannot pretend that this isn't ludicrously disrespectful to autistic people, or that it isn't a total erasure of our experience as human beings. To these gender doctors, the fact that a girl might see the world in a different way and care about different things and thereby struggle in a world not made for her does not matter whatsoever, except maybe as a tokenistic "journey" she can go on alongside her wonderfully progressive and affirming doctors. What "autism" is for them is a particularly severe and inconvenient social adjustment problem which can be forcibly corrected through body modifications, should an autistic child or adult rightly note that they can't do gender right and this is causing problems for them. They are more interested-- like in a long history of abusive and even deadly "treatments" for autism-- in correcting the problem for them than for the autistic person. How convenient for neurotypical people both the gender incongruous behavior and the social noncompliance goes away once you medically modify a child to look like the other sex.
I cannot be anything but sick that "increased eye contact" is a sign an autistic child needed medical meddling in the intimate process of navigating and negotiating their sexual and gender development. I cannot trust that these doctors aren't missing enormous parts of their autistic patients' experiences, if this is what they are so gleeful to report as a positive transformation and their justification for disrupting and surveilling children's bodies. What do they think of autistic people and those who are gender non-conforming if they are so willing to believe that existing as a person with a stigmatized disability is actually just a misdiagnosis for the pseudoscientific condition of being a man in a woman's body, or vice versa?
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It takes many, many years and quite a bit of luck and support for most autistic people to fully understand and come to terms with how their autism affects them and sets them apart from both individual neurotypical people and neurotypical society at large. It takes years-- often far, far into adulthood, especially for those abused under a medical model or for those who went decades undiagnosed-- to understand the differences between social and non-social aspects of this disability.
It takes years to not resort to chalking up all of your own distress and difficulties to being a "retard".
I have not met an autistic woman yet who did not have extreme difficulty integrating her autistic differences in values with a broader sense of self that includes whatever version of herself she uses to navigate a world in which women's values are simultaneously invisible (since she has no right to determine them herself) and nitpicked to death (since it is important she complies).
In a world like this why would it not be difficult for autistic people to know when it is they are being fooled or exploited while participating in transgender communities or while seeking transgender health care? Autistic people-- especially those who are dependent on caregivers or health systems for basic care, as well as those who depend on the goodwill of their families, employers, or welfare benefit institutions to remain as independent as they can-- have to make continual compromises just to maintain enough acceptability to communicate with the outside world nonetheless do things like "make a friend", "go to the doctor", "find a job".
I do not think neurotypical people understand or care that when I speak or write it is always with a similar effort as with a second language. Language-- whether it is verbal or nonverbal, with all the extensive symbology of the neurotypical world-- does not ever get to be something other than "translation" for me. As someone with an Asperger's-profile of abilities who has studied the neurotypical world intensely for years, I have the opportunity to translate in a way that allows others to understand me at least some of the time. Many autistic people who are more affected live in the world which gives "autism" its name, where nobody cares to do the translation for us and we are left totally and utterly alone.
The 20th century philosopher Ludwig Wittgenstein (who, perhaps not coincidentally, was likely autistic) was fixated on questions about the meaning of communication. About whether a language of one could make any sense, about what it would mean to speak about something hidden from everyone else or perhaps even ourselves. In a famous passage debated vociferously, he wrote, "If a lion could speak, we would not be able to understand him."
Many have resolved the question posed by this statement by claiming that for fuck's sake, a lion is a lion, and has nothing to say.
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Gender transition appealed to me because it was cloaked in the farcical notion that there was some version of me and my body that could finally speak directly. I never quite understood the whole Adam and Eve story as an autistic child-- just don't eat it!-- but if there truly were a serpent's apple for autistic folks it would consist of this promise: that there was a world where the glass and the fog would dissolve, that we weren't covered in a repulsive and bumbling slime made of our own desires to understand, that instead of our words and hands glancing off the skin of everyone around us we could do that magic everyone else could and hold someone's heart in our hands. I was fooled because like many struggling autistic people, I wanted the problem to be me. Because then it was fixable. I would let them take my only body (which was such a sensory drag) to convert me into one of these blessed transponders that normal people were, receiving and sending all these messages like shooting stars blazing through the unimpeded vacuum of space. Without my femaleness and without the Difficulties That Should Not Be Named, I could send whatever message I wanted to whoever I wanted and it would be received, I could be gregarious, important, sexually compelling; my will and autonomy wouldn't be stifled by 140 pounds of dumpy, itchy flesh with an overbite and slack hands.
When I imagined myself as a man I didn't imagine myself like most of the childhood boys I managed to ingratiate myself with, who lisped, repeated themselves, and tripped over their own shoes. I imagined myself as a musician who was absolutely magnetic, I imagined myself as a writer with a legacy, I imagined myself telling other guys they were stupid shits and they could fuck off. I imagined being able to hold onto a football without dropping it, being able to smoke weed without getting a migraine, being able to talk without squeaking or letting out a little drool.
I thought I would finally be a human being with no embarrassments and nothing that could get me bullied in the bathroom between class. I thought when I would say "no", other people would listen. I would enter whatever mystical world it is that Ehrensaft names, made of messages and meanings, where every twist of word and piece of clothing said something, connected by a fine filament back to that Necronomicon filled with the runes of social symbology. And it would make sense.
I would become a lion, not a house cat. And the lion would speak. And we would understand him.
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It is a neurotypical narrative that this is what transition can do for you, because it is what someone else's transition does for neurotypical people. A gender transition is magical because it decodes the lion. It unriddles the sphinx. The autistic person must be happier now, because the neurotypical person is happier now. (And who has an empathy deficit?)
But if I have learned to be afraid of anything as an autistic person it is not my own neuroticism and fixations, but those of the so-called "normal people". Forget double helix rainbows: being an autistic person is like your DNA is a converted school bus trundling through the world in spray-painted glory and the whole world has an HOA. I understand why autistic people who see themselves as transgender see "concern" as the busybody stupidity of the neurotypical world. They aren't wrong. But it exists alongside other mundane and brutal busybody stupidities, such as grant funding, progressive saviorism, and psychiatric god-complexes.
To understand and resist what the neurotypical world communicates to us about our worth is not to protest back to them in their own language. I am an autistic woman and like many other autistic women I am tired of not only making myself more palatable but translating my existence into something intelligible to outsiders, who are both men and the non-autistic. Radical feminists miss one of these; trans activists and allies miss the other. But I am irrevocably othered from both.
When you are autistic you are taught only one symbolic structure. It is not your own, but it is the only medium you will ever have to communicate with any complexity. More sinisterly, it becomes the only medium we have to communicate to ourselves, the only medium we can use to work around the silent and jumbled parts of our bodies and minds. Am I hungry? It is not always obvious. To ask the question I find myself translating, even when alone.
My fantasy about lions and men was that whatever world a lion lived in and whatever he had to say, he did not need to translate, and especially never to himself. When a lion says something he does not stop to ask if he means what he says or who is saying it. When a lion looks into the water hole and sees his own reflection, he does not need to reconcile anything. The lion does not need to speak to understand himself. A lion is made of teeth and blood and claws and the lion just does.
I do not use the symbolism of transgenderism to explain the little gaps and incongruities that are my problems with gender, with my sexed body, with sexuality. It is not only a language born of neurotypical neuroses and regulation, but it is always and forever fundamentally a translation. As an autistic woman I have spent my whole life avoiding these dual facts, through both my time thinking of myself as trans and while trying to understand this whole thing afterwards: I am my body and I am not my body. Because I speak, but I do not understand. Because I understand, but I do not speak.
I will, unavoidably, always have to translate to speak and understand. But my autonomy requires that at bottom I must respect the native communication of my own body and mind. I refuse to use force or coercion to get it to talk, to interrupt its silence, to confabulate stories on its behalf, to speak for it using assumptions it cannot confirm or deny. I have to make peace with the fact that sometimes the blanks of my body or the redacted corners of my mind will say nothing. I have to make peace with the fact that translation is always inaccurate, that something is always beyond that constellation of symbols and words. The autistic body and the autistic mind have their own boundaries, and I refuse to believe that exercising my autonomy requires breaking them.
I do not know if J.K. Rowling knows this. I hope you do.
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transfemininomenon · 5 years
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Hey, i'm actually a "truscum" i found out recently, but im a little confused on the whole ordeal. Im not even sure if i actually am truscum or not- because some posts seem to tie up with me being one but others dont, but i saw you were really against them, so i wanted to ask if you're okay with a friendly calm conversation about it? I am very confused and i just want to learn a bit more or find out if i'm wrong about the whole ordeal. Are you open to it?
i'll be honest im not sure how friendly i can be with this kind of conversation because i really truly genuinely, and i don't use this word lightly, Hate truscum and its hard for me to really be civil about the discussion. but for the sake of this and me giving you a lot of benefit of the doubt that this ask is in good faith i'll explain why i do not like the entire truscum ideology
1. i guess i'll start off with the Big One - the claim that dysphoria is Required to be trans. i'll preface this by saying that i am someone who has experienced, and currently Experiences in wildly different degrees depending on what is happening in my life, dysphoria throughout my entire life. i had my entire teenage and young adult years stolen from me by it. i won't get into details about it because that is a Very Very Personal subject for me, but needless to say dysphoria is something that was a very prevalent part of my life.
anyway. the notion that dysphoria is a Trans Requirement™ is something that i hugely disagree with. i used to think that me figuring out i was a trans woman was because i experienced dysphoria, but frankly the opposite is true. dysphoria is what made me refuse to believe i was a woman or could ever be one. it made me believe i was a man and that was all i would ever be. it wasn't until i really started experimenting with my gender and unpacking a lot of stuff i felt about myself that i started to finally realize the woman i was. i first started trying our she/her pronouns nearing four years now, and started using the name Alice a few months after that. being referred to as a woman & experimenting with different feminine things gave me such incredible feelings of euphoria that i still experience to this day whenever i discover something new about my identity.
and that is something ive heard from SO many other trans people i know. or different things too - i know people who are completely fine with their bodies, just certain words and terms never felt Right to them. because the thing with dysphoria is that it, like all things gender related, is a product of society. dysphoria only exists because transphobia exists - people are told that there are these two rigid things that you are and HERE is what makes you one of those things, and those things are drilled into you literally since birth. everything from colors to jobs to hobbies to cars to entertainment to clothing to Literally Everything is gendered, and when that happens then of fucking course there are gonna be people who don't fall in line with that, and when it's so instilled into people and seen as such societal norms of COURSE people are going to have trouble with that.
and that's not even getting into the subject of gender on a biological level. the fact of the matter is that the two sex system Isn't True and that biological sex is very complicated. intersex people exist, people with all kinds of different chromosomes exist, people of certain body types that have higher levels of different hormones exist, SO much goes into that subject that frankly narrowing it down to two things just doesn't Work
and that's the real problem at the end of the day. dysphoria only exists because of a fucked up gender binary that clashes with both biology and sociology. people are complicated on both a biological and personal level and having set binaries for things is bound to cause confusion & doubt.
like, people's identities are SUCH personal things in so many different ways. there isn't any Right Way™ to be trans. i know trans women with beards, trans women who have no interest in starting hrt, trans men who wear dresses and makeup, non-binary people who make no effort to be androgynous, i know SO many different identities and different people. because the fact is that there's no right way to be trans because nothing is inherently gendered including people's very bodies. people are themselves and there is no Right way to be themselves.
that's on top of the lack of education when it comes to the subject of gender. such a huge part too of me figuring out i was trans was literally learning that it was even a fucking option. i genuinely didn't know just Being A Girl was an option. reading up on gender stuff and researching the different idea of transitioning was intrinsic in my figuring out who i was because oh shit turns out there are people like me and that is Okay.
like, dysphoria literally could've been a non-issue for me. i could've lived in a world where i could just Exist and enjoy whatever i wanted without it being weird. i could've decided so much sooner that i wasn't happy with the way my body was growing and not spent my entire teen years being so confused why i was so sad seeing my girl peers. i could have from the start just gotten to be a girl and never have had dysphoria be part of the equation.
im not trans being i experience dysphoria. im trans because being a woman is rad as hell and it's what i wanted. im trans because changing my name to Alice was the biggest moment of my entire life. im trans because rebelling against the societal restraints of gender is fucking metal. im trans because my friends can't even remember me ever not being me now. im trans because im a great older sister. im trans because god nerfed me and i said nah thanks man but im not feeling it.
my identity and my gender are very personal and complicated things, and narrowing it down to "i experience dysphoria" is frankly insulting to me.
anyway, that's the big point out of the way, so here's some shorter ones
2. this is kinda expanding on the last point, but truscum both insisting non-binary people aren't a thing and them insisting "transtrenders" exist is hmm Bad
the sheer fact of the matter is the concept of being non-binary has existed from the oldest known records of human history on TOP of that concept being prevalent in many different cultures so what do ya know there's a healthy dose of racism involved in the denial of non-binary people. the gender binary is such a western concept and there are SO many different cultures where different gender identities exist.
and, frankly, going back to the above point that gender is fucking Fake and is a societal concept - again, of fucking course there are going to be people who see a rigid set of rules on gender and are like "well wait that doesn't fit me" so of COURSE non-binary people exist
on the subject of "transtrenders" i feel like i shouldn't even HAVE to get into this subject because of how inherently transphobic it is. the concept doesn't exist. there are people who experiment with their gender and then decide their assigned one is fine. there are people who go through all kinds of different identities. there are people who come out as a different gender and then revert back due to backlash. there are people who get told the way they present their gender is the Wrong Way™ and get branded a trender. it's a dangerous thought process that literally does nothing but serve the cis status quo and make people afraid to experiment and think about their identities.
3. the idea that Those Evil Trenders™ are stealing resources from the Real Trans People™ is, frankly, fucking bullshit. issues when it comes to trans people finding difficulty accessing healthcare comes from a transphobic society hellbent on denying us care on top of fucked up healthcare systems in general. hormones aren't some limited quality hard to acquire thing - when i started hrt transferring my prescription from my clinic to my local pharmacy was a non-issue because it's something basically any pharmacy will have for ALL kinds of different purposes. it's an issue because healthcare in general is a god damn Mess on TOP of inherent transphobia
and, frankly, truscum are directly involved in that transphobia in the medical field. unless you find an informed consent clinic you're going to have to jump through all kinds of hoops to prove you're Actually Trans™ by getting referrals from other (almost always cis) people and then get put on ridiculous waitlists to make sure you're not about to change your mind. that kind of attitude is only encouraged by truscum and it is one of the biggest source of trans people having such difficulty accessing healthcare.
4. truscum as far as im concerned are no different than any other transphobe. two years ago before i started hrt i was harassed by truscum multiple times, each time having them tell me i wasn't trans, that i was just a trender, and it genuinely boggles my mind that anyone thinks misgendering me because i disagreed with their ideology is Woke, actually. I've seen so many fellow trans women getting called men by truscum who disagreed with them. i was actively told i shouldn't start hrt because i "wasn't really trans and was gonna ruin my life"
i really hope all of people live in anger every day knowing ive been on hrt over a year and a half and am fucking Thriving
anyway that's all i got to say on the matter i realize my points became less thought out as it went on but frankly the first point is enough for me to not like truscum
(please refrain from reblogging this i don't want any clowns in my inbox)
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NINA MOGHADDAM GRAY AKA NINA FRAUD is PSYCHOTIC and a PROVEN DELUSIONAL LIAR! 
She publicly talked about being a Dentist, voluntarily working in underprivileged areas, when in reality she got her Dental License REVOKED, because she LIED to numerous patients to her advantages and her mental state, who've won their lawsuits against Dr. Nina Gray resulting in her Dental License to be revoked by the Dental Board of California. Nina Gray has no choice but to work in an underprivileged Dental Office under Probation and Supervision by a Male Dentist. In the following Link you can watch her YouTube Video on how she is in DENIAL and LIES to millions of innocent people, about her current employment situation. For your information, Nina works there 7 days a week and not 3 days a week as she mentions and having multiple side Businesses, including working as an ESCORT. A source who would like to remain Anonymous told me that Nina loves to PET and TOUCH her MINOR PATIENTS, including SNAPPING PHOTOS and BOOMERANGS with her personal phone WITHOUT CONSENT of the Parent, to the point where their child got UNCOMFORTABLE. Including the occasional FILMING for her YouTube Channel by her middle aged Cameraman. 
Nina is obsessed with to promote that she's a "Dr. in Beverly Hills" thus far WRONGFULLY PROMOTES "Dr. Nina Beverly Hills" when such thing does not even exist. She does not work in Beverly Hills, neither has a home there. Allegedly Nina's father has scammed his patients too. Nina has filed for BANKRUPTCY.
The Individuals she has hired for her Personal life and Youtube production ONLY VERIFIES that Nina has SEVERE MENTAL ISSUES and drops them when she's done. One former worker of hers, I will respect their privacy too, has said that Nina DOES NOT CARE ABOUT HER FANS and is only in for the MONEY. 
Her STUNT ON DR. PHIL with her Daughter Nicolette was CALCULATIVE PLANNED and ORCHESTRATED, by the DESIRE OF NICOLETTE WANTING TO BE AN INFLUENCER. Prior to the Dr. Phil episode, Nicolette has made previous attempts to become a YouTube sensation, which failed, even personally showed up at Jake Paul's House and filmed it. Both Nina and Nicolette FAKED the entire "Beverly Hills Brat" Persona and even LIED ABOUT Nicolette NOT HAVING ANY FRIENDS (my friends are my handbags) when IN REALITY NICOLETTE HAS A LOT OF FRIENDS!!!
There are also rumors of Nicolette's actual age, since she went to Court without a Parental figure (Nina was in NY at that time), which is mandatory when you're a minor.
Both Nina and Nicolette Gray are FAKE and Manipulative LIARS, LYING TO THE ENTIRE WORLD, basically Con Artists. Nina for sure has some mental issues as well and that can be backed up by multiple sources who had direct contact with Nina. They all say the same thing about her. You can Google Nina Moghaddam Gray or just Nina Gray, for proof on her medical career.
Please report this Video since it's all a GROSS lie.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Vge4VB7SzlY
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Right the first time - an open letter
To be fair, even as it is addressed to you, this open letter is not for you, simply because I have all the reasons to believe further communication with you would be utterly futile.
 Let's begin this properly by saying I always admired you a lot; you were to me one of the most erudite people I knew. Unbeatable when it came to political and societal analysis, straight as an arrow when it came to your values. We are both artists. One painting of yours hangs on my wall still, several of mine used to sit in your flat - pardon me for assuming they are long gone. Pardon me as well for the length of this letter, as some things must be expressed in ways I cannot shrink.
 I used to joke about how you were the pillar of my social life. You were as extroverted as I am introverted, and were the crossroad between me and many people. I indeed met the man who abused me through you.
 I don't want to go into the details here. I couldn't even tell I was being abused - not the first time, not the following times, not actually until you picked up the phone that fateful day months later, and dragged me out of the pit of denial I was in, when suddenly I could no longer turn away from the fact something was wrong in my life.
 I was thankful, at first.
 So there goes, on one side: him, twenty-six, his boyfriend, twenty-seven, you, twenty-nine. On the other side, me, twenty-two, my two long-term romantic partners, both of them twenty-three, with who I am exclusive. We all started hanging out together like we all belonged in the same world, linked by the many values and hobbies we had in common and by what I thought were our mental conditions, as well. They were familiar with my anxiety medication. We all referred to ourselves as neuroatypical, you had ADHD, his boyfriend is autistic, and he is neurodivergent for sure. Formerly hypersexual.
 You introduced me to them, but I had no idea they were non-monogamous, or even that you and his boyfriend were fucking on the regular. That I learned when he came to me and told me he liked me.
 You didn't believe me when I kept saying on the phone, I didn't know they were poly, like it was impossible for me not to know-
 I turned him down at first. But something greater awoke in me as he touched an ancient wound that had only begun to heal and suddenly nothing was more important than to keep the man who had shown interest in me. To hell with my own will and interests, and I understood that only later. He therefore had to be my boyfriend, although platonic, since neither of my partners would allow something sexual, and neither did I want it- to hell with my own will.
 So, we met with my partners around a table one night. We defined boundaries together, to seal this new, atypical relationship. It was healthy, it had to be. As clouded as I already felt, it could only be something healthy; as used as I was to atypical relationships, as confident as I was.
 The first thing he expressed was that he regretted we weren't allowed to kiss, as for himself it didn't have to mean something sexual.
It didn't keep him from kissing me. Or dry-humping me. Or push my boundaries and making a game out of it. I pushed him away at first. Before the white noise set. Before -
-to hell with my own will-
And then it was white noise, that culminated into horrid acts I can't think about without feeling like throwing up. Simple facts am sure of: I did not want it at first. He did not attract me in the slightest. I had no intention of cheating on my partners by experimenting anything with someone else.
Then here comes the inevitable dissection of why I committed the acts I did with him. I learned many words in therapy that I keep denying as they are utterly absurd and as much as they apply to many victims of rape and sexual assault, I know they couldn't possibly apply to me, couldn't they.  
 Under the influence.
Lack of informed consent.
My therapist used the word remote-controlled.
 I'd rather the story be one of adultery caused by passion, getting carried away, being unable to resist. Though as much as I try to convince myself, there is always something tarnishing the picture; starting with the simple fact I did not want it at first. That I said no several times. Until I couldn't, he would lead and I would follow, he would tell me it was okay and I would blindly nod, hiding it from my family and the world and myself because your brain finds extraordinary ways to cope and tell you it's justified, it's the right thing, it happens for a reason.
To hell with my own will, he had interest in my body, I needed to be a body at his disposal and I committed to be just that.
When he stepped out of line, at first, I was the one to comfort him and tell him it was okay. He was formerly hypersexual; it was normal and realistic he didn't know how to restrain himself with a girl he was not allowed to fuck.
He was neurodivergent to a much higher degree than me. I was the one with a fancy degree, a higher degree of normalcy even, and a much lesser mental condition. I was the strong one and most responsible. He was just an intense dog, his words.
It was my job to keep him on a leash and my fault if I failed at doing so.
 He would either tell me it was okay because in his terms it was a cuddle. Or, sometimes, that it was indeed an honest mistake, but it was okay to make mistakes, especially in an intimate setting, and he wouldn't tell anybody, it was not to be known.
Sometimes he told me I couldn't keep my pheromones in check.
 I told you the first time he trampled boundaries and kissed me. You said he'd better be careful, as it was not acceptable; yet you understood him, being impulsive yourself.
 But now, in hindsight: no matter what I did, who I was even, there was someone on the other side with his fangs out, ready to feast. I didn't mean for this letter to be about my own psyche or the reasons that pushed me to react a certain way faced with this. That is my psychiatrist's job. I was under the influence of someone who very visibly took advantage of me.
 -with whom you sided-
 I had the gut feeling something was wrong between us. From a friend of yours -not even your own mouth- I finally got word that you were taking your distances with me, because I quote, had apparently said something diminishing our friendship a lot in your eyes. What the hell.
So then, here comes that fateful phone call and here comes the seek for answers.
Turns out I had apparently told his boyfriend you were just a drawing buddy who I wasn't feeling this close to, which deeply hurt you. I apologized profusely for this is not what I had meant at any point. I believe I told him I wanted to maintain a certain level of privacy, which I still believe I'm entitled to, and I didn't want my friends, no matter who they are, to know every detail of my private romantic life, at any point. Of course, this is what I meant, but then, it turns out there's what the boyfriend understood and faithfully repeated to you.
 The boyfriend also told you something else, though, didn't he. He told you that, in our relationship, with him, between his spouse and myself, everything was going perfectly fine to the point where we had sex.
 You had heard, from my mouth, previously, in front of my partners, that we hadn't had sex. So, knowing everyone in the equations including my partners, you decided to step away, because you deduced that I didn't share the same moral values as you did; the principle of radical honesty, which makes this whole relationship anarchy thing possible in the first place.
 Radical honesty: everyone tells everyone else everything right the first time.
 Surely, I didn't respect those principles; tell this to the two friends I came to be familiar with in therapy: denial and repression.
My version was that we hadn't had sex because I couldn't accept the truth, for the sake of my partners, yes, but especially for myself.
Avoid digging too deep into this, because you'll find your lack of informed consent among all the other ugly things you convinced yourself were righteous and safe. Your brain finds a way.
He said it was either just a cuddle, or an honest mistake. If it was a mistake, his mistake, it was not to matter, and it was not to be known.
 And yet, as I found out through you, he didn't exactly make the same speech to his boyfriend. We had stepped the relationship up, he told his boyfriend as a duty to make sure he was alright with it… and he was clear then, everything on my side was up to me.
 No matter what I felt or had discussed with my partners, it was up to me. Too bad if I couldn't do it.
As you condescendingly explained me, you were all neuroatypical, telling each other everything right, the first time, no barrier possible per your psyche. You gave me an ultimatum in all but name; so, I told my partners the very evening. It is actually when the truth, in the form of words, poured out of my mouth, that I saw it for what it was for the first time. Also, my loved ones telling me I had been abused.
 So, I thanked you, profusely, for bringing me out of denial. I cut ties with him. Actually, everything I thought I felt for him evaporated in an instant. A finger snap, and I felt like waking up. I was left with shame, incomprehension and rage.
 I couldn't keep one of my partners from sending him a rage-fuelled message that sent his boyfriend whining in my DMs about how he couldn't handle this pain, that we both had made mistakes but he shouldn't have to endure all this hate. Was I responsible for the way my partner expressed his own devastation? I was not, but I am, to this day, proud he did it this way.
 Then, I started telling you I had figured out something else, that I believed my consent was not respected, that it was more serious than a matter of adultery, that it was sexual assault.
And it was the last I ever heard of you.
You ghosted me, unfollowed me; gone. You were gone. Not gone from their life, though. As I later guessed, it was not about you getting away from a spicy situation because you knew everyone involved, this time.
The message was clear: you cut ties with me and didn't want to hear from me again, you sided with them.
The delivery was rather petty: no words needed because I didn't deserve to be talked to no more. I'm familiar with the technique, sadly, although I have to admit I didn't expect to see it coming from you, aka the most virulent advocate of radical honesty.
 Shouldn't I have known that you wouldn't exactly apply the same rules to everyone in your vicinity? Why did you ghost me and refused to listen, even?
 It is the main reason why I'm making it clear that not only I'm not expecting an answer from you, I'm pretty sure I never want any. Because, any further discussion on the reasons you left will boil down to my consent being questioned and I undoubtedly cannot accept this.
What could you believe other than I'm dishonest, lying, cheating scum who cried wolf when the tables turned-
That's fine by me, but have you ever wondered what it says about you rather than me?
 A woman comes to tell you she had doubts about her consent after erratic behaviour for months. How do you decide which party is worth listening to or not?
Is it, simply and crudely, pardon my French, because you happen to be fucking his boyfriend and not me? Is it because you identify with their mental behaviour rather than mine?
Because you understand them better?
 Then, of course, the truth lies in front of me now. Being an erudite activist the likes of you doesn't keep you from binding your values to fit your interests, as it has stopped no one ever in history. Being neurodivergent doesn't keep you from being a rapist. A damaged person with a fucked up past and skewed vision of sex, maybe, but a rapist no less.
An autistic female friend had come to tell me about the red flags she perceived about him during this period, how I should be wary about neurodivergent men making less efforts and using their condition as an immunity token. I couldn't hear her words, at the time.
Later, another friend confessed he had a crush on his boyfriend that vanished when he noticed certain patterns of bad faith and gaslighting. The ugly truth my naive self didn't understand slowly revealed nonetheless.
 I can't say I understand them fully, but I understand myself, now, at least. I'll repeat it once more:
I was deceived, abused, put under the influence, in denial, and I couldn't say anything and I couldn't tell.
 As I came to understand, the key lies within me. I am the only one who can make sense out of the situation and come to the conclusion that it was indeed rape. Whether you like it or not; you are not inside my head, and you are no one to draw conclusions.
Neither are they, neither are any of you. Neither do you share my pain and suffering today. And that’s okay. I’m healing, as shitty as it is. My partners are with me. My social life will not be the same, my sex life will not be the same, but we go forward, even if it means walking on spikes for a while.
 I believe I am done here, with my story. There’s not much I expect from you, as I told you. I can no longer trust you nor can I respect you. You now belong in my eyes to this sad category of woke men who turn a blind eye when the abusers turn out to be their buddies.
There is just one thing I’ve been meaning to ask you:
 If radical honesty means telling everything right the first time, what do you make of those who can't tell everything right the first time?
 What do you know of those who can't tell they're being abused, who don't have your wit yet, or your experience, or your maturity, or who don't happen to have a PhD in manipulation? Who can't think or process things the exact same way you do? Who, let's dare to say it, aren't neurodivergent enough, aren't damaged enough, to be the victims in the story according to you?
 If you ever come up with something to say one day that doesn’t involve questioning my consent or siding with my abuser, there is a chance my door will still be open.
 There is a chance you won’t be just another sad example; otherwise, too bad.
 It’s time for me to heal.
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A Letter to Ms. Judy Faulkner & Mr. Tommy Thompson
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By GRACE CORDOVANO PhD, BCPA
Being a patient or a carepartner can be a lonely, powerless place.
There’s no high powered legal or lobbying team to help support you in your or your loved one’s health care journey. There’s no PR team at your beck and call. There’s no advisory board, no executive committee, no assistants, no chatbots or AI-powered technology coming to the rescue. There’s no funding or a company sponsoring your efforts.
There’s no course in how to be a professional patient or carepartner.
There’s no one there in the stillness and dark of the night, when you are in the quiet of your thoughts, the privacy of your personal space, where there are fleeting moments that you don’t have to be strong and courageous. There is no one there to console you, support you as you lay there willing to make a deal with the devil for the slightest glimmer of hope, the slightest bit of clarity, or slightest bit of peace.
As a the carepartner to a loved one who is sick or disabled, many wouldn’t second guess charging head first through a thousand wielded swords if it meant a hope or a cure.
As an advocate, the majority of the work you do is self-created, self-supported, and unpaid. A calling. An undeniable, magnetic force that pulls you in because you cannot turn a blind eye no matter how hard you try. Because you cannot bear witness to human suffering and not do anything. Because you’ve been there and you can relate to another’s pain, grief, and sense of hopelessness and it is unacceptable to not help ease the heaviness of another’s burden.
As an advocate, I know I am not alone when I wonder if my advocacy work is worth it. Does it all make a difference? What did over 20 years of advocacy work improve? Are all these hours of work into the depths of the night worth it? Is the constant mental, emotional, and physical effort of being perpetually on high alert going to bring change? Do the words spoken from the podium, the panels, keynotes, workshops, fireside chats, and the discussions that ensue after handing in my lavaliere or hand held microphone cause actionable change? Does anyone listen to the podcasts and interviews and change their business strategies? Do the business cards and LinkedIn connections exchanged matter? Do the thousands of hours I’ve spent carefully and thoughtfully placing words on paper in articles and blog posts to capture the patient and carepartner voice and perspective make a difference? Does the time spent dedicated to continuing conversations across 3 social media platforms matter? Was all the time I’ve spent away from my family, my children, on the road, traveling to conferences (often at my own expense) to amplify the patient and carepartner voice worth it? Are missing family occasions, children’s games, school events, outings with friends, as well as putting one’s marriage, self-care, one’s physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual being at risk worth it?
After over 20 years of advocacy work, when I close my eyes and reflect, I cannot unsee and unhear what I have seen:
The people who have died horrible deaths because of cancer, with not a spot of dignity left.
The parents who fought tirelessly to find hope of a cure or the gift of more time with their dying child.
The people who have watched as their parents or grandparents died, sometimes slowly, unfathomable deaths, from their heart failure, dementia, cancer, diabetes, and other comorbidities.
The people who struggle with their own cancer diagnosis while caring for their aging, sick parents, and their also disabled and medically complex children.
The people who are disabled, who have been denied the critical care they need, the medical equipment and devices, and the standard of care treatments prescribed by their doctors, because insurance companies deemed them not medically necessary. Or worse, being denied their actual Medicaid.
The people living with chronic illnesses who are denied their life-saving treatments by insurance companies daily, forced to see regressions, relapses, painful, sometimes irreversible progressions of their diseases.
The tears stream down my face as I recall the hundreds, thousands, of pleas I have been faced with over the last 20 years. Pleas, stories, cries for help that break one’s soul and leave you gutted.
There is a common denominator here. These people could not get access to the information they needed for the next step in their, or their loved one’s, care. Information they needed to:
· schedule a second or third opinion appointment
· to organize a tumor board
· to consider clinical trials
· to ask the right questions
· to pick the right doctor or hospital
· to fight an insurance denial
· to do a peer to peer and expedite care needed themselves
· to make an informed decision about an upcoming surgery or procedure
· to prevent a medical error from happening
· to fight an exorbitant medical bill
· to understand their diagnosis and treatment enough to know it wasn’t too early for palliative care
· to know that it was time for hospice
This is what information blocking looks like boots on the ground.
These are the realities people face when they are living with life-altering, life-limiting, absolutely earth-shattering diagnoses.
While patients and their loved ones can’t get the information they need to make educated, empowered decisions about their care, even while actively dying, hospitals, EHR vendors like Epic, as well as MANY other entities, have ludicrously shared and sold the same patient information for commercial purposes, to “improve hospital operations”, for “re$earch”, leveraging the legal loopholes of HIPAA, stating all is legal, this is business as usual. Without needing informed, explicit patient consent. Without any effort dedicated to patient education, public awareness, and transparency under the guise of “Nothing to see here”.
As patients and carepartners, WE WILL NOT STAND FOR THIS A MOMENT LONGER.
Thank you Ms. Judy Faulkner, CEO of EPIC, for your recent letter urging some of the biggest hospital CEO’s and presidents to oppose the proposed rules to improve interoperability and grant patients access to their information. You have made it crystal clear that you are not aligned with the real-world unmet needs and the barriers patient and carepartners face daily. Thank you for illustrating what paternalism looks like in 2020.
Thank you, Mr. Tommy Thompson, former governor of Wisconsin, for your guest column on why the proposed health IT rules would be a detriment to EPIC and Wisconsin’s economy. You have made it crystal clear that the business priorities of Wisconsin are of a greater importance than legal rights and the sanctity and dignity of the lives of all the patients of this great country of the United States of America.
Thank you for helping me refocus. Thank you for helping me answer the questions and address the self-imposed imposter syndrome that can momentarily cloud one’s perception. The answer is: IT IS ALL WORTH IT.
I am more laser-focused than ever before, more confident than ever that patients, carepartners, advocates, those in authentic support of first doing NO HARM, and those in support of partnering with patients and carepartners MUST to come together.
I want all patients and carepartners to know these truths: No one is coming to save us. Together, we can save ourselves and OUR healthcare as we know it.
The time is now to #UnblockHealth. I’m ready to blow the doors off this or at least die trying.
Respectfully Yours in Unblocking Health,
Grace Cordovano, PhD, BCPA
Grace Cordovano, PhD, BCPA is a board-certified patient advocate specializing in the oncology space, a patient experience enhancer, and information unblocker.
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By GRACE CORDOVANO PhD, BCPA
Being a patient or a carepartner can be a lonely, powerless place.
There’s no high powered legal or lobbying team to help support you in your or your loved one’s health care journey. There’s no PR team at your beck and call. There’s no advisory board, no executive committee, no assistants, no chatbots or AI-powered technology coming to the rescue. There’s no funding or a company sponsoring your efforts.
There’s no course in how to be a professional patient or carepartner.
There’s no one there in the stillness and dark of the night, when you are in the quiet of your thoughts, the privacy of your personal space, where there are fleeting moments that you don’t have to be strong and courageous. There is no one there to console you, support you as you lay there willing to make a deal with the devil for the slightest glimmer of hope, the slightest bit of clarity, or slightest bit of peace.
As a the carepartner to a loved one who is sick or disabled, many wouldn’t second guess charging head first through a thousand wielded swords if it meant a hope or a cure.
As an advocate, the majority of the work you do is self-created, self-supported, and unpaid. A calling. An undeniable, magnetic force that pulls you in because you cannot turn a blind eye no matter how hard you try. Because you cannot bear witness to human suffering and not do anything. Because you’ve been there and you can relate to another’s pain, grief, and sense of hopelessness and it is unacceptable to not help ease the heaviness of another’s burden.
As an advocate, I know I am not alone when I wonder if my advocacy work is worth it. Does it all make a difference? What did over 20 years of advocacy work improve? Are all these hours of work into the depths of the night worth it? Is the constant mental, emotional, and physical effort of being perpetually on high alert going to bring change? Do the words spoken from the podium, the panels, keynotes, workshops, fireside chats, and the discussions that ensue after handing in my lavaliere or hand held microphone cause actionable change? Does anyone listen to the podcasts and interviews and change their business strategies? Do the business cards and LinkedIn connections exchanged matter? Do the thousands of hours I’ve spent carefully and thoughtfully placing words on paper in articles and blog posts to capture the patient and carepartner voice and perspective make a difference? Does the time spent dedicated to continuing conversations across 3 social media platforms matter? Was all the time I’ve spent away from my family, my children, on the road, traveling to conferences (often at my own expense) to amplify the patient and carepartner voice worth it? Are missing family occasions, children’s games, school events, outings with friends, as well as putting one’s marriage, self-care, one’s physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual being at risk worth it?
After over 20 years of advocacy work, when I close my eyes and reflect, I cannot unsee and unhear what I have seen:
The people who have died horrible deaths because of cancer, with not a spot of dignity left.
The parents who fought tirelessly to find hope of a cure or the gift of more time with their dying child.
The people who have watched as their parents or grandparents died, sometimes slowly, unfathomable deaths, from their heart failure, dementia, cancer, diabetes, and other comorbidities.
The people who struggle with their own cancer diagnosis while caring for their aging, sick parents, and their also disabled and medically complex children.
The people who are disabled, who have been denied the critical care they need, the medical equipment and devices, and the standard of care treatments prescribed by their doctors, because insurance companies deemed them not medically necessary. Or worse, being denied their actual Medicaid.
The people living with chronic illnesses who are denied their life-saving treatments by insurance companies daily, forced to see regressions, relapses, painful, sometimes irreversible progressions of their diseases.
The tears stream down my face as I recall the hundreds, thousands, of pleas I have been faced with over the last 20 years. Pleas, stories, cries for help that break one’s soul and leave you gutted.
There is a common denominator here. These people could not get access to the information they needed for the next step in their, or their loved one’s, care. Information they needed to:
· schedule a second or third opinion appointment
· to organize a tumor board
· to consider clinical trials
· to ask the right questions
· to pick the right doctor or hospital
· to fight an insurance denial
· to do a peer to peer and expedite care needed themselves
· to make an informed decision about an upcoming surgery or procedure
· to prevent a medical error from happening
· to fight an exorbitant medical bill
· to understand their diagnosis and treatment enough to know it wasn’t too early for palliative care
· to know that it was time for hospice
This is what information blocking looks like boots on the ground.
These are the realities people face when they are living with life-altering, life-limiting, absolutely earth-shattering diagnoses.
While patients and their loved ones can’t get the information they need to make educated, empowered decisions about their care, even while actively dying, hospitals, EHR vendors like Epic, as well as MANY other entities, have ludicrously shared and sold the same patient information for commercial purposes, to “improve hospital operations”, for “re$earch”, leveraging the legal loopholes of HIPAA, stating all is legal, this is business as usual. Without needing informed, explicit patient consent. Without any effort dedicated to patient education, public awareness, and transparency under the guise of “Nothing to see here”.
As patients and carepartners, WE WILL NOT STAND FOR THIS A MOMENT LONGER.
Thank you Ms. Judy Faulkner, CEO of EPIC, for your recent letter urging some of the biggest hospital CEO’s and presidents to oppose the proposed rules to improve interoperability and grant patients access to their information. You have made it crystal clear that you are not aligned with the real-world unmet needs and the barriers patient and carepartners face daily. Thank you for illustrating what paternalism looks like in 2020.
Thank you, Mr. Tommy Thompson, former governor of Wisconsin, for your guest column on why the proposed health IT rules would be a detriment to EPIC and Wisconsin’s economy. You have made it crystal clear that the business priorities of Wisconsin are of a greater importance than legal rights and the sanctity and dignity of the lives of all the patients of this great country of the United States of America.
Thank you for helping me refocus. Thank you for helping me answer the questions and address the self-imposed imposter syndrome that can momentarily cloud one’s perception. The answer is: IT IS ALL WORTH IT.
I am more laser-focused than ever before, more confident than ever that patients, carepartners, advocates, those in authentic support of first doing NO HARM, and those in support of partnering with patients and carepartners MUST to come together.
I want all patients and carepartners to know these truths: No one is coming to save us. Together, we can save ourselves and OUR healthcare as we know it.
The time is now to #UnblockHealth. I’m ready to blow the doors off this or at least die trying.
Respectfully Yours in Unblocking Health,
Grace Cordovano, PhD, BCPA
Grace Cordovano, PhD, BCPA is a board-certified patient advocate specializing in the oncology space, a patient experience enhancer, and information unblocker.
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illidria · 7 years
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Fallout AU (4)
She was even more pissed then usual upon seeing him. "What do you want Roy-Boy?" He held up his hands in a defensive gesture. "Nothing much Sir, just inquiring about the new guy in the city and the parcel you were to pick up." Slocum stood next to him, in equal parts making sure that he wasn’t about to harm his beloved master and being careful to get petted as much as he wanted. The dog was a lot like the blonde woman and at the same time vastly different. Especially his temper was a lot better. Said temper flared. "The location was compromised and is expected to be overrun with Raiders in the next two days. No place a parcel should be dropped off at. I`d be willing to set up a delivery at another date and another place. Because a deal is a deal. But the new guy is none of your business!" Mustang looked between Olivier, nicknamed Sir in the whole Boston-area, and Miles, who was internally called "the botched job" between members of the Railroad. He saw that the man wasn’t particularly happy with her decision either and steeled himself for further inquiry. He would not consider Miles an ally, he was too loyal to the blonde for that and probably hated his guts, but he could help should there be a risk to the running operation. "Information concerning the parcel will reach you through the usual ways. And the man you brought in is my business too. McDonough wants to know where you picked him up, what his name is and what you intend to do with him. Be happy that he send me, not Archer. So, Synth? Stray? What had you pick him up? And why is he in a holding cell?" She`d been the first to accidently find a Railroad-headquarter in its entire history. Had sought shelter in the Slocum Joe`s the switchboard was under from a radiation storm, with Miles and two dogs in tow. This had been nothing new, the shop often raided and searched and slept in by wanderers. That she`d found the secret door though, had been something frighteningly new though. And that she had the "botched job" at her back was even more frightening. Revenge of the Synths was never something they thought about. "He hasn’t given us a name yet. You can ask him if you like, but he tends to spit on people getting too close to the bars, so be sure to lean in. He`s one of the reasons the operation is halted for now, as he and his group tried to get a hold of the loot, we think. Raiders by the looks of it." Mustang took off his helmet and ran a hand through his hair. The air was humid these days, had everyone sweltering and melting insider their armour. Inside the wall though, it was mercifully cold and he revelled in it. He took a look around the room, having been inside Olivier’s bureau and quarters more often than he`d have liked. It was a small but tidy room, the desk wooden, a terminal on top of it that he knew to be scavenged from some pre-war military facility. It was more modern than any that he`d seen before. Trinkets were rare, but always something else. Here a Nuka-Cola figurine, there a Vault-Tec emblem. The bed and dresser in the back of the room were divided by a flimsy kind of curtain, weapon-crates shoved under it. Pillows and blankets, clothes hung on clothes valet, confirming him again that Miles didn’t fear a second botched deletion of his memories. He simply loved what he remembered now. He sighed loudly. "I`ll talk to him and tell the Mayor that you got the guy in check. What will you do if he causes trouble?" "Shoot him." It was Miles that answered, but Olivier didn’t seem perturbed by that. Maybe she was used to this tone from the man, unforgiving and a touch too quick, but it had his own stomach form knots. The man was usually calm and collected, a kind of counterweight to the often brash and loud Olivier. But he`d been there when they brought him to Doc Amari, the before unresponsive Man-Synth-Hybrid suddenly strong, trashing in the memory pod. It had only served to repress his memories and when they tried to get him back to a safehouse before sending him to a safe location, he`d made a run for it. They`d searched, but never found him. Glory had spat at several pairs of feet, telling them what she thought about memory-wiping without explicit consent. They`d never tried it again. Never even thought about it again, when he`d suddenly stood inside of the switchboard, Olivier at his side, hands in the air. "The walkways you escaped over are save from being compromised?" Olivier shifted and it struck him again, that she had to be about the same age as him. He wanted to become Mayor, had the goal to make Diamond City a better place, was born and raised here. Everybody knew him. She was Sir to the most people, Olivier to those close to her. Nobody knew for sure how old she was, or where she came from. Just that she one day was carried into town over Miles shoulder, badly shot, a handful of dogs at their heels. She had no last name to anybody in Boston, not even to her men on and in the wall. Yet she`d "owned" a large portion of the wall after only a year, was known to be wealthy by the shopkeepers and strict to those under her rule. Brought new people into the city like a clockwork, always wounded, always with ambiguous pasts, always a win for the community. She`d become the wall of Diamond City in a short time and to him had often seemed larger, older, scarier. And after walking into the Switchboard, she`d been a loose ally of the Railroad too, a tourist, but with reach and power far greater. To him, she simply was ambiguous, never sure if she only helped them because their goals aligned with hers. Thinking about what would happen, should that change. "I sent out Karley and Henschel. They`ll get rid of the connection and stay on the lookout, then follow the Raiders should they show up. We plan to get rid of them if possible." "Des won`t offer to send units to help with that." Desdemona and Olivier had been fire and water from the first second, not only due to the fact the latter had practically broken into their hideout, unknowingly or not. They had trouble to agree on tactics, on which information should be passed on and who should care for things gone astray. It was considered an affront that Olivier had denied the possibility to fully work for the Railroad and even worse had been her denial to tell Miles that a second memory wipe was better for him. To Des, both were potential threats, however involved they were because of their knowledge. "I wouldn’t have expected her to. She likes to leave other people with mopping up her mess. Libertalia is all I say. But anyway, if we find out where those guys built their nest, we`ll get rid of them. They seem to intercept with one of our routes, so I need them gone." He felt himself nod and the desire to leave grow stronger. The blonde’s mood was fouler than normal, Miles mood seemed to be pretty bad too and the Wall always put him on edge, cool air or not. Drunk they were an agreeable lot, but right now they all were on edge. "You know I have to tell her that?" Olivier shrugged and he took that as a queue to stand up and get his ass over to the prisoner and then out of there. Miles appeared at his side. The guy was simply too quiet for his own good and Mustang silently wished-for Hawkeye to be at his side. He felt safer and happier that way, not to mention that Olivier was always nicer if she was there. "I`ll show you the way." He followed the broad-shouldered man through a series of confusing corridors, Olivier remaining alone in the room with a sour expression, until they stood in front of the holding cells, conveniently placed near the entrance. The man was big and muscular and even though they`d decked him out in different clothes, Mustang felt the Raider-vibe radiating off him. It was even worse than usual and felt almost like standing next to one of those second or third generation Raiders.
He pushed down a shiver.
The dark-skinned man moved from his side and leaned on the wall, watching them.
“Name?”
Mustang had decided for the no-nonsense route, so he could simply jot down the facts. He did not trust the people in the wall fully, but should this guy stay trouble, he`d leave through the door laying down. Wouldn’t be the first to have died of “medical complications”.
His reflexes were trained well and he avoided the spit flying at him.
“I`ll ask you one more time, then I guess that this guy over there will finally snap.”
He jutted his thumb in the general direction of Miles, who was radiating waves of anger directed at the prisoner. He saw the guy follow his thumb, then he looked back to him.
“Name?”
“William Buccaneer.”
Mustang wrote the name down and saw out of the corner of his eye that Miles was sucking up this information too.
“Place of Birth?”
“Vegas.”
It was unsettling just how agitated Miles seemed to grow over at his place on the wall.
“Reason for visiting Diamond City?”
“Crazy Bitch abducting me.”
He refrained from noting that, writing down “trade” instead. He turned to Miles, confirming with a nod that they were done here. The man followed him out, looking ready to punch anybody who dared cross him now. It was unsettling to see him loose his cool so much.
Outside he piped up, under the watchful eyes of several of Olivier`s men and about seven dogs. He wondered where she got them from.
“Weird guy.”
Miles simply nodded, walking down to the marketplace with him.
“I`ll be gone now, the contact will be established as soon as possible.”
He felt the man`s eyes on him, hidden by dark lenses. He knew them to be red, having to do with what he was.
“Goodbye Mustang. And should you find out something about the guy…”
A last nod and the man was gone. Just vanished into the crowd.
Mustang supressed a shudder.
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Key Parts of DOL FFCRA Guidance Invalidated by New York District Court
A New York Federal Judge recently struck down certain aspects of the U.S. Department of Labor’s (DOL) Final Rule and accompanying guidance interpreting leave entitlements under the Families First Coronavirus Response Act (FFCRA). This decision increases the number of employees eligible for COVID-19 related leave and will require employers to revisit their leave administration policies and procedures. However, it is unclear at this time whether New York will request the Court to impose a nationwide in-junction or injunctive relief that extends only to New York employers.
Background & Decision
The FFCRA, which applies to most employers with fewer than 500 employees, contains two core components relating to COVID-19 employee leave: (1) extended job-protected leave for certain COVID-19 childcare-related absences under the Emergency Family and Medical Leave Act, and (2) paid sick leave for a number of COVID-19-related absence scenarios under the Emergency Paid Sick Leave Act. After the FFCRA’s enactment, the DOL quickly issued regulatory guidance in the form of a “Final Rule,” which among other things, clarified who is eligible and/or qualifies for paid leave. The State of New York sued to claim that the DOL interpreted the FFCRA provisions too narrowly and exceeded its authority in several ways in the Final Rule, including with respect to (1) the “work-availability” exclusion, (2) the definition of ‘health care provider’; (3) provisions relating to intermittent leave; and (4) certain documentation requirements, all of which we discuss below.
1.      Work-Availability
The DOL’s Final Rule implementing the Emergency Paid Sick Leave Act and Emergency FMLA leave entitlements excluded employees whose employers did not have available work; this requirement only applied to three of the six qualifying absences under the Emergency Paid Sick Leave Act in addition to the qualifying absence under the Family and Medical Leave Act. Rejecting the DOL’s interpretation, the Court held that the “work availability” limitation was inconsistent with the FFCRA, not based on reasoned decision making, and unnecessarily narrowed the statute’s potential scope.
The Court’s ruling on the work-availability requirement is consequential for employers whose business has shut down or slowed due to the pandemic resulting in a decrease in work for its employees, who under the DOL’s rule were previously not eligible for COVID-19 related leave. Now, under the Court’s ruling, those employees must still have an FFCRA-qualifying reason for leave, but may now be eligible for leave even if the employer has no available work for them.
2.      Health Care Providers
Under the FFCRA, employers may elect to exclude health care providers from leave benefits. The DOL’s Final Rule interpreting the term “health care provider” to include, anyone employed at any doctor’s office, hospital, health care center, clinic, the post-secondary educational institution offering health care instruction, medical school, local health department or agency, nursing facility, retirement facility, nursing home, home health care instruction, medical school, local health department or facilities that perform laboratory or medical testing, pharmacy, or any similar institution, employer, or entity.” The Court found this definition to be vastly overbroad,”- focusing on the identity of the employer rather than the employee. The court noted that DOL’s definition inappropriately prevented employees such as professors, librarians, and cafeteria managers at a university with a medical provider from obtaining FFCRA benefits, even though such roles “bear no nexus whatsoever to the provision of healthcare services, except the identity of their employers.” As a result, health care providers and employers that provide healthcare services now need to make an individualized determination as to whether the employee requesting leave is capable of providing healthcare services, rather than focusing on the employer’s role as a “healthcare provider.”
3.      Intermittent Leave
The Court issued a mixed opinion regarding intermittent leave. Although the Court did not take issue with the Final Rule’s language limiting intermittent leave to certain qualifying conditions because it “advanced Congress’s public-health objectives by preventing employees who may be infected or contagious from returning intermittently to a worksite where they could transmit the virus,” the Court did take issue with the Final Rule’s provision requiring employer consent before an employee may take intermittent leave. The Court reasoned that the DOL failed to explain why employer consent [was] required for the remaining qualifying conditions, which concededly do not implicate the same health considerations.” Accordingly, employees may now be able to take intermittent leave under applicable FFCRA provisions without approval from their employers.
4.      Documentation Requirements
Finally, the Final Rule states that prior to taking leave under the FFCRA, employees must provide employers with documentation containing certain information, including (among other things) the duration of the leave, qualifying reason for leave, and in some scenarios the authority for the quarantine order qualifying them for leave. Although the FFCRA is silent as to any required documentation, it notes that “after the first workday (or portion thereof) an employee receives paid sick time under this Act, an employer may require the employee to follow reasonable notice procedures in order to continue receiving such paid sick time.” Ultimately, the Court left the documentation requirements intact but invalidated the Final Rule’s provision requiring employees to submit documentation prior to taking FFCRA leave. Now, employees may provide the required documentation after commencing leave.
5.      Employer Takeaways
We note that the DOL will likely appeal this decision, and forthcoming decisions may reach a different outcome. It is also unclear if this Court, at New York’s request would impose a nationwide injunction or injunctive relief that extends to just New York employers. However, until that occurs, FFCRA-covered employers, including those outsides of New York, are cautioned when denying leave or handling complaints regarding improper denial of leave and should consider whether they need to adjust leave policies, prior, and pending determinations, and/or documentation requirements. Moreover, employers should consider reviewing their existing workplace policies relating to a variety of issues, including travel, working from home, intermittent leave, and related policies, and may evaluate the potential impact of the FFCRA on those policies. If necessary, FFCRA-covered employers may consider implementing policies tailored for FFCRA compliance as well as contacting legal counsel to discuss any questions regarding prior, existing, or future requests for leave under the FFCRA.
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iinsightau · 4 years
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Insights on Allied Health Practice Management Software
The administrative workload of allied health professionals can often be overwhelming. It can take precious time away from patient care. The good news is that it can be minimised by allied health practice management software. Such solutions are designed to assist you and your staff in organising documents, billing, and clinical notes, monitoring patients, keeping track of staff performance, and many more. These systems are designed to improve your practice and customer service all at the same time. 
The following points will give you more insights into what allied health practice management software offers. 
All the tools needed to run your organisation efficiently
The best allied health practice management software is an all-in-one platform with all the tools you need to provide the best quality of services for your patients and help your staff improve their day to day performance. With it, your team can easily schedule appointments, record files, retrieve old notes, update client information, book resources, and set SMS reminders.
Easy to use medical billing software
One of the factors that can dramatically affect the success of your practice is the billing system that you use. Do you often send invoices too late? Do insurers reject some of your claims because of technical errors? Then it’s time to switch to a more reliable allied health billing software now. A good system can reduce the problems associated with medical billing, such as claim denials and late payments. You can utilise it to simplify billing processes. It lets you generate and send invoices quickly and monitor claim status real-time. You can also use this software to check a patient’s eligibility for insurance before they make an appointment with you.
Customised solutions according to your unique requirements
Allied health is a broad category for various types of professions. This is why allied health practice management platforms are created to be scalable with customisable features to suit specific requirements. For example, you can create custom forms like consent forms, treatment planning, and outcomes assessments per case or per type of service that you offer. You may even integrate add-ons that you think can further enhance your system.
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Who do I contact to get help with my insurance? The insurance people through my medical care provider, or the state?
Who do I contact to get help with my insurance? The insurance people through my medical care provider, or the state?
I am a person with a disability (narcolepsy and systemic lupus), who is on several expensive medications that enable me to work and have a life to the degree that most people do not know I have a problem. But if I stop taking my medications, as I may have to do with the course of a few days, my ability to function is reduced to nothing and I cannot move. I prefer to function. It is a lot more fun. Last month (December), I earned too much to qualify for state insurance, so that plan was dropped. This month, I will also earn too much. But I thought that was going to be okay, because I am just young enough to have an insurance plan through my parents, which they are happy to pay for (because they are real sweethearts and I love them). Well, it turns out that since it is a new year, there is a copay of over $1,000, which neither they nor I can pay. No problem, we thought, I could probably qualify for a coupon program which would reduce the payment to $35. Until I found out that because I have family planning through the state (the medicines that I am taking through that keep my systemic lupus at bay, so I can t stop taking them), even though it does not cover the medicine for narcolepsy, they still will not let me have the coupon discount. Where am I to turn? In five days, I will have to quit all my medications cold turkey because I cannot pay for them, and if I do so, I will definitely have to quit my job. I do not want to quit my job. I love my job and I love my life.
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When did divorce become legal in Utah?
Utah formerly followed the “fault” concept in divorce proceedings; this meant that to establish grounds for a divorce, one partner found fault with the other spouse. In 1987, Utah passed a law that allows divorce when there are “irreconcilable differences” such as when the parties can no longer “pursue the legitimate purposes of the marriage.”
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Under this law, one party doesn’t have to blame the other but may simply tell the court that the marriage is “no longer working.” This is what is called a “no fault” divorce provision.
The law previously held that the offending spouse who caused the divorce, lost rights and property in a divorce proceeding, but as a practical matter and by statute this is no longer the case. The person that begins the divorce action is called the “Petitioner”; the person against whom the divorce is filed is called the “Respondent.”
What are the grounds for divorce in Utah?
1.  Irreconcilable differences of the parties.
Irreconcilable differences means that there is no hope that the couple will be able to work out their problems and save the marriage. It may actually mean irretrievable breakdown of the marriage.
Some of these irreconcilable differences may include: in-laws and extended family involvement, balance between home and work, communication patterns, sexual intimacy, personal habits, sharing household responsibilities, outside friendship, political views,  debt difficulties and also disciplining children. If one of these factors is recurrent in marriage, then the couple can divorce.
2. Impotence at the time of marriage
This is the inability of a man to achieve an erection or orgasm. If you partner has a problem in maintaining an erection, chances are your sex life has taken a hit too.  If you notice this in your partner you may feel frustrated and will not know the next step. Impotence can be brought about by many factors such as stress, depression, anxiety or unresolved issues from his background. Impotence can also be a sign of certain medical conditions such as kidney disease, heart disease and diabetes. Lack of sex in marriage may not be easy, the wife really needs to persevere, thus a legal reason as to why people can divorce in Utah.
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3. Adultery committed subsequent to marriage
Infidelity is the single most damaging thing that happens to marriage. Dealing with infidelity is not that easy for a married couple. The first step is  usually denial, whereby the spouse who has been cheated finds it hard to accept that he or she has been cheated on.
It is wise to accept reality and deal with your spouse’s infidelity. This will save you a lot of health issues related to worrying. In addition to this, you may begin feeling anger towards your spouse and also rejection. This is where majority of the people decide to part ways which is acceptable in Utah.
4. Wilful desertion of the other spouse for more than one year
This is the deliberate abandonment of a spouse without the intention of returning.  One of the spouses in a relationship may decide to leave for various reasons though some may leave without any reason.
Those who silently leave still have the duty to support their under age children and also their wives especially if they are ailing. Some other reasons of leaving may be due to infidelity, or misunderstanding. If your partner leaves and stays away for more than one year, you are at liberty to divorce.
5. Willful neglect to provide the common necessities of life
It is common that a man is the one supposed to provide for the family. Nowadays, women are working and some of them are breadwinners in the family. This issue of women being breadwinners has brought some bit of contradiction.
Men should provide for their families, failure to which they are termed as irresponsible. If a man is not concerned with paying of bills, food and education of the children, then the spouse is at liberty to divorce him.
6. Habitual drunkenness
Being married to an alcoholic may not be easy. Alcoholism may make the other spouse feel insecure, depressed and all alone. If worse goes to worst, alcoholics turn out to be irresponsible and violent. They may spend the whole day drinking and even neglect their duties at work then come home and start beating their spouses.
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In other situations, they may even cause physical injuries to their spouses and even children. Another disadvantage is that some alcoholics use all their money or salary in buying drinks for them and their friends. They neglect their wives and the family lives in poverty despite the father earning. If the situation is not good, especially where physical violence is involved, divorce should be encouraged for the other partner to find peace of mind and reorganize her life.
9. Conviction of Felony
Felony is a crime regarded in Utah and many other judicial systems as more serious than a  wrongdoing or crime. Examples of felony may include murder, aggravated assault, manslaughter, animal cruelty, vehicular homicide, animal cruelty, larceny and arson which is deliberately setting fire to property. 
10. Cruel Treatment to the extent of causing bodily injury or great mental distress 
Cruelty can be mental or physical. Mental cruelty can come when you humiliate another person through your words and actions. It may happen that your spouse is  constantly criticizing you, shouting at you, ignoring you and not giving you emotional support. Mental cruelty is actually emotional abuse. Other examples may include:
a.) Threats of violence or the spouse threatening to leave
b.) Deliberately instilling fear
c.) Making your spouse feel not cared for by threatening them not to give them food
d.) Constantly lying to your partner
e.) Making false statements about other people to your spouse
f.) Hiding important information from your spouse
g.) Repeatedly raising the issue of death of a person your spouse left
h.) Constantly telling an individual that they are too much trouble
i.) Being over-familiar or disrespectful to your spouse
j.) Over Controlling your spouse and constantly ordering him or her around
When it comes to physical cruelty, it does not have to be that the abusive spouse is an alcoholic. At times you find very reasonable people physically abusing their spouses. The point here is: abuse to your partner may lead to divorce.
11. Permanent and incurable insanity
This must be established by a competent medical testimony. In all cases where partners lived separate and apart for three consecutive years, without cohabitation, and are still living separate and apart by reason of the incurable insanity of one of them, the court may grant a decree of absolute divorce upon the petition of the sane spouse: provided that the insane spouse has been released on a trial basis to the custody of his or her respective spouse. This is rare but applicable.
Annulment
Below are prohibited and invalid marriages in Utah, which may be annulled:
a.) Marriages between parents and children
b.) Marriages between ancestors and descendants of every degree
c.) Marriages between brothers and sisters (half or whole);
d.) Marriages between uncles and nieces or aunts and nephews;
e.) Marriages between first cousins (unless both parties are 65 years of age or older, or if both parties are 55 years of age or older, upon a finding by the court that either party is unable to reproduce);
f.) Marriages between any persons related to each other within and not including fifth degree of consanguinity;
e.) When there is a husband or wife living, from whom the person marrying has not been divorced;
f.) Either party is at least 16, but under 18 years of age and has not obtained parental consent;
g.) Either party is under 16 years of age at the time the parties attempt to enter into the marriage, unless the party is 15 years of age and has obtained judicial consent;
h.) Marriage between persons of the same sex; and
i.) Re-marriage to a different spouse before the divorce decree becomes absolute, or in the case of an appeal, before the affirmance of the decree.
When there is doubt regarding the validity of a marriage, either party may demand its avoidance or affirmance in a court where either party is domiciled. However, when one of the parties was under the age of consent at the time of the marriage, the other party of proper age may not have cause against the party under age. The court shall either declare the marriage valid or annulled.
A marriage may also be annulled for any of the annulment grounds existing at common law.
Here are some of things that  no one will tell you about getting a divorce in Utah
1. If you violate the Utah divorce decree there can be serious consequences.
Once the court has given a ruling and the divorce papers signed, both partners are bound to the terms in the decree. If any of the divorcees violates whatever is in the agreement, He or she will be charged of contempt of court. The most common divorce violations include child support, non-provision for the spouse or maintaining your ex- spouse, disobedience of the visitation schedule and not complying with visitation of the children.
If this happens the police will come to your house and record a visitation interference which the family lawyer will use as evidence during the contempt hearing. That is the only thing that the police can do since they cannot bring your kids from your ex-partner.  If your ex does not support the kids maybe due to lack of income there are also legal measures which should be taken.
2. The people around you will judge you and ask you why you divorced
Natives of Utah are a curious species. The news of divorce will spread in church, your neighbourhood and also your workplace. You should be psychologically prepared to hear all sorts of things from people.
Some may tell you that they have never liked your ex from the day you were married only to show you that they are on your side. You will be surprised to see that people that you barely know, know that you divorced and also know why you divorced.
Friends and family may take sides and disappear completely. It is good to limit your words during this period for the sake of your children. In addition to that, you should surround yourself with people who will encourage you since divorce is very distressing.
3.There is a requirement in Utah that couples should attend Divorce Education Class
There is a mandatory divorce orientation course that couples have to complete, created by Utah legislators. Your divorce cannot be completed until you and your significant other complete the course.
The requirement of taking divorce classes is if there are minor children involved since issues of child support and clarifies the consequences of divorce not forgetting the explanation of the divorce process.
4. Parenting after divorce may become more difficult
There may be plenty of disagreements plus you have to endure the pain of calling the mother of kids, ‘mommy’ or ‘daddy’  when referring to the father of kids after the divorce. Raising up you kids alone may not be easy since at times you may need to consult on how some things are done.
It is therefore advisable that you should be amicable to your ex because divorce does not mean that you should be enemies. It is also good that you avoid bad mouthing your ex-spouse when talking to your children. A high level of self control and maturity is needed in this case.
5. You may feel terrible after getting a divorce
After getting the divorce you may be filled with a lot of guilt maybe because you are the one who  initiated the divorce or because children are blaming you. Feelings of guilt will be recurring after the divorce but it is good to stay away from negative people and seek professional advice.
Divorce Attorney Free Consultation
When you need legal help for a divorce, child custody, or other type of family law case in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506 for your Free Consultation. We want to help you.
Ascent Law LLC 8833 S. Redwood Road, Suite C West Jordan, Utah 84088 United States Telephone: (801) 676-5506
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When did divorce become legal in Utah?
Utah formerly followed the “fault” concept in divorce proceedings; this meant that to establish grounds for a divorce, one partner found fault with the other spouse. In 1987, Utah passed a law that allows divorce when there are “irreconcilable differences” such as when the parties can no longer “pursue the legitimate purposes of the marriage.”
Under this law, one party doesn’t have to blame the other but may simply tell the court that the marriage is “no longer working.” This is what is called a “no fault” divorce provision.
The law previously held that the offending spouse who caused the divorce, lost rights and property in a divorce proceeding, but as a practical matter and by statute this is no longer the case. The person that begins the divorce action is called the “Petitioner”; the person against whom the divorce is filed is called the “Respondent.”
What are the grounds for divorce in Utah?
1.  Irreconcilable differences of the parties.
Irreconcilable differences means that there is no hope that the couple will be able to work out their problems and save the marriage. It may actually mean irretrievable breakdown of the marriage.
Some of these irreconcilable differences may include: in-laws and extended family involvement, balance between home and work, communication patterns, sexual intimacy, personal habits, sharing household responsibilities, outside friendship, political views,  debt difficulties and also disciplining children. If one of these factors is recurrent in marriage, then the couple can divorce.
2. Impotence at the time of marriage
This is the inability of a man to achieve an erection or orgasm. If you partner has a problem in maintaining an erection, chances are your sex life has taken a hit too.  If you notice this in your partner you may feel frustrated and will not know the next step. Impotence can be brought about by many factors such as stress, depression, anxiety or unresolved issues from his background. Impotence can also be a sign of certain medical conditions such as kidney disease, heart disease and diabetes. Lack of sex in marriage may not be easy, the wife really needs to persevere, thus a legal reason as to why people can divorce in Utah.
3. Adultery committed subsequent to marriage
Infidelity is the single most damaging thing that happens to marriage. Dealing with infidelity is not that easy for a married couple. The first step is  usually denial, whereby the spouse who has been cheated finds it hard to accept that he or she has been cheated on.
It is wise to accept reality and deal with your spouse’s infidelity. This will save you a lot of health issues related to worrying. In addition to this, you may begin feeling anger towards your spouse and also rejection. This is where majority of the people decide to part ways which is acceptable in Utah.
4. Wilful desertion of the other spouse for more than one year
This is the deliberate abandonment of a spouse without the intention of returning.  One of the spouses in a relationship may decide to leave for various reasons though some may leave without any reason.
Those who silently leave still have the duty to support their under age children and also their wives especially if they are ailing. Some other reasons of leaving may be due to infidelity, or misunderstanding. If your partner leaves and stays away for more than one year, you are at liberty to divorce.
5. Willful neglect to provide the common necessities of life
It is common that a man is the one supposed to provide for the family. Nowadays, women are working and some of them are breadwinners in the family. This issue of women being breadwinners has brought some bit of contradiction.
Men should provide for their families, failure to which they are termed as irresponsible. If a man is not concerned with paying of bills, food and education of the children, then the spouse is at liberty to divorce him.
6. Habitual drunkenness
Being married to an alcoholic may not be easy. Alcoholism may make the other spouse feel insecure, depressed and all alone. If worse goes to worst, alcoholics turn out to be irresponsible and violent. They may spend the whole day drinking and even neglect their duties at work then come home and start beating their spouses.
In other situations, they may even cause physical injuries to their spouses and even children. Another disadvantage is that some alcoholics use all their money or salary in buying drinks for them and their friends. They neglect their wives and the family lives in poverty despite the father earning. If the situation is not good, especially where physical violence is involved, divorce should be encouraged for the other partner to find peace of mind and reorganize her life.
9. Conviction of Felony
Felony is a crime regarded in Utah and many other judicial systems as more serious than a  wrongdoing or crime. Examples of felony may include murder, aggravated assault, manslaughter, animal cruelty, vehicular homicide, animal cruelty, larceny and arson which is deliberately setting fire to property. 
10. Cruel Treatment to the extent of causing bodily injury or great mental distress 
Cruelty can be mental or physical. Mental cruelty can come when you humiliate another person through your words and actions. It may happen that your spouse is  constantly criticizing you, shouting at you, ignoring you and not giving you emotional support. Mental cruelty is actually emotional abuse. Other examples may include:
a.) Threats of violence or the spouse threatening to leave
b.) Deliberately instilling fear
c.) Making your spouse feel not cared for by threatening them not to give them food
d.) Constantly lying to your partner
e.) Making false statements about other people to your spouse
f.) Hiding important information from your spouse
g.) Repeatedly raising the issue of death of a person your spouse left
h.) Constantly telling an individual that they are too much trouble
i.) Being over-familiar or disrespectful to your spouse
j.) Over Controlling your spouse and constantly ordering him or her around
When it comes to physical cruelty, it does not have to be that the abusive spouse is an alcoholic. At times you find very reasonable people physically abusing their spouses. The point here is: abuse to your partner may lead to divorce.
11. Permanent and incurable insanity
This must be established by a competent medical testimony. In all cases where partners lived separate and apart for three consecutive years, without cohabitation, and are still living separate and apart by reason of the incurable insanity of one of them, the court may grant a decree of absolute divorce upon the petition of the sane spouse: provided that the insane spouse has been released on a trial basis to the custody of his or her respective spouse. This is rare but applicable.
Annulment
Below are prohibited and invalid marriages in Utah, which may be annulled:
a.) Marriages between parents and children
b.) Marriages between ancestors and descendants of every degree
c.) Marriages between brothers and sisters (half or whole);
d.) Marriages between uncles and nieces or aunts and nephews;
e.) Marriages between first cousins (unless both parties are 65 years of age or older, or if both parties are 55 years of age or older, upon a finding by the court that either party is unable to reproduce);
f.) Marriages between any persons related to each other within and not including fifth degree of consanguinity;
e.) When there is a husband or wife living, from whom the person marrying has not been divorced;
f.) Either party is at least 16, but under 18 years of age and has not obtained parental consent;
g.) Either party is under 16 years of age at the time the parties attempt to enter into the marriage, unless the party is 15 years of age and has obtained judicial consent;
h.) Marriage between persons of the same sex; and
i.) Re-marriage to a different spouse before the divorce decree becomes absolute, or in the case of an appeal, before the affirmance of the decree.
When there is doubt regarding the validity of a marriage, either party may demand its avoidance or affirmance in a court where either party is domiciled. However, when one of the parties was under the age of consent at the time of the marriage, the other party of proper age may not have cause against the party under age. The court shall either declare the marriage valid or annulled.
A marriage may also be annulled for any of the annulment grounds existing at common law.
Here are some of things that  no one will tell you about getting a divorce in Utah
1. If you violate the Utah divorce decree there can be serious consequences.
Once the court has given a ruling and the divorce papers signed, both partners are bound to the terms in the decree. If any of the divorcees violates whatever is in the agreement, He or she will be charged of contempt of court. The most common divorce violations include child support, non-provision for the spouse or maintaining your ex- spouse, disobedience of the visitation schedule and not complying with visitation of the children.
If this happens the police will come to your house and record a visitation interference which the family lawyer will use as evidence during the contempt hearing. That is the only thing that the police can do since they cannot bring your kids from your ex-partner.  If your ex does not support the kids maybe due to lack of income there are also legal measures which should be taken.
2. The people around you will judge you and ask you why you divorced
Natives of Utah are a curious species. The news of divorce will spread in church, your neighbourhood and also your workplace. You should be psychologically prepared to hear all sorts of things from people.
Some may tell you that they have never liked your ex from the day you were married only to show you that they are on your side. You will be surprised to see that people that you barely know, know that you divorced and also know why you divorced.
Friends and family may take sides and disappear completely. It is good to limit your words during this period for the sake of your children. In addition to that, you should surround yourself with people who will encourage you since divorce is very distressing.
3.There is a requirement in Utah that couples should attend Divorce Education Class
There is a mandatory divorce orientation course that couples have to complete, created by Utah legislators. Your divorce cannot be completed until you and your significant other complete the course.
The requirement of taking divorce classes is if there are minor children involved since issues of child support and clarifies the consequences of divorce not forgetting the explanation of the divorce process.
4. Parenting after divorce may become more difficult
There may be plenty of disagreements plus you have to endure the pain of calling the mother of kids, ‘mommy’ or ‘daddy’  when referring to the father of kids after the divorce. Raising up you kids alone may not be easy since at times you may need to consult on how some things are done.
It is therefore advisable that you should be amicable to your ex because divorce does not mean that you should be enemies. It is also good that you avoid bad mouthing your ex-spouse when talking to your children. A high level of self control and maturity is needed in this case.
5. You may feel terrible after getting a divorce
After getting the divorce you may be filled with a lot of guilt maybe because you are the one who  initiated the divorce or because children are blaming you. Feelings of guilt will be recurring after the divorce but it is good to stay away from negative people and seek professional advice.
Divorce Attorney Free Consultation
When you need legal help for a divorce, child custody, or other type of family law case in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506 for your Free Consultation. We want to help you.
Ascent Law LLC 8833 S. Redwood Road, Suite C West Jordan, Utah 84088 United States Telephone: (801) 676-5506
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aretia · 5 years
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When did divorce become legal in Utah?
Utah formerly followed the “fault” concept in divorce proceedings; this meant that to establish grounds for a divorce, one partner found fault with the other spouse. In 1987, Utah passed a law that allows divorce when there are “irreconcilable differences” such as when the parties can no longer “pursue the legitimate purposes of the marriage.”
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Under this law, one party doesn’t have to blame the other but may simply tell the court that the marriage is “no longer working.” This is what is called a “no fault” divorce provision.
The law previously held that the offending spouse who caused the divorce, lost rights and property in a divorce proceeding, but as a practical matter and by statute this is no longer the case. The person that begins the divorce action is called the “Petitioner”; the person against whom the divorce is filed is called the “Respondent.”
What are the grounds for divorce in Utah?
1.  Irreconcilable differences of the parties.
Irreconcilable differences means that there is no hope that the couple will be able to work out their problems and save the marriage. It may actually mean irretrievable breakdown of the marriage.
Some of these irreconcilable differences may include: in-laws and extended family involvement, balance between home and work, communication patterns, sexual intimacy, personal habits, sharing household responsibilities, outside friendship, political views,  debt difficulties and also disciplining children. If one of these factors is recurrent in marriage, then the couple can divorce.
2. Impotence at the time of marriage
This is the inability of a man to achieve an erection or orgasm. If you partner has a problem in maintaining an erection, chances are your sex life has taken a hit too.  If you notice this in your partner you may feel frustrated and will not know the next step. Impotence can be brought about by many factors such as stress, depression, anxiety or unresolved issues from his background. Impotence can also be a sign of certain medical conditions such as kidney disease, heart disease and diabetes. Lack of sex in marriage may not be easy, the wife really needs to persevere, thus a legal reason as to why people can divorce in Utah.
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3. Adultery committed subsequent to marriage
Infidelity is the single most damaging thing that happens to marriage. Dealing with infidelity is not that easy for a married couple. The first step is  usually denial, whereby the spouse who has been cheated finds it hard to accept that he or she has been cheated on.
It is wise to accept reality and deal with your spouse’s infidelity. This will save you a lot of health issues related to worrying. In addition to this, you may begin feeling anger towards your spouse and also rejection. This is where majority of the people decide to part ways which is acceptable in Utah.
4. Wilful desertion of the other spouse for more than one year
This is the deliberate abandonment of a spouse without the intention of returning.  One of the spouses in a relationship may decide to leave for various reasons though some may leave without any reason.
Those who silently leave still have the duty to support their under age children and also their wives especially if they are ailing. Some other reasons of leaving may be due to infidelity, or misunderstanding. If your partner leaves and stays away for more than one year, you are at liberty to divorce.
5. Willful neglect to provide the common necessities of life
It is common that a man is the one supposed to provide for the family. Nowadays, women are working and some of them are breadwinners in the family. This issue of women being breadwinners has brought some bit of contradiction.
Men should provide for their families, failure to which they are termed as irresponsible. If a man is not concerned with paying of bills, food and education of the children, then the spouse is at liberty to divorce him.
6. Habitual drunkenness
Being married to an alcoholic may not be easy. Alcoholism may make the other spouse feel insecure, depressed and all alone. If worse goes to worst, alcoholics turn out to be irresponsible and violent. They may spend the whole day drinking and even neglect their duties at work then come home and start beating their spouses.
youtube
In other situations, they may even cause physical injuries to their spouses and even children. Another disadvantage is that some alcoholics use all their money or salary in buying drinks for them and their friends. They neglect their wives and the family lives in poverty despite the father earning. If the situation is not good, especially where physical violence is involved, divorce should be encouraged for the other partner to find peace of mind and reorganize her life.
9. Conviction of Felony
Felony is a crime regarded in Utah and many other judicial systems as more serious than a  wrongdoing or crime. Examples of felony may include murder, aggravated assault, manslaughter, animal cruelty, vehicular homicide, animal cruelty, larceny and arson which is deliberately setting fire to property. 
10. Cruel Treatment to the extent of causing bodily injury or great mental distress 
Cruelty can be mental or physical. Mental cruelty can come when you humiliate another person through your words and actions. It may happen that your spouse is  constantly criticizing you, shouting at you, ignoring you and not giving you emotional support. Mental cruelty is actually emotional abuse. Other examples may include:
a.) Threats of violence or the spouse threatening to leave
b.) Deliberately instilling fear
c.) Making your spouse feel not cared for by threatening them not to give them food
d.) Constantly lying to your partner
e.) Making false statements about other people to your spouse
f.) Hiding important information from your spouse
g.) Repeatedly raising the issue of death of a person your spouse left
h.) Constantly telling an individual that they are too much trouble
i.) Being over-familiar or disrespectful to your spouse
j.) Over Controlling your spouse and constantly ordering him or her around
When it comes to physical cruelty, it does not have to be that the abusive spouse is an alcoholic. At times you find very reasonable people physically abusing their spouses. The point here is: abuse to your partner may lead to divorce.
11. Permanent and incurable insanity
This must be established by a competent medical testimony. In all cases where partners lived separate and apart for three consecutive years, without cohabitation, and are still living separate and apart by reason of the incurable insanity of one of them, the court may grant a decree of absolute divorce upon the petition of the sane spouse: provided that the insane spouse has been released on a trial basis to the custody of his or her respective spouse. This is rare but applicable.
Annulment
Below are prohibited and invalid marriages in Utah, which may be annulled:
a.) Marriages between parents and children
b.) Marriages between ancestors and descendants of every degree
c.) Marriages between brothers and sisters (half or whole);
d.) Marriages between uncles and nieces or aunts and nephews;
e.) Marriages between first cousins (unless both parties are 65 years of age or older, or if both parties are 55 years of age or older, upon a finding by the court that either party is unable to reproduce);
f.) Marriages between any persons related to each other within and not including fifth degree of consanguinity;
e.) When there is a husband or wife living, from whom the person marrying has not been divorced;
f.) Either party is at least 16, but under 18 years of age and has not obtained parental consent;
g.) Either party is under 16 years of age at the time the parties attempt to enter into the marriage, unless the party is 15 years of age and has obtained judicial consent;
h.) Marriage between persons of the same sex; and
i.) Re-marriage to a different spouse before the divorce decree becomes absolute, or in the case of an appeal, before the affirmance of the decree.
When there is doubt regarding the validity of a marriage, either party may demand its avoidance or affirmance in a court where either party is domiciled. However, when one of the parties was under the age of consent at the time of the marriage, the other party of proper age may not have cause against the party under age. The court shall either declare the marriage valid or annulled.
A marriage may also be annulled for any of the annulment grounds existing at common law.
Here are some of things that  no one will tell you about getting a divorce in Utah
1. If you violate the Utah divorce decree there can be serious consequences.
Once the court has given a ruling and the divorce papers signed, both partners are bound to the terms in the decree. If any of the divorcees violates whatever is in the agreement, He or she will be charged of contempt of court. The most common divorce violations include child support, non-provision for the spouse or maintaining your ex- spouse, disobedience of the visitation schedule and not complying with visitation of the children.
If this happens the police will come to your house and record a visitation interference which the family lawyer will use as evidence during the contempt hearing. That is the only thing that the police can do since they cannot bring your kids from your ex-partner.  If your ex does not support the kids maybe due to lack of income there are also legal measures which should be taken.
2. The people around you will judge you and ask you why you divorced
Natives of Utah are a curious species. The news of divorce will spread in church, your neighbourhood and also your workplace. You should be psychologically prepared to hear all sorts of things from people.
Some may tell you that they have never liked your ex from the day you were married only to show you that they are on your side. You will be surprised to see that people that you barely know, know that you divorced and also know why you divorced.
Friends and family may take sides and disappear completely. It is good to limit your words during this period for the sake of your children. In addition to that, you should surround yourself with people who will encourage you since divorce is very distressing.
3.There is a requirement in Utah that couples should attend Divorce Education Class
There is a mandatory divorce orientation course that couples have to complete, created by Utah legislators. Your divorce cannot be completed until you and your significant other complete the course.
The requirement of taking divorce classes is if there are minor children involved since issues of child support and clarifies the consequences of divorce not forgetting the explanation of the divorce process.
4. Parenting after divorce may become more difficult
There may be plenty of disagreements plus you have to endure the pain of calling the mother of kids, ‘mommy’ or ‘daddy’  when referring to the father of kids after the divorce. Raising up you kids alone may not be easy since at times you may need to consult on how some things are done.
It is therefore advisable that you should be amicable to your ex because divorce does not mean that you should be enemies. It is also good that you avoid bad mouthing your ex-spouse when talking to your children. A high level of self control and maturity is needed in this case.
5. You may feel terrible after getting a divorce
After getting the divorce you may be filled with a lot of guilt maybe because you are the one who  initiated the divorce or because children are blaming you. Feelings of guilt will be recurring after the divorce but it is good to stay away from negative people and seek professional advice.
Divorce Attorney Free Consultation
When you need legal help for a divorce, child custody, or other type of family law case in Utah, please call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506 for your Free Consultation. We want to help you.
Ascent Law LLC 8833 S. Redwood Road, Suite C West Jordan, Utah 84088 United States Telephone: (801) 676-5506
Ascent Law LLC
4.9 stars – based on 67 reviews
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Things You Need To Know About Divorce
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