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Support me on main

Sure you could argue some matters should only be discussed privately. But I think there’s a lot of cowardice among so-called nice men (especially the ones of the cishet kind) when it comes to talking to women on social media.

I took a huge dislike to DMs recently.

Private messaging is needed for some things, sure, but if you can only talk to a woman via DMs, fearing other people will judge you a simp, or something like that, you’re actually a wimp.

I’m tired of openly commenting on stuff, and then having men send me a heartfelt “I agree” or “your point of view is interesting”. Then why can’t you point that in a like or in a public comment? Why should your support be private?

“Oh, but nowadays women interpret everything as harassment or creepiness! We can’t comment on anything!”

Look, if you know what you’re saying could be interpreted as harassment, then you’re probably right not to leave that “nice pair of tits” in a woman’s message box (publicly or privately) anyway. But you can make a normal remark, right? Mirror other respectful comments you see. I promise your manhood won’t shrink. You won’t be emasculated by having a simple conversation with a woman or by—Heaven forbid!—agreeing with her or acknowledging she worded a concern of yours like no one you ever saw.

Also, PLEASE bear in mind: not every human interaction is (or should be) sexual by nature. If that’s what you fear, do know that we don’t take every compliment as a declaration of love or sexual attraction, and people who do that are sorely misguided.

And if a man’s intention is indeed to be perceived as a potential partner just for his private, quiet support, well��� at least in my case, I think it’s too little. It shows me you won’t ever love me wholeheartedly on main, which is a hard pass.