#i know thats the point but like. its like my predator instinct is activated in a 'STOP TORMENTING FOOD' way. Yk

[robobee]

i think sub male content is funny but it makes me sad because the men are always so pathetic... it invokes the same feeling of mild horror in me that seeing distressed kittens does. NOOOO you're treating that boy unethically🤕😧

[umbillicalnoose]

i think that you would think im pretty and would like my poetry and i want to share it with you. im shy.

to be honest, im very apathetic these days. im not the nice “cutesy baby flower petal boy” i used to be. a lot has happened & im bitter & sullen & all in all, a pretty shitty friend/person to know. i used to possess some redeeming qualities, believe it or not, even if they were construed by the subconscious in an attempt to be likeable - a facade, even tho its only a facade, is still tangible, still there, is still something, even if not authentic. is poorer character forgivable in the name of presenting more authentically? but nah. that makes it sound like im putting effort into being a better person, which im not. im just sort of fried & done. its been a very long time since i played the role i built for myself on here of the “small fawn boy who wants to help girls” lmaooo. how embarrassing. altho, i was just a kid, & i guess, if you had a tumblr as a teenager, you went thru some cringe (i know the use of that word has fallen in on itself & adopted its own definition but for lack of a better one) ass phases, whether it was kinning or malingering mental illness or oh fucking christ, all that gender bullshit, etc etc. from what ive observed, tho, loosely following kids im still casually friends with that i met on here, i think we’ve all managed to Grow The Fuck Up, at least a little. most of us have jobs or r in school or have partners - growing up & moving on is a very surreal experience to watch/go thru. im moving at my own pace & ive accepted that - im still currently using & starving myself & concocting a suicide plan every day but at least i use clean needles as much as possible, i actively & honestly do strive for the bare minimum calorically, & um able to work with the mentality of “well ill have this when i need it but todays not that day” a lot more readily, in relation to suicide shit. ive finally found a therapist who Really Gets It, is a frontrunner internationally on ritual & extreme abuse & mind control. its pretty incredible what a few years with a good therapist can do. anyways. im sorry, i know you didnt ask for all this & im not even sure why i divulged. i guess, what tipped me off, was your attempt at sounsing “cute” - dude, cut that shit out, i promise youll be a lot better off. & i know everyone interchanges aspects of their personality based on who theyre talking to/who they percieve themselves to be talking to, but i feel like not a lot of people give enough credence to the internet & its hand in shaping/molding young people, kids, vulnerable dumbasses, especially tumblr (tho, i get that its a relatively new phenomenon) - u get a bunch of the “weird”, “alternative”, ““ostracized” kids together on a website, of course its gonna nurture a culture of hypervalidatoon & pretending to be sick in order to fit in to the point that its not an act anymore & exacerbation of symptoms & basically, just sucking each others dicks, sitting in ur own shit, & never ending coddling. & then, you have the older group of kids, who have played this game before but instead of helping or ignoring the Dumbshit kids, they indulge their own normally-buried-but-unleashed-by-internet-anonymity sadism/human instinct to just be fucking dicks & so now you have this vicious cycle of anger & hatred & fucking melodrama up the urethra. im sorry, i know im comig off as/am being harsh but god fuckin dammit yknow? also, this isnt directed at you, specifically, more of a generalized thing, @ myself included. so uh. i mean, if u still wanna share it with me after reading all this, id be happy to read ur poetry. i used to be over the top nice & then reverted to Major Asshole & am now trying to find that sweet middle spot - honoring & allowing myself to share my pain without putting it on others. which is really hard!! cuz becoming a Dick was difficult in that it forced me to be more honest with my true self & as such, more vulnerable - now in trying to become Kinda Nice again because despite being a pulsating scrotom, ive had the intense desire for friendship & human interaction, while simultaneously doing things that i was consciously aware was pushing others away - but then, if i pretend to be nice, where does that authenticity i worked for & was so scared of go? & i dont mean telling someone their new haircut looks nice even when it doesnt - thats just not being a dick. but i guess, those r the normal trials & tribulations of any relationship & adolescent developing identity. which is weird too - dealing with “normal” issues, i mean. whats the point if your life/limbs/breaking point arent at risk? whats the point when your best friends already dead. im sick of people calling "survivors” (despise that word, so fucking female-originated & overdramatic) “brave” & “strong” - surviving is not brave or strong. its just survival. you wouldnt call an animal brave for running for its life from a predator but you would call a dog courageous for going into a burning building to save its owner. premeditated action on the notion that you are probably going to be hurt is brave. being subjected to pain with no choice is not. theres no “silver lining” or anything “good” to be drawn from it either - sure it may have made x a more compassionate person or made y more introspective & gentle but you know what would have been even fucking better??? if the shit hadnt happened in the first place! let x be an asshole & y be self absorbed - the “benefits”, so to speak, do not outweigh the cost, not by a long fucking shot. its not only patronizing to hear garbage like that, but a slap in the face to know that anyone could possibly see anything good coming from that nightmare & that the characteristics, good or bad, you developed either in response to or as a result of, are worth praise. dont tell me im strong for doing what i had to to escape a torture chamber - tell me im perseverant for studying my ass off & passing that test last week. in the words of one of my dearest & most fucking brilliant friends, “pain doesnt owe me/you purpose - the need to intellectualize & assign meaning to pain & death is not only futile, but harmful.” & honestly, i think that it stems from weakness (in most cases - i realize theres a plethora of other reasons such as those who r just desperate for something to hold on to or r hyperintellectual & analytical or who have been pressured by external “support” systems to find the “good” etc etc) - while the majority of people view the person who “can find the good in everything” (strictly speaking only in relation to trauma/tragedy here & more in denunciation of those that celebrate this trait as opposed to vilifying “survivors” who respond this way, though in my experience, its very very very rarely the “survivor” that perpetrates this ideology ) as strong, i sort of see it as a weakness - their inability to sit with & absorb their own pain or that of others is so strong that not only do they have to frantically pull rainbows out of the teeth of a meat cleaver, they also have to exist within this strange (tho, not malicious - more subconscious) superiority complex. like, nah, dude, some times shit is just awful. you cant tell me anything fucking good came out of a four year old girl being kidnapped, gangraped, & tortured for two years, before being impaled & left to die on a stake. her mom opened a non profit organization? oh well thank fucking god for that!!! those that believe the latter to be more “enlightened” or whatever the fuck r the same people who say shit like “dying is easy - living is harder” & i get that that its supposed to be interpreted metaphorically for the most part - giving up is easy, trying isnt (which also.....isnt true??? admitting defeat & fully accepting the fact that ur fucking helpless is beyond hard lmao???) - but pretend youre somewhere, anywhere outside ur sunny little fucking yoga studio full of white women whos biggest issues r the pta & johnny whos failing math, & lets say your life is in real, imminent danger, a gun is to your head & i want you to not scream or cry or beg for ur life since dying is “easier”. if dying is so easy, why do the majority of ppl cling to it with such desperation - why is suicide illegal? why do some ppl go thru 100s of chemo treatments even tho the doctors say theyre just prolonging the inevitable, ppl who cut off a diseased arm so it wont spread, those who walk dozens of miles every day for food & water, etc? & i know & understand the survival instinct better than anyone, even when i wanted to die more than anything, my natural instincts would kick in with no conscious neural input & id do what i had to do. im not condemning those who cling to life (ok - a little. ur wasting resources out of ur own fear. but i also realize thats just me being a Fucking Asshole As Always cuz technically, im doing the same thing tho its more due to lack of opportunity rather than fear. i just think, societally, death should be more normalized, discussed, & not made out to be so unknown & scary), instead just reprimanding those who say shit like that (inspirational facebook quotes). especially cuz most of the ppl who do spew that shit have never gone thru anything even remotely difficult - their worst nightmare is a Big Scary Black Man grabbing them on the street, mugging them, & touching their tits. & i also know that these stupid ass sayings are to be applied to bullshit like exercise & fitness (“no pain no gain” is another one of my Favorites) & not fucking torture or even just ur run of the mill rape, even that would probably smash the rose tinted banana republic shades off their beverly hills tanned faces. but ive heard the no pain no gain one a handful of times in the last few weeks, specifically from doctors performing procedures in preparation for my bottom surgery. & i know its supposed to be encouraging & they have no way of knowing, but its just like, buddy, u have no idea who youre fucking talking to. & im starting to understand what THEY mean when they say it - pain with a reward is infinitely more tolerable than pain just for the sake of pain; like, a tattoo, it hurts, but u know, when its done, its gonna be sick as fuck. when u r able to fall back on the idea that its for something u rlly want, its A Lot easier to handle as opposed to pain thats Just Pain - theres no reward for it except, i guess, that the more u experience it, the closer u r to the end of it lmao. i mean, i still hate when ppl say it cuz for most of my life, pain was just pain, & the “reward” was the opportunity to go home at the end & so whenever ppl say that, my mind just immediately resorts back to that & im just like haha fuck u. but im trying to remember my experiences r definitely not universal & im starting to sorta understand what they mean i think. but, flipping gears here, & going back to the sentiment of “everything happens for a reason”, the base philosophy of psuedo deep Fuckwads - a girls dad didnt fuck her “for a reason”, everything doesnt happen “for a reason”. like ok, hypothetically, the kid he impregnated her with & that she was forced to have at 12 may surpass all odds & not become a homeless junkie & instead become a world renowned doctor who finds the cure for cancer. but she wasnt raped repeatedly from the age of six for that “reason”, no matter what anyone says & honestly, the liberation of the masses does not justify the suffering of one, especially a child. in my eyes at least. but again, im a bitter asshole. sorry i just Went The Fuck Off here oh my god.....if u read all this, thanks, pal. if not, thats cool too. but yea, send me ur stuff, id totally be down to read it. as for me potentially thinking ur cute, i have to look at my disgusting shitstain of a “face” every goddamn day so everyone else to me is fuckin aphrodite. but im also tryin to not put so much worth into physical appearance- its not something that should be complimented cuz its just smth a person was born with which is the same reason it shouldnt be insulted. this is gonna sound gay & stupid but i personally find that a persons essence & personality really permeates. you can meet someone who, objectively, isnt all that great looking, but once u get to know them, u really see their beauty - how the sun catches in their hair, their dilated pupils looking up at u from under long eyelashes in the dark, the birthmark on their right shoulder that they despise but that is so Them, the gap in their teeth, etc. & idk how to phrase this without it sounding like “well ur ugly but at least ur a good person”, cuz that only reiterates the societally indoctrinated emphasis on appearance & my kneejerk reaction to assure the person in question that thats not what im saying is only another result of that!!! its inescapable!!! but no, really, its not just a matter of “its on the inside that counts” - physically, they change or maybe, actually this is more likely, when i first meet them, my “default” eyes r just looking for features that i know im immediately attracted to (tall, blonde, sickly as in sunken eyes sticklike pale but still looks like she could & will beat the shit out of me) but as i fall in love or get to know them better, my eyes adjust & i notice & adore the beauty that was there all along. so uh. idk if ill think ur “cute”. but probably, yes, ill think ur an angel.

[hantis]

2018

I started the year with a photoshoot. It was a very exciting new experience and here’s the result of posing for 2 hours. I know. Could have gone better but the guy was kinda amateur + come on I’m not a Shawn Mendez. :’(

India / Goa

In January we went to India again for the 50th anniversary of some relatives. It was nice and also a great reason to go there again. I arrived with my sister a week before everyone else so we could go to an eye surgery before the main events. It went quickly and painless. Modern technology is amazing. Bye bye glasses!!! After we weren’t endangered and the rest of the family arrived we went to Goa by plain an it was a little piece of heaven on Earth. We saw dolphins, the view was amazing from our wooden cabins on the beach, the food was nice and we just had a great time there. When we went back to Delhi everybody was preparing for the anniversary party. Parties... there were two of them. I asked for a snake shaped henna but the guy fucked it up. I could do better... but its fine. The worst part was still ahead. On the second party they served stg which almost killed everyone. I was in the toilet all night long with fever and the next morning I had to fly back to Dublin coz *surprise* that’s my new home. I moved to my sister and her husband.

Dublin

This cute little city looked like a new blank page for me full of opportunities. I was actively looking for a job, friends and a boyfriend. I wanted to have everything I lost obviously. After a few weeks and after many ups and downs I wasn’t so sure that its the right place for me. The city is pretty small, Irish guys are not the best, Brazilians are crazy dramatic and all I found were sales jobs. I got rejected a lot of times if the HR even answered and it was very demotivating.  I had good times as well. We went to a The Script and a Sam Smith concert, my parents visited, I had some dates and some good parties. Not everything is bad but its still far from what I wanted.  I’m looking for a job in London now. There are much more marketing opportunities there and the city itself is closer to my heart as well. I wanna jump back into the hamster wheel and push it till I reach that motherfucking future I’m dreaming of. I want that dog, I want that husband. I want kids and I want success. 

UK - Stevenage

Moving to the UK was a quick decision. When I realized that most companies are looking for sales people in Dublin but not marketing people, I set my sight on London. At this point I was desperately looking for a job… any job. The first company that showed interest in me was Rephine Ltd. A mid-sized pharmaceutical consultancy 20 minutes north from London in a city called Stevenage. I got the job on Friday and I started to work on Monday (mid-June of 2018). During the weekend in-between I just had to find a room, so I won’t be homeless. Easy right? :D Fortunately I’m an adult now so it was easy peasy. I live in the very centre of the city. Everything is really cheap and really close to me which is good but it’s not London which is bad. Anyway, my weeks are all the same: cycling to work, surviving on coffee and biscuits, go to gym & swimming at David Lloyd which is a posh British club, then go home do some gaming with friends (mostly WoW and Overwatch), sleep, repeat. On the weekends I go to London and end up in a party alone, but I don’t stay alone for long don’t worry. I may be 27 but I still got IT. My predator instincts are sharper then ever before. I’m on the hunt. I have my ups and downs emotionally. It’s good to be free and totally independent but it’s also scary that if anything bad happens there’s nobody around to help me. Sometimes I have a few good dates with nice guys but I’m pretty sure that London will be the answer to most of my questions. It’s exciting. I don’t regret leaving Hungary. I was always a planner. I’m on the long game. My parents visit often. They even surprised me on my first birthday “alone”. They are really really cute and I feel like the luckiest kid in the world. My sister came once too and we went to the Warner Bros. Harry Potter Exhibition. I did watch many musicals too since I moved here like: Kinky Boots, Aladdin, Book of Mormon(!!!), SIX and watched a serious play with Kit Harrington but that one was a bit disappointing.

- to be continued -

[sigurdjarlson]

RANT INCOMING. Yeah it’s about the hellcourse. (tw: rape, abuse, sexual abuse, incest) 

You know a lot of these people seem to have this view that "this makes me feel bad so it's bad and should not exist" and it's a very narrow minded, selfish point of view (it's telling that most 🐜 are children tbh because children have that kind of logic. Some people never grow out of it though I guess)

a particular kink, trope, show, book, fanfic, piece of fan art, whatever that makes you uncomfortable or even triggers you..is not inherently bad. Bad for you? Yes. Bad for everyone in the world ever? No. And to say something should not exist because YOU personally don't like it is..a very entitled and selfish way to view things.

 I've read fics that make me uncomfortable.

 I've read fics that left me feeling gross and fucked up for days. But are the authors bad? Absolutely not. Is the work inherently bad and dangerous? No. It's my personal experiences that make me feel the way I do and not everyone shares the same personal experiences I do. What upsets you might not upset someone else. What helps you might not help someone else. And understanding that is a matter of empathy I think.

when it comes to..problematic works of fiction. (Noncon, abusive ships, incest) they're exactly that. Fiction. Are those things horrible? Definitely. But it's perfectly fine and safe to explore these things in fiction. No one is being harmed. And as long as no one is arguing that they are okay there's no issue.  (and I have rarely, rarely seen shippers arguing that any of these things are okay irl, Honestly some of the shippers of very problematic things that i’ve met are some of the kindest, intelligent people i’ve ever known! Because what someone likes in fiction does not correlate with who they are irl or what they condone irl) 

 And someone being uncomfortable with those things is not the problem because it's understandable. It's when a person thinks they can dictate what a person consumes in fiction that it becomes a problem. It becomes a problem when people begin abusing others for having different opinions. 

Why might someone want to explore these things in fiction?

Some people just find the dark sides of humanity interesting. Fiction is a safe way to explore such things because no one is being harmed. You can explore why someone might do those things or what causes someone to end up that fucked up. Sometimes things are so awful we struggle to comprehend what could possibly make a person do those things and we’re trying to understand it via fiction.

Some people do use it to cope. This has been controversial as of late and...just because a coping mechanism is harmful for you does not mean its harmful to everyone. Everyone copes differently and mental health professionals understand that and thats why people are sometimes encouraged to explore their trauma through fiction. It helps those people. It doesn’t help you? That’s okay but you don’t get to take that away from others because you don’t like it.

You do not have a right to dictate what is or is not healthy for another person unless you are their mental health professional or they ask for your input. Seriously. Mind your own business.

Some people get off on it. Yeah. Some people jack it to noncon and incest and such. So what? It might disgust you (and that’s understandable and most shippers would agree) but it’s hurting NO ONE. Like I said as long as they’re not like hey this would be totally cool in real life...they’re not hurting anyone. 

This can make survivors understandably uncomfortable. No one is saying you’re wrong for being uncomfortable with it. People are saying you’re wrong because you’re trying to control what other people do. 

And the thing is...a lot of those people ARE survivors too. ^^ Scroll back up to the paragraph on coping.

 There are a million reasons why someone might be aroused by these things too.

Some people like it because it’s taboo/dirty/wrong. It’s the feeling that they’re dirty for getting off on it that gets their rocks off.

Some people like it because that’s all they can get off to due to trauma. (this is a common reaction believe it or not. Things like rape fantasies are common in rape victims.)

Some people want to explore dark themes in fiction. Maybe they just find it interesting because it’s so horrible they can’t comprehend what makes people do those things.

Maybe they’re trying to work out things from their past. 

Maybe they’re exploring these themes because they’re trying to understand what happened to them and why it might have happened.

 Maybe they’re trying to take back the power/control they had so cruelly ripped from them. 

They just do. Some people have kinks and they have no idea why. That’s alright. Rape fantasies are quite common in the general population. You can argue why that is all day long but it doesn’t change the fact that people have them. Some people like the thought of being powerless. Some like the idea of someone being so attracted to them they can’t control themselves. I can go on and on.

 Most romance novels have themes like this actually. And that’s okay because it’s fiction. Is that okay in real life? NO. That’s rape. You should always have someone’s enthusiastic, informed, consent.

Also the thing is..rape in real life isn’t about attraction. It’s about power and control. And no one ever truly wants rape. (That’s why it’s rape??) Dub-con is not a thing in real life. Only in fiction. And in fiction? It’s perfectly okay to explore these things because it doesn’t hurt real people. 

And people argue this normalizes such things but it doesn’t? You can’t normalize something that is universally condemned? Rape/incest/abuse is wrong. This isn’t a controversial opinion.

People who claim things like rape/incest/abuse aren’t inherently wrong for XYZ reasons are either (1) delusional (2) trying and failing to rationalize their own behavior (3) lying.

I think of how surveys say college men claim rape is okay and I can tell you right now they KNOW rape is wrong. They’re actively choosing to believe otherwise. They’re trying to convince themselves of it. (rationalizing) 

Abusers will argue all day long about how their behavior isn’t abuse because ______ or they deserved it because _______. It’s not their fault because ________

They will attempt to rationalize their own behavior to take the blame off themselves and put it elsewhere(or take the guilt off themselves if they are even capable of feeling guilt). Hell, sometimes they convince themselves they’re right and actually believe it. 

It reminds me of a post that had a passage from a book on abusers. It goes something like “abusive men will claim they have no control and yet more often than not when in a rage they destroy their victim’s belongings..but not their own.” 

It’s a choice. It’s not because they saw a show with abuse in it and became an abusive monster. They chose to be one.

Are there cases when people aren’t aware they’re being abusive? Sure. But usually on some level they do know what they’re doing is wrong. Most of us know instinctively that hurting others (whether physically or emotionally) is wrong. (unless someone has rationalized their behavior and deluded themselves into thinking it’s right. which happens) But again..this is not caused by fictional content however. There are many reasons but that is not one of them.

Some people claim that predators will use it to groom victims. And the thing is predators can use anything to groom victims. They can use praise, candy, puppies, anything to groom their victims. The point of grooming is to make the victim trust them and they can use many things to do that. 

Also I will point out that most noncon/incest/abuse fics are tagged as such. It’s tagged as rape/abuse/incest. Rape/abuse/incest is bad. It’s not called anything else there. It is what it is and no one is trying to argue otherwise. So....it would actually be counterproductive for them to use such things? Because it’s acknowledged as being wrong. They don’t want their victims to think it’s wrong. 

Some people raise the concern of children stumbling upon these things and not understanding or worse acting on what they’re seeing because it makes them believe it’s normal. 

And..that’s the same argument as “violent video games make people violent.” 

If i write a noncon fic and a child stumbles upon it despite it being tagged properly...it’s not my fault. Beyond proper tagging I am not responsible for monitoring what children see. That is the PARENTS job. If a child lies and says they’re 18 and reads said fic...it’s not my fault. 

This is the case for anything. Books, tv shows, porn, etc. Content warnings are there for a reason. Child safe options are there for a reason. Should we ban everything in the world that is inappropriate for children to see? (violence is included but somehow no one ever argues violent shows or fics should be banned..only sex...hm...telling) 

No. We should put warnings and have better tagging systems, etc. Beyond that..this is the parent’s responsibility. Children shouldn’t be seeing it in the first place.

And the harm something can do does not erase the good it may possibly do. some people only realize what happened to them was abuse because they saw it tagged as #abuse or #rape. There are so many survivors who use this kind of content to cope. There are a lot of good things that can come from it to believe it or not.

There’s also genuinely a lack of sex ed and people should be championing better sex ed programs in schools rather than trying to rid the internet of a ship they don’t like. Seriously I can’t stress this enough. We need better sexual education in schools. 

To say fiction causes X is taking the responsibility off the perpetrator. It’s giving predators the ability to cry about how society is the problem not them! Fiction made them do it! It’s not their fault!

Guess what? It is their fucking fault because they knew what they were doing. They chose to hurt someone and they deserve 100% of the blame for it. Don’t you dare take that off them. 

And yes rape culture is a thing but I might argue that these reoccurring themes are not the cause as much as a lens through which we can see problems that are already there.

And these things are 100% a problem when done in real life. But in fiction. Ughh I just..fiction hurts no one. No one is being harmed. Fictional characters are not people. They have no rights. They don’t have feelings. 

And people who stumble upon these things and are genuinely triggered? It’s very unfortunate and I sympathize but it doesn’t mean those works should be removed from the world. 

(I completely agree things should be properly tagged so people who don’t want to see those things can avoid them. And people who don’t tag their shit need to get their act together)

But ultimately It's your responsibility to make your own safe space. Unfollow blogs that ship or post things that upset you, stop reading fics that make you uncomfortable, don't go in the tags, blacklist, block, etc. there are so many options! 

If people tag their shit and you pointedly ignore those warnings and barge in anyway and then get upset...it;’s not the creator’s fault?

Fiction does effect reality but not in the way people think. It’s not a direct cause and effect relationship. Correlation does not equal causation. 

If Tom reads a noncon fic and rapes someone..it’’s not the author’s fault? Or the fic’s? It’s fully on Tom who chose to rape someone. The fic did not make him a rapist. No one reads something and suddenly turns into a horrible person. If they act on shit like that? They already had very serious issues to begin with because normal, decent people do not do those things. Duh.

And you know I think a lot of @nti’s are survivors lashing out. And hey I get it. I’m a survivor too. I may cope differently than you do but I can understand why others would be upset by it. I’m sorry you had such horrible things happen to you. You didn’t deserve it and your abuser/rapist deserves to rot in fucking hell

But the thing is...fiction isn’t the problem. It didn’t make them do what they did. (that’s a whole other discussion)

People who choose to do horrible things are the problem. 

Maybe @nti’s are lashing out at creators because they can’t lash out at the people that hurt them. That’s misdirected aggression and it’s harmful. 

Don’t hurt others who have done nothing wrong because you’re hurting. 

Hurt people hurt others. The cycle of abuse is called a cycle for a reason 

(While most survivors do not become abusers, it cannot be denied that most abusers were abused at some point. if you’re trying to understand why abusers are abusers you have to take that into account because it is a factor. Along with many other factors)

And I see that with many @nti’s. (not all) They doxx, suicide bait and emotionally abuse others in the name of “justice.” That’s just rationale. Faulty rationale for very toxic behavior.

I believe there are definitely some @nti’s are just fucking assholes who are using social justice as an excuse to treat others like shit because it makes them feel better. But I also believe some people are genuinely misguided or lashing out too.

The thing to remember..you are still responsible for your behavior. Being a survivor or mentally ill does not make you exempt from this rule. You are responsible for critically looking at your own behavior and making appropriate changes. 

I try to live my life in a way that causes the least harm possible. That’s my philosophy and I think it’s one all of us should strive to live by.

Your life will become much more pleasant if you avoid the things you dislike and enjoy the things you do like. Strive to help others. Not hurt innocent people. 

Please stop hurting people over fictional ships. It’s not hurting anyone. It really isn’’t.

If you want to really help people. If you really want to help survivors..help REAL survivors. Donate to charities, volunteer, work for better sex ed, the list goes on and on.  (many shippers do these things too because they understand that fiction and reality need to be separate) 

Because telling Angie on tumblr she’s disgusting for shipping X does nothing.

Summary: I’m very tired of all this

But I wish you all the best all the same.

Whoever you are...whoever is reading this. I hope you find peace..