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#idk maybe this is just a particular trigger for me afjvbsdklfj LMAO but if someone says “everyone abandons me”
cervinelich
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11 months
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"Everyone always leaves/abandons/rejects me =C" is such a huge red flag for me. Saw someone saying this on social media the other day and knee-jerk instinct was "blockblockblock"
#like I understand it can feel like you are constantly being abandoned or rejected especially if you have rejection sensitivity
#but in my personal experience this often comes from assuming the worst of the people around you due to anxiety
#and often translates into not communicating your needs and wants to friends and assuming they should behave a certain way intuitively
#and this has been used MANY times to accuse me of being a shitty person for not... knowing exactly how someone wants to be treated
#and then being accused fucking constantly of not caring enough because I didn't know??? what someone wanted???
#I also was kept on the hook with SEVERAL different people saying “everyone always abandons me =C”
#to put me in a position of never settings boundaries with them bc then they would have an extreme fear reaction I was “leaving them”
#and I'm talking about like if I tried to tell one of them to please not call me at 1AM every night when I had work the next day
#I tried to ask one of my friends if we could spend *slightly* less time together bc we were attached at the hip and he had a MELTDOWN
#asked one ex if I could go hang out with friends without her and she called me sobbing in the middle of the hangout to get me to come home
#idk maybe this is just a particular trigger for me afjvbsdklfj LMAO but if someone says “everyone abandons me”
#I am immediately suspicious that they are expecting too much of their friendships and not communicating and allowing boundaries
#LONG RANT SORRY
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