#if I get to post semi-related personal interest content then I'll answer one of your semi-related questions like this one

[p-redux]

Hello P-! Are you very busy in RL? Or is there really no news or gossip?

Hi Anon, I've got RL stuff going on and I'm also in one of my "meh" fandom moods.

I've gotten a ton of Anon Asks in the last few days but they're mostly asking me about stuff I've answered a million times (Google is your friend, my friends. Go to Google and Search P-redux or fortruthseekers (my old Tumblr account) and whatever topic you're searching for and voilà).

OR asking me about stuff I'm not interested in (I don't pay attention to David Berry or who he's dating). OR "What's your favorite episode of Outlander and why?" (Um, I've made it abundantly clear my blog is not about the show). OR making the same stupid accusations "Sam is gay and this is why..." (Even though I've posted at length all the reasons why it's clear some is NOT gay, including several people I've talked to who know Sam personally). OR "there's no way Sam and Cait never dated," (Again, I've talked exhaustively about this, including posting what several people I've talked to who know both Sam and Cait have said...in short, NO, they never hooked up). OR just yesterday "Who is Paul Camuso and what is his role in the fandom?" OMG, catch up, people.

I guess because I've been in the fandom for 8 years, people think of me as some kind fandom encyclopedia... and I am, but this encyclopedia is TIRED (and has a real life outside the fandom) and now that there's this handy, dandy thing called the INTERNET--all the info I've posted before is literally just a SEARCH away. I understand that sometimes Archives on my blog don't show all my posts, but Google usually does. Again, Search Google for P-redux or Fortruthseekers or even Purv and the topic you're looking for and it should be there.

The other TON of Asks I've gotten lately are all Karina Elle related. "Do you think Sam and Karina are engaged, married, soulmates, buying a puppy together, will he see her for her birthday in November, has she met his family?!?!?!?!?!" OMG, every speculative question under the sun and with so much energy behind it ?!??!?!?!. I'm literally waiting for someone to ask me if I know if Sam and Karina fart in front of each other. Hahahaha. Anyhooo, I'm not big into fantasy scenarios and I don't ship Sam and his significant others, I'm into reality and FACTS. Sooooo, when I get some facts again, I'll post them.

Sorry to be such a downer, but for those that are new, I'm semi fandom retired, I'm not going to be on here all day answering all my Asks. When I answer something it's because I think it's relevant, or if I have extra energy that day, I may answer something I've answered already, BUT for the most part, I only answer about 10% of what's in my Inbox. So, if your Ask doesn't get answered, it's usually because it's one of the categories I mentioned above. I like to keep my content pretty streamlined and with NEW info. If I answered every Ask, then the new or relevant info would get lost.

Again, I feel badly if I'm coming off as negative Nellie, but "meh," I'm in a mood. Love you guys though! Don't hate me too much. 😘

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

Do trans men have male privlege?

Lee says:

Privilege in the trans community is a controversial issue, and often one discussed in bad faith with very binary black-and-white thinking.

Many groups have been debating about to what extent marginalized & oppressed men have access to male privilege for a while now.

Sometimes you'll see "men's rights activist" types who will deny that trans men could experience male privilege because they don't believe that any men have male privilege, or you'll see "trans exclusionary radical feminist" types who will deny that trans men could experience male privilege because they don't believe that trans men are men.

In response to the above, you'll see often trans-supportive folks tack hard in the other direction, and insist that as soon as someone self-identifies as male they gain access to male privilege, following the "trans men are men, and all men have male privilege, and therefore all trans men have male privilege" train of logic.

Then in response to that group, you'll see other trans-supportive folks take the opposite stance and claim that it's actually impossible for trans men to experience male privilege because trans men and cisgender men aren't treated in the same way due to transphobia, and therefore male privilege is restricted to cisgender men.

(And yes, all those are oversimplified examples, but it gives you the gist of their beliefs)

Other people will say that it's more simple than that-- if the people that you interact with see you as a man, then you have male privilege. If people you interact with don't see you as a man, then you don't have male privilege.

But that stance raises questions as well-- if passing stealth trans men have male privilege because they're seen as men, do non-passing closeted trans women have male privilege because they're also seen as men?

Laverne Cox tweeted:

"I was talking to my twin brother today about whether he believes I had male privilege growing up. I was a very feminine child though I was assigned male at birth. My gender was constantly policed. I was told I acted like a girl and was bullied and shamed for that. My femininity did not make me feel privileged. I was a good student and was very much encouraged because of that but I saw cis girls who showed academic promise being nurtured in the black community I grew up in in Mobile, Ala.

Gender exists on a spectrum & the binary narrative which suggests that all trans women transition from male privilege erases a lot of experiences and isn't intersectional. Gender is constituted differently based on the culture we live in. There's no universal experience of gender, of womanhood. To suggest that is essentialist & again not intersectional. Many of our feminist foremothers cautioned against such essentialism & not having an intersectional approach to feminism. Class, race, sexuality, ability, immigration status, education all influence the ways in which we experience privilege punished my femininity and gender nonconformity. The irony of my life is prior to transition I was called a girl and after I am often called a man.

Gender policing & the fact that gender binaries can only exist through strict policing complicates the concept gendered privilege & to lift up diverse trans stories. For too many years there's been far too few trans stories in the media. For over 60 years since Christine Jorgensen stepped off the plane from Europe and became the first internationally known trans woman, the narrative about trans folks in the media was one of 'macho guy becomes a woman'. That's certainly not my story or the stories of many trans folks I know. That narrative often works to reinforce binaries rather than explode them. That explosion is the gender revolution I imagine, one of true gender self determination."

If you're interested in a more in-depth discussion of the issue, the article Seeing Privilege Where It Isn’t: Marginalized Masculinities and the Intersectionality of Privilege might be of interest to you; that article doesn't explicitly address whether transgender men have male privilege, but it gets into a similar discussion about how other marginalized people can experience male privilege. If you copy the DOI into Sci-Hub, I believe the full text should be available...

Here's the abstract:

"When discussing privilege, we often consider it a zero-sum quantity, one either has it or one does not. Since privilege is distributed along a range of axes, we consider three sites in which male privilege is compromised by marginalization by other statuses: disability status, sexuality, and class. Employing a Symbolic Interactionist approach, derived from Erving Goffman's Stigma (1963), we observe strategies employed by disabled men, gay men and working class men to reduce, neutralize, or resist the problematization of masculinity as a constitutive element of their marginalization by class, sexuality, or disability."

There are plenty of other scholarly analysis articles about privilege that you might want to explore, but I personally don't get too deep into theory discussion because gender studies/sociology/social science isn't really my forte.

But even for the disinterested, learning the basics about privilege can be useful because it helps people recognize why certain groups continue to be disadvantaged. It's necessary to acknowledge when there is a systemic problem that is contributing to negative outcomes instead of blaming the outcomes on the group themselves, and admitting that privilege exists can be the first step towards using the privilege that one has access to help lift others up.

Even if one holds that male privilege is conditional on being seen as a cisgender man and therefore could be revoked at any point if a person were to be outed as male, and that one person may not have male privilege all of the time in all areas of their life, it's still possible for a trans man to have access to male privilege in certain situations and that doesn't mean that the experience of having that access to privilege "doesn't count" just because it's conditional.

For example, if someone is pre-op but otherwise male-passing and has an issue with the receptionists at the gynecologist because they're legally male and pass as male but still have a vagina and need an appointment, in that moment they don't have male privilege even though they're passing as male.

But if that same person can walk to work without being catcalled and their boss is more likely to think they have leadership potential because of the boss's implicit bias, they do have male privilege at that moment, even though they didn't have it in another context.

Someone can have privilege in some situations and not others, and this hypothetical person's struggle with transphobia at their doctor's office doesn't "negate" their advantage in their own workplace office because life isn't like that.

These situations where someone has brief periods of male privilege or privilege in some contexts and not others are more common when someone is partially-transitioned and not deep stealth, but it goes to show ya that someone can be subject to transphobia, and even sexism while also have male privilege at times.

Another thing I'd recommend reading is the essay Becoming a Man by P. Carl. It was published in the New York Times around 2 years ago.

Here's an excerpt from the essay:

"One night I was in a Lyft talking to a guy who was a dental technician trying to join the Navy. He told me he was doing it “for his woman.” “I think she’s the one,” he said tentatively. “They only want your money, and I’ve told her I haven’t got any, but I’m making her sign a prenup anyway.”

I heard myself say, “Yeah, man, I feel you — all that bullshit about women’s rights.” He laughed and said, “Yeah, you know, my man, you know what I’m saying.” I tipped him $10 and gave him five stars for letting me indulge my inner sexist jerk.

My friend Lee tells me it’s my job to correct this behavior, and sometimes I do, but sometimes I dive right in, trying to grasp at some false sense of power that I know has been used against me a thousand times in another life. It feels good to blow off steam with another man for just a moment. Becoming a white man visibly is like a newly found superpower — when Spider-­Man suddenly realizes he can scale the sides of buildings but doesn’t quite know how to control his own power and smashes up against a concrete wall on his first several attempts.

I am always doubling as different selves in different spaces, sometimes as trans Carl who lived half a century in a woman’s body, still holding all of Polly’s memories, and sometimes as “dude” Carl along the Interstate and in the back of some Lyft. I am still learning how to navigate the multiple truths this body inhabits."

(Disclaimer: I'm not the Lee mentioned in this piece and I don't know the author!)

I included that snippet of the essay because I think it's indicative of an experience that many of our younger followers haven't had to reckon with yet.

This blog is primarily focused on providing teen-centric advice which means most of the people asking us questions are not grown adults who have lived any period of their lives post-transition and stealth.

If you're a 14-year old trans boy who is pre-everything medical and you don't pass and you're trying to find a way to get a binder and wash your menstrual cup at a communal summer camp bathroom without people noticing and you're out to your friends who all use your pronouns but you still can't get your parents call you by the right name, you're not dealing with male privilege.

And you're probably not friends with many (or even any) fully grown trans adults who are post-transition and living stealth either; you likely just haven't had the opportunity to cross paths with these folks since you're not really in the same stage of life, and if they're living fully stealth they probably wouldn't have come out to you. So your viewpoint on whether trans men can access male privilege is going to be a refection of your experiences and the experiences of your friends-- and their experiences are likely to be pretty similar to yours.

I'm not a "Trans Elder" by any means, but I applied to be a mod on this blog when I was 15 and pre-everything, and now I'm in my early 20's, I've graduated from college and I live with my partner and have a full-time job, I've been on T for half a decade and I've had top surgery, a hysterectomy, and phalloplasty.

I'm pretty close to what I'd consider "post-transition" at this point; there are a few things left on my transition-related to-do list; I'm getting an erectile implant to deal with the erectile dysfunction that occurs with phalloplasty, and I might get some more electrolysis done and then medical tattooing, but these aren't necessarily things that would influence my ability to "pass" or be stealth at work.

Before I had my bottom surgery I didn't know any deep stealth people (for obvious reasons; they have chosen to not be an active part of the broader transgender community anymore), but I have made friends with a lot of stealth men of trans experience since I've joined the post-op community online and IRL, many of them older than myself.

Despite identifying as genderqueer and non-binary and transmasculine in my personal life, I choose to be stealth at work and my coworkers assume I'm a cisgender man. And that means I now have more in common with these men than I used to, although I don't live the same type of life as they do.

When I’m at work, I can tell that the way I’m treated is sometimes different than the way my female coworkers are treated (I have a few unfortunately memorable conversations in mind here where men said sexist things to me about the competency of female providers that I’m confident that they would never have said if they thought a woman was in the room) so yeah, I do have male privilege sometimes even though I’m not actually even a man.

And while I would never say that my experience is More Relevant or something than someone else's, I think it can be harder for people who are not able to pass and live as stealth to answer this type of question because they haven't had the lived experience that showed them that it actually is a possibility for some people, even if it is not something that is possible for them.

So my personal opinion is that some post-transition cis-passing stealth trans men may experience some level of male privilege at some points in their lives within certain contexts and situations, but that doesn't negate that other non-passing out or closeted trans men may not experience any level of male privilege at all; it means that the transmasculine community is broad and varied and diverse, and some but not all members of the community may experience male privilege.

Setting the nebulous questions about whether all members of a group have a particular experience aside, the most important thing is to be an ally in real life in real ways.

And being an ally means not only changing your behavior but also working to change what other people are doing; your privilege comes at the expense of someone else.

That doesn't mean you can just ignore it and it'll go away though. Even if you don't like it and don't want to have it, it's still there, and not taking advantage of it to use it to redirect power back to the marginalized means you're complicit in the system of oppression.

If you, anon, are a post-transition trans man who is living your life stealth, then you have the same responsibility as any other man when it comes to correcting other men who say and do sexist things and choosing to do the right thing yourself.

That does not excuse non-stealth and non-passing trans men from being sexist, but there is an additional responsibility that people who are treated as cisgender men have because you will need to be alert to situations when you do have male privilege so you can use this privilege to help others.

You need to notice the microagressions that other men are committing and act to address them; for example, if your male coworkers listen to your ideas but brush off the comments of your female colleagues, you need to be paying attention so you're aware of the gendered dynamic in your workplace and then speak up to help amplify the voices of your coworkers.

If you're living as a gender-conforming post-transition stealth man, there's a good chance that you do have male privilege, even if you also are subject to other forms of discrimination like ableism and racism and so on that mean that your masculinity is diminished or weaponized in some ways. If you’re a passing Black man, you may not have the same access to privilege as a white man, continuing the example, but you may still have more privilege than a Black woman within the Black community.

But again, this situation may not apply to you, and you know what's happening in your own life better than any stranger online. If you don't have access to male privilege then you don't; I'm addressing those of us who do.

I'm not here to say "All X people have Y privilege, and all Z people have no privilege," and I don't have the kind of authority to make that type of claim anyway, I'm just saying that when you're at the point in your life when you realize that you, personally, do have access to a privilege that you may or may not have had before, you have a responsibility to admit that to yourself and then do the right thing and basically be a good decent person.

I'm sure that the people who are passionate about theory will jump to fighting about whether trans men do or don't have male privilege as soon as I hit "post" on this reply, but I don't really think that tearing each other down over theory actually accomplishes any significant and real change in the actual world, so I would encourage you to exert your energy in more productive ways.

So while I usually end my posts by asking our followers to chime in with their own advice and opinions in the reblogs and replies, I'm ending this post with the equivalent of "proceed with caution"; I have a block button and I will use it! While you are welcome to share anecdotes illustrating your own personal experiences, this is a safe space and not a forum to make inflammatory statements just to stir up a fight.

tl;dr - Sometimes some trans men have male privilege, sometimes they don't. If they do have male privilege, they shouldn't deny and ignore it, but use and leverage it for good as an ally.

[alphaofdarkness]

not me here for the oc ask ! can't wait to answer the ones you asked me, tomorrow i have my exam and then i shall live again haha ! but now i'll ask you 1, 2, 17, 18, 19, 20 and 31 — i know, it is a lot ( you don't have to do them all 💕) , but i really want to know something more about your wonderful babies and Dany ofc ! I missed her sm during this semi-hiatus 🤧💕💕💕 hope you're doing fine, sending you lots of love 💞💕💘

@carmenio Edgy!! 🥺 so happy to hear from you! ✨ I love these kinds of asks, especially on my many, many OC babies! I hope these answers are good and interesting to thee! I’ll present more info on Dany to some way, some how cause I love her 😭💖

I have gone and included the other questions you asked as well! 🤗 Let’s dive in! 😳

1. Gone and Answered Here ! UwU

2. Do you have a personal favorite among your OCs?

Personal favorite is often shown in the one I draw the most lol, which for a long time was Danielle LWW, but just because she was also my wolfsona at the time. After I made my own personal one I think I went onto Sam for a good while, also eventually going to Dany from Bsd!

So a tie between two beautiful girls, Sam is definitely my favorite LWW Oc, she is just precious and the one I hold the most and most always feel terrible and bad when I put her through it TM. 

Also Dany is my self insert, U//w//U, she has definitely allowed me to slowly self love and allow me to appreciate myself, especially the parts of me I didn’t think to much about or consider so appealing, I think? She has definitely been changing gradually into more of myself since I first came up with her almost 2 years ago! Watch me slowly knock her down to my height of 4′9″, let her have her 3 inches for another year maybe lol.

My dearest Atsushi agrees lol ✨🐯

17. Any OC OTPs? 

👀 lol yesss~ so many and so many crack ships too, which I'll answer next 😂

I’ll just go on and list them off, plenty more of them but~:

DanyJay

SoraYama

LidiaTom

AlikLucy

IsabelleKayla

AlexanderIsabelle

DarkwolfmonJatomon

JatamonRaiwolfmon

EarthamonHounmon

HumaamonWolverimon

And lastly TakaSam is the one I have definitely drawn and thought of the most! They are the top OTP and just best trope of Childhood Friends to Lovers trope, also filling in that trope of Oblivious to both of them but everyone else 🙄. While SoraYama may have been the OG Couple in my story, my love and warmth for TakaSam is unmatched TwT.

It is wild cause I always draw anguish between them as could-have-been-lovers-had-it-not-been-for-death, but recently been drawing them purely happy and content. Total sweethearts, the love everyone wants, excluding possibility of being old friends or not!

18. Any OC crackships?

L o l, I never seem to focus on the main couples because of this specific thing.

I’ll again just go off in list an maybe add a trope or something to get an idea of them:

DanyYama: Rivals, Constantly arguing, and can be petty as heck, but oh the potential and just possibility of opening up after the traumaTM 👀 also the couple that is always in your face about being in a relationship.

DanySora: Sparing partners, the sass and stubbornness, BiPan solidarity 👀

DanyLidia: Pure, wholesome, best friends and so much hugging and lifting from the tol to smol, the nature love vibes

SamJay: Wholesome, soft, healing together from traumaTM, protectiveness, also their Digimon were lovers and married in their previous life, what does that make us? 😳

SamDany: Mostly sibling-like relationship, but damn they have that Sun and Moon tropes?! How can you not possibly ship them!

SamLula: Shy and Confident, Bisexual/Lesbian solidarity 💕✨

JaySora: Opposite of the DanyYama tropes, why are our partners constantly arguing, can they please stop, pure and soft together.

DanyTaka: Digimon Au specifically, Oh you and I are the voice of the revolution? We are rallying up the troops together? Oh boi my Digimon feels love for yours, am I falling for you or are we falling together? Depression buddies but also each others hope and spirit boost ;;w;;

Any of the Warriors with the Sins: A whole lo t of mess, and just not healthy ... but I can already seen fandom people sayin g otherwise~

LustWrath: Spicy, no strings attached kind of deal.

WrathEnvy: ...Oof um, not healthy, kind of manipulative, we are devils there is nothing but toxic vibes.

PrideWrath: Rulers, King and Queen vibes, Yeah we are toxic for each other, f*** off.

19. Introduce an OC that means a lot to you (and explain why)

Definitely Darkwolfmon! I am sure I explained in the first question why, but again I consider her to be that other half of me, the part of me I never discovered or the parts that essentially fill in the gaps within me. She is my precious partner Digimon and has honestly come a long, long way since I first created her. I believe sometime in 2009-2010, so almost 11-12 years since. She was the first ever OC of mine and is one I hold closest too in my heart.

For the longest time, even too now, I have always wanted her to just manifest at my side. Go on this journey of life together. While she might not be physically here like my child-self would want, she is still in my stories, my imagination, my inspirational drive. I think that is definitely more than enough, I don't know where or who I would be without having created her. I probably wouldn’t have a whole tale of OC’s and stories to tell if it wasn't for her. 

I am more than grateful and thankful that I am who I am because of this lovely Oc of mine. I can only hope to have her at my side for the rest of my days!

20. Do any of your OCs sing? If they sing, care to share more details (headcanon voice, what kind of songs they like etc)?

Most, if not all, my OC’s can sing! Their voices and tones vary, to which I cannot give a straight answer on how I headcanon most of their voices right now ^^; I will say that Danielle has a British accent to her voice as well as Spanish speak, and Sora has a Russian accent to her voice, so may be just lightly deep, but not to much.

I will definitely go with my Bsd Oc/Self Insert Danielle Mika Mason, however! Because I have gone and done a thing on how she would speak in her Japanese and English Dub! Other than me also being her voice, her Japanese VA would be Yui Ishikawa, same VA of the queen herself, Mikasa 💕 English VA would be Barrett Wilbert Weed, with an English accent, good Veronica from the Heathers! You can have a listen to her here in this post! 

Dany is meek when it comes to her singing, she will often be caught humming and softly singing something, but quickly tends to stop around others. She is often back and forth with how she sounds and often shuts down when she hears someone she considers better than her. She just needs some encouragement and a gentle push from someone she really cares about. When she does feel the push and genuineness from someone she will sing her heart out. But of course prefers to sing for only that one special person~ can ya guess~ 🐯

31.  Pick one OC of yours and explain what their tumblr blog would be like (what they reblog, layout, anything really).

Oh boi! I literally have moodboards to add to this! I pick Samantha, or Sam! 

She would totes have a Tumblr blog, and Instagram! You always look forward to see what she post and just feel an instant calmness and warmth when you see it! She is always tagging her things appropriately, a soft and warm spring like layout that is shades of yellows, golds, orange, white; an occasional blue and teal as well! She would reblog anything of her aesthetic, golds, yellows, dance and ballet related things (may even post videos or poses of herself in practice and dance related things), cafe shops, sweets and desserts, warm night lights, cats, lots and lots of cats and felines of all shapes and sizes! Her best friend/boyfriend, Takaru always cameos in her stories and posts 💖

She would also reblog or spread awareness of any issues happening in the world, marking them and making her own voice heard as well. In spur moments, you may see her not tag things, but will likely go back to name things accordingly. She would also reblog anything of Bi Pride too!

28. Your most dangerous OC? 

Hmmm,,, my most dangerous Oc, I am taking the notion that they are just plain dangerous and likely of evil intent in their actions. Because plenty of my Oc’s on their own are dangerous in their own right, such as the Legendary Wolf Warriors, who have a great power at their paws. They can be destructive in their actions if they lose control or use it for the wrong intentions, which they wouldn't do of their free will. 

I will say Danielle and Sam are the strongest of the seven, because of their powers of Darkness and Light, respectively. Their souls created the others, so the other Warrior’s power does not match theirs. They can definitely be lethal together if used for the wrong reasons or if they are under the control of a Human or Deadly Sin.

Which leads me to say that the most dangerous of my OC’s with the worst intentions and evil thought processes that makes them dangerous is likely the Deadly Soul Sin Pride, or Mikka Penelope King/Pride as her solid name goes. 

She is definitely the most sinister of the seven sins, even worse than Wrath, who you may figure would be the worst. She has a calculating mind and is very precise in her actions and ways of manipulation. She has a poison within her veins that is just as deadly, capable of blinding others or even killing without remorse or care. While she may be a ghost like entity in my stories, a person/digimon holder in my Digimon College Au, she has enough power to influence people to fall under pride and vanity in the most dangerous level possible, heck even possess them if she wishes. That makes her stronger, as well as the other sins. Does not matter if she is dead or fades away for a while, her influence remains and if it does, than she can exist for a long as she desires.

48. OC who is a perfect cinnamon roll, too good for this world, too pure

Lol I saw cinnamon roll and instantly had a list of ocs ready, honestly any child OC I have is instantly a cinnamon roll and to good and put for this world, please treat them all kindly!

Current top Oc’s that come to mind are Haruko Mason-Nakajima, along with their nameless sister/pup! They are the sweetest babies ever and love them so much. Too good and pure, especially nameless pup with her love for tigers; she wants to grow up and be like her sibling and papa 🥺🥰  You can see the post on them here!

Next up is my precious flamey boi named Alik Azure Mizuhara! A next gen. LWW, son of Sora and Yamato! A little sightless boi with the softest heart and warmest empathy for others. Very much like his mother in likeness and pure curiosity of the world’s secrets and tales. His father worries for him a lot, but gradually learns to trust in his ability to guide himself. Don’t worry too much about him, he is very smart and knows how to care and guide himself!

Thank you so much for the time and questions you asked me Edgy! I had so much fun with these and gave me a chance to gush about my dearest OC’s! I do hope you find them of interest! 🤗🥺🥰

May your day be beautiful and amazing!! 🥰✨💖