#if you got songs you have that are aro or that you misinterpret in fun and cool ways to be aro let me know

[peach-pot]

songs that’re in my aro playlist and why 😎

(I ❤️ misinterpreting lyrics for the sake of aromanticism. also I'm on the grayro spectrum and that influences this a lot.)

1. World of Two by CAKE

feels like being aromantic and two people in your life start dating and making a BIG show of it

"I don't want to / Live in your world / Of two / There's only room for you"

2. When by dodie

"I think I've been telling lies / 'Cause I've never been in love"

"I'd rather date an idea / Something I'll never find"

"They tell me I loved, teach me how to think"

"I'm waiting to live, and waiting to love / Oh, it'll be over, and I'll still be asking when"

come on.

3. don't quite belong by dodie

feels like knowing there's something up with you and romance, but not yet knowing what being aromantic is

"Holding hands like it's planned / How do they know what they mean? / I go up to a friend, grab his arm / "What's the code I should know? / Do you struggle like me?""

"Am I / Missing something vital here? / 'Cause I / Woke up feeling kind of weird / Guess I'll just pretend / Play along 'til they figure it out / I don't quite belong"

4. Beside Myself by The Escape Artist

"The way I love you is if I were someone else / And I'm sat here beside myself / God, I can't keep doing this"

"I guess I don't know what I want / Who knows better? / Oh, everyone / So this is why we're alive / To procreate, perform, pretend, prescribe / It's just the way things work"

"Now we're talking, and I know just what he wants / So I stop him / This time I'm honest for once / "Hey, man, this is really not something I do." / But he won't quit, just wants my number as "friends" / And I hate it"

"I know you see me as if there's something wrong / And it's hard not to play along"

come on. I mean come on.

5. I Wanna Keep Yr Dog by illuminati hotties

it's about getting out a relationship and missing the dog more than the person. very easy to make about being aro if you ask me.

"I felt very little for you, oh well / Thanks for taking care of ol' me"

"You’re alright, but I wanna keep your dog / This is the last night unless you let me keep your dog / I know you want me close / But when you're gone, it's her I miss the most / I'd rather keep your dog"

6. Happy Unhappy by The Beths

feels like being happy being aromantic and then having a crush for the first time and it being more of a bother than anything else. (describing being single as being "happy unhappy" feels like a very aro thing to me on its own.)

"'Cause I was fine on my own / Tolling steady like a dial tone / Couldn't you leave me? / I was happy unhappy / But now I'm overthrown / Wish my heart were really made of stone"

7. Too Soon by Liza Anne

I relate this a lot to my experience being grayromantic where every time I think I have a crush I overthink it, whether or not the feelings are real at the end of the day. feels like thinking you might have a crush and not wanting to overthink it so you can instead just try to have a bit of fun with the feelings for however long they last.

"I think that I am gonna try to / Be a little less in my mind to / Overthink a good thing / Under feel a real thing / I wanna lose my mind a little / I wanna love you"

8. I Think I Love You by The Partridge Family

"I think I love you so what am I so afraid of / I'm afraid that I'm not sure of a love there is no cure for"

"I don't know what I'm up against / I don't know what it's all about / I got so much to think about"

^^ what experiencing romantic attraction is like when you're me and you're grayro and every time it takes several weeks to figure out if what you're feeling is even romantic attraction in the first place.

[lendmyboyfriendahand]

Aro-Ace Feanorians

Yes, every single one of them is plausibly (if admittedly not likely) aro-ace.

Maedhros has a dozen excuses for why he's unmarried. He is learning how to balance the interests of all the Noldor to help his grandfather, and it would not do to commit to one group over another. He's dedicated to his father's goals, and marrying someone would be unfairly placing them second. Feanor is suspicious of outsiders, of those loyal to Nolofinwe, of his own sons' loyalty; any of them marrying would be seen as trying to leave. Maedhros is King, and any he courted would not dare refuse him, regardless of what they truly wanted. He was broken by Angband, and will not marry someone who only pities him. He has the Oath, and is bound for the Void, and he will not leave someone widowed until the world is remade. That he's never wanted anyone is irrelevant, and he is not going to give people another reason to call his family marred.

Maglor got married once, it's true. He was in a complete creative desert, trying to figure out what is was that people meant in romantic songs, as he refused to stay out of an entire genre. She was a painter, and he compared her artwork to the flowers, and her body to her artwork, and managed to go several years before she realized that what he felt for her as not what she felt for him. They parted on good terms, and Maglor went back to writing epics and histories and odes to the natural world.

Celegorm knows that sex is fun. It's the ultimate way to be in your body, to embrace physical sensation and push yourself to peaks of athleticism, at least the way he does it. He's aware that most people are not estimating how much someone can bench-press when looking them over before sex, but other people's minds are not particularly interesting to him. Luthien is half-maia, and could do things to him he's never experienced before, so he pursues her.

Caranthir has a reputation for being cold and emotionless except when he flies into fits of rage. This is because he's profoundly uncomfortable with people hitting on him, and terrified someone will think he's hitting on them, so he retreats into formality as much as possible with everyone except immediate family. The dwarves, though, all think he looks kind of ridiculous, and he can finally relax and be friendly without worrying it will be misinterpreted. They like trading with him because he never asks the stupid intrusive questions about dwarf women everyone else seems fascinated by, as he does his best to avoid thinking about how any people make more of themselves.

Curufin wanted an apprentice as brilliant as him. There was none to be found in Tirion, and the thought of a greater craftsman among the Vanyar or Teleri is laughable, so he realizes he must make his own. He asks one of Feanor's apprentices to help him with the project, and she agrees because she wants to be part of the family. Celebrimbor is everything Curufin hoped for, and he honestly forgets about his wife most of the time once the boy is old enough to forge.

Amrod and Amras really don't see a need for marriage. The point is to have someone who will place you as their highest priority before all others until the end of time, but they already have each other. And while they agree that Celebrimbor is a perfectly fine nephew, babies are incredibly messy and very little fun. Besides, between Finwe's remarriage to Indis and Nerdanel's separation from Feanor, they have a rather dimmer view of the permanence of marriage than most elves.