#ik I’m bi but women make me cry

[a-very-fond-farewell]

me: *going out for a small trip after like a month*

me: *is exposed to pretty women*

me: *is overwhelmed*

me: that was a mistake.. time to write my emotions away

[daydream-hobii]

(PT1) This has literally nothing to do with bts but I need some advice and ik this blog is z safe space. So I’ve identified as bi for now 5 years and have been happy like that. At the end of my senior year I started to question my sexuality. Now it’s about 2 months out of highschool and I am about 90% sure I’m a full ass lesbian. Here the problem,,I’m so deep in the closet bc my family literally rolls there eyes anytime I even bring up the same sex and they basically don’t believe as it is-😭

(PT2) sorry this never sent!! What I need is some advice on how to come out again or dead serious some people that will just let me cry on there shoulder thank you so much -😭

TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions of Coming Out; Mentions of Sexuality and Sex; Read with Caution~

That’s okay sweetheart~ I’m glad you feel confident enough to send me an ask, and I’m glad you feel my blog is a safe space. I’m probably the worst person to ask about coming out advice, as I’m still in the closet myself, and I really don’t ever plan to come out to my family for personal reasons, but I’ve made peace with that. I have, however, come out to most of my friends, so maybe I’m a half closeted bisexual? As for you changing your sexuality, I want to make it very clear: Your sexuality does not have to stay the same throughout your whole life. It’s similar to how you change friends every nine years, sexuality is so open and it’s okay that you’ve changed, so don’t feel bad about switching from bisexual to full time lesbian, that is okay! There actually isn’t a sexuality for me. I’m not romantically attracted to women, just never have been. I’m only sexually attracted to them, which is just my own preference. Buuut, I’m romantically and sexually to men. Bisexual is just the closest term I’ve come across to explain myself.

The best advice I can give you is don’t force yourself to come out, make sure the time is right for both you and your family. When you do decide to tell your family, you may need to give them time to comprehend or possibly believe you when you come out to them, older generations don’t tend to understand sexuality as much as we do, but please be cautious in the sense of preparing yourself. They may not like it, they may not believe you, but they definitely will need time to accept it and, if they truly love you, which every parent and sibling and relative should, no matter the circumstances, they will grow to understand and accept you for who you are.

I hope this helped you in some possible way, darling. If anyone has anymore advice or stories of themselves coming out, please comment below~

[gayasinstupidpodcast]

What’s up gamers!!! Our fourth episode plowed through the chaos of thanksgiving holidays and is Here w/ some Facts and Opinions about creating shit and being LGBT and how being LGBT influences creating shit. HEADS UP we recorded this while I had a cold so my voice is probably a little off, but ik Isaac put SO much work into the editing so it would be ready on time and we have recorded statements from some amazing artists (transcriptions under the cut below!) & this is honestly one of my favorite episodes we’ve done so far, so give her a listen if you’re gay or enjoy fun things!

BIG thank you once again to everyone who participated in this month’s episode!! Your contributions are so valued and so beautiful!!

You can find us on the Itunes Podcast App/Webpage at Gay As In Stupid Podcast! You can also find our episodes uploaded to Youtube and Soundcloud!

You can also follow us on twitter at gayasinstupid!

Further Reading on LGBT Artists

Montage of a Queering Deferred: Memory, Ownership, and Archival Silencing in the Rhetorical Biography of Langston Hughes

The Political Provocations of Keith Haring 

Pop art politics: Activism of Keith Haring 

E M Forster’s Gay Fiction

Alok Vaid-Menon Tells Us What It’s Like To Be Femme In Public

Shea Diamond Speaks Her Truth

Aaron’s 2018 November Recs!

Alok Alok Vaid-Menon is one of my favorite poet/activist/performance artists out there! Their writing and stage presence is gorgeous and witty in a way that’s SO clever and still feels like you’re in a room trading jokes you don’t need to explain with your closest trans friends. The way they balance their art creates a real, deeply touching experience that feels very essential to our world.

Miles (2016) Miles is set in 1999 and is a coming of age story about a gay teenager trying to get a volleyball scholarship for college in Chicago. It’s not revolutionary and it’s not over the top dramatic, but it’s funny and honest and it makes me feel nice. Definitely the movie to watch when you’ve just been through something emotionally taxing and need a light crying session and some mediocre pastries.

Isaac’s 2018 November Recs!

The Adventure Zone I know half of you already kin the Mcelroys while the other half either don’t know or don’t care, but the Adventure Zone is one of my most favorite things in the world. It’s a DND podcast (yes, all episodes are transcribed, and they have a graphic novel for the first arc of Balance with a second one on the way!) by three brothers plus their dad, and not only does it have the most amazing story and is ungodly funny, but TONS of gays (Griffin went ape with those Lesbian NPCS)! And just because they can! Same with trans characters. It’s a story where they just exist, and that’s really important to me because in a lot of media LGBT have to almost prove why they deserve to take up space. And it’s not just something that goes on in their first campaign, Amnesty also has those sweet sweet gay! I could talk about this podcast for hours, so if you needed that final push to give it a listen, THIS IS IT!

Stardew Valley You get to farm and be gay. And if THAT hasn’t sold you on this charming video game, then maybe the super cute graphics, beautiful soundtrack and a handful of interesting characters will! TBH I spend so much time playing this game it’s concerning. It’s just such a fun way to relax, and I just really REALLY like video games were I can chose to be gay. Like. God Tier. YOU CAN HAVE CROPS AND CHICKENS AND BE GAY C’MON YALL!!

The Amazing Quotes And Artists Featured!

Meg | instagram | esty

“My identity as a bisexual woman influences my art in many ways. As a woman, i create art about the issues that effect me, such as abortion and gender equality, in order to resonate with the people that matter most to me. As a bisexual individual, my subjects often appear from a gaze that falls outside of the stereotypical eye. My figure drawings and portraits all come from a place of admiration, and don’t fall into the stereotype of the male gaze or womanly care- they are the space inbetween, equally sexualized and normalized. I feel lucky to be a bi gal in the art world because it is a place that is my own to create in. There are so many queer artists that i look up to such as Mapplethorpe and Warhol, and many female artists i can cite as influence (Jenny Holzer, Kiki Smith, and Louise Bourgeois to name a few). My identity gives me a whole new world of content to draw from and allows my work to resonate with a wider audience, and I really think that any artists goal is to reach and touch as many people as possible.“  

Cameron | twitter | instagram 

“I don’t think that it influences the form really, but it definitely influences the subject matter! (Much as I hate to admit it, my identity influences the majority of choices I make in life.) I write a lot of poems about lgbtq related things and religion, as well as other stuff too. I was raised catholic, so realizing that I was “different” at more than one point in my teen years was scary AF. Being a member of the lgbtq+ community and also trying to still feel like I belong, or wanting to, in a religious community is hard, the two things are usually at a crossroads in my life so writing about them makes it easier for me to get through. My hope is that someday someone reads what I wrote and finds some peace in their own life/experience.” 

Vince | art instagram

“Well, being transgender I feel like I’m constantly aware of the lack of representation of my community, and I feel like it might be because of that I tend to experiment with showing all sorts of different type of people in my work. Because there’s so much diversity in the world, why not showcase that?”

Fox | art instagram  

“Oof…I’m gay so my characters always be gay. Gotta Fill the void in media w my own bullshit so I don’t have to rely on straight showrunners who will inevitably discard the character since they themselves seem to have no personal attachment and treat lgbt characters as disposable extras. Bc if I don’t at least attempt to create representation in the field I’m going into then I can’t rlly complain about the lack of it right? If I don’t try and change it I can’t complain about the lack of change so being an lgbt artist is lowkey Big Pressure to be revolutionary in your work but sometime…..I just wanna draw funkey animeal and that’s aight too”

Jen | twitter | instagram

“As a female bisexual poet, I worry often that my poetry and art will be too niche to be appreciated. I’ve spent years editing my poetry down to its barest bones in hopes that someone will relate to it. Changing pronouns back and forth because I worry that if I do talk about a woman, the poem will be stripped of its context and suddenly be about my queerness when in reality it never was. When I write about love and people I have dated and have crushed on, I want the poem to exist outside of the gender of who I love. I fear my authorial death will result in a complete misinterpretation of what I mean. When I write, it truly does not matter to me if I am writing about a woman or a man. If I feel what I write and I can make someone else feel it too does it matter that I also love women? I write what matters to me overall, regardless of gender, I try to make my poetry as true as possible. Sometimes, when I catch myself over editing I try to take myself back to the moment, to the person, what I loved about him or her. “

Lain | art instagram

“My LGBT Identity has significantly impacted almost all of my art, especially my work over the last two years. Ever since I have allowed myself to accept that I am trans and began my transition (6 months on T!), the impact that my Roman Catholic upbringing has had on my bisexual trans identity has bled into my artwork. Because of the way I was raised, accepting and allowing myself to be authentic has been an upward struggle. And what better way to process and document struggle than art?  

Much of my recent work has had a focus on the trans body, particularly the “sanctity” of self-actualization and the god-like power that comes with accepting and creating yourself in the unique and exceptional way that LGBT people must in order to live authentically. Two of my pieces on this topic were actually recently exhibited at UWM in the Trans-lucent exhibition, and will remain there until December 15th (I think). I got sick and tired of never seeing trans representation, so now I am creating that space that I crave in my own work.”

Kobe | instagram | soundcloud

“My art from is very influenced by my LGBT identity. It is very influenced by my LGBT black Identity. I think that whenever an artist makes their art (in my case writing music, singing, dancing) they should incorporate as much of themselves as possible. I think my LGBT identity definitely adds a sense of representation as well. I want people like me to listen to my music to know they aren’t alone. So it influences my work a lot. “

Nat | art instagram

“I think the fact that I am part of the LGBT+ community influences my art directly. Even though I don’t draw as often as I wish, I believe both my drawings and college projects (I am a 3d art/animation student), and my creativity in general is inspired by my personal experiences as a gay woman and common things experienced by the community. I try as often as I can to bring representation of some kind in the things I do, mainly personal projects. I also feel that it influences me on my motivation to keep creating; whenever I listen to, see drawings, watch movies or see whatever form of artistic expression from LGBT+ artists it gives me the energy to keep going, to keep creating.”

[zorume-star]

Great things about Birds of Prey and the fantabulous emancipation of one Harley Quinn

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Spoiler alert ! Do not open if you haven’t seen the movie ;)

Here’s a list of things I loved from this movie :

Harley is not part of the Birds of Prey team, she’s on her own, she’s still quite a vilain or anti-hero, well, she doesn’t follow any rules and can be really harmful but most of the times she wanna do good/nice things

Harley is quite comic-accurate in her character and behaviour !

Bernie the beaver is there !! And she talks to him, just ike in the comics I’meirfjkj

Police station scene is awesome and it’s just SO Harley-like. Bullets ? BORING ! Better fight with glitter and paint !

Violence, nice fights, broken legs, girls are powerful just like they are in the comics... since it’s not much gore it’s quite enjoyable !!

Dinah is conflicted and seeing her hesitating to help Harley and Cass and using her canary cry... I can relate so much ! I loved her character development in the movie

Huntress is fucking amazing ! Her awkwardness towards other people is cute as hell and relatable I love it.

Renee being over 50 years old (since the actress, Rosie Perez is 55 years old), being tiny and kicking ass is the best thing ever ! I’m quite glad we finally have a WOMAN who actually is AND looks like she’s over 40 as a main character and a fighter.

Beard on fire with Harley’s “aw fuck this is perfect” smile was awesome too

Zsasz is creepy as fuck, he represents well toxic masculinity and misogyny

Roman is both fabulous and creepy he’s a great vilain ! The scene at the club with the lady is... really horrible and makes the film even greater in its fight against misogyny

All these women making decisions for them and telling men who control them : FUCK OFF I’M OUT is incredible I want this energy in my life, I want to be able to do this too.

Dinah’s canary cry ???? Do I even have to talk about it ? It was the most beautiful and amazing canary cry I’ve ever seen.

Dinah singing omfg Jurnee can sing good it’s so great !

The hair tie scene ! My favourite scene ! Dinah having her hair all messed up, Harley giving her a hair tie and Dinah keeping on kicking ass while tying her hair is so damn relatable it’s fucking me on everyday life except I unfortunatly don’t kick ass :D

All the women having different and unique fighting style is damn cool !

The way they all try to protect Cass from the violence is cute as hell ! They all have dealt with this violence before and don’t want her to see it too and they all got their own way of protecting her it’s adorable.

Harley and Cass relationship is quite nice. I loved the moment when they are at Harley’s flat eating cereals and having fun ! 

Huntress complimenting Dinah is cute as hell and makes me ship them

The whole tacos scene at the end with all of them being happy to have friends and the whole mess to be over is priceless and too pure for this world.

Harley wanting this damn egg sandwich so much is just so much her they really did get her in this film I’m so proud of the people who worked on this movie

Harley reminding us all she’s got a PhD and that she’s a psychiatrist hell yeah !

Harley being bi (she got an ex-girlfriend in the intro) and Renee being lesbian and we SEE her ex-girlfriend thats awesome we want more of this. (actually what I want is simple : Harley x Ivy, all official girlfriends, on the big screen)

Hell yeah I think you know that I really LOVED Birds of Prey and that I want more of them ! I still have some negative points over it but the whole movie was incredible and I want to see it again.