#imagine what's possible when you aren't a 24/7 disappointment for not being the other guy. the right guy.

[flaticeball]

it isn’t the storm that makes the ocean dangerous.

[lg-secretsx]

I'm very stressed. I hinted to my husband about a daddy Dom and little relationship and he was like "as long as you regressing has nothing to do with me it's fine" and my heart dropped. He's usually pretty dominant in the relationship and I do what he says because I'm really submissive by nature and I'm really frustrated. My needs aren't being met the way I want them to be. He orders me to do things and I'll argue back and hell just get mad. I so badly want to get punishments and rewards. I honestly feel kinda worthless I'm not gonna lie! I'm so frustrated I don't know what to do :( the little in me is so sad and lost

Do you have any advice?.

Hi! I'm sorry you are going through this - I can imagine how disappointing and hurtful it would be to hear him say that 😕 so first off, please remind yourself that your worth is not defined by another person, even if it's the person you love most. You're human and you have valid wants & needs, and just because he's not open to them at this moment, it doesn't mean you're unworthy of having them fulfilled.

It sounds like the conflict here is that you and your husband have two different ideas about your relationship, and you're both operating as if your version is the other person's reality too. You are viewing his actions through a D/s lens, seeing him as dominant and hoping he will fulfill that role by punishing you when you act out, but that's not his reality because you've never actually had an open conversation where you've suggested that's what you want.

The good news is that it sounds like you guys already have a really good foundation for a D/s relationship because you're naturally inclined to relate to each other that way. But D/s doesn't just happen - it involves discussion, trial and error, disappointment, compromise, a lot of effort, more discussion, more trial and error, etc.

So I think you definitely need to have a more open conversation with him that goes beyond just "hinting." If you want him to buy in, you have to communicate a) why it means so much to you and b) what's in it for him. But first you need to address the comment he made. Explain why what he said was hurtful to you. Ask why he doesn't want anything to do with it. What bothers him about your age regression? It's possible that he'll come around once you explain how he might be involved in a positive way.

It's also possible that he's not going to want to be involved in your age regression, but you might still be able to have the other aspects of D/s. Personally, I think my relationship is pretty similar to a lot of 24/7 D/s couples who aren't dd/lg. Most of the time that my daddy and I express the power exchange are moments when I'm not in little space. He sets rules that I follow, he makes decisions for us, he spanks me or grabs the back of my neck when he's trying to get me to do something. These are all everyday D/s things that don't require me to be little.

It might be a good idea for you to write down some ideas for what D/s could look like for you and your husband, and then share them with him. Don't write a list of 50 things because that won't be realistic. Do include things that you know he will like, whether that's rules for you to do things that will benefit him or things he'd find sexy.

I hope this helps but feel free to let me know if you still have questions. Good luck!! 💌