#its like instead of aphobia actually being dismantled people just decided it wasnt fun anymore and thats the only reason it isnt the same-

[dyketubbo]

random thought of the day i think people who used to be aphobic should have the same weight held to them as people who used to be bigoted in any other way. i dont mean this in a punishment way, im proud of anyone who used to be a bigot and realized that they were wrong, genuinely. but i hate how past aphobia is treated as just some quirky thing everyone did, just some phase. its bigotry and it should be taken more seriously because the way people will brush aside someone being aphobic is fucked. and the fact that people dont take it as seriously means theres still so many people who think they arent aphobic just bc they arent harassing ace people anymore

and its hard to really word what i mean bc i dont want it to come off as "i think if you used to be a bigot it should be held over your head for the rest of your life" but at the same time like. theres so many people i see who said really aphobic shit and STILL hold aphobic beliefs and say lowkey aphobic things but just because they arent actively saying that ace people arent lgbt outright its ok like no. just period if you think being aro and/or ace doesnt inherently make you lgbt/queer thats STILL APHOBIA. if you still completely erase aros from the discussion thats STILL APHOBIA!! if you still truly hold that kids cant identify as ace but wont say anything abt aromantism and still believe kids can be any other kind of queer thats STILL APHOBIA. if you still see queerplatonic relationships as just best friends+ and consider queerplatonic to be the same as platonic thats STILL CONNECTED TO APHOBIA. its all still bigotry!! youre still being a bigot against aro and ace people!! and the fact that people dont take any of that seriously and dont take more obvious forms of aphobia seriously either directly leads to lowkey forms of aphobia still existing and results in bigots either staying bigots or never properly addressing their past bigotry outside of "well i dont believe that anymore so thats it right im good"