#itsyourdecision

[ufuomaee]

I'm still sharing a lesson a day from my #novel, #TheNaiveWifeRachelsChoice, in preparation for its #sequel, #TheNaiveWifeRachelsDiary coming out this October 🙌🙌🙌 Thanks to @mixsiefunbooks and @ejiroosakede for the inspiration to do this 🤗😘 LESSON ELEVEN "If in doubt, say "no", even when surrounded by many witnesses. They are only witnesses, not part-takers." Your decision to say "yes", whether to a proposal or at the altar, where witnesses have gathered is ENTIRELY up to you! Don't let the fact that others are there pressure you to say what you're not sure of. You are being ASKED a question, and they are only present to witness your answer, whether yes or no. It's your decision. #TheNaiveWife #RachelsChoice #RachelsDiary #ChristianFiction #12LessonsFromTheNaiveWife #ItsOKtoSayNo #ItsYourDecision https://www.instagram.com/p/CFtlNqTF0gA/?igshid=1npyjeozypsbc

[19curt77]

Creating something can always end up being a beautiful thing... create your life for yourself and the moments that makes your life memorable!!! #FactFriday #Create #Life #Moments #Memories #LiveLife #BeTheBestYou #PositiveVibes #ItsYourDecision https://www.instagram.com/p/BsNyQ8IFfmnItqAaSw9uvPvDHuLJdwzXatLtCY0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1doiu8zyai58u

[therandomrebel-blog]

I put my walls down for you. The second that happened you turned into someone I don’t even know anymore

[adoptionfamilysupportcenter]

“Forgiveness isn’t approving what happened...it’s choosing to rise above it...🌟” #forgiveness #healing #adoptionandfamilysupportcenter #adoptionjourney #itsyourdecision https://www.instagram.com/p/B6nnaN6lRlq/?igshid=10burct4z8i1p

[sahrawarrelmann-blog]

Throw the garb from your head. Our brain is daily flooded with stimuli and filled with information. Who carries this, who does it? Do I have to pay bills? What do I do at Xx. Xx.2018? I go on vacation or stay at home. What happened 3 weeks ago? We are constantly living in the past, in the future, and in the things that need to be experienced.We miss the current moment and take the power that is in us when our mind is free! #qutoes #Sprüche # Motivation #Weisheit #Verstand #Müll #yourself #past #future #bills #vacation #SWNaturalart #german #germany #selbstliebe #seiduselbst #Schmeißen #itsyourdecision #decisions #way #liveyourlife #Life #road #strong #pic #onmyway #ontour

[riniemarin]

Tu decides... www.riniemarin.com #itsuptoyou #youdecide #itsyourdecision #riniemarin #yesoryes #keepgoing #becouseyoucan #ofcourseyoucan #onemoretosuccess #thebestyoucan #nevergiveup #zeroexcuses #bemoredomore #spinning #spinningmiami #spin #indoorcycling #miami #indoorcyclingmiami #hardtraining #teamspinningmiami #spinningteammiami #circuitboxing #circuitboxingmiami #trx #trxmiami #victoryisyours #thevitaminshoppe #plusathlete (at Miami, Florida)

[driven4utoday]

What are you planning for new year? #itsyourdecision #youchoose #todayitsyourday

[ttigi]

[svbranches]

And so it is... #life #movingforward #itsyourdecision

[19curt77]

Have a purpose... that’s all!!! #PositiveLife #Purpose #BeTheBestYou #DramaFree #Goals #PositiveVibes #ItsYourDecision https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo30nNbhLPWu7GbH_vSSbg4NnhgB6F5GnnaOgE0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=9z3tv2lmx3y7

[plinni]

[mrscuevas16-blog]

#karinalily #karinalilyproducts #karinalilydistributor #mrscuevas16 #healthy #yum #coldtea #summertime #refresh #starbucks #metabolismbooster #energy #raspberry #workout #kidsfriendly #allnatural #stayactive #family #delicious #colddrink #hotdrink #itsyourdecision #youwontregretit #thinkaboutit #messagemefordetails www.elicuevas.bigcartel.com (at Karina Lily Health and Beauty)

[riniemarin]

"You can not control what happens around you, but you can control how your around will influence you".- Rinie Marin 😎 "Tú no puedes controlar lo que sucede a tu alrededor, pero si puedes controlar como tu alrededor va a influir en ti".- RM 😎 www.riniemarin.com #riniemarin #yesoryes #keepgoing #ofcourseyoucan #motivation #onemoretosuccess #thebestyoucan #nevergiveup #ceroexcuses #bemoredomore #itsyourdestiny #itsyourdecision

[thetruthhurts1]

"Whether or not you're living in the closet, don't let them lock yourself into one."

- Excerpt from a novel I hope to write

[toniasuniverse]

Not good enough

Who would’ve thought that my first real post was gonna be depressing?

Me, tbh.

So you gotta know that I am struggling with life since I was 19 (3 years ago). After school I wanted to spent a year abroad and soon was accepted by a (seemingly) very nice host family. It all went quite well until approximately 3 months in, my host father tried to kiss me, I didn’t want that but he didn’t stop. He was being too affectionate and made me feel absolutely uncomfortable. I just turned 19 when he started texting and calling me everyday. It’s been creepy but I was too afraid of having to go back to my home country to tell my host mother. I lost a lot of weight but I didn’t want to be considered a failure by my family so I stayed. 6 months in, I was finally done and I told my hd to stay away from me otherwise I’d tell his wife. He started crying and apologising like the wimp he is and begged me not to tell anyone and even threatened to kill himself because of me, so stupid little me agreed. This fucking asshole wanted me, a 19 year old, to feel responsible for his potential suicide. Looking at it now, I should’ve just packed my things and I should’ve just went back but as I already told you I didn’t want to be considered a loser and talked about for the rest of my life. Well, as you’re probably all suspecting by now, it didn’t end well. One day, 8 months in, my host mother just kicked me out one day accusing me of having an affair with her husband. I was too shocked to even replied to that. She wanted me gone the next day (it was like 9 pm) but also wanted me to first tidy the whole house (what I’ve been doing for the past 8 months) and prepare dinner for their “children” (“children” cause they were 16 and 14 years old. I did prepare dinner tbh cause I liked the children a lot, they were nice). And for the first time in a long long time, I stood up for myself and told her I needed at least a week to pack my stuff and book a flight, etc. So what should’ve been the best experience in my life ended a disaster because I was too scared that standing up for myself and telling about emotional and physical abuse would ruin my life and lower my family’s opinion of me. I felt like just accepting it and living with the fact that a 48 year old man abused me this way would make me being considered strong and brave. I felt like going back to what should be a safe home would make me not enough.

Coming back home, I had to find out I’d been right about everything. I was a wreck, psychologically and physically (weight loss) damaged. What I would’ve needed was a caring family but all I got was: “You’re 19, find yourself a job!” “You couldn’t even stay abroad for a year without fucking it up!” “What are your plans now?” “Go to university!” “Get a life!” “Stop feeling sorry for yourself!”. Nobody actually cared about me, nobody cared how I was feeling. I would’ve needed someone to listen to my version of the story especially because my former hostfather was still calling me several times a day and my host mother contacted the au pair agency and threatened to sue me for still staying in contact with her family (tbh I did tried to stay in contact with the “children” because 1. We were getting along very well and 2. I felt the need to be able to defend myself in front of them in case their mother ever tells them about the “affair”). Instead I felt like I wasn’t enough. I got a summer job and then went to university, not beacause I wanted to but because I HAD to do something. During that time I went back to my ex who had cheated on me after I went abroad. I wasn’t happy with myself and I wasn’t happy with my relationship but I still moved in with him having learned nothing from my past experience and still thinking doing what’s best for me makes me a loser. I hated uni, I hated the city I lived in and I hated my life. A few months ago I broke up with him and moved back to my parents thinking everything would become better and easier. I decided to quit uni and apply for a job. It was December 2017 so it was very unlikely to find something for summer 2018 but I still did and my mum actually urged me to apply for it. So yesterday I passed their test (they check what you know about other countries and politics, maths and languages) and received an invitation for a job interview. Hallelujah, was I happy about that. For the first time in 3 years I felt like my life was going uphill, like I was finally gonna make myself and my family proud. After all the “pull yourself together”s and “stop wasting your life”s, I thought they’d support me and be equally happy for me but I was wrong again. Today my dad just tried to convince me to give up on this amazing chance (“because it’s too far away, you could still finish uni”) and when I bursted into tears screaming at him that this is a perfect chance, he actually told me to move out then because he “can’t bare my arrogance and childishness”.

After everything that happened, I am still considered not enough!!!!

!!!! STOP ALL OF THIS RIGHT NOW !!!!!

I am enough, I just never realised that the only one I have to be enough for is myself. It’s my life and I am not here to make my family happy with me, I am here to enjoy myself and do what’s right for me. I want this job and if they want me, too, then I am fucking taking it. I’ll move out and live my own life. My parents are not bad parents, they care for me a lot, they just don’t get the way I feel.

Guys, we have to stand up for ourselves! We are all human beings and not some Sims character that our parents or friends or lovers control! When you’re not comfortable with something make it stop! When you want someone to listen to your story, make them listen! Most of the significant people in our lives just want the best for us but the thing is: only we know what’s best for us.

DO NO HARM BUT TAKE NO SHIT!!!

Only we can make decisions for ourselves, so don’t take this privilege from yourself because you want to be good enough for someone else!

[19curt77]

Tell them true things they don’t want to hear instead of things they want to hear, you’ll get the reaction you’re looking for!!! #RealPplvsFakePpl #KeepItReal #LetsBeHonest #BeTheBestYou #PositiveVibes #ItsYourDecision https://www.instagram.com/p/BnLrtbGhlNXIGhyP78FUiuOngmZpbHbXoIiojE0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=xa39kxuwa5dk