#lav.txt

[gougarfem]

i've never had such fake, shallow friendships as i have with white, liberal, "queer" friends. people i've supposedly been close with for years consistently left me on read when i texted them at 4am in hospital scared and alone with critically low sats because they didn't have the energy for emotional labour. you have to ask to vent, respect triggers, never ever traumadump, so real conversations are difficult because nobody wants to complain - unless, of course, it's related to identity somehow - you can say you had a bad day because your teacher is transphobic, but not because you had an argument at home or threw up or just didn't feel well - none of it comes from genuine concern but instead the rules and norms within your online community. constant reassurance, validation, knowing there's no possibility of a nuanced discussion on anything other than your approved safe topics. attempts at open communication feel sanitized and are laced with therapy-speak, not reflecting real human emotions, but "i sincerely apologize for crossing your boundaries" because it's ideologically wrong, the undertone is 'please don't make a callout on me', not 'i'm sorry', abuse and manipulation are wrong because they get you ostracised and put on blast publicly by your friendship group so any little disagreement comes with a flurry of reassurance that you aren't an abuser, and they still call you they/them behind your back, they still ask your other friends what they think of your opinion on ace discourse, have you crossed the line yet, can we cut you out yet, it's so fucking tiring and there's no space for real connection or humanity in all of it

[lavenderpilled]

we need more diys in menhera, i feel like for a fashion that is designed to be at least somewhat accessible, we don't have enough diy stuff or tutorials. if anyone has any links, please post them!

[gorenography]

the oldest tapeworm ever was just found in amber

[nebulariclover]

Y'all hear about the cast for the upcoming transformers movie?

Personally, I'm not happy with the idea of Chris Hemsworth playing Optimus

[awomen]

I love it when a moid realizes you won't laugh at his unfunny jokes and you can see his attraction to you just.. disappear

[lavenderfires-moved]

"getting into media for shipping reasons is shallow" then call me a puddle, baby

[schauerromantik]

went to drop off some things at my new place today and almost cried over how clean it is

[kimigainakucha]

crap what did i do

[lavships]

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This is a self ship side blog!!

My names Lavender!

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[gougarfem]

people on here are like "i shave my entire body twice a week because of sensory issues... anyway the new 100% polyester fishnets i bought from shein are sooo cute! i think this outfit will be better when i bleach my scalp and put on some liquid foundation though" and everyone is like yeah makes sense i'll do that too

[lavenderpilled]

the amount of misinformation in this article pains me. it fails to mention toyoko kids, drug addictions, or self harm at all and barely acknowledges the actual roots of jirai- claiming that the fashion/stereotype came first, and then the sex work and host clubs, which is completely wrong. and the fact that it's treated like menhera as a "reclamation of mental health". plus the fact that both of the women featured are WESTERN WHITE WOMEN KNOWN FOR SPREADING MISINFO. this just feels like an even worse version of the cyber.grl video. prepare for another awful wave of fashion landmines, folks.

[gorenography]

BOOB!

[nebulariclover]

Started watching Cowboy Bebop. I could swear Spike is voiced by Steve Blum

[awomen]

blocking stupid people is self care

[lavenderfires-moved]

🔥🔥🔥🔥SEX🔥🔥🔥🔥

[schauerromantik]

i keep forgetting that the love was there and that it did matter..... how very silly of me