#life willdo what it will do...

[deeism]

in the seventh circle of hell recently guys sorry for my lack of original funny sexy smart awesome posts

[migleefulmoments]

The krispie treat thing is ridiculous. They also latched into Chris calling Will “Willdo” in an ig pic where Will was standing by some plants wearing green and it was obviously a play on “where’s Waldo” Of course they decided “Willdo” was an offensive term Chris had coined to insult Will and they delightfully only referred to Will as Willdo for months which is funny since they attacked Mia for giving Chris an “offensive” nickname and yet when they thought Chris did it to Will, it was funny.

OMG I thought that was one of the most clever IG posts I had seen to date. It was spot on.  I forgot they did that. They can’t take a joke for the life of them and they have such an 8 yo’s girls idea of love and marriage.  

The hypocrisy-and misogyny- of what is evil when Mia does it but fine when Chris or Darren do is never ending. 

[trippycommunion]

triplogs

a log of unfiltered thoughts drawn from my brain and put into my notes app (in reverse chronological order)

#willdo

will start fkin working out, get ripped. fk junk food. imma get fkin sexy. imma look great. imma eat healthy. imma start working on myself. imma learn english, spanish. imma be confident as heck imma be the best. fk it imma get rid of my addictions

#whatmatters

not this fake tunes. not fevertrip. not those things. what actually matters? something substantial and sustainable rather than instant gratification. something I cam plan and execute and conquer, rather than impulsive and brash and myopic. What really matterS? I want to witness something breaking through . I want to witness a gigantic change. The actual cutting edge. The one that breaks our current meta. I want to be near the helm of this. So what do I want? Bioinformatics, artificial intelligence hold the key. So what do I want? I wanna get good at them. So what do I want? Im gonna pick up python and deep learning where I left it off. Im gonna start bioinformatics. Im gonna read godel escher bach. Im gonna try to unify my understanding of both these things and fit them into my neural network, training myself. What do I want? I dont want the banality of everyday. I want to do stuff everuday, actually engage my brain, and do stuff. Thats gonna shoot up my chances of doing something big. Do i want love? I thought I found the perfect one. But no there had to be a twist of course. She had to leave for the usa too. great. another heartbreak, I thought this was the one. I thought I had perfect sync.

#listen!

Don't even think of giving up now. You're at the point where your choices will dictate the rest of your life. You got this, man. Just tool through this, fuckin rip it apart.

#turlington

Faaaak remember that bus 12,9,35, 36 stop at UF.. Aoa exam you got k- way merge sort in aoa but yuvaraj didn't... Fkkkk

What happens when you zone out? The clearance of a filter, not just of mouth, but the mind too. Incoherent, but it's real. There's perfect clarity. There's your real you, the unfiltered, unfettered soul trapped and confused inside the everyday banality. Now you know what really matters to you, and what you miss from past fuckups. When it's combined with the right music, the limbic resonance is fucking powerful.

Ideas over matter What ultimately matter are ideas. Not corporeal and material stuff. This is flesh and sand, they have a shelf life. After that, the only way they survive are in the form of thoughts and memories. Ideas, and shared reality make this life special and give it a meaning. Consciousness or whatever. This is the center. Meaning revolves around this. The whole upshot of existence is the thriving of ideas. Ideas are sexy. And they are immortal.

#thingstotakecareof

Whiteboard sesh livestream with normal lens with high exposure. You got this. Make it interesting. Update regularly on Su channel with nice artwork, editing and stuff. This will keep you occupied. Fucking go on a strict week diet. You were fucking handsome and youthful during master's. Now look at your fat and ugly face. Fucking diet, walk, jog, gym for a week or two, take another photo and see the diff. You can still fucking rock it. Don't let this time go. This is you at the purest, talking to you. I know what's important. I can see clear. I know what you actually want. I know what's driving you at the deepest. So listen to me and do what I say. Just give up control for a week or two and just see the diff. Just remember how you felt after just 6 days of nnn. Fucking invincible. You were the fucking master of your life, your brain and your animal self. You had control!!!!! Faak. Let's get it again. Just check in after a week again. Lets go fucking get it. Fucking look good. Cut your hair and trim facial hair. Pick up English, Spanish again. Let's fucking break past limits this time. Prep the fuck out of magoosh. Write essays. Record vlogs. Speak easy. Fucking get ripped. Get biceps, triceps, shoulders. Recall Gainesville gym at university commons. Remember uf. Watch uf vids and pics tomorrow. Get inspiration. Remember all the architecture review and how you craved for it. Fucking start blogging again. You are a fucking motivated person, just that momentum is kinda misdirected now. You can still fucking break things. You're fucking special. Listen to old lex and jre while designing. Listen to kick ass music while walks. Dynamic programming is sexy. Coin denomination is sexy. Don't be afraid of problems, of unknowns. It's just a matter of acquiring new knowledge, and (merging) it with your neural network. Read books! Do waking up with Sam Harris! But... What Im failing to see is there are hundred more ladders in front of me. I just gotta channel my creativity and talent into this one thing. I gotta tunnel vision on the grand idea. Gotta get up and start working hard now. Nows the time not another never better to get sober and wake the fuck up and make the stacks larger. I feel so much better now let's go get it. Fuckin slay it Be confident!

#tripthree

Reitz union Friday game nightsRoaming around UF. Anticipating feeling desired. Girls. I was in the prime I think. The peak of my youth. 21 and 22.So much hope. There was a definite sexual manly guyly thing right then. Looking for female looks. Acting all hard to get and coy. Feeling great about it.Once a girl approaching during Reitz, my dumbass not realising it. Laters feeling awesome. Even before that, the first event at UF at that auditorium. Fkin diff feels. One Asian girl approaching and asking for selfie as a dare. Me fucking feeling great. Fun times. Joining UF star cai movie group. Going to Turlington Hall on evenings.Fucking library west. Fking walk to there.Trees and openness. Students everywhere, youth all around me.Fuck there's only a couple years of my youth left. Fkkk.Gotta explore the world. Alone. Gotta fall in love. Gotta be foolish. Gotta see what lies ahead. Gotta look forward. Gotta get out of the country and live a diff life.Chuck this short term pleasures. Faaaaak. See what lies ahead.Do what you do more. That's enough.Fk movies. Fk games. Fk porn. Fk every day stuff. Fk mediocrity. Fk this is the only time. Thus will never come back. Now you have the 20/20 vision.  You know what's important and what's not.Fking India bazaar, getting off the bus there and crossing. Hum Mar jaayenge song playing there.

#Plans for world ruling cont'd

Take as many breaks as possible. Keep your mind occupied with a variety of interesting and exciting things. Read books. Solve science hc Verma.Spend more time away from comp and brainless yt and start diversifying. Even yt start with tech vids on other profile.Do hc Verma. Gre math. Gre English. Toefl stuff. Cat prep. Read books. Read geb or war and Peace. You have it all. Leetcode. Plan and execute apps. Learn Spanish. Fkin actively play vid games instead of passive. Play forza. play siege. play hitman. play rdr 2 and savor the worlds.keep your curiosity stimulated at all times. Keep your thoughtvoice to English only. This is gonna be hard. I know. But just get used to this. This will be fkin great. Get in the shoes of the nnn 2020 guy. Feel fkin confident. The key is taking breaks.. Make a big deal out of these plans. Make it a big event. You love it.When you feel bored or in inspired, take a walk mindlessly. JUST Do IT. You'll feel way better. Just regather your thoughts. Fking great night walks I had during nnn. Planning and executing.

#plans for world ruling

Fkin confident. New me. I am a fkin animal. I can do this. this is you. The real you no inhibitions no filter. Your thought lines are as clear as they can be. Now you're completely discerning You can be algorithmically understood. We can see how the patterns of thoughts can be deduced easily from your background. So what do you want? You have your whiteboard now. You can Fking do Leetcode like in newell Hall whiteboard with bharath the tree problems. You can even fkin record yourself solving questions, post on youtube. See your progress. It's gamified now. Yes. Make a channel clueless programmer and start solving. Fk yes. This is a thing. A pleb codes. Me in front of the camera. Whiteboard on. Obs plus camera record. Me reading the problem on Leetcode. Saying it out loud. Solving it out loud. Writing a test case and walking through the problem on whiteboard. Then finally after confident solving in Leetcode. Screen recorded. This series has a special tag and featured in Fvrtrp. Fvrtrp header has a new item which is featured Content for a while before another item replaces it. Fk yes. Gradient color text. Or a gradient bg for item in nav. I'm gonna document my clueless thoughts on the blog with the hashtag #aplebcodes Pinky bubbly font hashtags on blog homepage top. Can filter by it. Blog front matter hashtags too. Pleb.exe first blog: Have tried Leetcode before. I wanna conquer this. Have cowered and ran away from it before and maybe even literally ruined a great career. Second try recently. Good progress, but then one unsolved problem was all it took for me to freak out again and abandon it. I know I will eventually crack this. Bought a whiteboard now. Camera is also working. Will vlog this. Whiteboard culture. Will also document this here in the blog. I want to gamify this, setting up rewards for everything I do. I like video making process, so I will channel that interest it with this and make the most of it. The pleb.Exe series. Cartoonish dumb guy avatar. Cartoon text. Yt cover and artwork. And styling. Even hashtag. BTW blog in Fvrtrp needs a search bar. Fvrtrp great place to blog and dip myself deeper into tech. I fkin love coding and tech. I love that sphere that whole eco system. I want to be deeply entrenched in it. I love coding a new product that adrenaline surge. So what are you gonna do?

#want

USA big fokin house  jazz music. Calm and green rich country lands. Swamps, rdr2. Night time. Saint Denis. Architecture. That house with the pool in the middle. That Tirupati house with the pool in the top. Fking good architecture. Rich life. Calm mind. Peaceful mind. Gorgeous wife. Happy life. Golden lights. Night time. Parties. Back home. Jazz era. Gainesville. American life. Walks on university commons roads. Night times in Florida. Gator nights. Controlled by the dark lord. Not the same universe. Stars in the darkness. Sleep slowdive. Florida. Thanksgiving house. Dinner with UF people. Then group session. Me talking about chance but genuinely. A guy saying he likey my perspective. I talked about Randomness and chance and how I ended up saying those words. It was genuine and came out of somewhere deep within. Those golden lights. Me in awe about the neighborhood. Calm peaceful life. Tree of life. Lane ride to UF.  cracking the finalexam, a- in plp. Fking studying prepping for interviews me and bharath. Uf. Library west. Newell hall. The hub. Hearing the news that I got a-. That feeling when I passed the exam. Fking good prepping with yuvaraj for the aoa exam. DOS classes place. That hall as I walked late to the class as it was already populated, waiting for Alan dobra. Dobra being eccentric. Fking being there in the morning with my note book. Feeling overwhelmed at a young age. Fking surreal. Dobra, elixir, aoa ungor Fking good. Cricket at tennis courts. Kiran. Aoa exam big ass classroom. Why am I there? I don't belong here. Surreal. I am walking along the roads of UF. The fkin city when I first got drunk. Experience of a lifetime. That pub at night time. Pubs in USA. I am there. Fking great feeling of being there. So strong. The night and pubs, the golden lights. The ambience. Once for first time boardwalk going on bus with bharath to the other side of the town. Fking like a movie. Wow. The roads, the city, actual downtown Music is fkin good. Psychedelic porn crumpets. Kannabiran. Saint augstine. how fricking good was it to go there and see that place. So Odd to see in real life. The walk on the roads. profile pic. S liking it. Me making. A big deal out of it. S Fking doctor. USA. Fk hard working. The perseverance and Fortitude required. Inter. Me and prad thrown out of class. Nrk class. Then me prad Jay out of Murthy's class. Girls coming out and seeing us outside and giggling. New Orleans. Fkin swamps. Night time. Saint augustine me took photos after first walking. Fking surreal. Feels like a Dream.like a movie. Like it wasn't my life and someone else's. Aspirations. Good life. Big house. Nice wife. Nice cars. Peaceful life. Night time. Venice like. That 'am I weird' story. Paris. Me and love. Vacation Europe me and hon. Time is ___. That bow zhu video were there in that city. They're ffeefalking. Red and blue lights city lighting up. Sketches for city. Song Fking good. Star Cai vid guy his music vid. Gainesville film club experience. The classrooms, me being dazed and awed. Near hub that subway building. The arts classroom. The vending machines and stalls outside that place. Me crossing for bio informatics class. What will I do in the future? Meditating now to get the answers Coorg with mom. The golf course. Night time drive to moderat Interlude the mark song. Gainesville scene. Night walks with yuv and bharath after studies from library west and Marston. Open nature skies and me driving a lake in the middle. Future grown up and all alone independent and stuff. My most basic deepest feeling. That life. I crave it. That picture that vision is too seductive. Fking beautiful wife. Passionate love. Free people. No mediocrity. I'm wealthy. I am confident. I'm an adult. I'm powerful. I'm fking confident. I am the shit. People crave me. I am desirable. S. S. Am I a psychopath. Everyone is equally weird. People just don't feel normal sometimes. This is just a norm formed after civil society. Everyone has a freaky perspective if that can be felt by another person. People are freaks. We are just another species as

fragile and micro as anything else. Insignificant. There's a vast space playground and we're an infinitesimal part of it. There is an endless space out there. We don't matter. We're random. There's a massive black space. Trillions of stars. We're a speck in it. Grimes realiti new office golden lights night time. Me on new bike to the Office. HSR. 11-ish travel to office. Stand ups in that kutti office room, feeling new liking the exp.

[mariamuses]

The Adventures of Taramisu and Shelba Hufflepuff

Now you guys shouldn’t take this too seriously, I was just in a sassy mood and wanted to do something funny, and @throne-of-ashes-and-beauty and @tacmc are my victims today. Shelbs, Tara, I hope you enjoy this. If you don’t I’ll take it down. Everyone else, I am giving you permission to either skip this or just laugh your ass of with me. Anyway, thank you.

I WILL NOT BE PUTTING THIS ON MY MASTERLIST UNLESS THERE’S A GENERAL ACCLAMATION FOR IT.

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Once upon a time, there were two little girls, who lived at the edge of the woods… Nah, I’m kidding. But there were two little girls, who lived in the same town, went to the same school and liked to do the same things. Their names were Tara and Shelby, and they were inseparable. They did everything together: riding their bikes, going to the bathroom, riding the school bus, reading, playing with dolls… Even sometimes sleeping, whenever their mothers let them.

But, as much as that is important, I want to show you what they’re doing with their lives right now.

24.03.2018 - ‘THE ADVENTURES OF TARAMISU AND SHELBA HUFFLEPUFF’ RELEASE DAY 

“OH MY GOD! Tara, I can’t believe we’re here! We are actually in our first Barnes & Noble signing. Of our own book! How did this happen?” exclaimed Shelby as she sat on the back of their uber to the official place.

“Well, I do remember some time being spent doing this. For three years”, answered Tara, a smirk playing on her lips. On her heart though, she had that same, wonderful feeling.

That earned her an eyeroll from Shelby, and then she turned away to look at the window.

“We made it Shelbs. We actually made it. All those years apart without almost talking, then becoming friends again through our love of books, the long-distance relationship we had… all of it was worth it. I would do it all over again, if it meant having you as my best friend. And in a few months, my bridesmaid. And I mean all of it, the 3am skyping to finish the deadlines, the hours-long road trips to visit each other... It was a gift.”

“Oh, shut up… you made me cry and I have mascara on”, said Shelby, the tears gathering on the edge of her eyes being wiped by a tissue she had gotten out of her pocket.

After drying them, they embraced one last time in the back of the car, just as they had done a thousand times before since they were kids.

“So, I wanted to ask. Where did the inspiration from this book come from? How was it brought to life?” a reporter from a local newspaper asked.

“Okay so, uh, what’s your name?”, asked Shelby back.

“Emma”, answered the reporter.

“Okay Emma. So, the names are obviously an internal joke. They’re basically our names but turned into nicknames. And, curiously enough, we didn’t come up with them. We have a friend, whom we met on Tumblr, when we wrote fanfiction in it, who’s crazy and hilarious and loves giving people nicknames, so when we started talking she decided she wanted to call us like that. She couldn’t be here today, because she lives in another country, but she knows about this and she’s actually one of the very few people who got an ARC”, explained Tara.

“Yeah, she’ll probably watch this interview online, cause it’s sleeping time for her now, and flip out and fangirl for an hour because of the question you just asked. So, thank you, for making our friend happy. Then the storyline was just work I guess. We brainstormed, but always kept coming back to this silly idea, so we finally stuck with it”, continued Shelby. “Any more questions? I think this is the last one”, said Shelby, looking at the store manager who had a clock, watching the time so they didn’t go over too much.

Another reporter shot his hand up, and when the microphone made his way to his hands, he enquired:

“Hey, I’m Will. I just wanted to ask you, if you could summarize the whole book in a whole sentence, maybe two, what would it be? Without spoilers, obviously.”

Tara and Shelby looked at each other, speechless, and trying to come up with something, while the door to the room the conference/signing was taking place opened suddenly to let a bundled up in clothes figure. It started taking off layers until only a girl in her twenties stood there, a giant smile on her face. Then, she made her way to the reporter, who still held the microphone and gently took it out of his hands, winking at him in the process.

“Thank you, Willdo, for the fantastic question. By the way, the find Waldo books are that way and if you want to use that nickname, I want the copyright. After all, my nicknames are famous for their book potential.”

Then, she turned to face the two authors, who were absolutely flabbergasted by the surprise appearance, and started speaking again.

“I would say, though, that the perfect summary is ‘a not-sugarcoated story of real friendships’. That is what that book has taught me. And I think it has, obviously as these two do, the potential to conquer the world’s hearts”, she declared, pride filling her voice.

A silent pause. Then, she sang in her best TV ad imitation voice:

“And you can buy it now on your local Barnes & Noble, for only 15.99$! Thank you very much.”

And the room exploded in laughter as she came up the makeshift stage and hugged her friends for what incredibly was the first time in their lives.

[minnamarie1983-blog]

Quotes for Thursday June 29,2017

achievement quotes Every man who accomplishes things sees first in his mind what he wishes to do. He puts away all doubt. It makes no difference how small or how large the thing you want to do may be; if you have an unlimited confidence in your ability to do it, you willdo it.--Charles Fillmore Four steps to achievement: plan purposefully, prepare prayerfully, proceed positively, pursue persistently.--William A. Ward Great things are accomplished by talented people who believe they will accomplish them.--Warren Bennis Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.--Vincent Van Gogh Greatness ... consists in doing great deeds with little means and the accomplishment of vast purposes from the private ranks.--Russell Conwell (Acres of Diamonds) Happiness... it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.--Franklin Delano Roosevelt === Dream quotes Dreams get you into the future and add excitement to the present.-Robert Conklin Dreams come in a size too big so that we may grow into them.--Josie Bisset Dreams do come true, if we only wish hard enough, You can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.--Sir James M. Barrie Dreams, ideas, and plans not only are an escape, they give me purpose, a reason to hang on.--Steven Callahan Either you let your life slip away by not doing the things you want to do, or you get up and do them.--Roger Von Oech == Faith quotes Faith is a knowledge within the heart beyond the reach of proof.--Kahlil Gibron Faith is affirming success before it comes. Faith is making claims to victory before it is achieved.--Robert Schuller Faith is an invisible and invincible magnet, and attracts to itself whatever it fervently desires and calmly and persistently expects.--Ralph W. Trine Faith is better understood as a verb than a noun, as a process than a possession. It is an on-again, off-again rather than once-and-for-all. Faith is not sure where you're going, but going anyway.--Frederick Buechner Faith is different from proof; the latter is human, the former is a Gift from God.--Blaise Pascal === Goal quotes Goals are the fuel in the furnace of achievement.Brian Tracy, Eat that Frog The great and glorious masterpiece ofman is to know how to live to purpose.Michel de Montaigne Most "impossible" goals can be met simply by breaking them down into bite size chunks, writing them down, believing them, and then going full speed ahead as if they were routine.Don Lancaster Your goal should be just out of reach, but not out of sight. Denis Waitley and Remi Witt I am always more interested in what I am about to do than what I have already done.Rachel Carson Purpose is what gives life a meaning. C. H. Parkhurst === Happiness quotes Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people brings happiness.--Rabbi Harold Kushner Cheerfulness in most cheerful people is the rich and satisfying result of strenuous discipline.--Edwin Percy Whipple Cheerfulness is a very great help in fostering the virtue of charity. Cheerfulness itself is a virtue.--Lawrence G. Lovasik (The Hidden Power of Kindness) Happiness is a by-product of an effort to make someone else happy.--Gretta Palmer Happiness is a by-product. You cannot pursue it by itself.--Samuel Levenson Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.--Ralph Waldo Emerson Happiness is a present attitude--not a future condition.--Hugh Prather === Strength quotes Always remember, there is more strength in you than you ever realized or even imagined. Certainly nothing can keep you down if you are determined to get on top of things and stay there.--Norman Vincent Peale Anyone can hide. Facing up to things, working through them, that's what makes you strong.--Sarah Dessen The awareness of our own strength makes us modest.--Paul Cezanne (Letters) Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men! Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers. Pray for power equal to your tasks.--Phillips Brooks Each day brings new life, new strength, new dreams and new hope. May you find courage, confidence and hope to reach out for your dreams.--Lailah Gifty Akita  It’s not in numbers but in unity that our great strength lies.--Thomas Paine Know your strengths and take advantage of them.--Greg Norman Life is very interesting. In the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.--Drew Barrymore

[heartrelationships-blog]

Letting go of a relationship: 3 steps to move on peacefully

The pain of a relationship breakdown is like no other. It’s a dull anguish that seems to be with you morning and night, and it sucks. It just does.

How do you manage the daily tasks of life and at the same time make sense of where it all went wrong? There seems to be something about a separation that takes hostage of our rational brain, rendering us blank when it comes to any thoughts of the future. It can feel like a death and is often accompanied by the same feelings of grief and loss.

But, I’m happy to say, there is an ending to the seemingly bottomless pit of misery.

I know it may not feel like it right now, but things will get better. Whether you’re newly separated, or it’s been months and you’ve just heard how happy your ex is without you, these simple steps will help you ease through the difficult days.

Fortunately these steps are simple and won’t involve cutting your hair short, gorging on chocolate or wracking up a credit card debt on an overseas adventure. What they willdo, when implemented on a daily basis, is help you get through the murky, dark days with a sense of purpose.

Of course, when you start to feel more like your old self again, by all means, take that new adventure!

1. Create a simple routine

Probably the single most effective thing you can do for yourself during a difficult time of grief and loss is to create a daily routine.

No matter how hard it seems, get up at the same time each day – even if you have to roll yourself out of bed! Take a shower, eat healthy meals, drink plenty of water, try to go to bed at the same time every night – and keep off that phone! There may be days when even these simple tasks will feel too much, but having a daily routine of self-care will help you get through the dark days.

When you’re feeling a little better try to incorporate a good mix of pleasurable activities into your daily routine also. Clean out a cupboard, go for a swim at the local pool, do some gardening, walk the dog, sign up for a yoga or Zumba class – whatever gives you even the smallest bit of enjoyment, do that.

2. Don’t forget to breathe

Whether you’re feeling anxious and upset or you’re lying awake at night thinking about all the ins and outs of how and why it all went wrong, I can guarantee that your breathing is shallow and your nervous system is stuck in a fight/ flight response.

This state is NOT conducive to getting a good night’s sleep! So let’s put the brakes on your racing mind and switch your body into a calmer, more relaxed state.

Try this simple breathing exercise:

Get into a comfortable seated position and close your eyes

Take your attention to your breathing

Count to four on an in breath (inhale 1..2..3..4)

Count to six on the out breath (exhale 1…2…3…4….5…6)

Focus on making your exhalations longer than your inhalation

Inhale 1….2….3….4

Exhale 1….2….3….4….5….6

Repeat.

3. Surround yourself with the right people

Talking about your feelings with a trusted friend, a loving family member or a trained therapist can help you process the situation and break that feeling of isolation and disconnection.

Nights can be the most difficult time after a relationship breakup. Set up times to have dinner with friends or have a family member drop in on a regular basis to keep you company. Even minding a friend’s pet for a while can help alleviate the difficulty of being alone at night.

Socialising is usually the last thing we feel like doing at a difficult time, but keeping in touch with supportive friends can help get you through the early stages of a separation. When you’re ready, let friends know that you want to focus or talk about things outside the relationship breakdown – this can be a welcome relief, for you and your loved ones!

At times you might find yourself feeling differently about the separation. You might find it occupies your mind less and you want to forge ahead with a better future. This is a good healthy sign that you are finally starting to move on.

Time is the biggest healer of broken hearts. But if you notice that you aren’t able to move forward after a reasonable period of time, or you’re unable to function and cope at work or with the kids, it may help to talk to a trained therapist.

Many people come to me seeking information and support on how to cope with a relationship breakdown. I help people let go of the past, start focusing on the future and restore feelings of self-worth and joy.

Now I’d love to hear from you. What steps do you take to start feeling good again after the breakdown of a relationship?

[conversationswithmyrabbit]

Should we leave dogs in the house all day?

A friend and I once left his house to do something and in doing so, locked his dog inside of his house, whimpering after us dejectedly. When we returned forty minutes later, the dog was ecstastic. He jumped up my friend, elated to be reunited with his master, but my friend brushed him aside and remarked; "What's his problem? We were only gone like 1/2 an hour." "True," I replied. "But half an hour in dog time is much longer. So it probably felt like ages to him." At the time, I thought this was a witty response, but Biscuit wanted to investigate whether this was a valid claim to make. The old adage is that a 'dog year' is approximately 7 of our 'human' years. Therefore, if a dog lives for 12 years that means it has 'really' lived a lovely, long life for a dog of about 84 years. So, arguably (or as my previous self argued to my friend and his ecsastic dog) if a dog is left for an hour by itself, it would feel like it had been alone for seven times that amount. By this logic, if a dog is left alone an entire day, it feels more like the most part of a week!

The premise of this argument is that time is relative. Whilst this is a statement popularly used and regarded to be true, it is less understood what our time is relative to. I mean, relative to what exactly? Sometimes time is entangled with enjoyment and our 'feeling' of how it passes. For example, often we perceive time passing shorter or longer depending on how content we are in a situation. Waiting for the new Rick and Morty season has been long enough simply because Biscuit has been so unhappy without it in her life. But also our sense of time is always working against, or alongside, our construct of our own imagined timeline. These timelines are how long we imagine living until and time is relative to how much we have left. For example, ten years in a prison is such a painful punishment when understood that it is almost 1/7th of somebody's life. A train being delayed for an hour is more frustrating when understood against somebody's timeline of having 4 hours free in their evening to see their family. Time has no meaning on its own, but we subscribe meaning to it based on what we want to do with that time. On this premise, assuming time is relative to dogs as it is to us, by leaving a dog for days alone, the dog suffers from relativity on two fronts: on one hand, they're bored out of their mind so time perceives to move more slowly, but on the other hand, the dogs have a shorter imagined timeline than our own meaning that the stretch of time that they are left for is 'longer' for them according to their construct of net time lost in accordance to the gross amount of 'time' that they can experience. The first question to ask should be whether dogs experience time differently to ourselves. Surely the life of a gnat or a housefly, of which the lifespan is only a matter of days in total - is radically different to our own sense of time. They feed, mate, metabolise on a radically different levels to ourselves - so much so that their 3 days on this Earth feels like a lifetime. However, the same cannot be said for a dog necessarily. Partly because of the size difference making metabolism similar, but also because dogs, like humans are diurnal (opposite of nocturnal - although some species are crepuscular). Both animals have adapted their sleeping and eating patterns to fit the Earth's rotations around the Sun. In that respect, time is therefore probably measured, or 'felt' by responding to the Sun. In this respect, the way that dogs experience the passing of time would be remarkably similar to the way that humans do it. However the consequence of this is only worrying if we agree that dogs understand and process time against an overall 'timeline' of their own lives. The question therefore becomes whether dogs really have a sense of their own timelines - do dogs understand when they should die in relation to where they live now? Do dogs have any understanding of mortality and that they will die? Do dogs understand that a year of ourtime is worth seven of theirs? We might argue that all animals sense their own mortality. They run on instinct- an innate fear of death. But fearing eath is different to understanding that you willdoe. Arguably the only reason that humans understand death is because they are taught the processes of life; they start young, they age, they see their grandparents pass away and then they are eventually taught about how they should expect to die around the age of 80 onwaords. But dogs aren't taught that - yes, they might age and feel themselves becoming older and weaker, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they can predict when they will die. So, logically, if they have no construction of their own imagined timeline, the they can have no real understanding of the relativity of their time in comparison to our own. In comparison, dogs do not fear mortality as we do. Although they sense time as we do, they feel that theirs is infinite. An infinite time of catching sticks and fetching plastic bones.