#looksDOmatter

[fairlyfriendlylurker]

Why Pretty Privilege Sucks Ass

I've always understood the beckoning of plastic surgery. Being pretty is 100% a blessing, whether the person realizes it or not, but it's an arbitrary gift. And it's not fair that only a few get to enjoy it. Most people aren't outright treated with disdain or affection on the basis of their looks but there's always that subconscious factor. Not to mention plenty of us DO just straight-up shit on unattractive people simply for being unattractive. I've always hated it when people used the word ugly as an insult. You're basically condemning someone for existing. I can't believe society categorizes people as having varying value or worth just because they were born a certain way that they can't help. Sometimes I feel ashamed to just EXIST the way I do among prettier people. Being insecure and feeling plain and unattractive is definitely a big part of the reason I'm so trapped in this shell, although I don't think I realized it before. What makes me feel the most helpless about it all is that these labels of worthiness/unworthiness are given subconsciously. People don't even realize it's going on but it is. It's an inherent prejudice, engrained in us, and I don't think we're ever going to find a way to get rid of it. Maybe it's because of this that I sometimes deliberately go out of my way to be nicer to less attractive people and generally wary of the more attractive ones. Most of the time, though, I keep this to myself. Inwardly loathing the attractiveness of girls on the internet like a jealous bitter old hag (which I guess I kinda am) is one thing, but I would never outright treat them differently because that would essentially be doing the same thing I have been complaining about this whole time; treating people differently based on how they were born. But mark my words, if I had a villain origin story, my motive would be something along these lines. No amount of inspiring and encouraging body positivity influencers or wholesome-seeming messages is gonna make me believe I'm pretty, because I'm not. They all parrot the same thing, that "everyone is beautiful" but that's a load of bullshit because OBVIOUSLY not everyone is physically good-looking. I wish people would just be honest, because if they were, we wouldn't all have false hopes which lingered only to be dashed. Even understanding that being pretty isn't an accomplishment doesn't make me feel better. The only thing that WOULD make me feel better is realizing I'm pretty, which is not going to happen unless I have some sort of massive glow up in the future. And, yeah. That's pretty much the gist of it, sorry for making you endure this- I may have made it deeper and more dramatic than necessary- but I think this stuff will fare better out there than inside me. If you think you aren't pretty- regardless of whether you actually are or not- I'm with you. I hope someday we can figure something out and feel at peace about all this for once.

[simplicityofthebasic]

I'm so annoyed with people saying looks shouldn't matter at all

This may come off as bitchy and I'm sorry but... Anyone that says looks don't matter at all has to be lying. A guy could have the absolute best personality and be the funniest guy ever, but if I don't find him physically attractive to any extent I can't date him. If I don't think he's at least somewhat good looking I'm not going to want to kiss him or touch him or anything, I'm not saying he has to look like a model but if he's not my type mentally AND physically then he's not my type and I'm sorry but he has no chance of dating me. Same goes the other way, I would never date a guy I don't find intellectually stimulating and funny and nice. I would maybe hook up with him but nothing more would come from that.

[veganvegetable]

Looks DO Matter

As much as we love to preach how much looks dont matter when it comes to love and finding someone to date. It obviously does would you date someone you didnt find attractive? No yes personality is what seals the deal but the initial attraction is physical attraction no guy/girl walks past you and says wow check out that personality Of course they dont because they dont know you. And good looking people can be ugly on the inside and vice versa So dont come and tell me some bullshit that looks dont matter yeah it sounds nice but you are obviously attracted to that person for a reason who gives a fuck if other people dont what matters is you do and dont use looks dont matter as an excuse everyone has a type and its perfectly normal to want someone just be cause of the way they look but the personality is what will make you really like them.