#maybe it isn't about being 'gendered correctly' but about being shoved into cissexist boxes that were MADE to exclude My Kind | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

uncanny-tranny · 1 year

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It isn't as gender-affirming as people think to change harmful gendered expectations to the "correct gender" when somebody transitions, and frankly, I'm not sure if this will roll over well with some people.

It isn't affirming to my manhood to be told that I'm now "wasted potential" now because I'm "angry" and "violent" by virtue of being a man. It's not affirming to someone's womanhood to be told that she needs to be quiet more and smile instead. It's not affirming to be told that you should just "be grateful" that people are gendering you correctly when they instill harmful ideas about gendering and how violence is policed in gendered contexts.

Maybe instead of trying to keep the violence that is part of gender, instead let people be. It's not affirming to be told that who you are must fundamentally change or isn't enough.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #like if your viewpoint of manhood is so narrow that you need to do mental gymnastics in order to either force me into YOUR views of manhood #or if you need to force me into some way into again Your viewpoint of manhood. maybe it's not my fault you know?#like i use myself as an example because so often people would go 'why are you upset about me gendering you CORRECTLY 🙄🙄🙄🤬'#maybe it isn't about being 'gendered correctly' but about being shoved into cissexist boxes that were MADE to exclude My Kind #that's why it can EASILY rub people the wrong way #maybe they aren't 'ungrateful' to be gendered correctly. maybe they're ungrateful about breaking free from one box...#...only to be SHOVED into another box by somebody ELSE

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