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Lifehack - Feed How do you go from idea to implementation? By setting goals. In your personal life and at work, goals give you direction. They allow you to split projects into manageable pieces, and they help you hold yourself accountable along the way. But setting goals is only the first step. More than nine in 10 people who set goals for the new year never achieve them.((Inc.:Science Says Only 8 Percent of People Actually Achieve Their Goals. Here Are 7 Things They Do Differently)) If you want to actually accomplish your goals, you can’t just think of the finish line. You need to set yourself up to reach it, which means strategizing how you’ll run the race. What’s the best way to do that? By setting some ground rules for yourself:

1. Setting Goals the SMART Way

Setting any sort of goal is better than nothing, but you can set yourself up to succeed by keeping the acronym “SMART” in mind. A SMART goal is: Specific Whatever your goal is, you need to know when you’ve achieved it. The more specifics you give yourself, the better. Say that you’re saving money with the goal of buying a new car. How much money, exactly, do you need? Are you willing to defer some of the cost through financing, or would you prefer to make a cash purchase. When do you hope to make the purchase? Your specific goal might be, “I want to save $5,000 for a down payment by December 2020.” You’ve given yourself a yardstick by which to measure your progress. Measurable A goal can be specific but not measurable. You might want to become a better father in the new year — but by what standards will you judge yourself? Those standards are obvious for goals like saving money. But for something like becoming a better father, you’ll need to come up with proxies. If you’re worried that you don’t spend enough time with your son or daughter, maybe you want to measure the time you spend per week with him or her. If you haven’t been giving your child the help he or she needs with schoolwork, perhaps improvements in his or her grades is how you’ll know you’ve been a better parent. Attainable Specific and measurable goals aren’t necessarily attainable. If you’re trying to get fit, good on you. Realize, though, that you probably won’t be able to run a marathon by the end of next week. Shoot high, but beware: A recent study by the University of Basel found that people who set attainable goals for themselves enjoy greater wellbeing than those who set unreasonably high ones. The reason, according to researchers, is that a sense of control over outcomes results in greater life satisfaction.((Science Daily: Live better with attainable goals)) Relevant Your goals should always map to a greater plan. Why bother to lose weight, for example, if your body mass is already at a healthy mark? If revenue is your company’s greatest need, then don’t set a goal to deck out your company’s office. Relevance is also important for two less obvious reasons: If a goal doesn’t actually matter to you, you’ll struggle to stick with it. And at least in the context of workplace goals, you’ll struggle to get team buy-in or resources if it’s not clearly relevant to your mission. Time-dependent Although attaching a timeline to your goal does make it more specific, timeliness deserves a special shoutout: If you have no deadline for achieving your goal, you will struggle to make time for it. Think through what the actual work of the goal will look like. Say you’d like to lose 25 pounds: Medical experts suggest aiming to lose 1-2 pounds per week, which means you should expect to reach your goal in 12-25 weeks. Be patient with yourself. We’d all like to achieve our goals faster, but setting unrealistic expectations is not the solution. You may burn out or, in the context of the weight-loss example, even endanger your health. You know that setting goals is important, and you know what a good one looks like. But your time is limited; the next step is to choose: What do you most want to achieve, and how do you actually do it? Every goal has an opportunity cost. Working toward one means that you can’t use that time to do something else. And so, the next few points will focus on how to achieve the right goals.

2. Think about Others

Few real achievements involve just one person. Be a team player: Before deciding to spend weeks or months working toward something, think about others. It’s important to keep your ears open. Say you learn that you’re not the only member of your family who’d like to get fit in the new year. Prioritizing that goal is a good idea because it benefits you both: Having an accountability partner makes you both more likely to hit the gym after a hard day.

3. Know Your 'Why'

As great as it is to take others into account when setting goals, your first priority should be just that: yours. To maximize both your time and your chances of achieving a goal, it’s important to stay inspired. Think deeper than “earning more money” or “being healthier.” Do you want to build a better life for your family? Is seeing your kids graduate college what gets you out of bed every day? In professional life, this is particularly key. Mike Novotny, CEO of clinical trial software company Medrio, gets through the hard days by thinking back to his mission is to cure disease and save lives.((Mike Novotny: CEOs, The Purpose Of Any Organization Is The “Why.” Here Are 3 Essential Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Launch)) Medrio won’t cure every disease, Novotny realizes, but he does believe it’s possible for the industry to do so. Your “why” doesn’t have to be changing the world in order to be a worthwhile goal. But it should be something that you believe in, stand a good chance of achieving, and are able to break into specific steps.

4. Look at the Long Term

Short-term goals have value, but they should really be seen as steps toward long-term goals. Use legacy goals to organize your operations. Challenge yourself: Can you map every item on your calendar to one of those three long-term goals? What about your task list, purchases, and investments? What might legacy goals look like in your personal life? Think about things that would actually alter your life trajectory. If you want to improve access to education, perhaps starting an online learning company should be one of this year’s legacy goals.

5. Put First Things First

Once you have your big picture and annual priorities in mind, you need to drill down: How are you going to get there? Start with a simple question, suggests Say Insurance’s Erin Thompson: “What do I want to achieve today?” Without a specific plan of action for the day, it’s all too easy to get caught up in the little things. The truth is, most of what you do in a day probably doesn’t get you closer to your goals. Things like answering emails, cooking meals, and commuting have to happen, but they’re best seen as chores rather than steps forward.

6. Be Humble

Whether you’re working on a solo goal or one that involves a whole team, recognize that others’ ideas can help you achieve it faster and more effectively. Look beyond things like age and job title. Teenager Greta Thunberg has broken through to more people on climate change than many scientists. Mahatma Gandhi was a small-time lawyer before he helped India overcome British rule. Always assume that the person you’re interacting with has something valuable to tell you. Be open with people about what you want to achieve, and humbly accept their input.

7. Give Yourself Some Credit.

Most goals worth setting are achieved in phases. If you can’t see and feel yourself making progress toward them, warns Teamwork CEO Peter Coppinger, you’ll struggle to achieve what you set out to do. When setting goals, think about the waypoints you expect to see along the way. Say you hope to become a CEO someday. You can’t expect to leap straight to the top, so consider what roles you might want to hold first. As you work your way up, celebrate those wins. When you earn your first management role, go visit a national park you’ve always wanted to see. Once you become a VP, take that European vacation. After you’re promoted to the c-suite, reward yourself with a cruise. Setting goals is good, but achieving them is even better. Choose wisely, listen carefully to those around you, work hard, and remember to celebrate the wins along the way.

More on Setting Goals

How to Use SMART Goal to Become Highly Successful in Life

How to Create an Action Plan and Achieve Your Personal Goals

How to Become Goal Oriented and Achieve More in Life

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One Year Since Chester Bennington’s Death And Linkin Park’s Music Helps Us Deal With The Loss

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Chester Bennington died one year ago today, July 20, 2017, found at his home in Palos Verdes Estates, California after taking his own life.

The music industry and beyond switched its default setting to mourn once again, as tributes for the 41-year-old dad of six flooded social media.

We all knew the music of Linkin Park – the band Chester fronted for years – resonated with an army of disenfranchised outsiders, but the outpouring of grief was overwhelming in scale.

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From the moment Hybrid Theory exploded onto our Walkmans with the opening bars of Papercut, we were hooked.

Each song is a three-minute ball of nu metal energy; a heady cocktail of hip-hop, modern rock, and atmospheric electronica, punctuated with instrumental experimentation, which was like sweet musical nectar to our adolescent ears.

The six-piece painted pictures of dark places which piqued some listeners’ curiosity to the depth of the human condition, and simply reminded others of their own struggles.

Hearing Chester brazenly scream ‘shut up’ at the world in One Step Closer felt euphoric to hoards of youths like us, who felt they hadn’t quite found their own voice yet.

The debut album quickly garnered mainstream success in a way never before achieved by an alternative metal mash-up.

Hybrid Theory was certified Diamond by the Recording Industry Association of America in 2005, making it the best-selling debut album of the decade, as well as one of the few albums ever to hit that many sales.

But with great songwriting comes great pressure, as UNILAD Sound discovered:

Linkin Park took their responsibility to fans seriously, and created music marked by a perpetual sense of honesty. Honesty about struggling and, as they put it, dancing with demons.

Chester had been sexually abused as a child, went through the strain of his parents’ divorce at just 11, was bullied at school and eventually turned to drug and alcohol abuse.

To overcome addiction and emotional trauma, he started writing poetry and music.

You can find out how others cope with their own cases of child sex abuse below:

One year after his suicide, it’s natural to read into the award-winning song lyrics written by Bennington and his bandmate Mike Shinoda.

Dr Arthur Cassidy told UNILAD this type of ‘parasocial interaction’ between rockstars and their armies of supporters occurs when ‘fans know lots about their pop singers and rappers but the celebs know nothing about their fans’.

This idolisation can create a lot of unrealistic expectations and put pressure on public figures who are – let’s remember – humans with vulnerabilities and mental health stressors themselves.

Listening to Chester, immortalised in his music, can’t bring back the frontman.

But, today, let’s stick on Hybrid Theory or Meteora and appreciate how he can still help fans deal with their own grief, sadness and struggle.

Chester’s earlier piercing vocals – the perfect foil to Shinoda’s low-key licks – are spiked with anger and frustration, but singing along to the epic choruses brings catharsis, whether you can hit the high notes or not.

Sometimes, Chester’s words are ragged with emotion, screamed through gritted teeth. Often, in the bridge, his melodic vocal captures a quiet pain, selflessly showing his own vulnerability to help others put words and metaphor and tunes to their own.

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Over time – and six further album releases – Linkin Park’s raw anger matured and became more nuanced, as did their ability to layer sounds and create walls of sound, both on stage and in the studio.

The final album almost reads like an acceptance letter, an ode to the trials and tribulations of life, which can make you that little bit stronger when you have a support network.

Now, the Linkin Park back catalogue helps us grieve one year later and carry forward the messages of unity and inclusivity Chester championed throughout his life.

Chester began his musical career with Grey Daze, a post-grunge band from Phoenix, Arizona, who recorded three albums; Demo in 1993, Wake/Me in 1994, and …no sun today in 1997.

Then he joined LP – founded in rural LA by Shinoda, Rob Bourdon, and Brad Delson – where he worked hard beyond their musical output to support fans and his show business peers.

Their rap metal style welcomed more diverse collaborations, ushering in Projeckt Revolution and the likes of Cypress Hill, Adema, Snoop Dogg, Xzibit, and later Busta Rhymes, Pusha T and Steve Aoki, to bring members of different musical tribes together on tracks.

Jay Z has famously paid tribute to Chester a number of times since his death, performing the Grammy-winning Numb/Encore from their collaborative 2004 album, Collision Course, on stage to emotional crowds.

All the while, Linkin Park were accepted by the rock’n roll’elite, winning countless awards during their run and playing on the same stages as the likes of Metallica, Iron Maiden, Placebo and Deftones.

Meanwhile, the band founded a charity called Music For Relief, which staged fundraising events for the victims of over 20 natural disasters, and still works hard to help those hard up today.

We are deeply grateful to every person who donated in any amount to @MusicForRelief's One More Light Fund in honor of @ChesterB 's birthday. Together, you raised more than $90,000 to shine a light on mental health. Thank you for making this possible!

— Music for Relief (@MusicForRelief) April 9, 2018

In 2013, Chester fronted Stone Temple Pilots – a band he cites as an early musical influence – for two years before leaving to focus solely on Linkin Park.

Their last album, released in May a few months before Chester’s death, was received badly by the old vanguard of Linkin Park fans, some of whom unjustifiably said the band had ‘gone soft’.

While tracks like Talking To Myself and Battle Symphony have a more mainstream electro vibe, in hindsight, the new sound marked a moment of acceptance for Linkin Park by the pop culture jury.

Yet, they weren’t forced to change to achieve global success and recognition.

They grew and used their own progression and creative talent to break through barriers, and break the mould of what music critics think matters.

Collaborations with Stormzy, Pusha T and Kiiara show the band were moving forward towards the future of alternative metal, its chameleon-like changeability, and how young artists could take up the baton.

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Shinoda, who has since confirmed LP will continue, said of the title track:

was written with the intention of sending love to those who lost someone. We now find ourselves on the receiving end.

In memorial events, art, videos, and images, fans all over the world have gravitated towards this song as their declaration of love and support for the band and the memory of our dear friend, Chester.

We are so very grateful and can’t wait to see you again.

Chester is remembered in his latest solo project, Post Traumatic, as well as through the , set up by Music For Relief, which aims to shine a light on mental health matters.

Chester’s wife, Talinda Bennington, also initiated a movement called 320 Changes Direction, in honour of her husband to help break the stigma surrounding mental health.

She encouraged other public figures to post to social media saying, ‘I am the change’:

Today we honor the life and music of @linkinpark’s @ChesterBe. @TalindaB joins me on @Beats1@AppleMusic to talk #320ChangesDirection alongside a special Playlist made by @mikeshinoda. 10 am PT. Be the change. https://t.co/Urz4A9nnO3#IAMTHECHANGE#MakeChesterProudpic.twitter.com/vDindLb4bB

— Zane Lowe (@zanelowe) March 20, 2018

Just days before Mental Health Awareness Week here in the UK, Talinda called out the media for perpetrating the stigma of suicide in the language used to describe Avicii’s death.

Today, across the world, fans will show there is no shame in depression or poor mental health, having organised meet-ups and tribute nights to Chester, celebrating his life.

Talinda compiled a list of events and shared it online for those interested:

With the one year fast approaching, there are so many beautiful memorials planned all around the WORLD in honor of Chester. I wanted to share them with you. ❤️

https://t.co/cwboB8Jxbt

— Talinda Bennington (@TalindaB) July 3, 2018

Meanwhile, the fans of Linkin Park and Chester have found other more permanent ways to honour his memory – and his creativity and love for body art – in thousands of memorial tattoos.

While the alternative ink is a fitting tribute, there’s no better way to show respect and love for Chester than reaching out to someone you think might be struggling too.

You can check some of the ink designs out below:

Arm still a little swollen and my hand as well but guess it’s ok now. Time to post a pic in my feed 4 days past. Watch my story to see more if you’re interested 🔥

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amazing ♡ great artwork by @babichtattooart • #chestertattoo #chesterbenningtontattoo #linkinpark #chesterbennington #wemissyou #potd #tb #art #beautiful #love #tattoo #artist #artistsoninstagram

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Memoriam tattoo … 😶 #memoriam #memoriamtattoo #linkinpark #riptattoo #chesterbennington #chesterbenningtontattoo

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Homenaje de Vani 💕🎤

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This means so much to me. This man and this band have helped me overcome some of my darkest days and will continue to be my therapy for the rest of my life. This will be a reminder of that and to #makechesterproud ❤️ Now, time to start saving for my portrait piece! 😉😄 #LP #LPtattoo #LPfan #LinkinPark #LinkinParktattoo #ChesterBennington #ChesterBenningtontattoo #music #musicislife #musicistherapy #fuckdepression #clubtattoo

A post shared by Ashley (@shleebers) on Oct 1, 2017 at 9:44am PDT

Linkin Park is hands down my all time favorite band and made a huge impact on me in my life. When Chester passed, I wasn't expecting it to hit me as hard as it did. So when Chester passed, I wanted to do a memorial tattoo for him. So I got this today. Still have the shading to do. Really happy with how it's turning out. Thanks @gabslopez2u #tat #tats #tatted #tattedup #tattoo #tattooart #tattoosocial #tattoos #tattoosofinstagram #tattooed #tattooedandeducated #tattooedandemployed #inked #inkedup #linkinpark #linkinparktattoo #lptattoo #chesterbennington #chesterbenningtontattoo #calftattoo #pain #painful

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All those years ago, at the turn of the millennium in 2000, Hybrid Theory left us with a High Voltage closing sentiment, as Shinoda spits, ‘From now to infinity let icons be bygones’.

Even though Linkin Park shunned labels, thrived on authenticity and embraced difference, funnily enough, the band which so dismissed the need for idolisation by way of their own uniqueness, made Chester an icon of kindness and inclusivity.

In the end, that’s all that really matters.

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RIP Chester.

You can speak to someone confidentially about your mental health and wellbeing by calling one of the following numbers: Samaritans – 116 123
, Childline – 0800 1111 (UK) / 1800 66 66 66 (ROI), 
Teenline – 1800 833 634 (ROI).

If you have a story to tell, contact UNILAD via [email protected]

This content was originally published here.

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The Cliche List of Winners and Losers of the NBA Trade Deadline

The trade deadline came and went with Woj bombs and blockbusters left to decipher. With some time now to process it all a little, here are some teams/players who I felt benefited or did not do well at the deadline.

Winners:

The Boston Celtics:

While the Celtics did not upgrade their roster, they certainly won the deadline solely because they get their shot at Anthony Davis. Apparently Danny Ainge convinced Dell Demps enough to not only go full Emperor Palpatine and destroy and deceive the rival Lakers from the inside, but hold off on making a deal before the deadline and go into the summer with the premier players and assets available for New Orleans’ taking. We’ll see if it actually happens, but for now the Celtics have to be in pole position to land the biggest fish out there. (though the Lakers did exact their revenge last night, at least. RONDOOOOO)

The Eastern Conference Playoffs:

The Celtics didn’t upgrade their roster this season, but man did everyone else did. The 76ers, Bucks and Raptors, however, all took turns making mega deals trying to outgun each other in a wide open Eastern Conference sans LeBron James, sort of like trying to win an auction.

Let’s start with Philadelphia. The Sixers were a team bereft of perimeter shooting and were able to land that and then some in the form of Tobias Harris. The versatility is boundless. Many have touted Tobias as the type of guy who needs the ball in his hands to be successful, but I don’t quite see it that way. He can play off ball as well; he’s a selfless, secondary option who can stretch the floor (he’s shot 40% from 3 each of the last 2 seasons and is close to averaging 50-40-90 shooting splits this season) while also threatening enough as a playmaker to create when given the opportunity to do so. Harris can play very well off all 4 of Ben Simmons, Jimmy Butler, JJ Redick and Joel Embiid by giving them all more room to operate and stress the decision making of coaches and players on how to cover the 2 or 3 of them when directly involved in a pick and roll or halfcourt set. Harris shot 40.8 on catch-and-shoot 3s on 3.4 attempts per game, while boasting a robust 56.6 EFG% from inside 10 feet  and 51.8 EFG% on pull-up jumpers. Perhaps they gave up too much (2 first and 2 second round picks, including that precious Heat 2021 1st round pick), but trading for Harris (and Butler) now provides Philly the opportunity to re-sign their whole starting lineup this summer. Harris ranks 12th in ESPN’s RPM metric, in part because his proficiency on both ends of the floor and being able to guard multiple positions. He will help bring the best out of everybody on the floor by being able to space it. Good deal for Elton Brand. (Also, for a team that needs depth anywhere they can find it, James Ennis III, Mike Scott, Boban Marjanovic (BOBAN!), Jonathon Simmons and whoever they can find in the buyout market can make nice contributions in their own right).

As for the Bucks, Nikola Mirotic provides the Bucks with even more firepower than what they already had: shooting. However, Mirotic also will give Milwaukee all the more versatility and another scoring punch in the halfcourt. I wonder if people will overstate Harris’ impact while understating Mirotic’s; Harris is a better and more complete individual player, but as a team’s 4th or (at times) 5th option, is there much of a difference between Tobias and Mirotic? I’d rather have Tobias to be sure, but he and Mirotic’s per 36 numbers, per Basketball-Reference, are not all that dissimilar. Mirotic fits perfectly inside Milwaukee’s offense spreading the floor for Giannis and has playoff experience, most notably last season as he helped New Orleans blow torch the Portland Trail Blazers in 4 games before losing to the Golden State Warriors in the Western Conference Semi-Finals. Milwaukee upgraded, and gave up considerably less in the process. Props to GM Jon Horst, who should be in the running for Executive of the Year.

Now let’s get to Toronto. This is much more interesting and think will take more time acclimating after acquiring Marc Gasol from Memphis for Delon Wright, Jonas Valanciunas, CJ Miles and a 2nd round pick in 2022. With Jonas Valanciunas injured, Toronto resorted to Greg Monroe holding down bench units at the center spot, which went poorly. While Marc’s shooting and scoring numbers have gone down relative to his peak years in Memphis, he is averaging a career high 4.7 assists per game. Only Kyle Lowry averages more assists per game for the Raptors than Marc does this season. Marc Gasol should bring a totally new element at the elbow to ease some pressure off of Kawhi Leonard and Kyle Lowry. The tricky part will be how to sort the minutes in the frontcourt. Serge Ibaka and should have been All Star Pascal Siakam have been fantastic as a duo. Who of Ibaka, Siakam and Gasol will come off the bench? My guess would be Serge Ibaka to fully maximize Siakam’s athleticism cutting for Marc to find him, as Gasol is a much more prudent passer than Ibaka is, and use Serge’s scoring and shooting growth this season to help anchor 2nd units. Toronto needed a big body to bang with some of the bigger brutes in the Eastern Conference and another playmaker. They got both in Gasol. Let’s see how they utilize him and how he affects their rotations as a result.

Orlando Magic:

Hey, the Magic finally won something! Jokes aside, what they finally did accomplish, though, is acquire a potential franchise changing player. Or might be out of the league in two seasons. That’s kind of where we are with Markelle Fultz. I personally believe an injury was the root of his yips and shook-ness shooting the basketball, but regardless, a mental block got the best of him. To paraphrase Prodigy, Markelle ‘was only 19 but (his) mind was (not??) older’ last season, and even stumbled into this season. However, there is a reason why he was taken number one and Philadelphia traded an extra 1st round pick to move from three to one to draft. He is the ultimate guard for today’s NBA. He is worth the gamble of a future 1st round pick via Oklahoma City that is going to be in the 20s. Maybe it was his thoracic outlet syndrome. Maybe the pressure of being the 1st pick got to him as Philly was marching towards playoff contention. Whatever the case, the noise will silence as he disappears in Orlando, and I mean that in the best possible way. Orlando has a seismic hole at the point guard position and he can fill without needing to live up to the pressure and scrutiny of being a number one pick in a big market. If he can find his shot again to match his athleticism and defensive prowess, Orlando got a franchise changer for basically nothing. If not, they just lose an extra 1st round pick and Jonathon Simmons. They even kept Terrence Ross and Nikola Vucevic, who you could’ve argued they should have traded but could help Markelle transition nicely as proven pieces worthy of defenses’ attention. He fits the timeline of Aaron Gordon, Wes Iwundu, Jonathan Isaac and Mo Bamba. Who knows if it will work with Markelle. I sure as hell don’t. But I do know it *could,* & I applaud Orlando for trying.

LA Clippers:

The Clippers somehow managed to get worse, then get better (a little), all while setting up their future perfectly. With the salary cap projected to be at around $109 million, the Clippers have positioned themself to acquire a superstar in just about any form. Sure, they lost Tobias Harris, but he isn’t of the caliber of the Kawhi Leonards or Kevin Durants they plan to be star-hunting for in free agency. But now they have draft capital as well as young players in Shai Gilgeous-Alexander, Landry Shamet and Jerome Robinson to throw at teams housing disgruntled superstars. They even shed Avery Bradley’s $2 million guaranteed and get an upgrade on this year’s roster in the form of JaMychal Green and Garrett Temple. They then flipped Mike Muscala from the aforementioned Tobias Harris trade into Ivica Zubac, a young, burgeoning center from the Lakers who has a teensy tiny $1.9 million cap hold to essentially replace Bradley’s guaranteed money. The Clippers can then go over the salary cap to re-sign Zubac if they’re able to fill the rest of the cap with superstar players. The Clippers have navigated perfectly post-Lob City. They can make a lot of noise this summer, perhaps not great noise for their hometown neighbors….

Losers:

Los Angeles Lakers:

Maybe it seemed unrealistic to expect them to nab Anthony Davis, but their best shot at getting him just slipped through their finger tips while it seemed that Dell Demps tried to cause an internal mutiny bleeping with the team and their internal chemistry. Hate to see it. That’s one reason why they’re on this list. The other dates back to this summer. The Lakers neglected shooting in free agency after signing LeBron James, who is maximized with shooting surrounding him on the floor a la Milwaukee with Giannis. Acquiring Reggie Bullock and Mike Muscala were good acquisitions as both are on expiring deals and bring some shooting they sorely lack without giving up major players or future assets. But the point is that acquiring shooting should’ve been done in the first place this summer, and likely could’ve been done without giving up Ivica Zubac in the first place. The Lakers did well in a vacuum this deadline, but their best shot at Davis passed without him.

Anthony Davis:

Speaking of Davis, he is now stuck in New Orleans after the Pelicans brass didn’t acquiesce to his trade demand, as he’ll have to pretend he didn’t want out like George Costanza. Since New Orleans can’t sit an All-NBA player or be at risk of a $100,000 fine per game Davis sits, the Pelicans are stuck in an awkward dance of trying to tank while finding the right amount of time to play a top 5 NBA player without compromising that. On top of that, as mentioned already, Davis’ best shot at landing in his preferred Lakers destination didn’t result in that happening. This feels like its only going to get worse before it gets better, so have fun Dell Demps.

Memphis Grizzlies:

RIP Grit ‘n’ Grind. The era gave Memphis the best run of NBA ball it has ever seen, but unfortunately, not to much to show from it afterwards. They traded Marc Gasol for Delon Wright, Travis Kelce’s doppelganger Jonas Valanciunas, CJ Miles and a 2nd round pick. They essentially got nothing back for JaMychal Green and Garrett Temple. They dumped 2 2nd round picks for Justin Holiday to try and make a push towards playoff contention, but the hopes of that quickly ran out. Chandler Parsons’ corpse of a contract is still on the books. And, most importantly, they couldn’t find a trade for Mike Conley, which could impact their chances of tanking for Zion or even keeping their pick in the first place. Delon Wright is a nice piece, but he is going to be a restricted free agent and will turn 27 (I was stunned too. 27 already?!?) in April. Valanciunas will be 27 in May. That doesn’t exactly sound like players along the timeline of franchise centerpiece Jaren Jackson Jr, though they will help. They should’ve gotten more for a franchise great in Marc Gasol, even if he had a foot out the door already. Conley should be more movable this summer. Memphis only began blowing it up. But for now, they seem rather aimless.

The Western Conference Playoffs minus the Golden State Warriors:

No one in the West drastically improved their team, though the Houston Rockets, Los Angeles Lakers, Portland Trail Blazers and Sacramento Kings made incremental improvements. Not everyone has an infinity gauntlet like the Warriors do, so I don’t blame them.

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Guy Smarts: What your personal trainer *really* thinks about you

According to a recent survey from TreadmillReviews, 44% of more than 500 trainers from various fitness backgrounds said they've judged a client for their behavior or appearance.

Ever wonder what your trainer’s thinking during a session? (Beyond “that’s a lot of sweat” or “he’s starting to smell.”) Well, there are definitely a few thoughts racing through their heads — and TBH, some aren’t so great.

According to a recent survey from TreadmillReviews, 44% of more than 500 trainers from various fitness backgrounds said they've judged a client for their behavior or appearance. (If you do CrossFit, instructors are even judgier, with more than 50% saying they've thought worse of a client for their bad behavior.)

We wanted to know exactly what personal trainers are saying about their clients behind closed doors, so we asked TreadmillReviews to send us their exclusive data.

Here's a tip: think about this the next time you’re at the gym and bitching to your trainer about a set of burpees, or regaling them with tales of your latest bad date.

1) They don't want to hear about your personal problems.

 That’s right - save the emotional drama for a legit therapist. Personal trainers are not there to discuss your latest breakup with you. They're there to get you into shape - full stop. "I am not your therapist," says Mike* (names have been changed to allow subjects to speak freely on private matters), 31, a CrossFit instructor from Michigan. 

2) They judge you for how little progress you've made.

 You might think your trainer is heavily invested in helping you get the bod you’re looking for - and to some extent, they are. But let’s be realistic: they’re still getting paid, regardless of whether you get that set of rock-solid abs or not. So when you let yourself slip, they notice, and they're judging you for it.

“A student cancelled 3 appointments and I didn't see him for a month," Rob, 39, a personal trainer, says. "The next time I saw him, he gained 18 lbs. IN A MONTH.” Seriously, how does this happen? 

3) They think you're obsessed with social media.

 If you’re complaining to your trainer about why you don't look like some super jacked influencer you follow on Instagram, you’re gonna get on their nerves. “Stop having unrealistic body expectations from looking at people on social media," urges Rebecca, 29, a California-based Zumba instructor. "Some people have surgery to lose weight and lie about it, so don't compare yourself [to anyone]."

4) They think you're a whiny little bitch.

 No one likes a whiner at the gym, especially not your trainer. So if you’re complaining that you’re not feeling an exercise where you should, but you continue to ignore your trainer’s feedback on form, it’s your fault you’re not succeeding. As Mark, 24, a New York-based CrossFit instructor puts it, he wants to see "less bitching, more listening."

5) They think you're a total slob.

 Be a big boy and pick up your sh*t after those sets. If you’re using dumbbells, for instance, put them back on the rack. If you think you’re entitled to have your trainer put barbells back and wipe down your pool of sweat on a mat, you’re wrong.

“Return equipment how you found it," says John, 24, a CrossFit instructor in New York. "I'm happy to provide a service, but as instructors, we're not your parents and we don’t want to clean up after you.”

6) They think your expectations are unrealistic.

 Your trainer can’t magically change your body overnight or help you gain a six-pack if you’re chugging six-packs afterwards. “We're coaches, not magicians!," says Ohio-based personal trainer Jim, 29. "Genetics also play a major role in physical ability and appearance. Be the best you can with what you've been given.”

7) They think you smell terrible.

 In a dating context, body odor is a deal breaker - and that applies in the gym as well. “I had a student that smelled extremely bad (like dirty diaper bad)," Sam, 41, from Washington, says. "I referred them to another trainer after their second session.” Guys, it's called deodorant. Use it before your workout. 

8) They think it's embarrassing when you flirt with them.

 Unless you're getting very, very, very clear signals (like, she is asking you out for a drink or a date), you should 100% not flirt with a trainer. Even if you're not attracted to them, the feeling is almost certainly not mutual. They're there to do a job: period.

“I had a student try way too hard to flirt with me knowing I was married. It made me uncomfortable," says James, 32, a CA-based health and fitness coach. "I had to reassign the client to someone else.”

9) They hate when you make excuses for yourself.

 Be on time and be responsible. If you’re not making progress, ask where you can improve, instead of putting the blame on your trainer for your lack of gains. "I had a client who was consistently late/no-showing," Molly, 26, a health and fitness coach from California, says. "The client had the nerve to ask why they weren’t making any progress.” It's your time and your wallet. Use it wisely.

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According to a recent survey from TreadmillReviews, 44% of more than 500 trainers from various fitness backgrounds said they've judged a client for their behavior or appearance.

Ever wonder what your trainer’s thinking during a session? (Beyond “that’s a lot of sweat” or “he’s starting to smell.”) Well, there are definitely a few thoughts racing through their heads — and TBH, some aren’t so great.

According to a recent survey from TreadmillReviews, 44% of more than 500 trainers from various fitness backgrounds said they've judged a client for their behavior or appearance. (If you do CrossFit, instructors are even judgier, with more than 50% saying they've thought worse of a client for their bad behavior.)

We wanted to know exactly what personal trainers are saying about their clients behind closed doors, so we asked TreadmillReviews to send us their exclusive data.

Here's a tip: think about this the next time you’re at the gym and bitching to your trainer about a set of burpees, or regaling them with tales of your latest bad date.

1) They don't want to hear about your personal problems.

 That’s right - save the emotional drama for a legit therapist. Personal trainers are not there to discuss your latest breakup with you. They're there to get you into shape - full stop. "I am not your therapist," says Mike* (names have been changed to allow subjects to speak freely on private matters), 31, a CrossFit instructor from Michigan. 

2) They judge you for how little progress you've made.

 You might think your trainer is heavily invested in helping you get the bod you’re looking for - and to some extent, they are. But let’s be realistic: they’re still getting paid, regardless of whether you get that set of rock-solid abs or not. So when you let yourself slip, they notice, and they're judging you for it.

“A student cancelled 3 appointments and I didn't see him for a month," Rob, 39, a personal trainer, says. "The next time I saw him, he gained 18 lbs. IN A MONTH.” Seriously, how does this happen? 

3) They think you're obsessed with social media.

 If you’re complaining to your trainer about why you don't look like some super jacked influencer you follow on Instagram, you’re gonna get on their nerves. “Stop having unrealistic body expectations from looking at people on social media," urges Rebecca, 29, a California-based Zumba instructor. "Some people have surgery to lose weight and lie about it, so don't compare yourself [to anyone]."

4) They think you're a whiny little bitch.

 No one likes a whiner at the gym, especially not your trainer. So if you’re complaining that you’re not feeling an exercise where you should, but you continue to ignore your trainer’s feedback on form, it’s your fault you’re not succeeding. As Mark, 24, a New York-based CrossFit instructor puts it, he wants to see "less bitching, more listening."

5) They think you're a total slob.

 Be a big boy and pick up your sh*t after those sets. If you’re using dumbbells, for instance, put them back on the rack. If you think you’re entitled to have your trainer put barbells back and wipe down your pool of sweat on a mat, you’re wrong.

“Return equipment how you found it," says John, 24, a CrossFit instructor in New York. "I'm happy to provide a service, but as instructors, we're not your parents and we don’t want to clean up after you.”

6) They think your expectations are unrealistic.

 Your trainer can’t magically change your body overnight or help you gain a six-pack if you’re chugging six-packs afterwards. “We're coaches, not magicians!," says Ohio-based personal trainer Jim, 29. "Genetics also play a major role in physical ability and appearance. Be the best you can with what you've been given.”

7) They think you smell terrible.

 In a dating context, body odor is a deal breaker - and that applies in the gym as well. “I had a student that smelled extremely bad (like dirty diaper bad)," Sam, 41, from Washington, says. "I referred them to another trainer after their second session.” Guys, it's called deodorant. Use it before your workout. 

8) They think it's embarrassing when you flirt with them.

 Unless you're getting very, very, very clear signals (like, she is asking you out for a drink or a date), you should 100% not flirt with a trainer. Even if you're not attracted to them, the feeling is almost certainly not mutual. They're there to do a job: period.

“I had a student try way too hard to flirt with me knowing I was married. It made me uncomfortable," says James, 32, a CA-based health and fitness coach. "I had to reassign the client to someone else.”

9) They hate when you make excuses for yourself.

 Be on time and be responsible. If you’re not making progress, ask where you can improve, instead of putting the blame on your trainer for your lack of gains. "I had a client who was consistently late/no-showing," Molly, 26, a health and fitness coach from California, says. "The client had the nerve to ask why they weren’t making any progress.” It's your time and your wallet. Use it wisely.

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