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fabulouslygaybean · 2 years

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hearing my mom talk abt my cousins and how she thinks it's sad how the oldest ones still live w their parents is worrying bc like. i have a sinking feeling she'll want me outta the house the second i turn 18 and idk if im ready for that

#ive still got time but like. god it makes me anxious #also to clarify. i say my cousins but i specifically mean this one household which has like 7 of my cousins #technically 6 of them are my first cousins once removed but thats stupid as hell so they're all my cousins #anyways. it just seems weird how bothered my mom is about it.#my cousins have always been a very tight knit family and theres been no pressure for anyone to leave earlier than they want to #3/6 of the kids are legally adults now and a 4th one is gonna turn 18 this year iirc #they all still live at home with their parents and its not seen as a big deal bc they have the space to house them so they're not worried -#- abt everyone moving out #but i hear my mom talking about how its a tragedy that they're still living with their parents and it just feels weird #the most anyone has ever done to try and push someone out of the house was when the family was encouraging the oldest to enroll in -#- college and maybe try out dorm living if that's something they'd be able to deal with #everyone emphasized that the family would still welcome them back into the house if dorm living didn't work out #just. idk. it seems so much healthier than whatever my moms got going on #she didn't live with her parents past the age of 14 because she went from boarding school straight to college so maybe thats why #she's so used to the idea of ditching ur family as soon as possible that i guess its hard to grasp the fact that some families don't mind -#- living together even after the kids turn 18?#idk. its just worrying for me. i don't know if ill be able to be on my feet and ready to leave home the moment i turn 18. ive only just -#- started to scratch the surface of independence bc i was never ALLOWED to be majorly independent before mid 2020 #im horribly unprepared for living as an independent adult so i just have to cross my fingers and hope i get it figured out before im 18

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