#now if only I had literally any ability and energy to draw something in procreate 😍

[sunnibits]

art block may be kicking my ass into the heavens lately but at least I know I can still doodle a good izzy profile at work

[haifengg]

Pairing: NanamixGN!Reader

Note: I think I got this ask quite a while ago but due to my hiatus it got postponed a million times. Now that I am slowly coming back and am publishing the bits and pieces I wrote during being away this A-Z is finally leaving my drafts as well.

A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?) Given his S/O is a sorcerer as well I think he would limit PDA at work to a minimum. Even if they are officially together or even married. He just likes to separate work and home. Tho it doesn’t mean that he is not making small intimate gestures at work like randomly dropping in with coffee or - when they are on a mission - sending a text asking how they are doing.

At home he is pretty affectionate. Randomly pulling them in for a hug, giving small back rubs when they are doing the dishes after he cooked. This kind of thing.

B = Before (What were they like when they had a crush?) Distant. Nanami would probably be a person who maybe actually mistakes the feeling for some other emotion at first. Leaving him confused about why he thinks about them so much. The poor man would likely be irritated every time they are nice to him. Why the heck doesn’t his heart stop pounding? And why is he suddenly excited to go to work? Disappointed when he is not assigned the same mission as them? Or - if they aren’t a sorcerer - sad when a mission takes him away from wherever he met them for too long?

C = Confession (What was their confession like?) Well-planned and straight forward. Nanami was already observing them for a while before making a move. Although he doesn’t actually confess it is pretty obvious when he likes someone because it happens so rarely. Just imagine him asking someone out for dinner. That gives away so much - don’t you agree?

D = Date (What was the first official date they went on?) If we don’t count the dinner mentioned above … I guess it would be something like a gallery. Nanami would definitely want to test his s/o’s taste in art because it tells a lot about a person’s character. What kind of art they prefer (paintings, photography, sculptures, … ) and how they look at it as well.

E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?) Professionally. He would state the fact on why they aren’t compatible anymore and what made him draw this conclusion. I don’t think either one of them would cheat on the other mainly because Nanami wouldn’t get into a relationship with someone capable of doing that in the first place (I hope). He would sit down with his (not) s/o and talk it through. There might be tears on the other side but not on his. He thought about it a lot and made peace with his feelings before starting this conversation.

F = Fights (What would fights look like? What are things that upset them?) Kento barely looses his temper. And if he does I wouldn’t say that it is necessarily a bad thing. Getting him so worked up about something does only mean he cares. Fights would mostly be on the calmer/diplomatic side. He might be upset about something but there is no need for him to yell or anything. If the problem can be resolved just by talking about it - great! Why waste his precious energy on negative things, when he can use them elsewhere?

G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?) We all know - and all those rough sm*t fan fictions can’t proof me wrong - that he probably is the most gentle character in entire JJK. He despises the violence of his job therefore he doesn’t want to inflict pain or anything on anyone on his good side. Especially his S/O. Nanami has the most gentle touch, fleeing kisses, he will hold them tight but never smother them.

H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?) As mentioned above: Tight and secure. Or soft. His S/O almost automatically buries their face in the crook of his neck because - who wouldn’t. Is there anything else I have to say about hugs by Nanami Kento? Yes. Am I able to put it into words? No. It’s just a very overwhelming feeling - that’s all.

I = Intimacy (What is their favorite form of intimacy? Do they have problems with it?) For him I think it would be things where they take care of him. While he shows his love through cooking and providing (which he takes a lot of pride from), he loves being taken care of as well. Maybe in departments he doesn’t know so much about. Like skincare. If his S/O teases him about his wrinkles and stern look he would gladly accept any advice in skincare from them, let them do their magic with face massages and serums. He doesn’t even care if it has any effect on his skin - he just loves the attention he gets and thrives on the feeling how much his S/O cares about him (and his skin apparently).

J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?) This one I am really indecisive about. I can see him get more jealous that we would expect him too - which would be a nice surprise tbh. But also not jealous at all because he is confident. Kento knows what his S/O likes about him and he also knows what separates him from other men. What makes him special. I think the times he gets jealous are the days he doesn’t get to spent with his S/O because of work or a mission. Which rather results in being mad at Jujutsu Tech than jealous of someone else.

K = Kisses (Are they a good kisser? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?) Forehead. Kisses. It doesn’t matter what height there S/O is. It is one of the most protective gestures and he enjoys giving those as much as his S/O enjoys receiving them.

The back of the hand cheesy kisses. Because they are his everything, he wants to treat them like it. Nanami knows it’s cheesy but neither one of them thinks too much about it. When they sit across the table, fingers sloppily interlocked on the table top, he occasionally picks up their hand and places a soft kiss on the back of it. Almost absent-minded.

L = Little ones (How are they around children?) He is not very fond of them. Not saying that he won’t love and do everything for his own kids but other people’s kids are usually a nuisance for him. If they are loud or misbehaving he is really not having it. Though he would never lash out or raise his voice against them/their parents. ‘Children’ as in ‘his students’ … he always makes sure to treat them as children in a way he wants them safe/won’t put them in unnecessary danger.

M = Messages (How often do they text his S/O?) Kento strikes me as a kind of guy who doesn’t text often. Mostly because in his line of work sharing attention could easily be his downfall or worse. He will let his s/o know if he’s running late or occasionally ask if there is anything they need from the store or things like that but aside from practical messages he doesn’t text much.

Though if he is on a long mission and away from his s/o for quite a time span he usually rather calls them than text.

N = Night (How are nights spent with them?) Nights as in ‘Nights Out’? Date nights? Well, he is a foodie so dinner is always a popular option. He takes the time to carefully research about the restaurant and the menu. If the rotate dishes, he will make sure they’re going at the exactly right season to get the best culinary experience possible.

Nanami is old fashioned. So he will hold the door for them, pull back the chair … helps them into their coat.

He also likes going to the movies. The intimacy of the dark theatre gives him the confidence to reach out for their hand or have his arm around their shoulder. Since he usually limits PDA in public this is exciting for him.

O = Opinion (Would they ask for their S/O’s opinion a lot? How important is it in terms of decisions?) Probably more than I would expect him too. Maybe not about the smaller things but decisions that involve the both of them he would definitely ask.

P = Patience (How easily angered are they?) Due to the time he spends exposed to Gojo this man has the patience of a saint. Literally. He rarely snaps at his S/O.

Q = Quizzes (How does a bar trivia night teamed up with them look like?) Stressed. Yes, this man in very educated and cultured but imagine him sitting in a loud-ass bar, having to answer questions about the transformers or Megan Thee Stallion. Absolutely absurd. How old he must feel …

R = Remember (How much do they remember about their S/O or their relationship in general?) Not everything but a lot. He will remember little things they mentioned early on in the relationship and bring it up again later. He also uses this ability for presents and such. As well as in fights. If they think they can outtalk him with something you accusedly said or didn’t say some time ago - I suggest they surrender, because he will remember much better.

S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?) Very Protective. I mean yes, he knows that they can stand up for themselves but why should they have to do that if he is around? One of the big perks dating him is that he is who he is and that his presence confuses most people. So he might as well use it. Not so much in a physical way but rather in addressing the people bothering his S/O directly in the typical manner of his.

I think his understanding of being protected equals being taken care of which plays into the skincare thing I mentioned earlier. It is not so much physical procreation from danger but preserving a future together where one cares about the other deeply and only wants their best.

T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?) Medium effort. He prepares and researches but he rarely comes up with a new idea. He knows what he likes and his S/O probably does too. His work is so stressful and has close to no repetition so that he enjoys doing the same things on dates over and over. That does not mean it will get boring. Because Nanami sometimes thrives on going the extra mile. There is a restaurant across the country that he really wants to dine at? Buckle up - he is going on a vacation. Short trips or spa weekends are also things he appreciates.

Since he remembers dates and anniversaries well he is usually well prepared for those occasions. He puts a lot of thought into presents and barely ever gifts useless things. He does not like to have a lot of stuff laying around so what he gives to people usually serves a purpose.

U = Unique (What makes them unique as a S/O?) Literally everything I mentioned above. Namai Kento is a unique mix of all his traits. A very balanced person.

V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?) Well … he wears the same freaking suit everyday so … but yes I think cares about his looks and hygiene in general. As far as clothing goes he probably has one brand he is loyal too, which automatically sets his fashion style in stone as well. He has the same haircut for quite a while and sees no point in changing it.

Overall just the classic hetero dude who ones figured out what works for him and stuck with it. lol.

W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without their S/O? Yes. His S/O is the other side of him. Is what balances his inner peace. Without them he worries too much, stresses too much. He needs them to tell him it’s going to be okay.

X = X-Ray (How transparent are they?) Nanami doesn’t actually tells them everything but will disclose if they ask. He just doesn’t think they are interested in small details about him.

Y = Yuck (Everyone has flaws. What is theirs?) He. Doesn’t. Do. The. Dishes.

Z = Zzz (What is a sleep habits of theirs?) Kento never lets go of his S/O. Which can be annoying. And suffocating. Especially in summer. He is not clingy and they don’t fall asleep like this but in the morning he always spoons them or weirdly holds their hand. Sometimes toes interlocked lmao. Which makes them even more lonely when they are apart, because they got used to it way too quickly.

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[jeparlelibremente]

The Libertarian/Darwinian Contrarians

“He saw a chair, and a ship that was not a ship; he saw a man with two shadows, and he saw that which cannot be seen — a concept; the adaptive, self-seeking urge to survive, to bend everything that can be reached to that end, and to remove and to add and to smash and to create so that one particular collection of cells can go on, can move onward and decide, and keeping moving and keeping deciding, knowing that — if nothing else — at least it lives. And it had two shadows, it was two things: it was the need and it was the method. The need was obvious: to defeat what opposed its life. The method was that taking and bending of materials and people to one purpose, the outlook that everything could be used in the fight; that nothing could be excluded, that everything was a weapon, and the ability to handle those weapons, to find them and choose which one to aim and fire; that talent, that ability, that use of weapons.” 

― Iain M. Banks, Use of Weapons

There are two cells in the lens of the microscope, both frozen in place. One - healthy, full. The other - lysed outwards. Vomiting innards. Green fluorescence; one bright, the other diluted into the morass of entropy and lost to the universe. Death by apoptosis, or because histology labs implement imperfect protocols. Thermodynamics is diametrically opposed to many base human drives; trying to survive and procreate while the sphere of free energy expands and diminishes is a battle against a system we don’t fully understand. Gibbs’ committed some mad aphorisms to paper; ask any first year o-chem student holding a TI-83 and swearing at their sample test paper.

But by the time you graduate and hit the workplace the nature of the discourse changes; the menagerie complains about relationships, inequality, politics; newspaper philosophy du jour. I have colleagues who are microbiologists and seemed to have forgotten energy even exists; the biochemists are unable to let it go. You do what you are taught.

Does the universe reward aggression?

Human knowledge is an expanding frontier; wikipedia articles increase in number, books grow in volume, legislation proliferates, and all the while, as a species we grow. Generality is not intrinsically negative, but unless you have the capacity of John von Neumann, specialisation is going to become a necessity at some point. No one is that great; the ones that were are dead, child prodigies burn out. You have work ahead of you. Bonne chance.

It seems like the answer to this question should not be so difficult; being able to assert ones will and attain control over your environment has obvious advantages (citation needed) - but what is good for the individual is not necessarily good for the collective. I am not violently anti-Ayn Rand the way some are; capitalism is a great economic solution to incentivise production. We have less people living in poverty than ever before, and despite what some may complain about, inequality is not an intrinsically evil phenomena. Some people may have more through luck - but this need not make you unhappy. Pick a different value system (not to say there aren’t genuine moral concerns, either) My issue is with understanding where to draw the line between co-operation and competition; at some point aggression at the individual level actively holds the group back. Libertarians would have you think otherwise; the solution to all human activity/expenditure of energy is increased competition; if you think differently then, what, you must be stupid. But for this to work, everyone needs to produce maximally; most self-proclaimed libertarians I know are angry young men; insecure about sex, difficulty building and sustaining romantic relationships, and frequent drug users. And in extreme irony, many work for the government (this is retroactively justified as giving them special insight into government inefficiency - but if you needed a government job to teach you that, then I understand why you spend all your spare time playing video games and smoking weed) An ideology becomes a weapon to cover an inferiority complex. PUBG is great, and the Unreal 4 engine works miracles on an iPhone, but you’d be happier if you recognised you were angry, and dealt with it accordingly.

At the opposite end of the spectrum we have Marxism; I’ll concede ignorance: I never read the book - Karl is on my to-do list. But human affairs are complex enough that one simple truism should suffice: few phenomena in human nature are so simple that they can be covered at one extreme. The difficulty involved in navigating life is understanding that situations can’t be viewed in black and white, and while I know some people will read this and go “duh” (and it should be) I am amazed at how consistently people fail to grasp this. Smart people, highly educated people. People that should know better. People that can’t “agree to disagree” in conversations/debates/arguments. Your ego and your identity so tightly bound to being right that you could never concede that perhaps your point of view could be adjusted slightly. Is it possible perhaps that the truth lies somewhere in the middle? I write those words and it should be embarrassingly obvious that that’s the case. But I’m hard hard pressed to find people that walk the walk here; maybe I just need to switch cliques.

At what point does our species become so large that Freud just breaks down and begins to fail?

I’m a huge TLP fan, and while he has written extensively about different manifestations of narcissism, I think what was overlooked here is not that social media enables you external validation at the expense of the self (becoming the super-ego in a sense - see TLP for more) but that it increases the stage for the act of narcissism to take place. Your fantasy expands to encompass you being the hero at the centre of the world, and the world now literally means the world, not the village; “the village” being the olde town of yore centred around the water well. Subtle difference, maybe. But tribal identity becomes more important as a protective measure against all those other people.

The psychologist Edward de Bono, of lateral thinking and Six-thinking hats fame, wrote a great book called, “How to have a beautiful mind”[1] and it is essentially a manual of techniques and methods to help foster meaningful and interesting conversations. “How to disagree” is a section in the book about precisely that. In fact, more importantly, the claim is made that in disagreement we find a path to move forwards. If you agree completely with the person sitting opposite you, then you have nothing to talk about. But if you have different perspectives, you can explore the differences. Great piece of advice: if you lose a debate, remember that you have learned something. I was much happier to switch points of view after reading this book.

At some point we proliferate and differentiate to such an extent, and attain such multitudinous views, that unchecked aggression leads to disaster. How we, as individuals, handle disagreement is crucial in living harmoniously. Once again, this should be obvious. But we’re failing at it. We are attempting to withdraw from a war in Afghanistan, which went extremely well, in that we had no real objective going in, a lot of people died, dissent was fomented, and we achieved the objective of not achieving any objective. I’m not a history expert, but if you’re willing to show me where an act of modern interventionism has lead to a favourable outcome, I’m willing to change my mind (I am legitimate about this - I try to keep my hypocrisy to a minimum, and I definitely try not to be an asshole, I only play one at times as a defence)

The why is key here: when you find yourself suiting up opposite your opponent, you need to dive underneath the surface and understand them. Ask them questions, understand the reasons behind their claims, read between the lines. Use it as an opportunity to practice being calm. I promise you it is worth it: progress your career aggressively, throw yourself into online dating, shoot that guy in Halo; but understand that human conflict is too complex for simple aggression. You can be assertive, but you can’t be a jerk. Obvious? Very. But to execute this properly you need to become increasingly resilient in the face of all the other jerks. Good luck.