#of being womanly and motherly and nurturing etc etc

[annie-thyme]

and once again I am suddenly overwhelmed with an intense feeling of not really fitting into a gender

[danielmcghee]

Dear Single Women....

Dear Single Women......You are strong, beautiful, wonderfully made, nurturing, caring, hopeful, empathetic, important, desirable, necessary.......because of this, I'm going to say something that may seem a bit scary but that I also feel needs to be said: you are the single most preyed upon creature on this planet. I bring this up to raise awareness in order to protect you, not only from your fellow men & women but also from yourselves. It's not that having a partner makes you any stronger, it's just that it closes and makes you unavailable to certain negative forces that I'm going to further discuss. Having a partner also weakens you if it's not the right partner. I encourage you to retain and harness your own inner magic as long as you can, the wrong people WILL come into your life and try to take that from you. Aside from the obvious predators that you've been taught to be weary of since you were a little girl such as strangers, perverts, men that only want you for one thing, etc, there is another predator which you may not be aware of and that is: yourself. We often get in our own way in life and I see this all too often in young single women. You have an ingrained sense of nurturing in your being, the desire to take care of things, your motherly instinct, to protect and heal. This trait unfortunately for women manifests itself in areas that cause you more harm than good. This is the women who seek men in need. All too often we hear good men griping about women only wanting "bad boys" and "screw ups", or we see good, hardworking women with men who don't work, who drink or drug, who steal from them, beat them, ruin their credit, etc. Frustratingly we watch from the sidelines as time and time again they choose these same type of men, or the same man hurts and manipulates her over and over, and she continues to take him back. Women.....your nurturing spirit was meant for your children...not for your partner. A partner is an equal half, you should both be continuously lifting each other up, and building each other. You are using your unique womanly gifts that God gave you in the wrong ways, you are enabling a sick person who will never change if you are constantly there to pick him up. He is not, and should never be your child, or fit the role of one....you were meant for greater things. By tying up your energy with a man like this you are blocking the possible opportunities to build the life of your dreams. Be aware of yourself, always pay attention to your true genuine motives, and ask yourself if what you call "love" really is love, or just a word that makes you feel better by societal standards. Along those same lines: Don't Get Pimped!! This is Pimpology 101: Women have an innate sense of purpose, it's ingrained in them to be mothers, wives, to feel needed....So men who know how to manipulate women/pimps play on that. They give them tasks, make them feel important, make them feel special and needed, give them occasional praise and compliments. Use human emotion as a weapon, use guilt as a tactic and make them really feel like they have a sense of purpose and voila! You can have dedicated loyal soldiers that will do anything for you for free, hell they'll even pay you to do your dirty work for free. Pimps do it well, Charles Manson, David Koresh and many others did it in extreme situations. Men in political power, financial power and crooked church leaders do it....it's quite common, I see it all the time. Your time is valuable, and so are your talents, do NOT become someone's psychological slave because they play on your big heart and nurturing instincts as a woman. You should always be working towards your dreams, not devoting your life to helping someone else reach theirs, no matter what guise they may use to sell it to you. Lastly, the other predator that you face that forces you to make bad decisions is: societal norms. In your mind you have a deadline to get married, a deadline to have a baby, a house, a white picket fence, etc. A lot of you look at being single like it's a plague, when in actuality it's a sign of strength. There are no finish lines in life and no deadlines. God is in control and God did not put you on a schedule. No matter how many people ask you "why don't you have a boyfriend?", "when are you going to get married?", "when are you having babies?", you do it on YOUR TIME. Again let me repeat what I said, because I care about each and every one of you: being single is a sign of strength not a sign of weakness! It is about waiting for what's right, about not settling, about knowing what you want. It's about working on yourself, building yourself to be ready for a strong partner......because like attracts like....and why wouldn't we want to attract someone with the best version of ourselves? I See too many people rushing relationships, rushing marriages, rushing babies, rushing rushing rushing, until they're rushing to a divorce lawyer. There is no timer, do NOT listen to what society tells you, listen to your God. Use your common sense and follow your heart, and always examine and be aware of your own intentions. I wish you all peace and prosperity! ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼