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#plz have them go ''i could be straight - but i'm just gonna trans my gender first so that it becomes gay''
racke7 · 1 year
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So, a long while back I found an author with some interesting world-building ideas. They'd maybe slip into "crack"-territory a bit too often for me to recommend it, but like... I didn't really mind it that much? And they'd written a LOT, so I was running high on that "fics to read"-energy.
Then, a few weeks ago, I came across a scene and-... And it made me start thinking about "the underlying values" of the author. Not in the sense of "they're secretly a Republican" (thank god), but in the sense of an (in hindsight) hilariously blatant feeling of heteronormativity.
Yeah, they didn't write X character as gay, but that's no need to point fingers (canon doesn't call him gay, so it's fine). And okay, maybe they created a crack-ship for one of their fics that they got heavily invested in and are now reusing, but like... it's convenient for plot-reasons so knock yourself out? And maybe leaning heavily on "women are mysterious" for cracky dad-jokes is in bad taste, but it's a cracky kind of scene?
But... it just keeps coming. They've basically gone out of their way to create ships everywhere, and they're all straight? And it's constantly played as a "and they make each other better people" as if they need romance to become such. The people who aren't in relationships are being pushed to become romantically involved (because it will make them better people), and the narrative thinks that this is reasonable and well-meaning (despite the threat of a literal war at their doorstep).
Combined with some comments from the author about being very dismissive about people who don't think marriage is important, because they actually "can't get married" and are crying sour-grapes about "not wanting to get married"?
And then on top of that, the reoccurring harem-plots? Where one dude gets lots of girls, with maybe a tiny little bit of Les-Yay thrown into the mix?
It made me sit back and really look at their stories, and... it's kind of painful? Like, I was curious about their fics, and now it's just-... How can I trust them to write interesting things, if their feelings on "romance" (which often plays an integral part in their stories) is the single most boring vanilla-ass shit that I've ever encountered (from someone who wasn't an insane Republican)?
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blackwoolncrown · 4 years
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Can you actually educate me on how pansexual was used to be transphobic and biphobic and harmful? I mean this genuinely. If the term I'm using to identify myself is actually bad and has proven to be, then I WILL stop using it. Any bisexual or anyone who I've talked to about this, never explains anything. They'll call me names, say I'm disgusting and treat me like shit then walk away and I, along with others, end up thinking they're jackasses. It would be helpful for it to be explained. Plz?
Okay I have to pause here bc this entire interaction is based on my reblogging a couple posts that specifically talk about this and I feel like it’s also something you could research on your own like....I find it suspect that perhaps there’s nothing to their reaction to you in how you’re approaching it bc just based off of interactions here you start off inherently defensive and like there’s no harm in it and like ppl are overrreacting and when the ppl in question are already pissed bc you’re doing something they say is harmful and getting mad that ppl tell you  so, they like, are gonna be mad and you can’t really expect them to educate you here on the internet in 2021....
just a thought. Beyond that I also feel like the issue is not to hard to begin to pry into when you think about the fact that a lot of ‘pansexuals’ ID as such to indicate that they’re ‘into trans ppl too’ which like, is default for basically every attraction label bc if you disagree you’re a transphobe. So it doesn’t make sense to have a label that just means ‘i’m not a transphobe’ unless you’re assuming that the ~other bisexuals~ are. Which isn’t true, so again, it’s biphobic AND transphobic to be like ‘no I’m pan bc I’m into all genders’ bc of what ppl are generally inferring.
And bisexual as a label already meant ‘attracted to every kind of person’ which is why we got labeled promiscuous, greedy, and disloyal and hypersexual perverts who would fuck ‘anything that moves’ (this is/was so prevalent it’s the name of a well known bisexual publication https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anything_That_Moves ) by straight people AND gay and lesbian people offended by the the idea of partners whose behavior they couldn’t really predict and made them feel insecure- partners who, interestingly abuse bisexuals at unusually high rates bc of this!  ( https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0886260517726415 )
So yeah you’re going to get a lot of really irritated people because first bisexuals as a group arae abused, ignored and demeaned based on our gender indiscriminance and gender nonconformity and now a bunch of ppl are like ‘I don’t discriminate between genders so bisexual isn’t a broad enough term for me’
No one enjoys firsthand experience of tragic irony. That’s why they’re pissed. It’s a historical spit in the face.
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