#there are plenty of intersex people that i disagree with. DSD people for example

[trans-axolotl]

feel free to ignore, cws for intersexism, salmacian community, drama that u do not need to waste energy on

as a questioning intersex person who's been around the perimeter of salmacian community spaces, they're deeply intersexist. "well-meaning" for sure, but difficult to navigate. endosex experiences are centered most of the time even when supposedly welcoming intersex voices. there was one discussion in the discord server a while back where folks were discussing intersexist terms used by some in the community to describe themselves and it was, despite the moderators intentions or whatever, deeply hostile. very heated, very quickly, and no opportunity to anonymously engage if you did not feel comfortable voicing an opinion amidst a flood of defensiveness.

some of the people involved were intersex, too, but that did not change that the atmosphere and handling did and continues to center perisex desires over intersex experiences and needs. ive felt really alienated there bc i just cannot relate to the majority of themdespite supposedly sharing similar euphoria. in fact, knowing more now about my bodymind, id say the experiences are pretty substantially different.

ive never seen a thoughtful defense of the term, and appreciate you going in more depth analyzing it. that should not be on you, but doing so helped this person. hope youre getting some rest in and staying cool.

honestly i appreciate this ask! it's rare that other people are like, actually honest and willing to acknowledge the intersexism in those spaces. i want people to be able to build community and share experiences and find relief from dysphoria/celebrate euphoria, but not at the expense of other intersex people. and i think until people are willing to listen and understand why so many intersex people are feeling hurt and angry about the dynamics in these spaces, things are just going to continue to become more and more exclusive of intersex people.

hope you have a good day as well, anon.