'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.
I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.
About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'
-Casey Plett, Consciousness
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Max on the radio in p1 multiple seconds ahead of everyone else setting pbs in each sector: my car is undriveable it’s falling apart fuck this fucking car
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"Detention gets out at 4:15. Guess where I am instead of there?"
Well, I WAS going to post this for Day 12 of Cringetober (because the prompt was 'Niche Interest'), but I somehow forgot, even though I literally drew this back in September. Anyways,
Detentionaire is the show ever. I'm obsessed. Everyone should go watch Detentionaire RIGHT NOW. I drew this back when I hadn't even finished Season 1, so you can tell I saw a bunch of out-of-context spoilers and rolled with them haha. The triangle's because of the pyramid in the basement (which I saw a screenie of and promptly lost my shit over), and the tail is because tatzelwurms are typically reptilians with feline heads. Cartoon win, this character is... a cat-lizard! Wahoo! I don't care that it isn't canon, I'm just happy I got to draw my guy.
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Arber Xhekaj's favourite things
23.01.31 | by Montreal Canadiens @CanadiensMTL / canadiens.com
ONE RESTAURANT PEOPLE MUST TRY
Chef's in Buffalo. My junior coach Jay McKee played in Buffalo, so that was his favourite spot. They're famous for their meat sauce, and their chicken parm is my favourite thing on the menu. They give you really good portions. He took our junior team there one time, and I stop by every time I'm in Buffalo ever since. I took the boys there too, and they seemed to really like it. It's a good spot.
ONE ACCOUNT PEOPLE MUST FOLLOW
This guy on TikTok, Bayashi. He has videos of him cooking and putting together food, and it's probably the most satisfying thing. He's good. I get hungry when I watch him.
ONE MOVIE PEOPLE MUST WATCH
Avatar. I like everything about it. It's just cool. I've only watched it, like, three times -- I don't like to watch my top movies a lot because I like them so much. I don't want to ruin them for myself. I haven't seen the second one, but I want to. No one wants to see it with me just because it's so long.
ONE FUN FACT PEOPLE MUST KNOW ABOUT YOU
I like cars. I like working on cars and trying to do things like build them myself. I can do suspensions, spark plugs, intakes, wheels, tires, brakes. I can do most of that stuff. I can't really take engines and all, but...
[What is the most satisfying project you've worked on?] Honestly, none of it is satisfying because you think it's only going to take 30 minutes and then one bolt is rusted in, or something doesn't go right, and you break something. Then you're there for four to five hours and you're wondering why you like cars or why you're working on them.
[Do you work on cars in a shop?] Yeah. I'll go out, work out, skate, and then go to my shop and just mess around in there. My four buddies and I share a rented-out shop in Hamilton. We've got our cars in there and chill, hang out and mess around.
[Has anyone hired you to work on their car?] I practice on my own cars, but I've done some stuff on my siblings' cars. I've done a lot of stuff for my brother's car, whenever he needs me to, and my sister's car too. I'll change their tires if they need it.
ONE CAR PEOPLE SHOULD DRIVE
An Audi RS4 (B7). I'm looking to buy one. I went to go see one, but they're kind of expensive, and I've never spent a lot of money on cars. I looked at one and test drove it. Maybe I'll buy it soon.
ONE MUSIC ALBUM PEOPLE SHOULD ADD TO THEIR COLLECTION
Dangerous by Morgan Wallen. I like all the songs. I know every word to all of them. They're all so good. I like Quittin' Time and Wasted On You. I had tickets to his show once, but I was playing in the Memorial Cup. I have some buddies coming to Montreal, and I'm going to see him here, or I might just buy some tickets in London.
There's also Beerbongs & Bentleys by Post Malone. My favourite song would probably be Better Now.
ONE BRAND/TYPE OF CLOTHING PEOPLE MUST TRY
I have a lot of lululemon, their stuff is really good. It's comfy, and it never shrinks in the dryer or anything. It lasts forever if you take good care of it.
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