#toxic Filipino culture

[shelivesingalaxies]

Parents, if you do not want your kids to end up questioning your actions and resenting you in your old age, as early as now, please learn to plan for their future and yours. It should not fall on their shoulders to be responsible for your lives and those of their siblings when they grow up.

To let them live the life they want and not hold them back. Should that not be your goal?

[elfilipinismo]

On the so-called "toxic Filipino culture"

Am I the only one who has noticed that most of today’s Filipino youth have become a disrespectful, maleducated bunch? They have absolutely zero respect for their elders nowadays, most especially when they think they know that they have a reason to answer back. And with the growing popularity of “meme culture”, they have also become arrogant and brazen through the years, as if the memes or quote…

[soltytears]

ice ice water 🏃

[yestrday]

as a fellow intp. yeah. i feel you.

motivation comes to me once in a blue moon its so hard to get up and do stuff

YES, LIKE LITERALLY.

so many ideas, so many things you want to try out, but you spend the whole day laughing at memes then go to sleep at night hating yourself for being unproductive.

i need to fix this issue. but my mom also needs to stop being so angry at every single thing. this is why I want to move out fast. so I can tear myself away from all... this and have some peace of mind so I can work out my internal issues.

[seilucard]

stuff i wish people did when making a filipino character (part 1?)

disclaimer: i am by no means an expert, but i am a born and raised filipino so! take that as you will

actually make the filipino be born and raised in the philippines. there are very few filipinos that show just how beautiful (and, admittedly, toxic) the culture of the philippines can be in modern media, if AT ALL.

like lets talk about the toxicity of filipino culture -cause there is SO much to be said about how problematic the hierarchical family structure is of most filipino families. children are rarely given any agency, are spoiled in the early beginnings of their lives and then suddenly once theyre adults theyre expected to just know how to adult despite being sheltered their entire lives.

okay and lets not even get STARTED with religious trauma. there are actually quite a lot of filipino youth who are very very detached from the main religion here (catholicism) because of it. i cant speak for the muslim population of the philippines as they tend to live far from where i live, but what i do know is that a ton of us filipino youth have been traumatized from their experiences in catholic schools. like,,, the horror stories you will hear from this place are just sad.

but on the brighter side, lets talk about the casual gender neutrality of filipino culture. we have no gendered pronouns. at its best? the philippines is very liberal with how AMABs and AFABs can present - it's, of course, still shunned upon to dress like the opposite sex, but among the younger generations, its SO common to see AMABs wearing makeup and skirts and heels and AFABs having short, masculine looking haircuts. oh, and the philippine drag scene is absolutely amazing!! if you want an easy gateway into queer Filipino media, ph drag race shows are the way to go

[myriadium]

JJDolls! Top Bakugan Brawlers turned idols, Jazz and Jewel (stage names) were 7th and 8th on the national leaderboards, respectively, before getting picked up by a studio and leaving the battlefield to become the worlds' most famous pop stars!

Jazz (Jimena Cruz Reyes), 24, she/they, lesbian, 5'3'', filipino, Subterra

Jewel (Ganga Thakur), 22, she/her, pan, 5'6'', indian, Aquos

During their battling days, the two of them ran a vlog that showed their lives as top 10 brawlers, which really showcased both their talents but more importantly, their charisma in front of a camera. There was a very quick moment where they were more popular than the actual top 5 in the brawling community, and when they released their first song, that was when they left the brawling community behind to pursue mainstream fame.

Of course they found it! But they never forgot their Bakugan origins, and every year during the Bakufest they are a guaranteed event and very very rarely you can catch the two of them battling. Even after dropping from the leaderboards, it seems like their skills have not diminished.

Rumors of their relationship have always surrounded the pair, especially because it seems like they never fight alone. It came as no surprise when the two of them announced that they were dating, and are hailed as celebrity culture's least toxic couple (mostly because they can actually keep their private lives separate.)

some more random facts

jazz's color palette was inspired by maud from my little pony lmao, i thought she was cool

jewel's hair was really giving sailor neptune so I made her Aquos. In the show their attributes are switched BUT I wanted them to match their attributes and it's not like you would remember their attributes anyway

they are both transgender

jazz is named jazz because in my muddled memory i couldn't remember jenny's name.

I wanted to call this out in case people didn't notice, but their earrings match the other's eyes! also their hair/eye colors are slightly inverted.

i asked my indian friends to give a name to Jewel, since i wanted an indian name that wasn't generic (like i searched up indian baby names on google lmao) but also realistic. they settled on ganga thakur. ganga is a hindu goddess of purification with a river named after her (ayo water symbology). seems like indian last names usually denotes a caste which is a bit too loaded for my tastes, but both my friends and my personal research say that it's generally upper class. the two of them also reacted very positively at the name so there we go.

[namorslutfanfiction]

Okay but Namor x Filipino!Reader things

Bonding over hating Spaniard colonists.

Reader using modern day Tagalog and Namor noticing the incorporation of Spanish words. Then reader explains that most people don't remember deep Tagalog dialects anymore. Namor realizes it happened in his mother's Homeland as well.

Loving how tan they are and how majestic their hair is. Both of them a little annoyed that those of the same ancestry these days want to be lighter and bleach their hair.

Going to the beach and swimming together because they were born for this heat.

Sharing each other's lost histories and myths.

Both of them wearing really revealing clothes because they are either swimming or on the beach and don't like being fully clothed.

Reader trying to convince Namor to get tattoos because she has Philippine tribal tattoos.

The collective appreciation of mango as an elite fruit.

Both of them being really into specific jewelry because it's related to their culture, especially gold and jade and shells.

Roasting each other. Playfully. Where it sounds a little mean to everyone else.

Dying or killing for each other.

Jealous and possessive with each other because they have the same type of toxicity.

Reader totally not batting an eyelash at everyone in Talokan calling each other cousin/aunt/uncle/child because she's used to extended and adopted families because that's what Filipinos do.

Reader nicknaming Namor 'Sirena' because they thought he was a mermaid when they met.

Teaching each other curse words but not telling the other one they are curse words.

Shenanigans.

Arguments across multiple languages.

Reader being hyper physically affectionate that Namor is surprised by it.

I'm rambling because I'm thinking too much

[mybeingthere]

Renny Pritikin on the groundbreaking career of Carlos Villa (1936-2013).

"If you think American racial assumptions and rigid social structures are unacknowledged and toxic, half a century ago they were much worse.  For example, when my parents visited me in San Francisco from their home in New York for the first time in the late 1970s, my father was dumbfounded to learn that our mailman was Asian.  In his experience—which encompassed most of the 20th century — he’d never encountered an Asian worker in any sphere of government or commerce apart from restaurants and laundries.  Carlos Villa, the subject of a two-venue retrospective in San Francisco, dared to embark on a career in that milieu.  His decades-long success as an artist and cultural catalyst is documented in the eye-opening exhibition, Worlds in Collision, at the Asian Art Museum and the San Francisco Arts Commission Gallery.

  Independent curators Mark Dean Johnson and Trisha Lagaso Goldberg, supported by Sherwin Rio, organized this enormous project, which includes a formidable catalog.Carlos Villa (pronounced vee-ya) was born in 1936 in San Francisco of Filipino heritage.  He grew up in the Tenderloin district, an economically impoverished yet richly multicultural environment.  (Lucy Lippard, writing in the catalog, quotes Villa saying that many Filipinos of his generation embraced Black cultural codes growing up.)  Leo Valledor, a slightly older cousin with whom Villa was close his entire life, gave him early art lessons.  Villa first exhibited his work in 1958 and graduated from the San Francisco Art Institute (SFAI) in 1961, later earning an MFA from Mills College in 1963.  

He spent the next five years striving to break into the New York art world with minimalist sculptures and abstract drawings.  The latter, made with felt pens on paper, feature arcs of color in rapid sequence that form overlapping, worm-like shapes suggestive of viscera.  He achieved attention for this work and the beginnings of a career, but returned to San Francisco in 1969, where he embarked on a long stint as a professor at SFAI.  From that point forward, his work veered away from commercially sanctioned modes of expression toward the less fashionable exploration of identity.  At the Art Institute, Villa grew to be a beloved figure and a leader in bringing diversity issues to the fore through classes, symposia and exhibitions he organized there under the omnibus title Worlds in Collision, which Johnson and Lagaso Goldberg borrowed for this exhibition.   

Villa died in 2013 at age 76."

https://www.squarecylinder.com/.../renny-pritikin-on.../

https://exhibitions.asianart.org/.../carlos-villa-worlds.../

[bichettes]

dreaming big (league) || chapter eight

word count:  876 summary: headcanon type chapter discussing carrie's pregnancy! warnings: family drama  author’s note: as much as i wanted to write a nice long chapter about her pregnancy from start to finish i do not have the brain capacity for it rn prev | next

as you saw in chapter 7, carrie wasn’t having the best time in her first trimester

after that whole issue with her teammates, they did apologize eventually like a week after, especially her best friends on the team (they should’ve said something as it was happening tbh)

they do ask questions, obviously (when did this happen? february. who’s the dad? i don’t want to say. why not? it’s complicated. how’re your dads taking it? they’re very supportive. and whatnot)

her closest/bestest friends (from baseball and school) are a bit worried for her

some do think she is making a mistake considering what her goals are in life

carrie’s understanding of their thoughts on the whole thing, it does make her a little sad but she gets it

they just want what’s best for her

she is gonna be a 19 year old single mom trying to make it into pro-baseball… it does sound insane

her friends aren’t fucking assholes about it and if her dads aren’t losing their minds about it then they should be okay

i’m thinking Beck left the team when he graduated high school which is why no one really told him about carrie and the pregnancy, he hasn’t been close with them for a while

her extended family on the other hand… well

you have to remember ⅔ of her family are filipino (her papa’s family and her mom’s)

i know i’ve made her life pretty much all sunshine and rainbows up until now but we gotta be real about it

becoming pregnant at 19 and with no man in the picture? that is a big no-no in filipino culture

her papa’s side is a bit more chill about the whole thing (worried but chill) but her mom’s side is harsh (mainly her siblings - there are a lot of them and they have lots of opinions)

her papa’s parenting comes into question and it makes her feel horrible, it’s Upsetting

her grandma (mom’s mom) makes sure she is keeping the baby, even though she lowkey makes carrie feel like shit for the situation in the first place

also keep in mind filipinos are VERY RELIGIOUS

nearly 80% of the country is catholic

her aunts on the other hand

TOXIC, DNI

practically make carrie the black sheep of their side of the family like??? fuck off

like i said, her papa’s side are a bit nicer

they’re more concerned about her than anything, fuck everything else

come on, one of their sons is a bisexual man you think a little pregnancy is gonna freak them out?

sure Carrie’s a little young and the situation’s not ideal but she’s got the support she needs, that’s all that matters

her dad’s side’s okay with it too, much like her papa’s family

after the initial shock, they’re just happy to be having another little baby in the family, it’s been a while

that’s all i can think of for family drama

she’s growing each day even though she doesn’t look it

she definitely feels it though

being a pregnant catcher ain’t the best combo

she feels like she has to go pee ALL THE FUCKING TIME JFC

there’s so much pressure on her bladder

the team makes a betting pool each practice how many times carrie complains about having to pee so often and/or how many times she has to go to the bathroom

they’re assholes but she loves them

she curses the day her coach made her become a catcher

carrie gets tired a lot quicker but we already knew that

she doesn’t start showing until around her 14th week so just after she passes her first trimester

she can’t believe it when she steps out of the shower and seeing her tummy for the first time

carrie definitely cries

she shows her dads later on and they all cry together

her friends help her turn half her bedroom into the baby’s nursery

they’re also very happy to be getting a baby niece/nephew

the plan is for her room to become the baby’s when they’re old enough to have their own

the attic will get cleared out and turn into carrie’s new room

her family and friends throw her a surprise baby shower and she very much Does Not Cry about it

she eventually tells her dads about Beck being the father and why she took so long to tell them

they’re Pissed especially her dad

they think she should still try and tell him but she’s not changing her mind

she also tells her closest friends when she’s ready

they are also Pissed

“I knew his mom was two-faced.”

being pregnant in the summertime? HELL

carrie LOVES the summer but it is a whole different monster when pregnant

strictly stays indoors when there’s a heatwave which sucks because she wants to support her team!

once she starts visibly showing she is officially on “maternity leave” from the team but she helps in other ways and she still trains as much as she can

this also helps her pickup more shifts at her dad’s restaurant which is nice

her dads go with her to every appointment

i think i’ll write her finding out the gender of the baby and her giving birth

[s-ixx]

On today's episode of toxic Filipino culture

tita: parang tumaba ka ata?

me: may pambili kasi ako ng pagkain tita. kayo po? (sabay tawa)

nakakainis na kailangan ko pa tumawa para hindi sya masyado ma-offend. unity lang tayo dito. lol

[davecortel]

Imagine pinaglaban mo mama mo sa mga bully pero what you get is mockery. That is how I feel. And don't compare this to how we kakampinks say anything about BBM bc we only say what is true against him. Madam Leni did nothing but to fight for her aspiration that is to help every Filipino through her advocacy. She is the mother that you ignored, the mother that you bullied just bc of your ego. You hate cancel culture, toxicity, and negative campaigning but not tax evasion and graft and plunder conviction? Hmmm. I’m not sure what this country is going to be 🤔

[fanvergent-bookworm]

Where Oceans Rise book Review!!

According to the stories told by Malaya’s family, the girls are cursed to fall in love with someone evil, which leads to their eventual downfall. Malaya is unbelieving until she finds herself in a regrettable and dangerous position with a toxic boyfriend. Malaya’s boyfriend is gaslighting her and she is clueless as to how to fix it. One day when she’s surfing, she gets caught in a riptide, forcing her to trade her voice for a new start with a guy who seems way better than her ex. Little does she know though that the sea witch had stuck her into an alternate timeline, and that the sea witch is using Malaya’s voice to release monsters into both universes. To get back to her original timeline, Malaya must fight the monsters, but if she returns she may never see her new guy again. What would you do if you were so tremendously unhappy and still making all the wrong decisions? What would you do for another chance?

»»——⍟——««

This debut is an exciting story with a lot of fluctuating emotions, each portrayed beautifully. It was interesting to see and learn about Filipino culture. The story is well thought out, engaging, and unique, and the characters were beautifully created and represented. The action kept me on the edge of my seat on more than one occasion, and the ending left me sitting in all the feelings and with even more questions. The journey that Malaya goes through feels like one of those roller coasters that causes your stomach to be in your throat when you’re suspended in midair and you can’t think of anything but needing to breathe while also not being able to gasp in a single breath. Alvarez elegantly captures the struggles of real life within this novel, and it is easy to find relatable moments that bring you closer to Malaya. When Oceans Rise is a practical and authentic look into heartbreak, family life, and sacrifice. The book covers themes such as toxic relationships, friendships, how one decision could have led to a completely different life, and varying family dynamics.

I heavily recommend checking the trigger warnings on Robin's website for a more detailed outline because this book deals with themes of gaslighting, and physical, mental, and emotionally abusive relationships, so proceed with caution.

✯✯✯✯✯ 5/5 Would reccomend to anyone, so long as they read the trigger warnings first!

[gxldencity]

The evolution of the way I make filipino ocs is like

Florante Trevelyan - baby's first foray into making an OC that is the same as my identity. Lots of showing off culture and explaining what that culture is in case ppl get So confused

Gabriela and Jean Ryder - stopped giving a shit about cultural explanations. You either accept that they're filipino or u don't but I'm not holding your hand anymore

Dolores Alvaros - let's Unpack how toxic filipino culture is about your bio families :)

[brianxweb]

Toxic Filipino Culture at Its Finest

Parents decided to bring a child into this world. So given lang na alagaan nila yung anak nila. Pero bakit laging ang bagsak natin ay panggi-guilt trip kapag masama ang loob ng anak sa magulang nila?

Di naman talaga dapat yung caller ang kailangang mag-initiate makipagbati. Kahit pa totoong gusto niya nang mag-reach out, tama pa rin yung asawa niya. 2023 na. Kapag toxic, toxic; kahit kadugo mo pa 'yan.

Dapat baliktarin din yung tanong. Pa'no nagawa ng magulang 'yon sa anak nila? Bago sila mawala sa mundo, wala na ba silang balak ayusin yung pagkatao nila kahit para man lang sa anak nila?

[jabberwockprince]

your tags on the studio heartbreak post are incorrect, they have never done nfts nor is there any evidence they have done so. they have actively said they dislike nfts. it's a harmful rumor about a collection of independent artists.

damn it's crazy how there's no proof about one of their members, lead director alicemaoart, doing nfts under a different account named alicedotxyz or the official studio heartbreak account making a statement that pretty much confirms these accusations were all real

screenshot 1 / screenshot 2 / screenshot 3 / screenshot 4 /

and not weird at all to see popheadz, the nft company this artist has worked with, constantly show up in any comments made against her

tweet 1 / tweet 2 (original qrt now deleted, sadly)

and then the artist herself posting these in instagram stories (obviously I can't link these since they're instagram stories and her instagram also seems to have been deleted?)

granted, the official statement released by the studio does mention "outdated comments by one of [their] directors" that "don't reflect her current views or efforts" - if the artist stopped making NFTs, good for her! people are allowed to grow and change their mind and be given the benefit of the doubt! if she's really stopped making NFTs, then I personally would fucking LOVE to support the studio because as filipino diaspora im fucking starving for content about my culture

the harassment she faced is definitely fucked up (considering all of her socials are blank, gone or private) and there IS something to be said about the harsh scrutiny LGTBQ+ and POC creators go through constantly. or example, Kitfox Games adding a warning in Boyfriend Dungeon for a toxic shitty stalker because people wouldn't stop complaining about it AND harassing the VA who provided the voice for said stalker. some of the hate studio heartbreak is getting DOES come from that shitty mindset and some criticisms come from ppl genuinely upset that. this artist was specifically doing nfts in secret bc she was fully aware of the backlash she would receive

but whether you want to separate her career from studio heartbreak or not, that's up to you - i think people who want to support this film (because HEY. WE FINALLY GET. CONTENT FOR US. LITERALLY CATERED TO US ABOUT PEOPLE LIKE US IN PLACES WE RECOGNIZE AND ALL. I GET IT) for whatever reason despite this nft stuff coming up are in the right to do so. and the people who don't want to support it because their lead director makes/used to make nfts in secret or for whatever other reason is also fair. personally i dropped out of supporting them after seeing the pics above

the official statement also apologizes for the lack of tact when these nfts started coming up, which is good! cause posting fish titties in an attempt to get ppl to forget the issue sure is. a fucking choice

no clue how to end this post, so hey have a nice day!

[undercaffeinatedsoul]

Pero as a guy like you, okay lang naman na kaming girls ang unang mag confess diba? Nung nag confessed ako na crush ko siya hindi niya ako iniwasan, in fact mas lalo pa kaming naging close nun i mean dun kami naging close. Hindi naman ako ganun ka dense alam ko naman na may something na din siya sakin but ayoko magassume unless stated, mahirap na haha but sure i'll let you know how it went pag nakapagtapat nako ikaw una ko sasabihan since you helped me a lot on this. Mas matino ka kausap kesa sa mga guy friends ko haha thank you ✨

Yung toxic culture nating mga Filipino lang naman ang nagsasabing hindi okay na babae ang mag confess. Personally, as someone who used to be torpe din, it’s the best feeling ever kung nagconfess sakin yung babaeng gusto ko. It’s so nice na close kayo, you have foundation na sa pag build ng relationship. But, hindi sa pagiging nega, prepare your heart when you confess, yung closeness kasi mapapalitan ng awkwarness kung hindi parehas ang nararamdaman nyo. But I thinks it’s more likely na same feels kayo, you won’t be that close kung ayaw nya sayo, right? I’m happy to help. Thank you for asking. Hehe 😊