#trying to draw/practice piano/game/etc has done nothing

[holographicbutch]

Why have I felt on the verge of crying all day literally nothing has happened

[mental-health-advice]

i feel like i have no creativity or motivation or interest in anyone or anything. i only love video games and film/tv too but mainly video games. i am too restless to read or do hobbies that require focus like piano, movies/tv etc. i am also a huge perfectionist and struggle to sit still sometimes. all i do is maladatively daydream my life and play video games. i dream of learning to write, draw, paint, scrapbook, crochet, and so many other things. but i never do them, i just can't. (1)

i have literally been like this for my whole life. as a kid i never had any hobbies/managed to do something for a long time, i started but lost interest so quickly either because of the chore of it or just falling out of love. and now im 22 and dont even know who i am or what i like doing as i've never actually done anything but im stuck in a shame/frustration spiral that prevents me from doing anything at all anyway. why am i like this? whats wrong with me? (2)

Hey there,

Firstly there is nothing at all wrong with you. Sometimes people just find it hard to do things and stick to doing things more than other people through no fault of their own.

You mentioned that you are a perfectionist and at times struggle to sit still. Due to this have you ever thought about doing something more physical? For example maybe picking up and doing a sport (either an individual sport of a group sport) maybe go to the gym and do something more personal for you!

Maybe because you do struggle to sit still at times, we are thinking about this all wrong in you trying to do things that do require you to sit still and really concentrate and so doing something that gets you out and about will be more helpful for you? Just an idea!

Also people can go their whole life not really knowing who they are or what they truly love doing and so this is normal and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all!

I know that the things you do want to do require you to sit down to do them so maybe another idea may be to do the activity for a short period of time, have a break and then go back to doing it some more. If you give this a go then what ever activity you do may feel less like a chore and more enjoyable.

When we do something new there is always a fear that we may not do it well and especially when we are a perfectionist. It’s understandable that when you try something new that you won’t be the best at it to begin with, this is like anything new you do. But with time and practice you will get better at it and may even find that you really enjoy it. I remember when I first started to scrapbook and I was so bad at it that I didn’t enjoy it much as all. But then I started to scrapbook things that I actually liked (pictures of me and my friends and good times we had together) and I actually found myself having fun! Is this something you could give a go, doing whatever you choose to do and making it more personal for you?

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going OK!

Take care,

Lauren