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Vyasar and Manisha

Of all the men on the show i think Vyasar is the best, he’s a good person. 

And Manisha from what we saw of her seemed like a good person as well, so I hope she finds someone great too. 

But I think Sima saying that she didn’t want to marry Vyasar because his salary was too low was doing Manisha dirty. That may have been one of the factors, but clearly there were more, they did have differences over key things. And also so what? A man can we wonderful in all other areas, but if ambition is important to her then it is, and also if a woman would like some stability in her life there is nothing wrong with that. 

This is something I see very often or hear very often from men, I did have someone tell me while looking for a partner online, that the women he had connected with had stated outright that they didn’t want to work after marriage or that they wanted a partner with a salary high enough to support her. But what is wrong with this? 

Women can have both a career and a family, but she doesn’t have to, if you want to be a stay at home mom, that’s a perfectly reasonable dream, so its perfectly reasonable to look for a partner who’s income can support that. 

I think this rant has gotten way of topic but yeah. Vyasar and Manisha a great people but its neither of their faults if they were not compatible, and they were very mature about it so points to them. 

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Indian Matchmaking 2020 ‧ Documentary ‧ 1 season

★☆☆☆☆  LMAO! This was wild. Having never gone through the matchmaking process myself, I learned the differences and similarities from watching with both my Pakistani and Indian friends. Sima Aunty means well but yikes your misogyny is showing!

Matchmaker Sima Taparia guides clients in the United States and India in the arranged marriage process, offering an inside look at the custom in today's world.

Hands down I was team Nadia the second she came onscreen. And you gotta love Vyasar!

I’m team Aparna now after seeing her in the reunion video : check it out >>>

Dolly from Delhi “Ok Pradhyuman it seems like another talent that you have is creating analogies, first with the dating app and now with mobile phones.”

booooiiiii bye!

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Men With Dark Pasts - Indian Matrimony's Vyasar

Men With Dark Pasts – Indian Matrimony’s Vyasar

Indian Matchmaking– the show that has Twitter India all abuzz. Self-styled matchmaker Sima jetsets between Mumbai, Delhi and various parts of the US to match up Indians of various backgrounds (though all from a certain economic background) in unholy desi matrimony. The family-approved biodata, the faux pas questions, the awkward first meetings, the dealbreaker-or-not pondering, all topped with a…

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None of the Indian Matchmaking couples stayed together: From Aparna to Vyasar, Sima couldn’t find partners for any of them

None of the Indian Matchmaking couples stayed together: From Aparna to Vyasar, Sima couldn’t find partners for any of them

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Spoiler alert: none of the potential couples in Indian Matchmaking, a new reality TV series on Netflix, lasted. The show has been drawing criticism since its Friday release, for reinforcing cultural stereotypes about India, celebrating casteism and colourism, and for being a prime example of a phenomenon known as ‘aunty gaze’.

The show introduces a diverse cast of characters, all looking…

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भारतीय मैचमेकिंग कपल्स में से कोई भी एक साथ नहीं रहा: अपर्णा से व्यासार तक, सिमा को इनमें से किस�� के भी साथी नहीं मिले। स्पॉयलर अलर्ट: संभावित जोड़ों में से कोई भी नहीं भारतीय मैचमेकिंग, नेटफ्लिक्स पर एक नई रियलिटी टीवी श्रृंखला चली। भारत के बारे में सांस्कृतिक रूढ़ियों को मजबूत करने, जातिवाद और रंगभेद का जश्न मनाने के लिए, और un चाची टकटकी ’के रूप में ज्ञात एक घटना का एक प्रमुख उदाहरण होने के लिए, यह शो शुक्रवार की रिलीज के बाद से आलोचना का चित्रण कर रहा है।

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The Indian Matchmaking

I watched the dreadful show on Netflix called Indian Matchmaking.

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Indian Matchmaking’s Vyasar Ganesan finds love in pandemic

Indian Matchmaking’s Vyasar Ganesan finds love in pandemic

On Netflix’s much-talked-about show Indian Matchmaking, based on arranged marriage in India, matchmaker Sima Taparia’s client Vyasar Ganesan was one of the loved personalities. Vyasar may not have found success in the matchmaking process on the show, but looks like he now finally has a partner. He revealed he had started seeing someone during the pandemic while speaking in an interview with NBC…

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‘Indian Matchmaking’ presents painful truths about skin color and love in Indian culture but does nothing to challenge them

Written by Aditi Sangal, CNN

On Netflix’s “Indian Matchmaking,” marriage consultant Sima Taparia travels the world to meet with hopeful clients and help them find the perfect match for an arranged marriage.

The format of the show is simple. Hopeful brides- and grooms-to-be meet with Taparia — often with their overbearing parents in tow — for an initial consultation. Criteria are laid out, potential suitors are presented on paper, dates are arranged, and then it’s up to the couple to decide if it’s a match.

In some respects, the producers should be commended. This is a show that turns away from the “big fat Indian wedding” trope and offers something fresh: a look at how some traditional-facing couples meet through the services of a professional matchmaker.

The characters’ stories — as well as cringier moments — play out in entertaining ways, at times revealing the absurdities and awkwardness of matchmaking. I laughed when, for example, Taparia sought the consultation of an astrologist and a face reader.

Matchmaker Sima Taparia meets with hopeful clients. Credit: Netflix

At other points, the show presents brutal truths about Indian culture: the emphasis on being “fair”; the enormous pressure to wed; the focus on caste and class; the stigmatization of independent, working women.

But the show fails to contextualize or even question these problematic beliefs when they’re brought up by its characters, presenting them instead as the status quo.

With that, Netflix missed an opportunity to challenge a social system fraught with cultural biases, and also educate a global audience on important nuances. In Sima Taparia, the show found a regressive anchor who merely peddles flawed practices.

Colorism

Mentioned casually but frequently throughout the eight episodes is the idea that candidates should be “fair,” or in other words, have light skin.

The subject of skin color and, subsequently, social status in Indian culture is incredibly complex. While people with darker skin tones are subjected to harsh discrimination and prejudice, fairness is revered and associated with beauty, wealth and power.

Vyasar Ganesan (left) and Rashi (right) on episode six of “Indian Matchmaking.” Credit: Netflix

This cultural bias is engrained from an early age, with women bearing more of the societal pressure to have lighter skin. If you’re a woman, darker skin can be a deal-breaker for families seeking the perfect wife for their son. For men, fair skin is seen as a bonus but not as much of a requirement.

Colorism and the desirability of “fairness” is drilled into young girls. In my own case, it started when I was in middle school in India, when my classmates taunted me for having darker skin. Older women would also make unsolicited comments about my complexion, veiled as genuine concern for me and my future marriage prospects.

In India, the beauty standard is further perpetuated by pop culture and a booming cosmetic industry.

Fair and Lovely skin fairness cream at a shop in New Delhi. Credit: Sajjad Hussain/AFP via Getty Images

Skin lightening products are heavily marketed. Actors with glowing, pale complexions are the stars of Bollywood movies while their dark-skinned counterparts play poor, disenfranchised characters. Some dating apps even include skin tone filters.

Unspoken rules

“Indian Matchmaking” itself offers a window into the lifestyles of an elite class of Indians who can enlist the service of a top-tier matchmaker, and in some cases, fly them to the other side of the world. This is not something regular families do, so status is already built into the narrative.

Perhaps this makes it easier for families to avoid explicitly specifying fair skin as part of their match criteria. Taparia assumes it goes without saying, and constantly describes women as a “good person” or match because they are “fair and good looking.” Some of the families rely on this — it allows them to be politically correct and vague in their search for someone “good looking” without explicitly saying “fair.”

Pradhyuman Maloo in episode four of “Indian Matchmaking.” Credit: Netflix

Yet, they get exactly the kind of complexion they want to see. It’s the equivalent of writing “caste no bar” in a matrimonial ad — a suggestion that the person who placed the ad is willing to consider candidates regardless of social hierarchy — but in reality only going on dates with people from the “community,” which becomes a euphemistic catch-all term for people from the same religion, caste or class.

Take the young Mumbai-based Pradhyuman Maloo, who features prominently in the show, as an example. His well-to-do parents desperately want him to settle down and find a wife, but he seems mostly uninterested in the women presented to him, until he’s shown a photo of Rushali Rai, a beautiful model from Delhi. His eyes light up at the sight of her. Taparia describes her as “fair and good-looking, but also, she’s smart.”

When Maloo first sees her photo, he is elated. “Ahh, she’s so cute!”

“I’ll tell you that from her dressing style to her look and everything, how she carries herself, that I can meet her,” he said. “It’s going to be exciting. It’s going to be fun.”

Pradhyuman Maloo on a date with actor and model Rushali Rai on “Indian Matchmaking.” Credit: Netflix

Watching the two side-by-side on their date, it’s impossible to ignore the fact that, of all the characters in the show, they have the most similar skin tones. Their pairing does nothing to challenge the deep-rooted cultural notion that you should marry someone with a similar background.

Changing attitudes

As for women who don’t fit the “fair, tall and slim” criteria, we do see the show acknowledging a different fate. Businesswoman Ankita Bansal is sent to a life coach, with whom she discusses the insecurities she had with her body growing up.

“People would come and tell me that you’re never going to find anybody because you have to lose some weight,” said Bansal, adding that she suffered from “off the charts” anxiety. “So that played a very big part in how I lost my confidence completely in even trying to approach a man.”

The life coach acknowledges that such expectations can be unrealistic, and hurtful when it comes to a woman feeling her true worth. “I think it’s so — superficial, maybe, that they’re only defining us by the way we look.”

Nadia Jagessar on episode two of “Indian Matchmaking.” Credit: Netflix

But attitudes towards “fairness” and beauty ideals are changing. Young people — who are usually more social-media savvy and better educated — feel more empowered to go against the grain, and to put pressure on those who continue to perpetuate beauty standards.

There are several ongoing campaigns that call out celebrities who endorse skin-lightening products, and some Bollywood stars have refused to be associated with these creams.

The campaign “Dark is Beautiful” has waged its decade-long fight against colorism by creating awareness programs about skin bias. Others like “Dark is Divine” and “Unfair and Lovely” have also since joined the fight.

The show sidesteps signs of such progress, instead providing a platform for outdated clichés over cultural debate and context. Fittingly, in one of the final scenes, Richa, a young Indian American woman, who Tapaira gives “95 out of 100,” reels off her criteria for the perfect match.

It’s not the first point in a long list, but when she comes to it, it lands jarringly.

“Not too dark, you know, fair-skinned.”

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Vyasar, from Indian Matchmaking, reacts to criticism of Netflix show, reveals he’s ‘struggling’ with its depiction of Indian society

Vyasar, from Indian Matchmaking, reacts to criticism of Netflix show, reveals he’s ‘struggling’ with its depiction of Indian society

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Indian Matchmaking, the controversial new reality series on Netflix, has divided audiences right down the middle. While some viewers are criticising its regressive outlook, and the outdated ideas of its host, Sima Taparia, others are praising it for its undeniable watchability.

One of the show’s most endearing participants, the Austin-based public school teacher Vyasar Ganesan, has…

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Vyasar, from Indian Matchmaking, reacts to criticism of Netflix show, reveals he’s ‘struggling’ with its depiction of Indian society - tv

Vyasar, from Indian Matchmaking, reacts to criticism of Netflix show, reveals he’s ‘struggling’ with its depiction of Indian society – tv

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Indian Matchmaking, the controversial new reality series on Netflix, has divided audiences right down the middle. While some viewers are criticising its regressive outlook, and the outdated ideas of its host, Sima Taparia, others are praising it for its undeniable watchability.

One of the show’s most endearing participants, the Austin-based public school teacher Vyasar Ganesan, has…